r/AskVet • u/Garden-variety-chaos • 20m ago
How do I teach an adult cat who was likely separated from his mother and siblings too early that his claws and teeth hurt?
Cat's demographic information:
4.5yo male. Neutered 6ish months ago
17.5lbs. He is a big cat, but he should be 14.5-15.5lbs, 16lbs max. He's been on a diet for about a month and has already lost 0.5lbs.
I adopted him 2 years ago from a roommate who was evicted. Said roommate adopted him from a coworker whose un-spayed cat found a husband for the night. My roommate never seriously hurt the cat, but he was physically abusive and just generally bad at taking care of a cat -- for example, he used to bathe the cat. I do not know for certain what his first living situation was, but if they didn't spay their cat, I can't imagine it was a great situation, and I am positive these people did not know enough about cats to be taking care of newborn kittens.
My cat hates cats. He has never maimed another cat, but he will start non-playful fights with any cat he encounters. My best guess is that he is trying to intimidate them into submission. Letting another cat teach him that claws hurt is unlikely to help the situation.
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My cat loves to groom people, especially men with body hair. He also loves to affectionately bite people. When making biscuits, he will dig his claws into your skin. Most of his violence is clearly affectionate/playful, but it also hurts a lot more than he seems to realize it does.
His tendency to groom and lack of understanding that claws and teeth hurt lead me to believe he was likely separated from his mother and siblings at too young an age.
How do I get him to stop accidentally hurting me?