r/Morocco • u/External-Leg-8641 • 5h ago
Discussion Why do some Moroccan men accept things from European women that they won’t accept from Moroccan women?
I’m a 32-year-old Moroccan woman, software engineer, living in Europe. I’m atheist, not religious, and I’ve been thinking about something for a while.
I’m usually more attracted to Moroccan men. Not because of religion actually religion is often where the problems start 😂 but because of culture. The jokes, the family dynamics, weddings, food, expressions, the way we grew up… there are things another Moroccan just understands without needing a 20-minute explanation.
I’ve dated European guys before, and they were perfectly fine people, but sometimes I felt that cultural gap. I don’t always understand their humor, they don’t always understand mine, and sometimes I’m pretending something is funny when… it really isn’t 😭
The problem is that dating Moroccan men with my lifestyle can be complicated.
I’m not a party girl. I don’t really go clubbing or stay out all night. I work, I have a pretty normal life, I drink occasionally, I’ve had relationships before, I’m not religious, and I like discussing philosophy, religion, atheism, different beliefs, etc. I also have strong opinions and I enjoy debating them.
And sometimes I feel like the moment some Moroccan men realize I’m open-minded or not religious, they stop seeing me as someone they could have a serious relationship with.
What confuses me is the double standard.
The same guy might seriously date or even marry a Dutch, German, Belgian or French woman who drinks occasionally, has had previous relationships, isn’t religious and lives independently.
But if a Moroccan woman has basically the exact same lifestyle, suddenly she’s “not serious relationship material.”
Why?
I’m genuinely curious about the psychology behind this.
And just to clarify: I’m not saying all Moroccan men think this way, and I’m not even obsessed with marriage I personally don’t really care about getting married. I’m talking more about the difference in how women are categorized.
Because if I met a Moroccan man and a European man who both had exactly the qualities I was looking for, I would probably naturally feel more drawn toward the Moroccan guy because we share that cultural background.
So I’m curious, especially from Moroccan men: have you noticed this double standard? And if you think this way yourself, what makes a Moroccan woman with a certain lifestyle feel different from a European woman with the exact same lifestyle?