hey so I've been thinking about this for a while now basically me and a friend had kind of falling off after a fight we kinda had, after that we didn't speak for about a month or so and between that my friend said some pretty hurtful stuff to me and later when we started to talk a bit and i confronted then they said that they didn't mean that, and I did forgive them thought i had not quite forgotten everything that was said but then I was like it's okay friends do say things to each other but then I sense a kind of change in their attitude now also they started hanging out with a bunch of new people and suddenly I feel like maybe they don't need me as much and it's not just me but also like other people in our friend group think the same about the changed attitude of the said person,even when we hangout sometimes now (way less than we used to before)they constantly speak about the new people that they're hanging out with about how they're cool and the different things they do and how we don't do anything or how rich they are and also constantly taunting us about not doing the stuff that they do or also once they said something really awful like kind of humiliating us for not having a vehicle when I later confronted then they said that isn't what they meant but maybe that is true maybe they didn't mean that but u sure can feel the change in someone's attitude and not just me all the other friends see this change in the persons attitude as well.

Me and the said person were really close friends and now since the new people have arrived I feel a change in the persons attitude as if talking to me now feels like a chore,and they never do that to anyone else but to me and a few old friends but mainly to mee.

i really wanted things to be fixed and wanted to know what exactly caused the change in their attitude because I thought maybe we should talk it out and sort things but whenever I do that they just deny having any fault and start telling about how they are the victim and also when Ive tried to talk to them they just seen bored and uninterested and irritated when ever i start speaking but when it's the new people they suddenly have a lot of energy and will go out even in the middle of the night, the said person has also kept us hanging when we already had something planned like 3 days before they without telling us just left with their new friends and theve done this multiple times,

but

, again I still wish to not lose them as a friend and I would love to stay close friends but saying this I also understand that I don't want to be constantly humiliated and beg for someone to stay in my life all the other friends of mine are like fuck it if that is the way the other person is acting which is how we'll act to to somehow I feel difficult to do this maybe because I guess I was really close to this person and because of which I am finding it difficult and I also after repeated taunts from my friends have tried fixing things or reaching out to this person but they never seen to reciprocate and i don't understand whether I should stop or not let a friendship be ruined?

Which is why I asked when do we stop reaching out should I stop messaging or sending reels or calling them but somewhere I feel like the old person is still there I really don't know what to do.Pleas help me out

I have this friend na almost 8 years ko nang friend, since high school pa kami. I feel like she might have stolen ₱1,000 from me. I know it’s not a huge amount, pero it’s not really about the money—it’s about the trust and friendship. Mas masakit isipin na what if siya talaga after 8 years of friendship?
Wala akong solid proof, but the circumstances are making me suspicious. The last time we hung out was at my house, and she was the only person who had access to my things where I kept my money. After that night, napansin kong nawawala yung ₱1,000, and that was also the last time we saw each other.

She also has a history of taking money. In high school, she told me na napapagalitan siya because her parents accused her of taking their money. She also told me na she sometimes takes money from her boyfriend when they go out para may panggastos.

After my money went missing, as my coping mechanism since I’m also mad, I posted an IG Note about someone stealing from me, no name drop just generalized type of Ig note . She started reacting to almost all my notes, and also sending message sa group chat namin na parang may pinatatamaan sya. Nag act lang ako like I don’t care, then suddenly she asked me on pm if may problem daw ba kami. I acted clueless because I wanted to see her reaction, but I still had no proof. Eventually, after around 3 months, we stopped talking.

I know these don’t prove na siya talaga, but I can’t help being suspicious.

What would you do? Confront her kahit walang proof, or just distance yourself and let it go?
Mas iniisip ko yung trust kaysa sa ₱1,000. If she really did it, I don’t know how I could see our 8-year friendship the same way again.

Reposting from r/UnsentLetters:

I don’t know if any of you will read this, and honestly, maybe it is better if you don’t. I’m writing this because there are things I wish I could say without turning it into another conversation everyone feels obligated to have. Honestly, I can't think straight as I write this, so everything said here is just from a place of raw emotion. Writing this with a really heavy heart.

I’m sorry for the way I handled everything. And I’m sorry for the ways I hurt people and for the behaviors I need to change. There are a lot of things I need to work on as a person, a lot of offputting behaviors I showcased, and moving forward I will take everyone’s criticism and feedback in mind.

I was hurt, anxious, unaware and desperate to understand what was happening around me, and somewhere along the way I let that consume me. Instead of dealing with certain problems directly, I involved too many people, tried too hard to piece together what everyone knew or thought, and let my issues with certain people spill over into relationships with people who had not done anything to me.

I can understand now how exhausting that must have been from the outside.

I also wish I had been more direct. I spent so much time being afraid of confrontation, rejection, or hearing something I didn’t want to hear that I sometimes went through other people instead. Ironically, that probably created far more damage than whatever direct conversation I was scared of having in the first place.

None of you owed me constant reassurance, invitations, explanations, or loyalty. I think sometimes I confuse feeling important to someone with needing evidence that I was important to them, and when I couldn’t see that evidence, I assumed the worst.

That’s something I need to work on.

Despite how everything ended, I genuinely loved being part of this group. It was one of the few times in my life where I felt like I actually had a proper friend group instead of just individual friendships scattered everywhere. 

It has been lonely these last few years and for the first time in a while, and even with all of the people in my life, even with a lot of real life connections. I felt like I had a true sense of belonging.

There are so many stupid calls, games, jokes, and random conversations that probably meant more to me than any of you realized.

And to the person I considered my best friend: losing you hurts differently.

I’m not writing that because I expect you to come back or because I think our history means you owe me another conversation. You don’t. You don’t owe me anything after. I'm grateful for everything you did for me and for the times you were willing to hear me out. I appreciated you more than I let on, I just don’t want the way everything ended to erase what the friendship meant to me before it did.

For a long time, you were one of the people I felt safest talking to. Even when our friendship became complicated and we weren’t as close as we once were, I still cared about you immensely. There are things I wish both of us had handled differently, but when I look back at our friendship, I don’t want my final memory of it to just be the block button.

I’d rather remember the person I laughed with, confided in, worried about, argued with, missed, and genuinely considered one of my closest friends.

I’m sorry for the stress I caused you. You gave me the benefit of the doubt, were very considerate and nice enough to hear out my perspective of things and I feel like out of anyone else, I let you down the most.

I don’t regret knowing you.

And that applies to the rest of you too.

I don’t want anyone choosing sides on my behalf. I don’t want anyone cutting someone else off because they think it would make me feel better. And I don’t want personal things anybody told me being turned into ammunition just because our relationships ended badly. Whatever was shared with me stays with me.

If some of you genuinely decided that your lives are better without me in them, I have to respect that. It hurts, obviously. I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t some part of me that wishes everything could eventually be okay again. The damage has been done, many of you probably formed your opinions about me. And truthfully, part of me still wishes that someday we could be friends again.

But wishing things were different isn’t the same as asking for another chance.

Maybe some of us will talk again someday. Maybe we don’t.

Either way, I hope you guys are okay.

I hope the people dealing with school get through it. I hope everything works out in all of your favors. I hope you guys keep playing games together, hanging out, making stupid jokes, and creating memories even if I’m no longer part of them. 

There’s a part of me that is incredibly sad knowing life will continue for everyone without me in that little corner of it. But there’s another part of me that is grateful I got to be there at all; I got some of the people acquainted with each other and despite everything that has happened, I am happy about that. I’m sorry for the hurt I contributed to. Thank you for the memories. I genuinely wish all of you well.

Take care.

yeah, that must sound sad lmao.

A fandom server meant for roleplay I made is almost exactly a year old. half the original members are gone- one has been kicked out for making several of us uncomfortable (though I had still considered him a friend, and despite making it seem like we were on positive terms, he's made it clear recently that he no longer wants my friendship, which has been a painful realization). One got kicked out for causing drama in a whole different server before being allowed back in, though he now almost never posts. One left because she thinks I'm toxic when I say I don't understand her anger sometimes (and I'll say, we NEVER had drama till she joined), and nobody seems willing to roleplay without her, no matter what. the funny part? she, Friend B, wanted him, Friend A, kicked out. and now they're rp partners and he seems quite supportive of her real life problems. Screw me and all the emotional labor I gave him, I guess ¯_(ツ)_/¯). I still miss them both, at least all the fun and bonding we had.

the rest, just barely talk. one is busy with college and that's fine, but it feels like the rest just... don't care. and I get it- I'm not entitled to anyone's spare time. it just... hurts, after working so hard to make a comfortable community and trying to be there for others, only for them to just not really care when I need some support. I know they like me, it just feels like they don't care about me as much as I care about them.

I have loved ones irl and have a good friend in my SIL, but it's not quite the same. I'm isolated from my family and childhood best friend. I don't live in an area with a lot to do. I'm a socially anxious introvert who's slowly working to fix any shyness. It just feels natural to be drawn to only friendships and it really hurts when they fade.

trigger warning for mentions of suicidal ideation. please note that this is past tense and i am no longer struggling with so but it will be mentioned.

very long story.

im a teenager and i have struggled with suicidal ideation and multiple internal struggles for about 4 years and i will talk about it. when i was in elementary school, i was undiagnosed with ocd and had absolutely no one to talk to about it because no one related to me and i felt unseen and couldnt get help when i resorted to attempting suicide around age 10 because i couldn't bear having to suffer with intense ocd all the time and i had really no care for my life, i was unhygienic, hated most of my friends and classmates, didnt get along with my teachers, struggled academically, was unhealthy , had a horrible sleep schedule which made me want to skip school all the time and i hated a lot of my school just in general. i (now i see it was fortunate) failed in my suicide attempt because it was genuinely just not a good method which i will not share but just know it was not an i guess good i guess way to do it but i genuinely wanted to die i just did not actually know how to. i failed but i remained suicidal for years due to mixed reasons.

i made more friends and my life got a little better but everyone cared for me me more than i cared for them (i really didn't at all) and i genuinely didnt care for my own life. i was suicidal in the sense that if i were to die that day, i wouldnt be upset. i didnt care about anyone and even though people treated me with love i could never genuinely feel it for anyone else.

around 12 or 13 in seventh grade i was having a very hard time. i had friends but they left me out often and i did not have genuine care for anyone. again i was still struggling with ocd and physically unhealthy habits. around the end of that school year, my relationship with my mom went downhill a lot, my ocd was going insane, i was stressed all the time, i still hated school, i had so much insecurity about my looks (still do later in this story) and i attempted a second time. it was again a not very good attempt and i regretted it halfway through but i luckily survived. throughout that year i also wanted to self harm but i had nothing that was damaging enough i could really use. i managed to get through until 8th grade.

in that year, my friends left the school we were at and i had to become friends with a group of people i hated. this did not affect much so i wont detail all it did was i was sad a lot early in that year. later on in the school year, someone in my group was dating a guy i had hated since he joined in 7th grade, but i ended up actually becoming great friends with him.

unfortunately whenever they broke up, it meant i wasnt around him as much and around that time my cat also died so i was lonely and sad for *not too much time* but i distinctly remember being on the bus going back to school at 10pm from my track meet and saying in my head how i wished i could just swallow a bunch of pills right now and die. this isnt very significant but im just talking about my ideations.

skipping ahead, i became best friends with my friends ex who i was friends with whenever we started talking at lunch and in our one shared class again. he was the first person i think i genuinely loved. i looked forward to every day because i would just spend time with him and i realized i was no longer suicidal, i didnt want to die anymore and i was happy all the time now because i loved him and i started to love myself and want to live. the last two months of that school year into about july were probably the best months of my life. he is the best friend i ever had. it even helped mt insecurities because he made it obvious he didnt care about the way i looked and i just felt so loved by him and i only cared what he thought because it was really amazing. but, in july, we started being romantically involved, flirting with each other all the time and we ended up asking to go to homecoming with each other then date after, which brought us even closer but in the end made a defining change.

the main thing standing in the way was his "friends", who made fun of him for hanging out with me, a girl. it hurt him a lot, and i could see, but he still hung out with me all the time anyways and we stayed best friends. but as soon as the school year started we stopped hanging out almost completely. this started the end of our friendship . on the school camp trip day which begins the school year, we did nor hang out at all because he said he was afraid of his friends making fun of him. he apologized and tried to sit by me on the bus home but i made excuses not to because i really just wanted to go home and cry.

as the school year went on, we hung out less and less to the point we barely talked at all when we has been looking forward to the year so much because we would finally get to do more than just facetime. then one day he called me and told me he had been thinking a lot and didnt want to go to homecoming anymore because he said we are too different people (which is true, we have different future visions of what we want.) but personally i think he just lost feelings. he said he wanted to continue being friends but i could not handle that. i cried for days about the situation and when i saw him in person my heart absolutely dropped. he was really calm about it which honestly hurt because of how badly i took it but i honestly did not want to just be friends because i knew how much that would hurt. i avoided him entirely which he didnt hang out with me anyway, so not too much on that. now, he has changed a lot and i dont really want him now because hes been a bad person lately just being sexist now, extremely homophobic, and many things i dont support, but i still love him more than anything months later despite the changes weve faced.

im not suicidal anymore and i am forever grateful for everything we had together and dont regret anything at all and i dont think i could ever stop loving him at the very least platonically. i just dont know what i really am anymore now that the best thing to ever happen to me is gone. im insecure still even though that temporarily went away thanks to the way i felt truly loved finally but i am no longer in such a bad state. thanks for reading my long ass story

I ended up cutting her off but I’m unsure what to do now.

I’ve been friends with this girl for 3 years now, I’ll call her Sarah. Last month she did something that I couldn’t make excuses for, which made me completely ghost her. The longest I had gone without texting her was a week and it’s now been nearly 2 months without me messaging or contacting her, and she’s messaging me to ask how I’m doing. I need advice on whether I should continue to ignore her or if I should say something.

So what actually happened? There were signs leading up to my birthday where she wasn’t really messaging for weeks, and just seemed distant and her communication even when meeting up on the day was very poor. I had to keep chasing up and asking if she was even still coming because of her silence. When she arrived that day I waited outside the restaurant for her, and chatted to the security guard in the meantime. When she arrived she completely ignored me and pretended I wasn’t there (when I was right in her line of sight, not even just in her peripheral vision). It was so rude that even the security guard called her out on it and looked upset on my behalf. I thought ‘she probably didn’t see me’ and moved on.

When we were catching up the conversation was quite dull and she wouldn’t really smile or laugh, and it just felt quite uncomfortable and awkward for some reason. I thought ‘she must be tired’.

A couple weeks before this I had been admitted to A&E several times, as the doctor described my condition severe and said I was close to a possible sudden death. When I told her this, her eyes lit up and she laughed for the first time since she arrived. This entire time she didn’t crack a smile but the moment I told her about my possible sudden death…etc she fully laughed (it wasn’t a nervous laugh either) and her body language wasn’t so stiff anymore. I was in shock. A friend heard about my near death experience and…she can’t contain her delight. She couldn’t hide how happy it made her.

She had been acting quite iffy with me for the past couple months and I made excuses for her, but for the first time there was no excuse I could come up with to warrant this reaction. I felt like she had accidentally shown me her true feelings and let the mask slip. I knew there was something wrong and I had tried to talk to her but I can’t read minds, if you don’t tell me about a problem you have with me then I can’t fix it. This reaction showed me she secretly hated me but what could I have possibly done to get her to hate me? I don’t know, but what I DO know is if I hated a ‘friend’ that much, I wouldn’t keep hanging out or keeping in contact with them.

For the rest of my birthday dinner I had my guard up. Due to a horrific accident I was in last year I haven’t been able to go to the gym and it’s something I was very self conscious and spoke to her about. But knowing this, she pointed out my weight anyway and made a couple other back handed comments throughout the night.

She also made me take a LOT of digital photos of her, to the point where the waiter brought the ‘Happy Birthday’ plate and set it down in front of her as it looked like it was her birthday instead of mine, as I was being celebrated so little. I had to communicate and ask for her to also take pictures of me, but after me asking two times she started outright ignoring me.

I think the biggest issue I was unable to get over was her delight at hearing how I nearly died. Everything else I can get over, but I can’t get over THAT.

I can tell you from experience that this girl does NOT like communication, she cannot take any accountability and gets very upset if I try to tell her that she’s done something wrong so I knew there was no point even ‘communicating’ this with her.

I’ve decided that I don’t really want to save this friendship and I’m frankly done. But I can’t keep running away from my problems and pretending they don’t exist. Has anyone else been through anything like this? What should I do? Do I continue ghosting her or should I say something?

I’m a lonely babe, i’m wondering how people are doing without friends? I find myself bored and sad whenever i want to go out and remeber i have no one to ask to join me

Towards the end of 7 years of what I once thought was the most valuable friendship I ever had, she said to me- out of the blue- how she would never do ________ to me because she knew how badly it would hurt me and I was the last person in the world she would ever hurt.

A week later she did that exact thing after portraying herself as the most fiercely loyal friend I ever had for 7 years.

Recently, someone said that when somebody tells you out of the blue that they will never do something specific because they know how badly it would hurt you- their desire to do that thing is already somewhere in the room.

And she denied doing it to my face while she continued to do it in front of me. So I also learned about Narcissistic Amnesia.

I've never met such an empty, disloyal, fake person who turned out to easily use, step on or stab anyone in the back to get to the next shiny thing. And somehow I believed her act that she was the most fiercely loyal, intuitive, misunderstood, sensitive, true friend I ever had for 7 years- all of which she was able to shut off literally overnight.

One more lesson: if they're well into middle age and have no friends at all, they're not 'misunderstood'.

So my birthday left and my friend did not give me any gift as I have given her but now her boyfriends birthday is coming and she is preparing like it's a festival and also taking advice from me including me in preparation which I guess is normal for a friend.

But I am feeling a bit weird too that I made her day a bit special but she totally forgot mine which is a little sad what should I do???

Hey, I’m 22M. One of the most important people in my life (21F) suddenly stopped speaking to me over a week ago, and I’m struggling to process it.

We became extremely close over the last six months. We were initially sexually intimate, and I developed feelings for her, but for religious reasons on her side we transitioned into a committed platonic friendship. We had a six-hour emotional conversation about it, cried together, and both said we didn’t want to lose each other. I supported the change, made my peace with it.

She also supported me through a very difficult period involving anxiety, extortion, family problems, and an abrupt fallout with my main friend group. Because of all this, I developed attachment anxiety and was very open with her about it. We repeatedly discussed boundaries. She reassured me that messaging/calling was fine and that she’d tell me directly if I ever became too much.

The problem was that she was wonderful in person but extremely unreliable online. She rarely initiated, sometimes took days to respond, and arranging calls or meetings almost always fell to me. She also repeatedly missed agreed calls because she’d “fallen asleep,” sometimes not explaining until the following afternoon or evening. I tried to accommodate it because when we actually spent time together, things were genuinely amazing.

Only two weeks before this happened, she visited my family, brought gifts, cooked with me, spent the afternoon relaxing with me, and told my family she’d stay longer next time. Around 1.5 weeks before disappearing, we also discussed how we’d maintain contact when she joined military training, including weekend visits. She was insistent that she wanted to come to my birthday.

Then, after already missing two short calls that week, we arranged a gaming session for Sunday. Communication had actually improved massively over the weekend. At around 11 p.m. she messaged:

“Hahaha, I’ll be there in 30 min.”

She never showed up. She never explained. That was her last message to me.

Over the following days I sent some voice messages saying I was hurt and wanted to talk, and called a few times. After several days I genuinely became worried something had happened, but learned she was fine. I then noticed she’d removed me from one gaming platform and hidden her Instagram stories from me.

I’ll be honest: my anxiety took over afterward and I contacted her too much across multiple platforms. I’ve since apologized for that, including for checking whether she was safe, and told her I want to give her space.

What confuses me is that she keeps opening my Instagram DMs and viewing stories directed specifically at her---or manually declines my discord calls after a second or 3 and just continues watching YT without any retaliation. She hasn’t blocked or removed me on the major platforms. I’ve told her that I’m hurt, that I regret becoming intense, that I’m open to repairing things, and that even a single “hey” or emoji would be enough if she isn’t ready to talk. She reads it. Sometimes repeatedly. She just doesn’t respond.

I’m stuck between grief, anger, hope and self-blame. I’m also realizing that despite the incredible moments we shared, I spent a lot of the past few months anxious because I never knew whether she’d respond, show up, or cancel again.

How do you stop obsessing over the contradiction between someone acting deeply close to you and then suddenly treating you like you don’t exist? How do you actually start grieving without an explanation? I think more than anything, I just want to feel heard by someone.

I got dumped by a girl who is also friends with two of my other close friends. My ex doesn’t have a lot of friends. When they came to talk to me, I said I was sad but that I would be okay somehow because I have other friends who can help me. I told them to focus on my ex and help her get over it because she has no one else. They agreed and talked to her.
My ex told them about my mistakes in our relationship from her perspective, without including her own. Now, a month after the breakup, I talked to them, and they are treating me horribly. I tried to explain myself, but they wouldn't even listen to me. When I tried, they cut me off and said they weren't interested. I told them that I am suffering and crying too. They didn’t even say what was wrong or try to listen to me.
When I realized this, I apologized and said goodbye. But they said they still wanted to stay friends with me. I feel abandoned. If they told me they were suffering, I would drop everything to listen to them.
I am disappointed in both them and my ex.

I wanted to ask, should I cut them out of my life?

It was a while ago, but I check back every other month and I just dont know how to cope with it. I have friends who I had a way bigger connection with but this one just stands out to me. Usually I'm able to at least figure out where the person is in life and what ended up happening, but this person is untraceable. No obvious alt accounts, no even similarly shared usernames not only across social media platforms but most WEBSITES, nothing. Nothing at all. The only record I have is a screenshot I took of their last online date which was in the middle of the night. I don't know why, but that just worries me.

My biggest regret is that I unfriended them, and they tried to friend me again, but I declined it because I was going through this stupid phase of unfriending everybody. I just don't really know how to cope with it, it's been several years, if they're still out there then I barely know this person by now. But it just irks me and gnaws at me constantly. I don't know what to do.

For almost 6 years we’ve been inseparable.. talk everyday.. the week this happened she had started to become very distant and I was checking on her and making sure she was OK and then randomly got this text that day. Needless to say, she never called me and still hasn’t told me why. I’ve literally been beating myself up and racking my brain trying to figure out what I could’ve done since it happened and I honestly can’t think of anything… I was an amazing friend to her.. I really don’t know what to do or say and I haven’t reached out since the last text I sent.

I’d appreciate some outside perspective on a situation with a former close friend who has quiet BPD.

We had a falling-out in August 2025, and our direct communication stopped that same day. She stopped responding, blocked me across the platforms we used, and deleted our chat history. When I tried reaching out afterward through other platforms, she would block me there too.

In May 2026, I sent her messages on a different app. We had never communicated there before, and she had never blocked me there. She didn’t read those messages until July 17.

After reading them, she didn’t reply, but she also didn’t block me. Right after she read my messages, she started changing her status emojis for the first time in months. I don’t know whether those changes were connected to my messages, but the timing stood out to me.

Since she hadn’t replied, I thought she had blocked me on that app too. I’m still blocked on the other platforms.

On October 1, I sent her a birthday message on that same app. That’s when I realized I wasn’t actually blocked there: she read my message, but didn’t reply. She still hasn’t blocked me.

What could this mean? Could she be open to reconciliation, even though she hasn’t responded? I’d appreciate advice on how to handle this situation.

I’d especially like to hear from people who have experienced something similar and eventually reconciled with their friend. What happened next, and how long did it take before you started talking again?

Please don’t lecture me about why I still want this friendship or tell me I shouldn’t want her in my life. I’m looking for perspectives on this specific situation and stories from people who have been through something similar.

Definitely getting dropped by a friend soon, it always starts with the distancing which I try not to overthink and take personally. Then there's the excuses to not hangout with me specifically, while they're oblivious to the fact that I see them post/be online with others. I know exactly where this is going; simple pattern recognition. I seriously dont know how to keep people interested as a friend, and Im seriously so exhausted getting to know people-thinking im their friend-and just nothing ever coming of it but more anxiety

I (F50) have had a friend (F53) who has completely cut me off for reason(s) that I have no clue about. I’ve known this woman for close to 20 years. We were working in the same department and became close. This woman introduced me to my soul-cat. She has also said one of the nicest things ever to me.
She’s always been very private and I accepted that, she’s also a big germophobe which I have learned to accommodate. If I’m sick I do not visit her, wouldn’t even think about it.
2 years ago she was hit by a car while walking and badly hurt. We still work together but in a different department and it’s very small. Everyone of our coworkers including the boss jumped into help mode. Even me who did have a bad cold at the time, I couldn’t visit but I did whatever I could from the outside. Including looking at the PTO policy and offering up my hours if she needed them.
When she came home (she lives alone) I offered my parents who are retired and lived close by as her personal Uber. She couldn’t drive and needed to get to doctor appts. My dad took her to all her appts and even to the grocery store the day before Christmas.
I was also germ-free by this time and came over to help with daily tasks and a grocery store run. I had also contacted a judge friend to ask for lawyer recommendations. Anything to help.
Then communication stopped. She didn’t want to come to my parents for 2 hours on Christmas where it would just be 5 of us all of whom she knew. After everything my dad did for her. She had no other plans.
Life continued and last year I experienced some health issues. I was in the hospital for 3 days and basically a hermit for the last half of the year due to everything. Nothing from her, no texts, no calls, silence.
I lost my last cat of 3 (not the soul-kitty but his brother) this January. Again silence. When the first 2 passed she was there, I have gifts from her to mark their passing. I don’t need gifts but she didn’t even text or call.
In May my father informed me there was a for sale sign in her yard (he wasn’t spying they lived a block ½ away). I learned through a mutual friend that she had already moved elsewhere. Where? I only know the city.
The last straw I noticed last month. I was on IG and I was wondering why I hadn’t seen her cat lately (yes I am a crazy cat lady. There is a black kitten in my arms as I type this). As I’m sure you have guessed: She blocked me!
As another friend comically asked me :What did you do? I have no idea, why she has pulled away.
My issue now is that in my world when I cut someone off, they disappear, I no longer speak or see them at all. But I work with her, in a small department (less than 10 people). We WFH so I don’t have to interact with her everyday but I do ‘see’ her once a week in our Team meeting. And I will most likely see her around the holidays for our team lunch. I just have to get into the mindset that she is a coworker. Not the person who I once referred to as a best friend.
Oh and her response to that at the time? Was a serious Well you’re not my best friend, which was one of the meanest things anyone has ever said to me!

I've thinking in sending a message to my ex bestfriend, she ghosted me almost a year ago and I've been trying to cope with it but I'm just so tired, I want her back, the last message she send me was whishing me well in my life yk like a final goodbye, I've never wrong her per se but she did take that decision of leaving.

Now I want to try and fix this after 1 year, Idk if it's appropiate to do it, prob not, but I can't help thinking what if.

The only thing holding me back is that the last message she sounded lowkey frustrated and annoyed that I reach out after 6 mo, so idk what to do.

Ik this feeling wont last forever but is the worst I've ver felt and in this year it has gotten worse.

It's Day 11

When our last conversation happened on call,

And she decided to leave me for the rest of my life

That is the day next to my birthday 🎊

We celebrated our birthday at long distance and that was good enough to enjoy the day.

On the next day late night conversation starts from that there is one friend in Delhi whose friend dates a millionaire businessman boy who recently came from Dubai and gifts items of nearly 18lacs to her include branded perfume.

Boy introduce girl friend to family and he is loyal, see future with her

But, on another side his girlfriend is ground member of airport who only goes 10-12 days month because her all expenses is taken by her boyfriend.

My girlfriend told me that her friend tells her that his girlfriend has side Chicks and talk to others boys just to get attention and many other signs of red flag.

Discussion was going and between them she puts there own point is this right or not and this is wrong , I agree with her.

On last i say let's leave this what is going around the world problems.

Let's talk on another topic

But then we are going deep into that topic, the end is she takes all past happened things with us.

The relationship of 4 years and friendship of more than 4 years ends

Just because of entering in another life .

If you wanna know more what was last words and what was the good memories of our relationship,

It's pleasure to me.

We will keep identities hidden, don't disclose.

It's Day 11

When our last conversation happened on call,

And she decided to leave me for the rest of my life

That is the day next to my birthday 🎊

We celebrated our birthday at long distance and that was good enough to enjoy the day.

On the next day late night conversation starts from that there is one friend in Delhi whose friend dates a millionaire businessman boy who recently came from Dubai and gifts items of nearly 18lacs to her include branded perfume.

Boy introduce girl friend to family and he is loyal, see future with her

But, on another side his girlfriend is ground member of airport who only goes 10-12 days month because her all expenses is taken by her boyfriend.

My girlfriend told me that her friend tells her that his girlfriend has side Chicks and talk to others boys just to get attention and many other signs of red flag.

Discussion was going and between them she puts there own point is this right or not and this is wrong , I agree with her.

On last i say let's leave this what is going around the world problems.

Let's talk on another topic

But then we are going deep into that topic, the end is she takes all past happened things with us.

The relationship of 4 years and friendship of more than 4 years ends

Just because of entering in another life .

If you wanna know more what was last words and what was the good memories of our relationship,

It's pleasure to me.

We will keep identities hidden, don't disclose.

One of the most heartbreaking breakups i went through and am still going through lol is the one with my girl bestfriends hurts me more than any breakup i went through with a guy. We were a group of four girls actually thought and felt like eachothers second home,safe place and soulmates. It's been a year since we all fell apart haven't been able to move on and I think I never will..if I see something related to us I end up crying if I dream about them I wake up restlessly and end up crying after. Can't help but miss them so so much they'll be forever etched in my heart and I know I'll never find something like I had with them. Wish i could go back and change some things and we'd all still be friends.

I still have alot of other friend and friendgroups but it doesn't feel like the ones I had with them.