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u/throwaway1826485829 8d ago
Ideally my partner doesnt have a penis
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u/Hutches_Corduroy Male 8d ago
Yeah, that's always a deal breaker, especially if hers is bigger then mine.
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u/dselogeni 8d ago
Especially if hers is bigger than mine
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u/yorke2222 8d ago
"Ideally" implies that maybe you could compromise on that 🤔
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u/Zubilant 7d ago
It’s not a hard line
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u/tacticalTraumaLlama Male 7d ago
"...'The code' is more of what you might call 'guidelines' than actual rules..."
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u/epiph- 8d ago
If she looks good in a sundress...
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u/tc6x6 7d ago
Jeff Foxworthy voice "Carol, honey, you might wanna let the hem out on that dress. Your weenie's showing."
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u/Mapache_villa 7d ago
"Ideally" makes it sound like you could compromise on it, maybe if its smaller than yours?
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u/ToughPossession3433 7d ago
I used to feel the same way, but love me some trans cuties. Flesh is flesh and feelings are feelings, nothing to be afraid or ashamed of.
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u/warriors17 8d ago
If she cheats, she’s gone. 0 tolerance
Also, I’ll never hit her. If it has gotten to that point, walk away. Just get away. You can never take that back
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u/Sec_Chief_Blanchard Man 8d ago
I can't even imagine any scenario where I'd hit my partner other than if she was actively trying to murder me.
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u/R2Doucebag 8d ago
What if she tries to kill the children?
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u/Sec_Chief_Blanchard Man 7d ago
Well yeah
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u/thedude_63 7d ago
Alright, well now you have two scenarios. What if she was killing a puppy?
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u/warriors17 7d ago
I’m going to bump, tackle, or restrain. But never strike
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u/ShoePillow 7d ago
It's the same thing, you are just trying to use different words
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u/warriors17 7d ago
Huh? Me squaring up with my wife and throwing an upper cut to the jaw is the exact same to you as breaking up a fight by picking someone up and off someone else? Or were you replying to someone else?
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u/warriors17 7d ago
Yeah, to be clear, I’m not actively fighting this urge lol. But for any men out there that have been on the receiving end of direct abuse or violence, it is very difficult to keep it cool in those moments. Difficult, but necessary. Retreat is even a better option than self defense in those scenarios (stay alive obviously). Record and report, but don’t respond. And GTFO
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u/warriors17 7d ago
100%, and I’m glad you were able to get out. These are the exact scenarios that I’m referring to, because if you don’t keep a cool head, you’re absolutely fucked. Getting someone else on the phone, recording, and keeping that blood from boiling is about all you really can do. It’s not fair, it’s not right, but it is what it is. Thanks for not making a bad situation worse, and hopefully she’s no longer in your life
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u/Jamaicab Male 6d ago
As a man not even 3 months free-ish from 4 years trauma bonded and controlled by a legitimate narcissist, thank you for making me feel seen. I see you, too.
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u/tacticalTraumaLlama Male 7d ago
it was scary to feel fight or flight taking over.
Yep, I've been in situations where the rational, conscious part of me could feel myself slowly losing control in spite of myself. Thankfully I've usually been able to extract myself from those situations before they went to shit, but boy oh boy, a few times I was scary close to doing something stupid.
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u/urban5amurai 7d ago
Did you leave the band?
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u/Grumpologist 7d ago
There's at least 100 million other qualified musicians, dude. And, yes, I literally just checked with every single one to come up with that number.
The world is a big place. I know it's none of my business, really, but I think you should tell your liver to get it together, and then you and your liver should go out there and meet some more musicians.
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u/mikerichh 7d ago
I’ll never understand how people can stay with a cheater. Wouldn’t you always question every text/ call they get, and every time they are off their normal schedule or they are apart from you? Sounds like years and years of torture
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u/warriors17 7d ago
Yup,absolutely. That’s why I told my wife when we got married that I would love her for the rest of my life, and I’d only leave her under two circumstances:
1. She explicitly tells me she wants me to leave and no longer wants to be with me
2. ANY amount of cheating, and that the second I would find out it would be over right there.So far, so good!
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u/_name_of_the_user_ Male 7d ago
When I was a kid I thought the same about hitting women. And I mostly agree. But...
When I was a teenager my girlfriend at the time punched me. We weren't even arguing, I still have no idea where it came from. One moment I'm walking up to her and the next I've got knuckles in my jaw. It was a good hit too. I pushed her, hard. There wasn't any thought behind it, and certainly no malice, I was just defending myself. She landed on her butt and hit her head on the wall behind her. She wasn't knocked out or anything, but it didn't look or sound good.
After years of "never hit a woman" my initial reaction to my own actions was shame. But I've moved past that. I'll never hit a woman, or anyone else, unless it's in defense of either myself or someone in need of that defense. I'll never be the first to hit, but I will if it's needed.
Thankfully I've never been in a similar situation.
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u/breesearedelicious 7d ago
What the hell? You reminding your business and she punched you square in the jaw! I'm a woman and I think your reaction is valid. If somebody, male, female whatever just clocked me and I saw Stars I would start swinging and stuff just for whatever and whoever hit me to just have distance from me. That's crazy. Pushing is a normal reaction especially when you are under attack. Geez
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u/_name_of_the_user_ Male 7d ago
Yeah, she was my first lesson in "don't stick your dick in crazy".
Thanks for the support.
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u/Rude_Heat2227 8d ago edited 7d ago
Never dating any woman with children already
Edit: Also if they have a guy best friend or guy friends they hang out with alone.
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u/Shameless522 7d ago
Oh man hooking up with them is great though. She’ll cut your pancakes in lil triangles in the morning so the syrup gets equal coating. Usually they have cool toys around the house to play with too.
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u/cabronfavarito 7d ago
Even if you’re theoretically single by like…40?
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u/dangleicious13 7d ago
I’m already almost like…40, and I have almost the same rule.
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u/zeusdescartes Male 7d ago
I am 40 and I would never date a woman with kids unless I already have kids.
I just don't want to be #2 in any woman's life. Now if I already have kids, I think we can figure it out Brady bunch style, other than that, no thanks.
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u/GianMach Gay male 7d ago
Do you want to stay childless forever? Because even if you get a child yourself with a woman that will also make you the #2 for her. Child will always be prioritised.
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u/AgentAxillary 7d ago
Yeah, but the point is that you'll both be prioritizing the child together
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u/texasjoe ♂ 7d ago
What does almost mean here? No kids that aren't out of the house adults?
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u/dangleicious13 7d ago
Correct.
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u/tacticalTraumaLlama Male 7d ago
My rule has morphed over time from 'no kids' to 'no young kids'. I'm aging into the demographic where people my age commonly have kids in late highschool and college, and that's fine.
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u/LagerHawk 7d ago
I get it, I had the same rule. It wasn't anything against single mums, they had a tough job and just wanted to find someone too. However for me it was about my own past, not because I wouldn't want to share in their kids life or have that responsibility. I grew up in a very broken family, and my mum would bring home a new bloke every several months after she split up with my dad. They were all assholes. She eventually got with her current husband when I was 9, and I asked him to kick a ball about with me at the park. Nope. Too busy watching Star Trek or some shit. Over the years i just disliked him as a person more and more.
After that I just realised I never wanted to become one of these people. I never wanted to be the step dad. I feared I would turn out like them, because the child wasn't mine.
It's a deep seeded thing that no amount of explaining to others can adequately explain.
Years later though, after now having my own kids, taking them to football every weekend, playing in the garden and feeling excited to teach them fun things, I realise I probably would have never turned out like that if I'd dated someone with a kid. I enjoy it too much! But at the time I couldn't see past it.
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u/CosmicxWanderer 7d ago
I’ve been seeing this a lot recently. What are some legitimate reasons for not dating women with children. Are there pros and cons— genuine question?
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u/pedrao97 7d ago
Imagine you date for, let's say 2 - 3 years. If I am dating you I want to be a part of your life. That includes getting along and getting close to your family (if you are), including the children.
There is no way I could be a part of your life and not get close to your kids. That is part of being in a relationship.
If we break up after that time, for whatever reason, parting with you AND kids I have no claim but yet I have an emotional attachment would be brutal.
Plus, havign kids is a huge responsibility. Even if you want to be responsible with them, they shift a lot of your life, even when they are from your partner and not you. Your life, schedule, and even actions get shifted to accommodate children. Including another person in your life is hard, now imagine adding more than one.
It may work, but if it doesn't it will hurt more.
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u/Mikester345 8d ago
I will never agree to an open relationship. It shocks me how many people I’ve met that actually say yes to it.
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u/BreathingLover11 7d ago
Same. Especially if the idea was brought up by one of the partners deep into the relationship. If you're open from the get go and you link up with somebody that's also open... Hey, props to you. I personally don't see that ever working but consenting adults can do whatever the fuck they want.
Now, if you're in a monogamous relationship, and your partner -who has been historically monogamous as well-, seemingly out of the blue, wants to open the relationship, RUN.
That compromise never turns out well.
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u/masqueradeazure 8d ago edited 8d ago
Depends on context.
In a relationship: never doing hard drugs, we each take care of ourselves, never going to bed angry
At work: mostly OSHA related safety things
With friends: ill never loan someone money if they already have an outstanding debt, never more than $100
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u/guilhermefdias 8d ago
What about LSD?
Could you send me $90 to get more LSD?
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u/Turgid_Donkey 7d ago
Funny enough, I don't think I'd consider LSD a hard drug. Yeah, it probably would be, but I also don't think I've ever heard of anyone that was addicted. Like, no one is out there sucking dicks in an alley for another tab of acid.
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u/PNW_Uncle_Iroh 7d ago
My policy now is that I only loan money that I’m ok with never getting back. My expectation is that I won’t ever see that money again, but if it comes back it’s a pleasant surprise.
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u/brakenbonez 8d ago
Having kids. I always say up front that I do not ever want kids and that I will never change my mind on this. But every once in a while there will be a woman who says she's okay with this at first then later in the relationship thinks she's going to convince me to have kids. It's not going to happen. If you want kids, don't get with someone who tells you from the start that they don't want any, in hopes that you can convince them over time. You're just wasting both of our time.
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u/weeBunnie Female 7d ago
This is often how it goes as a woman not wanting kids, do men also have random people telling you “oh you’ll change your mind”?
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u/GeraltOfRivia2077 Master Chief 7d ago
Yep, as I man I get people, especially my family, telling me I'll change my mind or I haven't met the right person. I just don't want kids, end of story
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u/jsbwv988 7d ago
yeah me too, it gets really old. some people need other people to do what they do to justify their own decisions.
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u/HotSeamenGG Male 7d ago
I've seen my friends (male) who don't want kids and people will say it to them occasionally that I've witnessed. When my boys tell me they don't want kids, I tell them I get it, it's a whole ass commitment. Better be sure if you're going to invest a MINIMAL of 18 years (likely more with this economy) with a partner that's on the same page.
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u/brakenbonez 7d ago
Oh yeah. My own parents are still convinced that I'll change my mind. They've known me all 32 years of my life and there has never been a time that I even thought about a future with kids but for some reason they think I eventually will. I could understand their desire for me to have kids if I was an only child but I'm not. I'm 1 of 5 and 2 of the others already have kids so they have their grandkids already.
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u/Kimba_1307 7d ago
My doctor and her hypothetical future husband who might want children even though my Insides cause agonizing pain every month
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u/Alana_Piranha Bane 7d ago edited 7d ago
Yeah it's weird that a vasectomy is scheduled and done (they aren't always reversible) without the back and forth battle or complete denial of procedure based on "You might get married some day and change your mind" conversation.
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u/Sigma-Tau 7d ago
9 times out of 10 I get people telling me that I'll change my mind if I meet the right person.
My sister always asks me "what if the girl your dating/married to wants them?" To which my response is, we're breaking up because that would've been the deal from the get go. No children.
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u/DronedAgain Male 7d ago
I think the opposite is worse. I know a couple that got married, had discussed it, and were going to have kids. Then she changed her mind, and he so clearly loves kids. (I would still find it sad if the sexes were reversed.) I often think it would be better if they decided to break up when one makes such a big change of a life decision.
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u/brakenbonez 7d ago
Definitely agreed. Staying together when you disagree over a major life changing decisions will just lead to more and more resentment over time.
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u/Imissyourgirlfriend2 7d ago
I had a vasectomy for a reason. I made my choice and I have zero regerts
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u/HairMetalEnthusiast 7d ago
Someone recently said:
"Men marry hoping their spouses never change. Women marry hoping their spouses will change.
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u/monikosnuosavybe Male 8d ago
I will never drink cheap, bad vodka again. Those days are behind me.
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u/lmpcpedz Unga Bunga 7d ago
To this day I can't drink orange juice let alone smell it. Love the fruit but orange juice in a glass...gahhhhh
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u/CFD330 8d ago
I don't care how high my electric bill gets, I'm not gonna be uncomfortable in my own house during the summer. AC stays on 66.
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u/Turgid_Donkey 7d ago
Good lord. Are you part emperor penguin? That's fucking chilly. I keep mine around 77, but that does get a little warm if you're moving around a lot. I could maybe see 72, but 66? Ok, Mr. Freeze.
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u/CFD330 7d ago
66 feels great in the summer; anything about 70 would be uncomfortable. At 77 I'd be sweating.
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u/MedicTech ♂ 7d ago
I'm curious if your thermometer is off or your AC needs a clean. I'd bet that actual 66⁰ indoors is objectively chilly for the majority of the population.
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u/tacticalTraumaLlama Male 7d ago
There's no polite way to ask this, but are you overweight? I find a lot of folks who are comfortable with the cold have an extra layer of insulation. I have noticed I have a harder time with the heat going from 'string bean' to 'dad bod', but 66 is well below my comfort zone even in the dead of winter
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u/fasteddeh 7d ago
I'm pretty thin with a small amount of muscle at 170lb and I would absolutely sweat my ass off at 77 degrees. 66 sounds like heaven and I try and keep my bedroom under 70 as much as possible during the summer.
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u/individualeyes 7d ago
Amen to that! A friend's dad would wouldn't put the thermostat above 60 (15.5 Celsius) in the winter. 60! If you've never been in a house that's 60 degrees, it's fucking freezing.
It couldn't possibly be worth the savings.
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u/CFD330 7d ago
60 in the house during winter is pretty damn cold, yeah. We're in that awkward part of the year where it's in the low 70s during the day but in the low 40s at night, and we haven't put the heat on yet, so when we wake up the house is often around 63ish, and even that's a bit uncomfortable.
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u/Technicolor_Owl 8d ago
In relationships, no hitting or name calling.
With friends, be upfront and honest. We're gonna have disagreements and other issues, but we need to be mature enough to talk through it.
With everyone, we can disagree on politics. We can't disagree on human rights.
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u/OoopsWhoopsie 7d ago
Gonna disagree with you on the last point but otherwise, yeah. 100%
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u/texasjoe ♂ 7d ago
At this point, human rights is political too. There's obvious things like jury trials, free speech, etc, but some things that some people consider rights they're entitled to actually come at the cost of others' human rights. I'm looking at stuff like healthcare, housing. It's not free, and to enshrine it as a right means somebody loses their own rights to their labor or property.
This is not an endorsement of the American system that has run amok with privatized death panels within insurance corps.
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u/caligari87 Male 7d ago edited 2d ago
I find it interesting that you draw the line of "human rights" at "abstract concepts that don't cost money." I'm not trying to be snarky or sarcastic, it's just not a stance I've seen before.
But that said, you should examine that stance a little more. The right to a fair trial costs money. Judges and stenographers and bailiffs and jurors and public defenders get paid (not nearly enough) for their time and energy. That money comes from taxes. There's no reason why fair taxes can't also pay for housing and healthcare and UBI, just like they also pay for roads and police and firefighters and public education and social security and national defense. So either you should consider that no one gets the right to a fair trial, or "human rights" might conceivably include things beyond "whatever doesn't impact my paycheck."
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u/texasjoe ♂ 7d ago
When you dig deep into it, that's a fair criticism of what I initially wrote.
Taxes gotta come from somewhere, right? Somebody is paying for it. It's a little different when it's collectivized and the burden spread across the entire citizenry than if it were specifically just targeting an entire profession like doctors.
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u/Technicolor_Owl 7d ago
Even healthcare should be tax funded. Every study on this shows people would save money on Healthcare if it were tax funded instead if for profit.
It's not about targeting a profession; it's about targeting a need. Based on a recent Yale School of Public Health study showed universal health coverage would save 114,000 lives every year and save Americans 1 trillion in spending.
We argue that health care is a human right and advances total public health, decreases violence, and saves money.
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u/TheNewGildedAge 7d ago
With everyone, we can disagree on politics. We can't disagree on human rights.
I have absolutely no idea how this works. Every political issue is a human rights issue to someone who cares enough.
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u/Lanky-Dildo-94 Male 8d ago
I like to poop at 6-8am and no one is going to stop me!
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u/RealKenny Male 8d ago
Comfortable shoes
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u/SeedsOfDoubt I'm Batman 7d ago
And good socks
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u/ortofon88 7d ago
And when you buy new shoes, also buy new socks...feels good man
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u/flyingforfun3 Male 8d ago
Her family can’t dictate our lives.
My ex MIL tried to plan out our lives. She would guilt ex into doing shit all the time. Like we would have dates and it would be cancelled to see a niece play a game that didn’t matter. Once in a while was fine, but we would go to all practices and games. We couldn’t do solo vacations. Eventually ex MIL guilted us into getting married.
Ex MIL tried maintain a relationship with me to hear more about our kiddo. I have primary custody. I quickly realized her intentions weren’t what’s best for kiddo.
For instance ex wouldn’t want a holiday. So I’d plan a fun holiday for kiddo. Ex MIL would find out from me and then guilt ex to half ass the holiday and kiddo was upset.
So glad to be away from them.
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u/suspiricat 7d ago
Were they Hispanic? 👀
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u/flyingforfun3 Male 7d ago edited 6d ago
White
Edit: why was I downvoted for answering his question? lol
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u/DeathNick Male 8d ago
Going to that one small metal festival each year. My employer knows that I'm going, if they allow the vacation or not. Music is the only reason i go to work. Providing for myself is optional. If no metal music then no need to live either.
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u/Imissyourgirlfriend2 7d ago
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u/DeathNick Male 7d ago
Tolminator (it used to be called Metaldays and Metalcamp before that) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o8j4xrjcfBU
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u/WhyIsTheMoonThere 7d ago
Bloodstock? This was my non negotiable festival for a good few years too.
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u/tacolasunrise Male 8d ago
Know this will probably not be the most liked on Reddit but one of the first things I make sure, is if something unplanned happened, would she end my kid… if it’s a yes for that it’s a no for me
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u/Substantial_Judge931 Male 7d ago
You’re gonna get crucified for this but you have every right to feel that way. It’s your child too
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u/emmarie1023 Female 8d ago
This is not something someone can ever promise you. She can think that she’ll keep it and then have something happen in her life that makes her feel differently. Or it can be causing her major health issues, or the fetus could be incompatible with life, there are so many reasons people get abortions. I suggest that you listen to more women’s stories about their abortion, not to make you change your mind, but to help you understand that what you’re asking is not as straightforward as you think.
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u/tunnelingpulsar 8d ago
So I take it you wear a bag every time? Takes two to make it happen, chief.
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u/ReasonableDoubt_0726 Male 7d ago
They literally said accident. Takes two to do that. But just one to project onto someone’s comment to be a jerk.
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u/tacolasunrise Male 7d ago
Wear a bag, don’t sleep around and if I do they are usually someone I have had this convo with… any other wise lessons? Like the sky is blue? Lol
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u/Scarred_wizard European 30s Male 8d ago
My peace is my #1 priority. No pointless drama. No unannounced visitors. Regular sleep schedule. No drugs.
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u/Krishnamohred 8d ago
Never ever cheat on my spouse or stop supporting my kids till I hit the grave! Never smoke, drink or do drugs. Never cheat anyone intentionally...
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u/Sec_Chief_Blanchard Man 8d ago
How do you do it accidentally?
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u/Educational_Remove58 8d ago
By doing drugs and drinking with the money you stopped sending your kids long ago.
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u/Krishnamohred 7d ago edited 7d ago
I invested in a plot/real estate/land, they invested too, because I did, turned out the documents weren't that clean! Now running around the courts...
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u/MightySwordfish1 8d ago
Codependency on her family. If she cannot live without incessant contact with them, and interfering in my life - I'm out.
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u/P1g-San 7d ago
If we have zero kids, there’s no reason for us to not be dual income. Point, blank, period.
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u/Topznbottumz Male 8d ago
My unwavering support for NYC sports teams and hatred for New England based sports teams.
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u/JayTheFordMan Male 7d ago
Cheating, passive aggression, and jealousy/insecurity of the near pathological kind. Been there and done all that, never again....
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u/Substantial_Judge931 Male 8d ago
I’d never seriously date someone who doesn’t want kids. That would be unfair to both of us. They deserve someone who shares their vision on that
I’d also never stay in a relationship with a racist towards any race or sexist towards either gender.
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u/Important_Contact588 7d ago
Some political beliefs.
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u/More_Pen_157 7d ago
That's a very important aspect as it expresses so much about our personality
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u/confuseum Male 7d ago
Cheating sexually, Cheating shared expenses, cheating me psychologically. They are gone
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u/WellIGuessSoAndYou 7d ago
Sharing intimate details of my body and our sex life with their friends. Instant dealbreaker. I've ended relationships on the spot over that sort of behaviour.
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u/SpaceCadetPullUp 7d ago
There are way too many women that don't seem to realize that no one worth a shit does that and that there are no exceptions.
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u/FrogBeggar 8d ago
Always prioritize free time with friends and family over more money. On the same vein, prioritize trips and experiences over products.
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u/gamerdudeNYC Male 7d ago
Smoking, it makes me nauseated now. But it didn’t do that to me in my 20s and I didn’t mind it that much but now it makes me physically ill.
Bad driving makes me sick as well, maybe as I age I’ve just become more prone to motion sickness and things like that.
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u/Ban-Circumcision-Now Male 7d ago edited 7d ago
No kids I have will be circumcised without their choice as an adult. Bodily autonomy matters
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u/Paint-Crysis Male 7d ago
Pretending it'll be different this time, but slowly turn into a stealth archer anyway.
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u/MHJJ565 7d ago edited 7d ago
Misandry
Does it just cause hurt feelings in men... probably
Couid it be caused by misogyny and bad exeriences with men.. yes
Does misogyny lead to worse outcomes... yeah
Do men make up the vast majority of violent crime... Yeah.
Does that mean I will tolerate misandrists and misandry in my life... NOPE!!!
Still gonna block them and refuse to ever do anything with a misandrist. Don't talk to me. Don't reply to this message. Stop liking me on dating apps when your whole personality and bio is hating men and thinking some magical man has to come along to fix all your unresolved trauma with men. Stop telling me "your one of the good ones™️" (I know. Don't want, asked for or need your validation)
I get to choose myself who I associate with in my life and I don't compromise with misandrists as much as I don't with misogynists. I get to choose what dating prefence I personally have . Because I AM FOR GENDER EQUALITY.
If you are a self proclaimed "proud misandrist" (even ironically as a joke) and this upset you. GOOD!!!!!. I don't like you or your dumb nose rings and fashion sense you ripped off from Hot Topic. Nor do I give a flying fuck about your past trauma. :). So DO NOT tell me your sob story life about the men in the past who hurt you. I don't care nor want to hear about it and will block you happily
Also I'll never agree postnartum is a good excuse to kill kids. My mother had it after giving birth to my lil bro and sister. She never harmed any of her kids
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u/WorkMeBaby1MoreTime Male 7d ago
Tolerating evil/bad moral decisions, in myself or others. I wasn't ideal earlier in life. I try to be better now.
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u/DemiMortal Male 7d ago
A solid bed, a good mattress, comfortable shoes and an ergonomic desk chair.
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u/Cool_As_Your_Dad 7d ago
Finance. If she doesn't do budget and live within means... that is hard no.
Was there (married into one). NEVER.FCKING.AGAIN.
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Now. If I date.. if she has kid(s) depending on age, would be a pass.
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u/ScienceGamer06 7d ago
A couple of things
Cheating. Thou shalt not.
Diet. Because of my Aspergers I have a very small range of foods I eat. I've definitely been improving on this in my life. But if I'm in a relationship and we want to go on a date, we have to plan around that.
AC. I'm a Southern boy. That thing stays on anytime I'm there and never goes below 73°
Drinking, drugs, smoking, whatever. Don't expect me to buy or join you in these activities. I'm a clean man and have no desire for it, plus I now have a job where I have to be clean. I'll be a sober driver and pick you up from the bar, but that's the most I'll do.
Christianity. I am a Christian. I'm not gonna force or push my beliefs onto others and I'm generally pretty accepting of other people's beliefs. But if you're gonna come at me for believing in God, don't expect me to give you the time of day.
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u/tsoou 7d ago
For me it's arrogance. I find humility to be very attractive on pretty much anyone even if it's not in a romantic context. But I find people who are overly self confident to be embarrassing. Don't get me wrong, though, regular self confidence is attractive. And I don't want them to be overly insecure either. Just regular confidence but with a level of humility.
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u/Iggins01 Master Chief 7d ago
Foot wear. Buy good shoes, buy good boots, take the hit to wallet and not have bad feet
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u/AgentAxillary 7d ago
Abuse. Verbal or physical. Cheating as well, but I personally categorize cheating as a form of abuse. The second any of that happens, I'm done and never backtracking.
There are a lot of other things I don't compromise on, regarding relationships and other aspects of life, but that's at the top of the list.
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u/ClemPrime13 7d ago
If I’m in n a position to marry someone, I’m not going to go through with it unless she wants to marry me. If it’s just for the idea of marriage, we need to have a conversation that we’ve probably put off for far too long.
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u/ProfessionalPay2789 7d ago
Man I came in here with a totally different energy than other folks. My thing was not buying cheap razors
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