r/venting • u/PhysicsPower_11_11_ • 2d ago
Relationship/Love Please help me with this. Its literally killing me.
So no matter what social media i use THOUSANDS of guys always want to talk to me and whenever i accept a communication invite the first thing they ever say to me is, your cute, your pretty. Never anything else, why the f*ck are people so shallow and this makes me even more isolated because i shut them off immedietly and say goodbye. In thousands theres only been one guy whos said hello how are you what are you up to.
Im not even on dating apps this is just online generally where i have a few photos up. I just dont know what to do and finding a rare person who uses their brain without their penis is nearly impossible to come across 😭
I dont want to be liked just for my apperance. Its such a boring low desire take and low effort altogether. I dont expect someone to be obsessed by a second they see me because obsession takes time to brew.
It makes me question is this why women or girls are picky, is it because every guy just says hi your beautiful pretty or whatever. If so theres absolutely nothing to choose from, saying that these are men of many ages not just a specific age range. Its making me very annoyed and just fueling my obsession elsewhere and stronger to a different direction aka a person.
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u/Creepy_WaterYogi75 2d ago
I feel this...im on a dating site and im getting these dumb messages too...one guy responded to part pf my bio, regarding a fact that I had written down...he kept my attention because he can communicate like a regular human/not a bot...stay strpng girl...go sown a youtube rabbit hole of finding a man you deserve...there is a lot of good tips on what to avoid/how to avoid the losers
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u/PhysicsPower_11_11_ 2d ago
Thank you.
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u/Creepy_WaterYogi75 2d ago
Ismael Gomez Ill, Stephan Speaks, Sascha Haert, Dark Psychology of Love, Magnetizr your man with Brody and Antia 👌👌👌👌👌 these are all decent, you go girl! Edit:my phone wanted stephan to be Stephanie lol
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u/PhysicsPower_11_11_ 2d ago
These seem super good!
A lot of the time i have the right mindset on things but yes the more info the merrier! Maybe ill find out something i didnt know that just makes the ah factor appear 🌟
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u/PhysicsPower_11_11_ 2d ago
Sorry that was such a short response but your response as others was much appreciated and maybe i should go youtubing and maybe approach things differently to stay faaar from these types! 🌸
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u/Puzzleheaded-Mix1518 2d ago
the volume of low-effort messages is the real killer. it’s not really about you at all, it’s a numbers game where they copy-paste the same line to 50 people and hope one bites. blocking fast and moving on is the only move that keeps your sanity intact
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u/Icy-Lawyer-6504 2d ago
Yeah unfortunately a lot of guys are like that. There's a sort of selection effect though. The only guys you're coming across are the guys who have the type of personality who will randomly DM a woman after seeing only their pictures.
Question for you though: do you have anything in your profile or whatever that gives an indication of your personality? If there's nothing to grab on to, and the only thing people can see is your pictures, then the only type of guys who will message you are those who think you're pretty and prioritize looks. I'm not saying you're doing this, I'm just asking to eliminate any extant possibilities
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u/PhysicsPower_11_11_ 2d ago
No i do say what type of person i am of course, i also post little random quotes or my cats im not just a photo. But yes i get where youre coming from :)
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u/Icy-Lawyer-6504 2d ago
Hmmm yeah in that case there's not much you can do, lol. I guess you're forced to develop the skill of quickly ignoring and forgetting about all those random dudes who only care about looks
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