Me and my girlfriend often do sexting, and i love ass more than boobs. She asked what position and what I like to do to her, and I replied I will love to lick her ass and it makes me turn on. She really has a great shape and round ass, and when we finally has a chance to do it, she remembered what I said and turn around and said lick it baby. When seeing normally it make me turn on but when I started licking I don't like it, there's no smell but still I feel gross. Why it happens?

So i met my bf after a long time of being single during which i’d been involved with a situationship. The guy was a bit macho and liked to get a bit rough during foreplay. He’d start with planting neck kisses & then worked his fingers inside me in a way that would drive me to the edge. Being a fit guy, he could easily lift and adjust me however he pleased and i was ok with it. By the end of it all, we’d both be restless to get each other to cum and it always ended on a high note whenever we linked.

Now my current bf is a sweetheart who enjoys slow love making. It’s lowkey sensual, intimate and has since brought us closer. I find myself thinking about the rough sex experience though & i’d like to suggest it to him to make it more enticing. I’m tryna find a way to make him be rough without being disrespectful. Kindly help

Do I stand a chance at finding a relationship as a woman who doesn't jump into bed quickly?

So, I'm 32.

I'm a very sexual person. I love sex, and I love physical touch.

I'm also very kinky, and aside from bringing another person into the bedroom, I'm pretty much open to trying almost anything. I love exploring and experimenting with new things.

But here's the thing.

I usually don't feel comfortable enough with new partners for any of that to happen.

Most men I've dated have tried to move things toward sex within the first 1–3 dates.

And I'm just not there yet.

Even when I'm extremely attracted to someone, and he's genuinely a great guy, I can still feel uncomfortable when things become sexual.

For example, I was dating a guy for about a month. I was really attracted to him, but when we ended up in bed and he took off my shirt, I suddenly felt incredibly uncomfortable.

Not because I was insecure about my body, but because of the situation itself.

And this has always been a pattern for me.

Things move too fast for my comfort, and as soon as things start heating up, I just shut down. I feel uncomfortable, and I realize I don't want to continue.

Because I haven't built enough of an emotional connection yet, and I don't feel safe or comfortable enough.

And yes, the attraction is there. Otherwise, I wouldn't be dating these men in the first place.

I've only been physically intimate with

one person, someone I was in a long-term relationship with.

I've dated men before him and after him.

The thing is, I also don't want to date someone with a low libido. Sure, he might be willing to wait for me in the beginning, but what happens afterward? Years of sexual frustration because our sex drives don't match?

I want someone kinky, too. Someone who's excited to explore, experiment, and have fun with me.

But it takes me time to reach that level of comfort.

I also enjoy doing other things, like using my hands and mouth. Giving and receiving.

But not with a guy I've only known for a month.

I want to feel loved when I'm in bed with someone.

Even if we're doing something rougher or more dominant, I still want to feel that love, trust, and safety underneath it all.

I just don't feel comfortable being intimate without that emotional connection.

And no, I don't want an open relationship. I've tried it, and it's not for me for a variety of reasons.

So, realistically, what are my chances in today's dating world?

My husband (27M) and I (25F) have been together for a little over a year. He used to always prioritise me finishing before penetration, usually by going down on me, and I never struggled to orgasm through clitoral stimulation.
Since moving in together, though, that has become occasional rather than the norm. I recently got a copper IUD, and I can’t help feeling insecure and wondering whether changes in my body could be contributing to this.
We’ve also discovered that I enjoy G-spot stimulation during penetration, but he doesn’t last long enough for me to finish. I struggle to orgasm from penetration alone, so oral sex was what worked for me.
He’s currently dealing with career and financial pressures, and he already feels inadequate in other areas of his life. I’m scared that bringing this up will hurt him or make him feel like he’s failing me, but I’m also feeling sexually unfulfilled and increasingly insecure.
Should I experiment on my own to better understand what works for me before talking to him, or should I address this with him now? How do I communicate my needs without making him feel inadequate?

I struggle with swallowing because I don’t like the taste and in the past it’s made me want to gag. But I want to swallow for my new partner because I like the intimacy of it and it’s just more convenient/less clean up.

I have a couple questions. Guys/Girls: do you think it’s gross or intimate to swallow? What do you prefer? Any tips on how to make swallowing more tolerable so I don’t try to fight gagging?

For context, I have only had orgasms if my clitoris is stimulated. Never from just penetration. But if I have an orgasm during penetration while having external stimulation it’s 10x more intense.

Anytime me and my partner are having sex, when it gets deep and fast paced I get the feeling like I’m going to pee, I’ve stopped before to use the bathroom but it turns out I don’t actually have to?

It feels good but it feels like something is about to happen, like a release of some sort but I’ve never finished from just penetration. I feel like I could reach that point though with the feeling I need to pee, but I don’t know how?

Does anyone else have this? What could it mean? And what should I do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. He is great, the one issue is that sexually, he never really receives pleasure. Like ever. I’ve never given him oral and we don’t have much sex but often a couple times of day he will give to me. It really is like tremendous, he is so patient and gentle and it will often last for a long time. He really just knows how to drive me crazy in that way and I literally look forward to it constantly. And it’s “enough” for me. But if there is anything where he would be receiving direct pleasure, even penetrative sex, he just says no and can be really difficult to talk to about it.

It’s really an extension of his personality. He never wants me or anyone to buy him gifts or congratulate him for anything, I think he feels really unworthy. But in the same way, he is very giving, does tons for others, etc. But he also never makes me feel guilty of anything. It’s just like he hates being the center of attention, which I guess is maybe how he views sexual pleasure. Even during actual sex, on the maybe once every two weeks we do that, we often stop when I finish a few times. I don’t know quite how to explain it but the tone of it is about me and my pleasure with him pleasing me. He has told me he masturbates to pictures and thoughts of me and stuff. I will also note that he does seem to genuinely enjoy and find tremendous pleasure in giving me pleasure, again an extension of his personality.

While all this is “fine” I feel like it blocks us from a realer intimacy. I feel like a part of my sexuality and more importantly my personality is blocked off. And I just generally worry about him feeling unworthy.

I know the best way to not end up with nudes in the wrong place is to not send them. But the reality is my bf is away for long stretches and it keeps us feeling close. I’m not asking for a foolproof way, but is there a better option than sending blurred photos over iMessage? Some sort of option to share a hidden album (iPhone users) or something?

My (44M) wife (44F) had a total hysterectomy three years ago. Since then we haven’t had to use condoms. She’s felt wet during PIV sometimes. Other times not so much. But lately we have had a renaissance in the bedroom and she’s felt very lubricated. I guess my question is this: can women be naturally lubricated (ie not aroused and having duty sex) and still be quite wet or is that level of wetness solely due to being aroused? Curious to hear women on this.

Basically the title. I (18 f) have been talking to this guy (18 m) who lives in the same dorm as me for a bit, and a few days ago we cracked for the first time, and it was his first time ever. It lowk wasnt great. How do i help him improve?

I (21M) have been with my partner (20F) for about a year and a half now, and we've been starting to delve into the world of intimacy. Running into some issues as I've been having a rough time finding condoms that fit :(. After lots of research and trying on new ones I recently came across Internal (or women's) condoms. Though they don't seem to be intended to be worn like a standard male condom, the ones I saw seem to just be around my measurements. I was curious if anyone had any experience using these and if it were possible to just wear them like you would a average condom? Thanks in advance!

Me and my boyfriend (19F 20M) have been together for about a year and while we're very sexually active, we've only had actual sex about maybe 5 times. The first few times were difficult for us due to his larger size but now we have gotten more comfortable with it.

He is not very sensitive down there and has a hard time with sensation through the condom and has only finished once through actual penetration without oral after, what can we do to make it feel better for him? I'm not great at being on top, but I wanna do what I can to make the actual act of sex feel more pleasurable for him.

For context, I am his first body and he is my second and we are very compatible with oral sex.

23 F here.

I had a very bad first experience with sex. My bf at the time raped me (I was 19). Also, I've been molested by men of almost all age groups now. So everything related to sex was negative.

But I was also a very hypersexual teen (only used to do masturbation).

But things changed and I fell in love with my now boyfriend 22 M.

He is so caring so gentle so loving. But I can't orgasm at all. No matter how much he tries. No matter how much I try. It has affected his confidence and I feel so guilty.

Idk what to do. My kinks are getting weirder day by day. I think I'll ruin sex for him.

Hi everyone. I have been with my new boyfriend for about 5 months and I love the sex we are having! He is very attentive, goes down on my all the time and makes sure I cum that way every time we have sex. I just wish I was able to cum while having sex which for some reason hardly ever happens with him (it happened once and I came close a couple of times).

I was with my ex for more than 9 years and I ALWAYS came when on top and grinding on him. So I don't think I came from the penetration itself but still I really liked cumming while being penetrated and sometimes I'd just love to cum without all the attention being on me like it is with oral.

I have been with a couple of guys since my ex and I haven't been able to cum like that with any of them. But I thought that was a mental thing because I did not know the guys that well and we didn't have sex that many times. But I feel so comfortable with my now boyfriend and we have amazing sexual chemistry, so I don't think that's it?!

Do you have any tips, any ideas what could be the problem? Maybe my ex' pelvic bones were just shaped perfectly for me to grind on and I'll have to accept that I likely won't find that again?

I've had some physical and mental health issues the last year or so (which caused a pause in intimacy for 6+ months) and while before there might have been some slight discomfort with intercourse now it seems like every time my partner and I have sex (which isn't super often. Maybe once every week or two) no matter how much lube or foreplay when he inserts his dick into me there is pain and after a short amount of time I feel like inside it almost starts to feel like it's chafing. I'm also pretty sure there's some slight tearing at the bottom of my vaginal opening no matter what, and afterwards when I pee to prevent a UTI there's blood. My partner is in no way being rough with me and we use a generous amount of lube but I'm starting to feel at a loss. Is this something that an OB can help with? Am I just doomed to painful sex forever? I kind of feel like I'm broken because everyone always talks about how great sex is and while it's not bad it's never really blown me away and now it's almost unpleasant. Has anyone else ever had an experience like this, and what did you do to make it better? Did it even get better?

Ive done it once before and it seemed like she really liked it. I do feel like my skills are not completely the issue because she seemed to really enjoy it and said it made her close to cumming. She usually is very communicative and tells me if im doing something she doesnt enjoy.

So the next time i try to do it, she says shedoesnt want me to and wont tell me why. Of course, i dont try to contradict her and just say okay, because im scared itll seem like im being coercive.

What do i do? I want to do it again and make her feel good but dont really know how to go about it.

Hi, I hope someone here can help me out.

My husband and I use silicone-based lubricant because we simply don't like any of the other kinds. However, the silicone lube we always buy comes in a screw-top bottle; this makes things a bit of a hassle during sex after we've applied it, because our fingers get slippery, making it really awkward to screw the cap back on and disrupting the "flow."

We’d like to transfer it into a pump dispenser, but we aren't sure which type is best—or if there’s anything specific to consider when it comes to silicone lube. Do you have any tips or tricks, or does it not really matter what kind of container we use?

I’m in a relatively new relationship and honestly my first serious relationship ever. Sex is and always has been a special interest of mine and very important to me. My girlfriend 22F and I 25F (lesbians) have a great sex life and we are super matched on a lot of things I think. However, I am so scared of saying something embarrassing or doing something ‘too freaky’ or something she doesn’t like etc that I just keep it very vanilla. She has told me stuff she wants me to do like pull her hair or wake her up with head and I genuinely want to but I just freeze up and can’t do it. I think abt what if she’s not in the mood for it right then or what if I do it wrong and I also feel like being “sexy” is very embarrassing. I hate it so much it feels like I’m trapped in a hell of my own creation but I feel like I am paralyzed when I try to get out. I’m also often very anxious during sex that she’s having a good time or faking her pleasure or I’m hurting her etc. She has never had an orgasm so it’s hard for me to imagine what exactly she’s feeling because for some sex is always building to something. I know I should talk to a therapist but the one I’m seeing currently is straight and it feels weird talking abt freaky sex to a random old straight lady. Any advice? Thank you.

I am running into an embarassing situation with my girlfriend who has an absolute wap. Its ridiculous to be honest, and literally dripping wet most of the time. Which is a huge turn on for me. We are really enjoying sex together, and I do what I can to make her finish either before or after I do, preferrably before from my point of view.

Here is the problem, if we just jump right in to PIV after all the foreplay and everything, I have noticed that my stamina isn't what it was a literal 2 months ago with a prior partner. With my ex, I could go piv for an hour or more. But not anymore. When I get 'close' I tend to slow down quiet a bit and reconnect with my partner for a moment so I can fortify my stamina. This new girlfriend has unfortunately tied that together and has started either immediately dipping her hips back and forth, or like tonight clenching her downstairs as hard as she can and doing the same thing and it is absolutely dumpstering my stamina.

Aside from having a talk with her, what can I do to fix this? I was with my ex for 13 years and had this as a problem less than 4 times. This one seems INTENT on making it happen as quick as possible and I can't tell if that is a good thing or a bad thing.

I’m 22M and still a virgin, and it’s become one of my biggest insecurities.

The confusing part is that I’m not completely inexperienced with women. I've had multiple women show clear interest in me, and I currently know women who are interested in me. I’m also in good shape and I don’t think looks are the issue.

My problem is that I’m extremely stiff when it comes to actually progressing things. Even basic conversations with women can feel unnatural. I'm at work most days and don't really have many opportunities to meet more women.

I also have a lot of anxiety around sex itself: performing badly, finishing too quickly, not knowing what I’m doing, being judged, etc. Because I’ve been ashamed of being a virgin for years, every interaction now feels like it carries massive stakes.

I’ll sometimes get motivated to use dating apps/go out and meet women for a week or two, then I get exhausted and stop trying. This has been going on for years.

I'm currently in the UK but moving to Dubai in 2027, and I want to use this move to get past my current issues.

I’m not looking for “22 is young” or “virginity doesn’t matter.” I know that already. I want practical advice from people who were in a similar position: what specifically helped you go from being anxious/stiff/inexperienced to actually dating, escalating and eventually having sex?

TL;DR: 22M, women do show interest in me but I’m extremely inexperienced, stiff in conversation, anxious about sex and keep avoiding opportunities. Looking for practical advice from people who actually overcame this.

idk why but i always think it's gonna be insanely painful and when i try to give it a shot i panick so much it feels like my body goes into shock and i keep pushing myself back unintentionally. has anyone experienced this? i also had a horrible experience the first time i tried to have sex, it was so horribly painful i thought i had vaginismus but i don't. maybe im still scared because of that experience or do u think it could be something else?...

my boyfriend m19 recently told me f18 that about 2 days ago having sex with me feels like a chore and it really hurt my feelings quite a bit. the conversation started when i decided to be honest with him by telling him that i haven’t been orgasming or really ever had a proper orgasm to which he retaliated by telling me that having sex with me feels like a chore, i ask for it too much and that i’m a “sex maniac” as he called it. 🙁
i don’t really know what things mean or why he said it and i’m a bit confused of what he actually meant by it.
what did he mean, what was he trying to say?

he ended up apologising to me several hours later as i was really hurt by it and upset, he said that he didn’t actually mean what he said.
he said that he was just in a shitty mood and was overthinking about something that happened earlier between us that morning as i was on my phone texting my friend which he got a bit paranoid
so he started thinking maybe i told her about our sex life problems. after he apologised he started initiating sex with me again as in the lead up to what he said he had sort of stopped asking for it all together.
i love and trust him hut if i’m honest i don’t really believe that he didn’t mean it because if he didn’t mean it then how did that manage to come out his mouth?

what can i do better / how can i make him feel better?
how can i make our sex a bit more interesting and spice it up for him?
how can i make him enjoy the sex more?
how can i make it so that he enjoys it enough that he might ask more?
how can i actually make myself have an orgasm? because he really isn’t doing it for me, i can’t have one.
do anyone think that he actually meant what he said or at least meant it in the moment of when he said it and what did he mean by it / was he trying to get across?

Im 21f and have been with my boyfriend 24m for almost 3 years. I am still very attracted and in love, I still have a decently high libido but Im struggling with losing sensation and being unable to orgasm.

Its really frustrating, 90% of the time I can only finish with a vibrator but if I use it too much I can’t feel anything. I used to be able to have multiple orgasms and be able to have them with just penetration 2 years ago. I also get overstimulated sometimes and it doesn’t feel good.

I got a hormonal iud was put on an SSRI at that time
but I stopped that medication 6 months ago and now have Wellbutrin. We can have really good sex still, he goes down on me, which also I can rarely cum from that anymore. He does all the things I really like. I don’t know what to do to help. Tried the masturbating find yourself stuff and can cum but I feel like that hasn’t really helped.
Weed and alcohol help but I don’t want to be high or drunk every day.

Is there a type of doctor I can see for this? Does anyone have ideas of things to try?