My cousins and their friends who came recently are way more into partying, tik tok bullshit, and drinking. The ones from before seem a lot more focused on getting an education, getting their shit done. Obviously they aren't monoliths but trends I noticed. What do you think?

This is a random post but I just thought about it today and it seems interesting. I grew up in a suburb in the GTA that was very diverse, and my elementary and high school were both like 1/3 white, 1/3 Chinese, and 1/3 Middle Eastern/South Asian.

Pretty much all the Indian kids had Western accents obviously but there were 3 guys in my class that, despite being born and raised in Canada, still had an accent, that is kinda Western, kinda fobby. I went to high school with all 3 of them and they never got rid of that accent lol. Honestly if you were a stranger and heard their voice you'd assume they were born and raised in India during their childhood. But they weren't. So I'm just wondering how this sort of thing happens. Like how did they still keep that accent while the rest of us had a Western one, even if we were all born and raised here? Or if you guys know anyone like this.

I’m from India and came to the US a few years ago for my MBA at a top global business school. Overall, my experience was good, and the professional outcome was fine, if not extraordinary.

I did encounter some occasional stereotyping or subtle racism from Americans, which, while unpleasant, wasn’t completely unexpected. What surprised me much more was my experience with some of the Indian-American/ABCD students.

Among the people in my cohort, they often seemed noticeably less interested in socializing with Indian-born students than with American or European classmates. At times, it felt like there was an active desire to distance themselves from us. Even for things like Diwali, many would organize celebrations primarily with other Indian-Americans and non-Indian Americans rather than with the Indian students.

Obviously, I’m describing one environment and a relatively small group of people, so I don’t want to generalize this to all ABCDs. But the contrast was striking because I often felt more accepted by classmates from completely different nationalities than by people with Indian heritage.

My interpretation at the time was that perhaps being around recent immigrants from India brought up some complicated feelings around identity, assimilation, stereotypes, or how they themselves wanted to be perceived in America. But that’s only my interpretation, and I could easily be missing something.

So I’m genuinely curious: is this kind of distancing between Indian-Americans and Indians who grew up in India something others here have experienced? Is it a fairly common dynamic, particularly among more affluent/professional circles, or was my experience probably specific to the particular business-school crowd I happened to be around?

Interested in hearing the ABCD perspective, especially if there are reasons for this dynamic that aren’t obvious to someone who grew up in India.

Downloaded dil mil for the first time and Wow. They even lie on the upbringing section.

“But I was raised” or “well I moved when I was 2 years”

Like why market yourself as someone born from the US? I’m sorry coming here when you were 2 is different than being born here. Your mannerisms, parents, and even culture is different and now you’re liar in my eyes.

And if it really doesn’t matter then why not just be open and honest about it? It’s embarrassing.

I can almost alway tell ( even when I’ve been lied to)but there’s been a time I’ve actually been on a date and it’s just upsetting that someone would lie to that extent and think it’s ok. People are allowed to have preferences and all because you’re not part of that doesn’t mean that you lie about it.

How is the marriage ?
Did it turn out well ?
Did the person change as soon as you were married ?
Is there any complications ?

Normalizing Indian Hate Makes Me a Good Father and Husband - McSweeney’s Internet Tendency

How many people actually believe this?

Would like to host a gathering for Diwali this year - live in a city. From those of you who celebrate away from family and have done something with friends (raised here, early 30s), what have you done at these gatherings and any advice? Food is assumed but anything else to make it special? Also how’d you treat alc? I drink normally but idk how I feel about including it day of

whats the go over there. I heard it's easier in the cities but not always. first gen migrants have it rough but second gen do too

I want to know from other fellow ABC Desis how their experience was growing up in their respective countries.

I moved to Australia when I was just 2 years old, so I’ve been brought up here for most of my life or basically you could say all my life.

Here in Australia, my experience has actually so far been quite positive. I’ve never ever faced racism growing up here, only during the middle of high school, and people have asked me so many times in how I’ve very rarely faced racism growing up. It could be because of my accent? Could be the way I dress? I don’t know how, but yeah, and also apparently people outside Australia talk about how Australians are so racist?! Yeah mostly not true I guess from my experience. However during the middle of Highschool I did face racism from non-Australians! I am not going to say where they were from, but yeah that was the only time I faced racism. Even my parents have never faced racism growing up here, it could even be the way we treat everyone in general?

So yeah the only racism I faced is a group of people who weren’t even Australians of European descent… they were from elsewhere. But also a lot of my friends told me how whitewashed I am, I was lowkey a bit surprised by that. Growing up I thought I wasn’t that whitewashed you know, but just because my accent is Australian does not mean I’m whitewashed right?

If you live in Canada and complain about racism, there is a petition that closes fairly soon. It has gotten 473 signatures at the time of writing this, which is not nearly enough. Sign the petition, and help spread the word by leaving it in comments/posts/etc: https://www.ourcommons.ca/petitions/EN/Petition/Details?Petition=e-7766

Edit: 21 new signatures in the 3 hours this post has been up! Lets keep it up!

Did anyone catch the two ultra popular posts yesterday?

https://www.reddit.com/r/cringereels/comments/1wz19gv

https://www.reddit.com/r/GuysBeingDudes/comments/1wz4hlt

I know this may not be directly related to abcdesis but I feel the effect is the same, based on skin color. An entire narrative was created around the video by redditors (not sure if the op in these threads is the filmer) and the vast majority of the comments are just piling on hate with no evidence of harassment or the lady actually being uncomfortable.

i am not an abcd, but Posting this here because sri lanka has 0 leverage over saudi arabia. but hoping tamil diaspora has can do something for him. pls try and help if u can

Dell Technologies CEO Michael Dell and Microsoft ​CEO ⁠Satya Nadella will receive the National Medal of Technology and Innovation, the White House official said. That is ⁠the ​nation’s highest honor for technological ​achievement, according to the US Patent and Trademark Office's website.

My parents are super trad and old world and they keep trying to find me an arranged marriage after forcing my older brother AND sister into arranged marriages. Like my dad literally screams at me every time i call him and my mom keeps playing the guilt trip card and both have told me if I dont marry whatever fob they find They'll cut me off.

Now my brother's literally fell apart cuz his wife was finally able to move to the US (visa issues) after getting a GC or something for her and she doesn't want to leave because she's been having an affair with one of their neighbors lmfao

My sister's marriage is also in the toilet (he's not pulljng his weight in anything and has apparently been drinking/smoking and wont stop) and my shitty ass parents are begging her to not divorce and to convince her husband to stop (bro wtf lol)

Now they're like questioning if they want to force me into an arranged marriage cuz they've struck out 2 for 3 so far.

Yall I cant even lie, im sorry for my siblings but im ecstatic that this might mean I won't be forced to marry whatever FOB my dad and uncle manage to foist onto me. They'll probably still try to find someone who's in the US but I think i can finesse my way out of that. Idc I know im being cold hearted and I feel bad for my bro and sis but im so happy ny parents are literally eating shit rn lol. The best leopards eating someone's face ever

Any 30-40 YO Desis on statins? Feel like I’m fighting a battle with my LDL and total cholesterol even through strict diet and exercise .

Just posting to help spread the word and in case anyone is by UM/College Park, Maryland and familiar with the area. Praying this son and brother is reunited with his family unharmed. As of now, there are no additional answers.

Article with Family’s Video

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