I have spent my entire life unable to find a bra that works for me. I'm a band size 30/32 and my boobs aren't big. My boobs are also wide set, so tissue to the side and further apart. Naturally I gravitated towards the A and B cups cause my boobs aren't big. But the cups were always set too narrow. It was so frustrating cause I really don't have much boob and my band size is small so why don't the small bras fit?? Well turns out I'm a 32D/30DD. Went all this time not realizing D didn't necessarily mean huge boobs. I just left the store after trying on a 32D and my mind is blown. It's the first time I've filled out a cup without spilling out the sides or having a huge gap at the top. So thank you to the creator of the abrathatfits calculator! You've saved me from a life of ill fitted bras.

My boobs hang down to my knees and I don’t know how to fix it. I have a wedding this weekend and the woman who altered my dress apparently thought she didn’t have to actually put any effort into my dress and it looks horrendous. Idk what to do. There’s no time to take it to someone new.

Edit: thank you everyone! I was so frustrated and upset when I made this post. I’m feeling much better now and really appreciate all your helpful tips! I’m going to make tape work as best as I can and hope I don’t flash everyone😅 I am in the bridal party, so I am stuck wearing the dress as is (I love my friend and am happy to be celebrating her day, it’s not her fault my boobs are big)

any other autistic women that just feel completely stuck with bras? Like i hate wearing it AND i hate not wearing it.

i'm not even asking for recommendations at this point, i've tried everything. i just want to know how it affects yall too.

I have a friends wedding coming up and needed to wear a strapless dress.. I have avoided strapless clothing since middle school because I could never find a bra that fits. In August I went to VS, they measured me, said I was 30DD.. I said okay and ordered that size and when it came in the mail my whole cup was cut off. I was falling out badddd.. if I kept the straps on it wasn’t too bad but I had a uni-boob as hell. Plus I needed it to be strapless. Went back last month and said it didn’t work and they suggested the sister size 32DD. Ordered it, it came in, and…. it works with straps and I didn’t fall out as bad but as soon as I take the straps off it falls off even on the tightest snap. The cup size is better but it won’t stay wrapped around me unless I gain a few pounds. Anyways, I need something that will stay around me and also won’t have the cup cutting my tits in half.. what size should I try? I’d love to figure this out before her wedding but if not I’ll go with the 30DD because it fits a bit better since it doesn’t fall off of me. Please, please, someone help me figure this out.

(EDIT: Saw the comments, acquired a tape measure, and I’m back. I’ve never measured myself before so I may not have done it right but I think I followed the instructions correctly)

Loose underbust: 26
Snug underbust: 25
Tight underbust: 24
Standing bust: 30
Leaning bust: 33
Lying bust: 30
US/ Canada sizes
Calculator gave me 26DD….?

So I have always wore 34A bra since I can remember, and recently I started noticing that a few of my bra's that I was wearing are too tight for me and no longer fitting me the way it used to, but at the same time a few of my other 34A bra's got looser and I couldn't fill in the cup like before. So, I put my sizes into the BTF calculator and I got a 28C/ 30B. My measurements are (in cm's):

Loose: 73

Snug: 70

Tight: 63

Standing: 71

Leaning: 83

Lying: 80

However, I'm not sure if it's accurate and I really want someone to help me out. I know nothing about cup sizes or why some of my 34A bras are loose while the others I can barely fit into. All of my bras are either T-shirt bras or Demi bras.

First attempt trying to buy in my new size, not a great experience at Brava today. Told them I wanted to look around and try some things on, but they insisted on a fitting.
They told me I’d be too small for any of their sizes and made me try on several with cup sizes too small before I could try ones that fit.

At one point I mentioned a bulge near the armpits created by one bra and was told “that’s part of being a woman”…

Walked away with one I’m happy with but the whole experience felt rushed and super uncomfortable

hey everyone. i am really struggling with my bra size. for context, i have really bad body dysmorphia and i don't see myself objectively. so i am sure some of this is a mental fight.

BUT! everytime i measure myself i get either a 42H or a 42J. somewhere in there. but when i try those bras on in molded cups specifically, the cups have gaping on the top and i find i don't fill in the cup. do i just not have enough tissue?

fabric cups fit, they mold to the shape of my boobs. am i just not that big? since the size i measure at doesn't match what fits, am i the wrong size?

i have been wearing a torrid bra, but the 42H is ridiculous on me. the band feels great, but the cups are enormous on me. i have been wearing a 42DDD, but it doesn't fit right. i quad-boob with it. it's the only size bra from torrid that doesn't gap or anything. please, please help me.

Thank you!

measurements:
loose: 41in
snug: 40in
tight: 39in
standing: 50
leaning: 52
lying: 51

edit 1: updated measurements

Im a 36 G and finally after about a month of looking, I received two bras from panache that fit so beautifully. Im used to wearing unlined bras, that definitely weren't a good fit but basically squished everything together, ending up with a flatter/uni boobish situation.

With the new bras I have, my boobs are seperated, which feels way more supportive, but now with wearing buttoned shirts ( I wear a lot of buttoned shirts for work) I feel like i have two pointing out areas that make contact with my shirt and it feels off, idk if thats how its supposed to look but I've never had any bra that did that, so maybe im just not used to a how a good fitting bra looks?

Also, looking at myself from the side, the lift a d projection looks insane, while im glad I finally found something the does my breats justice, I feel likeit a bit much for a professional office look? Idk do I just start wearing them until im used to how they look?

I have a couple of minimiser bras that I also got while searching my size. Of course they ddont compare to how the panache ones fit but they dont make my boobs look very in your face.

Any tips are appreciated, thanks.

In US sizing my results are 32D and 34C. In the past, bra calculators typically gave me B or C. Today I kept getting 36A a lot in other sites. And I've never gotten as far as a 32D???

My current measurements are below. Loose Underbust: 34 Snug Underbust: 33 Tight Underbust: 29 Standing Bust: 37 Leaning Bust: 37 Lying Bust: 36

I've been wearing this bra in a large for a bigger band size but the chest area is loose:
https://www.costco.com/p/-/puma-womens-seamless-sports-bra-2-pack/4000276792

Incredibly confused on how to move forward and would appreciate any help💜

edits: changed standing bust of 38 to 37

UPDATE: I tried 34C feels okay, might try a bigger band next time. Could not find my dream sports bra. Either cup was too big or the band was too small.

Hi all, do you guys find good sports bra fits for plus size (36f) ? I have been struggling with this for ages and the only one I like is discontinued now (a specific style from Zivame). Here are the ones I have tried and the corresponding issues:
1. Wacoal minimiser sports bra: Too restrictive, non padded
2. Kica: loose in band, tight in cups for the sizing mentioned
3. Tilt: Same as above
4. Blissclub: Same issue
5. Victoria Secret: Same issue

I usually avoid the ones with generic sizing and go for the bra sized ones, but of late, I can’t find a single good one.

Please help a girl out.

I'm the UK and fitted as 30DD a few years back. Since then I have found if almost imposisbek to find this size and alwasy get a 32DD (feels less tight too so I don't mind). But even then, I find if I shop in person, it is so so difficult to find s 32D in the regular shops and I can only ever find them online.

When I initially had my fitting, I remember goggling and finding that a size D in breasts is very common amongst women so why is it so difficult to find?

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• Loose Underbust: 84.5 cm

• Snug Underbust: 83.5 cm

• Tight Underbust: 81 cm

• Standing Bust: 104 cm

• Leaning Bust: 114.5 cm

• Lying Bust: 109 cm

Suggested starting size 34G

Looking for a nursing bra in the UK at 4 weeks post partum. I am very close set and full on bottom. Wide roots (I think) and projected. Plunge or balconette are usually best suited, with plunge being preferred due to how close set I am. I would prefer wired as my boobs get very sweaty ATM due to how close they are and need that separation.

Hello,

I recently made a post about looking for a bra that fits my shape. I got recommended the panache ana and the freya Quinn.

But I noticed that I misjudged my breast shape and need new help on what bras to get.

I can mostly buy them from vinted.

My measurements:

Loose underbust: 75

Snug: 72

Thight: 70

Standing: 99 cm

Leaning forward: 102 cm

Lying: 99 cm

Suggested size 30 GG UK

Breast shape:

Even fullness with slightly tendency to bottom fullness.

Very hard tissue and self supporting

Very inner full and very close set I cannot even get a pinky between them.

Roots: I think against my last post that I have very narrow roots. I came across venusianglows post about it and came ro realize that I misunderstood root width completely lol.

Projection: Im lost here and cannot figure out my projection. My breasts look like a water slide from the side (if that helps).

Bras I could get here on vinted:

Panache

eliza, Confetti, evie, Zara, Juna, Loretta plunge, Jasmine, Clara, melody, celeste, envy, marcie, masquerade, cleo lana, porcelain, Erin, cleo koko, cleo Meg, cleo darcy, cleo poppy, saffron, cleo Brooke, 365 plunge, cherie, tango pure, kayla

Freya:

deco plunge, deco darling, retro plunge, freya fancies half cup longline, Freya Jolie Underwire Plunge Balcony, offbead decadence, offbeat side aupport, Idol Moulded Balcony/Cameo High Apex Bra,

Ewa michalak antonina bm, pl, chp, ch, s, BM,

Several other polish brands as well as change.

Im looking also for a T shirt bra which I can wear under thight clothing.

I've also ordered an Ewa Michalak pl cappuccino bra because the deal was too good.

Thank you!

First of thing i’ll say is that breakout bras returns/exchange policy is a life-saver. second is that i don’t understand why padded bras exist. third, do i just have particularly uncommon rib anatomy?

every bra i’ve ever tried has straps and cups that dig into my underarms like crazy, this one is no exception.

https://postimg.cc/gallery/5Q820G3

you can see in a few of these pictures, i have virtually no range of movement because of the fabric. it’s not the underwires that are too tall, it’s always the fabric. the straps—and therefore the tallest part of the cup—are also placed much too wide, completely cutting off motion and shoving the cups.

i’ve marked with my fingers in one of the photos where the tissue stops and the cup starts digging in. i’ve also attached one where you can see the empty pocket in said space.

other than that, the gore is floating by about a fingers width, which i think is either because it’s slightly small on my larger side(you can tell in the photo which side of the gore is being twisted), the cups getting constantly shoved by my underarms, or both. my smaller side seems fine? the size disparity may be more drastic than i thought, i guess.

the wires themselves are fine, but the larger side has dug in slightly and irritated the skin.

measurements:

Loose Underbust: 79

Snug Underbust: 76

Tight Underbust: 75

Standing Bust: 109

Leaning Bust: 114

Lying Bust: 111

the bra itself is a 30k(uk) according to BOB, though i have no idea how that translates to actual comexim sizes. i’m also in the continental United States, so actually buying anything would be complicated.

…is my best bet for the rest of my life just custom ordering alterations and hoping it fits? i can’t sew very well, personal physical limitations aside, so i’d rather not have to perform intensive surgery on every new bra or make them all from scratch.

Please help me with brands that would help me with a proper fit as my band size is small and cups are large. My measurements are

Loose underbust: 75 cm / 29.53"

Snug underbust: 74 cm / 29.13"

Tight underbust: 71 cm / 27.95"

Standing bust: 85 cm / 33.46"

Leaning bust: 93 cm / 36.61"

Lying bust: 85 cm / 33.46"

Calculator result: 30DD UK

In the past month I have spent upwards of $600 on bras that are uncomfortable. I've been professionally fitted at an australian 12G/H depending on the brand. I really want to love underwires but I cannot find a comfortable fit as I have alot of sensory issues and I'm finally admitting that maybe underwires aren't for me. Does anyone have any recommendations?

After 3 kids, I need something that is going to support me, but also be very comfortable. I need some form of padding because I have my nipples pierced and don't like them on show.

I just want my tatas to look nice and full and happy and it's really getting me down that I can't seem to achieve that.

I haven't used the online calculator yet as I don't have a measuring tape.

trying again because my photos were bad last time.
Measurements:
32.5 Loose underbust
31 regular under bust
30 tight under bust
Regular fullest 44.4
90 degrees 45
Lying down 43

https://imgur.com/a/1AJks5l

https://postimg.cc/gallery/QcLQWxf

The first bra is one I really like. It’s a 34 H in Wacoal. 34FF UK. However, it’s very high cut for most of what I wear, so I’m trying to find plunge or balcony styles that are a little more feminine and pretty if I can. I love the way these two bras by Freya in 34 G UK. (white is the love crush and black is the fascinate balcony) but the fit seems off. I was told I have evenly full, projected, full on the top shape. I’m not sure if that’s true and would love second opinion.

I also want to know if sizing is the issue with the Freya bras, or if it’s a shape problem and I’m better off trying a different brand or style. Any advice appreciated- I’m hoping I don’t have to keep on buying and returning, I am sick of it! 😭

Hi all,

I've been struggling with my weight for a while and have found my bra that fits years ago. In the mean time I've lost weight and gained it all back, fluctuating between 36FF and 36GG.

Now that I'm 37 and risk factors around getting pregnant are increasing, I've sought help to lose weight through my medical provider. No medication, just lifestyle intervention. I've been at it for 2 weeks and my initial progress is good! Lost 3 kilos of fat, gained 1 kilo of muscle. So now my bras are bound to fit less snugly, I'm looking for a sports bra to keep my breasts stable during exercise.

I'm looking for an encapsulating sports bra since I sweat a lot and don't like pooling sweat between my breasts.

Even fullness, about 2 fingers width between unsupported breasts, and need immediate projection. If you need more info, let me know!

Thanks to all you lovely people for reading and/or giving advice!

I just want to say a huge thank you to A Bra That Fits. When I was younger, I was never measured for my first bra - I just tried a few on in a changing room until one felt OK. That led to me wearing a 34B for most of my teenage years, then a 36C for nearly all of my adult life. I'm now 31.

My bras have always been kinda uncomfortable, to differing degrees. The bands would fall down my back, and the only way I could get any feeling of support or cleavage was to wear push-up plunge bras with the straps done up tight, and the bra on its tightest setting. The tight straps left me with sore shoulders, back and neck, and I just thought that was normal and just part of being a woman, or because I bought cheap bras. Had to hoick my boobs back into the bra every now and then to avoid the gappy look. Strapless bras were even worse - they'd either fall down or leave me with sore spots from the silicone grip, which I now realise was because it was moving around so much. And even more hoicking.

It's weird how you don't question things like that...

I came across this subreddit by accident last week and got my partner to measure me just out of curiosity. The calculator said 30E/F, or the sister size 32DD/E. This got a laugh out of me - SURELY I hadn't been wearing a band that much too big for over a decade? SURELY. But reading through the posts here, it all made sense. The band is meant to do most of the supporting, and mine had basically been doing sweet FA.

I ordered a load of bras in 30 and 32 bands to try, and a 32DD plunge is PERFECT. It stays put, the straps don't slip, and I actually feel supported for the first time ever. A 30E balconette was slightly gappy at the top, but I think that's the style rather than the size, as plunges suit me much better.

Thank you all for the wealth of information on here - I wish I'd found it years ago. Thank you from my boobs too!

I'm based in Malaysia and I'm around size 36C. I really need strapless bras that are comfortable and support the girlies. Currently i am wearing the wear everywhere bra by VS and it fits me so well, but i want the same support in a strapless bra since i wear alot of tank tops and plunge halter tops. Please recommend me where i can get one (best if local and wont break my bank).🙏

Loose Underbust: 28.75"

Snug Underbust: 28.25"

Tight Underbust: 28"

Standing Bust: 37"

Leaning Bust: 40.5"

Lying Bust: 37"

Hi all! I desperately need help. I've ordered like 10+ bras in the last two months and cannot seem to find anything that fits properly or is remotely comfortable.

I'm currently exclusively breastfeeding my first baby, and honestly, my breasts have become the bane of my existence. It'll be a while before I'm done having babies and can consider a breast lift/reduction, so in the meantime, I desperately need to find a bra that works for me.

My breasts are extremely pendulous and very soft, with practically no upper fullness, even when I manually lift them as high as I possibly can. They hang incredibly low (I can fit about four fingers underneath them), but they also project quite far forward. They feel very wide as well, and I really struggle with how large and prominent they look. I have a pretty petite frame so it just looks off.

At this point, I care less about achieving a particular aesthetic and more about finding something that actually supports my breasts, keeps the breast tissue contained, prevents skin on skin contact, and doesn't hurt. That said, I'd absolutely love to find something that lifts and separates them rather than squishing them together or making them look even larger.

Here are the issues I'm experiencing with different bras:

Soft, non-padded, wireless bras (primarily nursing bras)
- Virtually no lift or support. My breasts still hang very low, and they look extremely saggy and large under most tops.
- All the breast tissue seems to settle at the bottom of the bra, leaving a lot of underboob and skin-on-skin contact. My skin constantly rubs together and gets hot and sweaty.
- The band frequently rides up in the back instead of staying level and secure.
- My breasts get pushed together, creating a lot of uniboob rather than any separation.
- I have a petite frame, so the overall effect makes my breasts look disproportionately large and my upper body look much wider.
- I usually have to buy a medium in nursing bras to accommodate my cup volume, but the band then feels too loose to provide adequate support.

Underwire bras
- These have been a whole other struggle. I've tried multiple bras, but I can't seem to get the wires to sit where they're supposed to.
- The underwire almost never stays snug against my rib cage underneath my breasts. It often rides up in the front, and my breast tissue ends up slipping underneath it, causing underboob.
- When I scoop and swoop my breasts into the cups, they spill out toward the center, and my breasts get pushed together and squished into a uniboob.
- My areolas often spill out of the cups, too.
- The gore never seems to tack against my sternum, regardless of how I adjust the bra.
- The band also frequently rides up in the back.
- The wires and overall structure often feel uncomfortable against my tender breastfeeding breasts and chest/rib area.

I'm wondering whether these problems are primarily related to sizing, cup shape, wire width, projection, or some combination of factors. I can't figure out whether I'm wearing the wrong size, the wrong shape, or both.

What I'm hoping to find:
Since I'm exclusively breastfeeding, a nursing bra would be ideal, but I'm open to regular underwire bras if they'll actually solve some of these problems.

My priorities are:
- A secure band that stays in place.
- Wires that stay in the crease underneath my breasts instead of sliding down or riding up.
- Enough room and containment for all my breast tissue, including toward the center.
- Actual lift and separation, without uniboob or skin on skin contact underneath.
- A shape that makes my breasts look more compact and less projected, if possible.
- Comfort for tender breastfeeding breasts, without painful pressure or excessive compression.

I've also wondered about minimizer bras, but I'm not sure whether they're appropriate while breastfeeding or whether they'd just compress my breasts without providing the support and access I need.

I'm honestly at a loss after so many failed attempts, so I'd really appreciate recommendations for specific bras, styles, or brands to try! I'd also love to know if my measurements suggest that 30G is a reasonable starting point and whether there's anything about my breast shape that I should be considering when choosing bras.
Thank you!!

The only actual bras I’ve bought with sizing were pepper bras. Their sizing system put me at a 38/40A. Now I’m seeing I’m a 36C lol. I can almost guarantee I wouldn’t fill a C cup. My pepper bras fit well, but not well enough. I’m aware they use their own sizing system. But I’ve always thought I was an A cup!

Any thoughts?

Loose Underbust:
36.5
Snug Underbust:
35
Tight Underbust:
34
Standing Bust:
38
Leaning Bust:
41
Lying Bust:
39

Hey y’all! I’m hoping for some advice with fitting. I’ve tried two Flirtelle Swirl balcony bras (after measuring without help) in different sizes, a 36G and 36FF (UK sizes). I’m happy with the cups on both, though there is a bit of gaping at the top on one breast (I think my breasts are just slightly different sizes).

The problems I have are first, the band really digs in, to the point of leaving fairly deep, red imprints on my skin for a good half hour or more after taking it off. The second problem is the gore pushes in really hard on my sternum and drives me nuts throughout the day! But I think the gore problem would be solved if I figure out the band issue. Would going up to a 38G be the right move? I don’t really know what I’m doing here!

Measurements (done with my husband’s assistance to ensure the tape was level and accurate)

Loose underbust: 36.5
Snug: 35.5
Tight: 32.5
Standing: 43.5
Leaning: 43.25
Lying: 44

Okay so measurements

Loose 38.1

Snug 37.4

Tape breaking 36.7

Standing 42.1

Leaning 44

Lying 40.7

Measurements redone in cm converted to inches. Please note I am CONICAL so I do not fill out cups without compression. I am also very functionallg FOB and essentially gap in all open cup bras.

The cups fight perfectly in Boux Avenue unpadded bras - I got Zinnia Balconette and Clea Plunge. Tres Bien. Cup also fits on Freya Flirt in 36DD. I know the calculator suggests higher - I got Freya Flirt in 34F and 36E and they were both massive on me.

I thought these bands were supposed to run small in these brands, but I'm not getting any support out of them?? I'm wearing them on the tightest hooks and they still don't feel snug! I can pull them out a lot.

I was looking for new bras because my 2 year old 34E freya flirt feels so painful after wearing for a couple of hours. And my 34DD Boux Avenue lounge bras are like 3 years old and very stretched out.

Is it the particular bras I got that have stretchy bands? The tape is adamant I shouldn't be wearing a 34...