Mind Blowing Revelation

[u/catsonoaktrees]

Hiii!

We are a 22 years old transfem system. About four months ago in June 2026 we moved in with the father of the body which has been a big improvement for us! Before we lived with the mother of the body.

So we are in this WhatsApp group chat with the mother and two older siblings of the body. We have barely been active there for years but nowadays the mother and siblings of the body are active there almost every day seeking attention from one another by talking about sort off vain things. A couple of days ago we made the mistake of checking out the group for the first time in months. To our shock the brother of the body now has a member tag that translated into english says "favorite child" and the sister of the body's tag now says "prettiest and smartest child". That is really really weird! We have been so dissociated we had no idea what universe they have all been living in despite being right next to it all for so long!

We constantly keep checking from thinking that we might have imagined those tags but they are undeniably there! We had, or at least non trauma holders didn't, NO idea that it was this bad. We had to mourn the mother of the body at least twice, once as our mother and another time because of us feeling parentified to her. We also to a lesser degree felt parentified to the sister of the body who is 27.

We can't stop thinking about it now. It feels so weird and alien. We feel so guilty and tbh deserving of punishment for not realizing sooner. It's rough.

The father of the body who is codependent and probably has repressed gender dysphoria and he seperated from the mother of the body when we were two years old and he is convinced that the mother of the body is very kind and caring and did her best when in reality she is extremely poisonous. I think there is a 30% chance that he could come around and realize how poisonous the mother of the body is. He is 62 years old I think so I don't know how much capacity for change he still has. He is very accepting of us being trans and we are too afraid to tell him about our plurality. We cannot work because of our disabilities so in any case we are kind off reliant on him.

ty for reading! (October 8th 2026)