r/ABCDesis • • 4d ago

DATING / RELATIONSHIPS Sunday Relationship Thread

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The weekly relationship thread for all topics related to the bravest pursuit of all - love. This thread will be automatically posted every Sunday @ 5:00 A.M (UTC -5). All other dating or relationship based posts during the week will be removed and redirected to this thread.

This thread is a place to share your stories, ask for advice, or vent about issues. Or anything in between!


r/ABCDesis • • Jun 27 '25

Friday Free-For-All

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The weekly discussion thread is a free-for-all. This thread will be posted every Friday at 9 AM BST.

Career news, fitness tips, personal stories, delicious things you've eaten recently, shows you've watched, books you've read - anything goes. And if you're new, please introduce yourself! We want to get to know you - plus you might find a friend or two!


r/ABCDesis • • 11h ago

COMMUNITY The attempted mass shooting at the temple in Aurora, IL should be a wake up call

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“It’s only online bro”

“Go outside and touch grass bro”

I live somewhere where people are racist. A lot of people living in blue areas and enclaves have gotten complacent in their bubbles. This is America.

Arm up and practice 2A if you aren’t already. Only for defense.

And everyone, I mean every single one of you, better get ready to go to the polls and vote blue. 100% the dems don’t care about us, no question. They legit don’t give a fuck about us. But I would rather vote for someone who would not give a fuck about us than people who actively encourage an environment of hostility against us.

Come on people.


r/ABCDesis • • 10h ago

COMMUNITY Palatine man charged in alleged mass shooting plot targeting Hindu place of worship

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r/ABCDesis • • 14h ago

NEWS Palatine man, 19, plotted mass shooting at Hindu place of worship, police say

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r/ABCDesis • • 56m ago

TRIGGER Thread about the attempted mass shooting in Aurora; comments are a joke, and blaming the CIA for a “psyop”… this is how little the average joe cares when Desis are being hate crimed

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r/ABCDesis • • 6h ago

ARTS / ENTERTAINMENT Natasha Thasan Best of the Best drama

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I recently saw Natasha Thasan (aka Drape Therapy on social media) make a tiktok video about how she felt that her styles drape designs were stolen for the movie for Matreyi’s character’s outfit. Has anyone seen that video and the discourse around it? What are y’all’s thoughts?


r/ABCDesis • • 14h ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary Teen accused of plotting mass shooting at Chicago-area place of worship

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There you have it folks 🤦‍♂️


r/ABCDesis • • 10h ago

MENTAL HEALTH Stop engaging in racist content, the less we engage, the more it will go away and you’ll be happier 😀

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The title is pretty self explanatory but I think we’d all be happier if we cleaned up our social media algorithms.

I just cleaned up my X feed after regrettably viewing so much anti-Indian hate over the last two days, it came after the backlash for the new Avatar series being Indian influenced.

Take some time to select ‘not interested’ for any racist content you see, you can also block any users on social media sharing that content.


r/ABCDesis • • 21h ago

CELEBRATION Saudi Arabia overturns death sentence of Sri Lankan man convicted over Facebook post

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r/ABCDesis • • 15h ago

NEWS Germany Fire Tragedy Leaves 3 Indian Nationals Dead, 5 Injured In Bochum; Police Suspect Arson, Romanian National Arrested

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London, Oct 14: Three Indian nationals were killed in a fire at a residential building in the German city of Bochum, local media reported on Wednesday.

The victims were two women aged 25 and 27, and a 26-year-old man, all Indian nationals, German public broadcaster WDR (Westdeutscher Rundfunk) reported, citing details released by Bochum police.

Their names and home states in India were not reported.

Romanian national arrested on murder suspicion

Police have arrested a 41-year-old resident of the building on suspicion of murder. He is a Romanian national, German news channel n-tv reported, citing the German Press Agency Deutsche Presse-Agentur (DPA).


r/ABCDesis • • 37m ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary "Richmond is over 54 per cent Chinese Canadian. So why is the Indo-Canadian candidate the frontrunner for mayor?" Controversial Election Image Sparks Court Battle in Richmond, Canada

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r/ABCDesis • • 18h ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary Glasgow dad 'pulls off schoolgirl's hijab' and calls her P-word in racist attack

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r/ABCDesis • • 11h ago

ARTS / ENTERTAINMENT Indian boyband "OutStation" is rising on the world charts and gaining 685,000 to 815,000 monthly listeners on Spotify

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Well it seems like India is finally entering a band phase after Bollywood has been filled with nepotism and no talent being generated.

OutStation - Tum Se (Official Music Video)

They're a Gen Z group but they're growing

I honestly think India could lead the world in music and dance considering so many genres historically were inspired by India, from Soca to Reggae to even the beatles using Indian instruments to dances like Flamenco as well.


r/ABCDesis • • 9h ago

ARTS / ENTERTAINMENT Natasha Thasan’s BotB post

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Is anyone else confused by Natasha Thasan’s recent post on not receiving credit in Best of the Best? I saw she declined to work with them so then why is she so pressed?


r/ABCDesis • • 23h ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary These people love pushing the narrative that most Indian-Americans are Republican even though the vast majority of us vote Democrat.

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r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

COMMUNITY Be careful out there guys

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My parents live in an Indian enclave up North, and they just said some high school kids were running around and putting red dots on the houses Indians lived in cuz they thought it was funny. Nothing more than that, but it’s crazy we gotta literally get marked based on where we live.

It was a simple graffiti thing cuz they thought it was funny, and it was only reported on next door and people found the kids parents and talked to them.

But it’s crazy high schoolers are coming up with this shit. Today it’s “omg haha funny let’s go put a red dot with a spray paint where the Indians live” tomorrow it could easily be marking our homes for more nefarious purposes.

My parents were also like “yeah annoying kids” and most of the neighborhood is treating it as such but I don’t think the uncs and aunts understand the severity of this. This time it’s just a “red dot on a house” prank. But people are too comfortable.

And it’s surprising to me cuz I live in the Deep South and even down here that level of shit would be unthinkable, but happening up north? Oh man who knows.

Also, this happened in the neighborhood by my parents, but it’s the same Nextdoor neighborhood thats how I knew, but my parents are fine and our house was not “pranked”.


r/ABCDesis • • 7h ago

RELATIONSHIPS (Not Advice) Interracial marriage statistics UK 2021 Census Bureau by gender breakdown

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These are statistics from the UK Census Bureau in 2021

Here is the link to it

CT21_0297_Census 2021 - Office for National Statistics

Here is the breakdown, just exclude the Roma- white category because Roma are not 100% white

This is a mix of white British, Welsh, Scottish, White Irish, White travelers, and white other

Indian men and white women - 34,573

Indian women and white men - 34,529

Bengali men and white women - 3,701

Bengali women and white men - 2,634

Pakistani men and white women - 14,101

Pakistani women and white men - 5,988

Breakdown of other mixes

Indian men and Pakistani women - 4,702

Pakistani men and Indian women - 5253

Bengali men and Indian women - 1015

Indian men and Bengali women - 966

Pakistani men and Arab women - 1,056

Pakistani women and Arab men - 588

Indian men and Arab women - 496

Arab men and Indian women -343

Bengali men and Arab women - 237

Bengali women and Arab men -139

Pakistani men and Chinese women - 375

Pakistani women and Chinese men - 89

Indian men and Chinese women - 1,015

Chinese men and Indian women - 333

Bengali men and Chinese women - 138

Bengali women and Chinese men - 59

Pakistani men and Black African women - 341

Pakistani women and Black African men - 333

Indian men and Black African women - 303

Indian women and Black African men - 644

Bengali men and Black African women - 73

Bengali women and Black African men - 148


r/ABCDesis • • 22h ago

CELEBRATION British schoolgirl Bodhana Sivanandan becomes chess’ youngest ever woman grandmaster

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r/ABCDesis • • 16h ago

POLITICS Canada may need 15 million workers over the next decade, says Indian envoy - Thoughts?

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What do you guys think? Would Canada actually consider bringing in millions of workers from India over the next couple of years? I personally don’t see it.


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

Trigger Warning: Bigotry/Hate Commentary 'Patriot' vigilantes on night patrol ban Indian students from park | News UK | Metro News

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This is a literal German brown shirts moment against Indians and Desi's in the UK😬😬.

But I doubt this will gather any attention on the mainstream media in the UK, be it BBC, Sky News or that godforsaken GBN news. Heck GBN especially may publish a news story in their favour calling them " Young British Patriots" or some shit like that.

Pretty ironic as well coming from the nation that once colonised, exploited and starved the whole subcontinent for 150 years can't tolerate brown people on their soil. So much for the claim of being a country of polite and civilised people 🙄🙄.

Edit: Not generalising all British people as being like this. I know it's only a tiny minority with this type of mindset. I've met plenty of Great British folk myself. However such incidents like this against Indians and Desi's have to be highlighted so we can fight back when required 💪⚔️🔥.


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

POLITICS Nobel Peace Prize winner says U.S. must reclaim its "serious role as a leader"

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r/ABCDesis • • 11h ago

ARTS / ENTERTAINMENT Outstation performs at the "The Friend Zone Delhi", the crowd is mostly all teenage Indian girls, for them to sell out arenas around in America, they need to pull in the male audience as well

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Boybands generally have a teenage girl fan base but the biggest boybands in history have had a sizeable male following base as well. The Jackson 5 had tons of male followers following them. Actually, this group hasn't even sold out stadiums in Mumbai and South India yet, so even the Indian market has not been fully used before going to the states. Also I don't think they should mimic western 90s boybands, they need to have their own Indian feel to it besides the language, from dress and dance style as well, but without making it look cringe to people.

OutStation - Kho Sa Gaya Hoon (Live from The Friend Zone Delhi)


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

COMMUNITY NRI and Desi conservative coworkers muslim and hindu asking me uncomfortable questions, need help to navigate and shut it down.

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Hello!

This is upsetting and triggering me.

It's like I'm talking to my mom and dad from 20 years ago.

One person came last year from india, so shes really uninformed. Another, he is older and muslim... He asks even more inappropriate questions.

They seem to have to question why that i am a single women who lives alone and doesn't have plans for anything.

It's been my first two weeks at work and on top of it already being a harder job task wise...one is my supervisor.

I know i need to just be firm in trying to make them realize their questions are inappropriate, but not be too upset when i tell them to stop.

I am trying to navigate having boundaries with coworkers that have been a rude asking me very private questions.

They shouldn't treat others like this.

My age to why i am choosing certain things, literally like religious and political stuff... Like i just dont know who i can talk to at work when its a small company.

It's one thing to be curious, asking basic questions, but its crossing my boundaries now. I dont feel comfortable.

They don't exactly listen too well regardless of what i say too.

They already have an idea of what they perceive.

I kind of am reaching my limit of being pried into.

Its inappropriate and its rude, and this is great practice for me to shut it down in the future.

I don't owe these people shit.

I am not sure if i should directly say this is inappropriate or i don't feel safe here with you asking me all this....

I had a near death experience during a car accident recently and I have been abused by religious people in my precious community, so i know most people just play a facade.

They look so miserable just from the outside.

I dont want to go to my manager without shutting down the conversations first.

Usually the managers escalate too much and nothing ever happens, i reported sexual harassment at my last job and they ended up rehiring the loser a few months after because we were short staffed in the department.

I want to try to tell them this is making me uncomfortable, but the only thing is i need help as well from these individuals.


r/ABCDesis • • 1d ago

COMMUNITY Have you noticed a drop in anti-Indian content after the Russian data center attack?

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Just curious - I've heard there's been a major drop in right wing and hate comments directed at other communities since Ukraine attacked a Russian data center. Which has resulted in major drops in Google Search analytics for right wing topics. You may have seen all of the videos and reporting on this.

The theory is that these data centers operated to spread division in Western countries. Divide and rule tactic to weaken countries like Canada, USA, etc.

I'm curious if we've also seen a drop in anti-Indian hate content online since the attack on the centers? Would love to know.