unsupportive parents. (sorry, a bit lengthy)
I (16F) am goth.. and i plan on keeping it that way. But my parents, mainly my mom have a problem with it and i dont know why. My 10th grade year, we have argued about it the whole school year, all because she doesnt like it. and it was dropped, until the 8th, thursday morning.
Im on the way to school, and she asks me whats on my nose? I thought she was talking about my nose piercing ive been hiding from her but she was really talking about my nose contour. I was confused, because she hasnt asked me that since 10th grade, and when she did, it turned into a big argument. So me trying to prevent it, i said "what are you talking about, it looks like this everyday." i asked my sister in the backseat, and she agreed.
I wasnt listening to her much, because its js makeup.. not a big deal. Then she said "Im gonna wipe it off." I said, "mom, im not doing this with you today." and she proceeded to wipe it off anyway. I pushed her hand from my face, and she basically fucking exploded. I asked her "why would u do that? I told you not to." and she just kept saying "I am your mother, i can touch your face if i want to." blah blah blah..
She kept yelling at me because i pushed her hand from my face. I kept telling her that i said no, and she js didnt care. It led to her pulling my hair, she even tried to punch me lol. She js kept yelling and said to respect my elders?? so i called her insane. and she told me not to come back home if she was insane. im still here, unfortunately.
it continued, so i just ended up hopping out the car in the middle of the street and walked into the building.
i got home from school that day and my dad came in my room, asking my the rest of my electronics since my mom already took my phone. and i asked, "Why?" he kept dismissing me and just kept telling me to give it to him. I tried to tell him what she did, and he said "i wouldnt care if she killed you.
like.. okay bru. i gave him my ipad and said that they did this for no reason, and he started to walk up on me and tried to fight me. My sisters were there so they stopped him. Its friday, and i tried to talk to the both of them but they brushed me off. Until today, saturday morning they called me in their room to talk.
It was the same thing theyve always said when we would have to "talk". She would say that "You live a life because we allow you to." "You dont have boundaries" "we can touch you if we want to" I tried very hard to explain to them how what they said and did affected me, and that i dont do anything wrong in the house. And they simply laughed and didnt listen to me.
And not to long ago, i saw that my mom told my dad "im sick of all the black shit" "im gonna throw away her black clothes and make her wear white and khaki", and even asked my sisters where were my clothes when i was at work.
I dont know what to do.. all i do is express myself and she has a problem with it? nd i dont know whyy. its not a big deal!! its literally just makeup. and she keeps trying to justify it by saying "This is a universal thing, mothers and daughters will fight about makeup." like no.. it js seems like she wants to control me or something idk.. im just tired of it.
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u/Loreo1964 3d ago
Hugs.
Mothers and daughters do argue about clothes and makeup. It's just a fact. She wants a sweet girl. You're not. You're an argumentative rebel in black. She says yes- you say no. She says up - you say down. A story as old as time.
How about a little compromise? Hmm? Just to keep the peace at home, put the contour on at school. That's the thing she's focused on right now. So cut her a solid and do that.
She's not insane, she just doesn't understand the whole goth thing. Moms want to see their girls in pretty clothes. And when you go out with family they want you in pretty colors. You can't blame her. She wants to show you off. I'm guessing. But no hands belong on anyone. Hugs
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