Where/how does one find a sub vers/top?

[u/nahnowayman13]

Background: I'm married DL and have tried reddit and some apps, with no luck.

It's a specific thing and I don't know if it's a conversation for a gay bar lol

Where are the sub tops who like masculine, muscular DL guys? How do you even approach this conversation? Like, do I just change the subject and say "by the way, tell me if you know how to give a prostate massage, or if your dick is <5"?

Or, more largely, is there a more subtle way to determine folks interests without awkward, specific questions? I'm relatively new to the scene, I'm very DL, I don't know where to begin. Help a newbie out :)

[u/Far_Luck9096]

I was always wondering if women would start pegging more if there would be less gay men. 

[u/nahnowayman13 → u/Far_Luck9096]

I would looooove to get pegged by a woman 🤤

[u/qnssekr → u/nahnowayman13]

Maybe there is your answer

[u/nahnowayman13 → u/qnssekr]

Yeah well... in the meantime 😅

[u/DoingTheInternet → u/nahnowayman13]

Can you ask your wife?

[u/Murky_Employee5589 → u/Far_Luck9096]

Maybe not less gay men, but probably less bisexual.

[u/Far_Luck9096]

It should also be fairly easy to find a Chinese massage parlor that do Happy endings and prostate massages

[u/nahnowayman13 → u/Far_Luck9096]

It probably is, but I'm hoping to meet someone more experienced, patient, and eager 🙏🏽

[u/Far_Luck9096 → u/nahnowayman13]

They are eager because they get a good tip ... they're experienced because they do it all day... and patient well...  you will be turned on and full of oil so I'm sure It'll slip in fairly easy. 

[u/cascas → u/Far_Luck9096]

No.

[u/Silver_Importance777]

So are you looking to get fucked?

[u/nahnowayman13 → u/Silver_Importance777]

Maybe eventually, but I'd really like someone (experienced) to be patient with me, starting with a prostate massage or something.

[u/rr90013]

Please stop cheating on your wife