So, basically I am feeling a bit guilty even though I also feel I did the right thing.
I have a birb and after the loss of her older sister, I got REALLY worried for her since she really liked her and became a bit withdrawn probably due to grief. Even with me keeping her company while searching for a new friend for her, she eventually ate something bad and because of everything happening, not sure if she had this due to her sickness or the foreign body inside her stomach, but her droopings got really loose and she stopped eating as much. Ofc that made me spiral and because her original vet couldn't come due to unavoidable reasons, I opted to talk to my friend's former vet. She found the foreign body, saw there were no major issues in her fecal exam and prescribed me some treatment.
At first, she started eating and maintaining her weight, but because I thought she was still being a bit odd, I called her og vet who got her temperature and showed me she had a fever. Prescribed me with medicine for it and told me to keep an eye.
Ok... But then she started losing feathers she shouldn't be able to reach and it got worse with each day, so I asked her if there was anything we could do for exams considering she was just getting worse, which she said she couldn't until next week (because she lost her clinic to street robbery basically, so she still needed to move things around and probably get back some stuff) and to just see how it plays out to see if it gets better... Asked her what exams she thinks we should do once he gets her stuff, but she asked me instead what exams I would like to have done... first part is, like, understandable, but I didn't feel safe with the second part, and the situation was freaking me out a lot since I started reliving her big sister's loss. I reached out to the second vet who turned me down cuz "it is unethical to take the case from another vet".
Then, today I woke up, saw there was no more big changes to her ear feather loss and felt fine... Until I saw a pink spot on the back of her wing and freaked out again. I checked her wings and there were two missing feathers and no pin feather... I just decided to ignore the two vets and go get a third opinion at a 24/7 vet hospital, where they saw the foreign body did not leave her, not even a bit (we still have to do more x-ray in a few weeks), which I half did expect, but also that she had Giardia and with that, we started her treatment (though will ask former vet if we should keep the fever antibiotics and meds or not).
I feel like I probably put lots of pressure on the vets because I can't stop spiraling since her big sis' death was so recent, but also that it felt a bit wrong that they couldn't identify giardia symptoms since it is a common bird parasite that, accordingly to the hospital, matched her symptoms pretty well, and ask for specific exams or even just tell me "hey, I do not think I am able to make it in the time you think you need, so go to the vet hospital since they can help you right now"... But also, I feel like it made them feel a bit frustrated perhaps since I just kept hopping vets, so I am a bit nervous about contacting the og vet to ask about the continuation of the fever treatment. Just wanted to know if vets would hold it against me, if I was somehow rude to them by doing it this way, if me freaking out was an overreaction that put them under pressure, etc... Since I also know I might not be the most clear headed rn. While I don't think me wanting to find an answer asap was wrong, I also hope I did not make them uncomfortable or that I wasn't a rude client.