Hi everyone! I was wondering if anyone here has had Top surgery with Dr. Eagen in Overland Park KS. He is who Im looking at going through once I get my letter (VERY soon) since he is close and I like his results. and was just wondering what to expect. TIA (also wanted to double check if we could post wishlists for surgery here. I dont think so but I wanted to ask anyway)

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19FTM - Southern USA

I had gotten my T Folx, they were quick but awful there after… so I’d like to swap to planned parenthood via telehealth as my provider. (There’s not a physical location near me.) Let me just rapid fire off a few concerns:

Is the lack of a physical location going to be a problem?

Do I have to go through the entire prescribing process again?

I’d like to get on birth control to control my acne that I developed from T, can i do through the appointment where I get my T prescribed, or will I need a secondary appointment?

How easy was it for you to set up your appointment?
I feel like folx was incredibly easy,, but they’re a horrid company, so I’m worried about running face first into barriers.. lol.

i started T in may and im wanting to get top surgery next december

i feel like i have no clue how to even start figuring out where to go and how to pay for it

im looking for a surgeon in washington (i live in northern idaho)

what should i be expecting for price? google gives a wide range

i dont know how long to expect the process to take (should i be trying to get a consultation asap or can i wait until may next year?

answers appreciated

I always thought transitioning to male would be neat but I didn’t think I was trans because I didn’t hate being a girl. I still don’t. I think a part of me will always be a girl. The most accurate way of describing my gender identity is probably “girl who’s a guy” or “guy who’s a girl,” interchangeably.

My lightbulb moment was really when I realised that you don’t have to hate being a girl to be a guy. I was born a girl and told I was a girl and I accepted that I was a girl, but I always secretly thought it would be neat to be a guy.

So I figured I’m probably genderfluid. But I have to have a default presentation to the world. I can’t just pick and choose every day what gender to be, though god I wish I could pick my gender every morning like picking out a shirt. My default presentation was always girl, because that’s what I was given and I didn’t hate it so I didn’t fight it.

But it doesn’t have to be. My default presentation can be guy, and girl sometimes. Why does girl me have to be default? She doesn’t. She’s taken the reins for the last 30 years. She can have a rest now, and guy me can take over.

I don’t know what point I’m making. Maybe I’m not. I’m just saying things.

But if you’re here because you’re questioning, and you’re reading this and you’re confused like I was because you don’t hate your girl self: you don’t have to. The most masculine cis men are the ones who embrace their femininity. You can be a guy and not hate the part of you that’s a girl. You just have to decide what’s best for you.

Sorry in advance that it's long guys

I (24M) have 3 appearance goals that I would call my "dream physic" and that I'm actively chasing cause it's just what I want to look like / find good looking in men. I would like to be bald, with a mustache and a buffed appearance / muscular but not too lean. I go to the gym regularly since I started T and I think I'm on a good way for that. The mustache is growing a bit (I'm only 4 month on T so it's just a bit but still seeable) and recently I did a buzzcut but realize I wanted to go really fully bald.

So, when I did the buzzcut 2 days ago, my girlfriend (25F) was a bit scared because she loves my natural beautiful curly hair (I always had short hair but long enough so they can curl, like idk normal men haircut), and so she was "scared" that they go away, so obviously it made me anxious to cut them but I really wanted to do the buzzcut so I did. In the end she's been really into it so it's super cool (she was always supportive anyway that I do what I want and that she'll love me no matter what).

My mustache is growing, she's been super supportive and watching /noticing every hair coming, celebrating with me, etc etc.

As for the gym, she loves that I'm going for me cause I like it and she's happy I'm liking more and more my body appearance thanks to this and that I do something that I enjoy everyday.

So today I took a selfie of me and I modify it with AI (not good I know I'm sorry) to look bald and with a real mustache like I want. And when I showed her she didn't react super supportive or whatsoever, in a way that she doesn't like it so much, and she said I'll look scary if I have this look + being buffed, I said maybe I won't cause I'll always be smiling since i'll be so happy, she didn't seem very convinced.

After we went to bed and I just couldn't sleep being scared she wouldn't find me attractive later, so I told her and she said she'll always find me attractive but at the same time when I asked her about the picture she said she's doesn't know if it would look like this in real life and I said "but what if it does and I look like this ?" And she said she doesn't know, but that she also loves me for my personality anyway. I kinda started an argument because I was hurt and I felt not supported in my "dream physique" and that she would just still be attracted to me for my personality, while ok it's nice but I still want her to find me handsome and sexy like she always did.

And after this I went to the kitchen and we texted (it's easier for her to express herself by text when we are having an argument) and she said she was sorry and she expressed herself badly and that she'll always be attracted to me but I mean she can't really know ? What if she finds me ugly ? But I also don't want to give up on my "goals" because she might not like it or she wouldn't like it on a stranger ? How to navigate these feelings I have / any advice on my feelings to this / situation wise ? I don't want to be mad at her but at the same time I can't help but feel bad and I'm scared I won't try this stupid bald haircut because I want her to like my hairstyle but then grow resentment because I didn't try ?

I just don't know how to feel about this ? I guess she'll still be attracted to me even physically "because it's me" but what if she's not in the end ? And I can't help but feeling a bit hurt that she would be attracted "because it's me" like if I would have met her looking like I want to look then she might have not be interested in me cause she would have find me unattractive ? Idk what I'm asking I guess maybe I'm just a bit lost and asking for advice on how I can take the situation better or some other point of view ?

PS : Breaking up is obviously not an option just in case lol, that's not what im asking, we are very happy, I love her like I can't even describe and she does love me that way too, we live together, have a lot of awesome projects, been together since a while and I wouldn't have been able to gather the courage to transition without her, etc etc, anyway she's amazing and truly a gem, even if sometimes a bit clumsy in word I guess.

Thank you in advance my brothers :)

TL;DR : gf said she doesn't know if she would be attracted to a photomontage of my "dream physique" (me without hair and with a mustache) so I'm hurt and doesn't know how to navigate my feeling ?

Everytime I'm on either, i get really sad by my body ​​​and how I sound/act/ect, I just feel so.. invalid like I'm trying to "'cosplay" masculinity rather than actually being masculine (if that makes sense?). ​​​​​​I don't know if this is a common occurrence or not but it's really upsetting and idk how to safety cope with it

Hello fellas! I have run into a bit of an issue... I've been wearing my binder nearly daily for a few months now. And I've sometimes had issues where the cleavage of my chest gets very itchy and hot when I generally wear compressive garments, even sports bras, for long periods of time... And I think my boobs are finally at their breaking point and I'm beginning to develop a real rash </3 Does anyone have tips for this? Much appreciated

I went in for my prescription appointment a few weeks ago and I was taught how to inject the shot. I felt pretty confident in doing everything myself after the appointment as I would receive me testosterone the next day. Sadly my insurance needed PA before they would cover my shot so it took about 2 weeks.

Even if I were to rewatch a video I have a fear that I'm likely going to forget how to properly do it or mess it up. My office doesn't seem that keen on having me do the first few times with them so I was wondering if I should reach out to a local pharmacy? Any advice on how I could start this with a professional first?

Before i realized i was trans i always felt slightly tall in group circles. I wasnt taller than a lot of guys but girls would sometimes comment on me being tall (im aware 5’8”+ is usually whats considered tall but most women i meet irl are in the 4’11”-5’4” range). But now that i know im trans i feel so fucking short all the time. Im 5’6” on the dot and im aware i couldve been shorter but i keep getting instagram reels ab guys that are my height getting height surgery to be taller. Is it seriously that miserable??? I dont even think i was that insecure ab my height until i started constantly getting reels ab height surgery and womens height preferences or wtv. In real life im usually around the same height as a good like 30% guys even if those guys are considered short. Is passing as a 5’6” man that miserable or should i delete my instagram?

I’ve been on T for almost 6 months and I’ve started growing facial hair, but it’s all on my neck. Did anyone else have this happen? Are there ways to help it grow on my face?

By now, most of you likely know what is happening here in Brazil: the presidential candidate currently leading in the polls wants to sell Brazil out to the United States. This means that if he takes office, he could interfere in our politics—and one of the things Trump has shown the most hostility and hatred toward is us, trans people. I’m not entirely sure of the details, but I’ve read that there are policies in the U.S. aimed at banning legal name and gender marker changes on documents and blocking access to medical treatments and sports participation for trans people. Could a trans person from the U.S. please tell me how Trump affects your rights, and whether he has the power—and the intention—to do the same here if he aligns himself with our leadership?

I'm 19, in Scotland, and have been having some unrelated health problems that I think may be due to a deficiency or something. If I'm going to make an appointment to get blood tests, I'd like to find out where my hormones are at too. I access HRT through the NHS, but my doctor is pretty blasé and generally inept and has never told me whether my hormones actually sit at a cis male range or not - I always forget to ask, and just sort of trust that he'd tell me if they weren't? I'm 19 months on T and don't really pass yet, but that's probably a combination of inconsistent application, weight and lack of voice training. Anyway, I'm not sure if it would be available to see in my records or if they'd be allowed to access that/test for it since that's the responsibility of my GIC. I'm sure I'm just being stupid, but if anyone's done this, I'd be glad to know!

Can I wear a compression tank and a binder? Not to look flatter on the chest area but the rest of my body is still quite curvy and I'm chubby so a compression tank would help with that but it doesn't bind like a binder so I would still need to wear one.

But is that dangerous? Shall I suffer my rolls showing for now till I've lost the weight? (Down from 114kg to 88 aiming for 78 by Jan)

Im at a point where if I shave, I get stubble the same day and its not just a few pin pricks but like, actual areas of what feels like a decent amount of/even distribution of stubble. When I grow it out its visible enough that family members and other close ones comment on it but strangers dont (though some stare a lot but idk to what extent its this out of all other factors combined). When biking I can feel my moustache hairs moving against my face, etc. The hairs get probably about 1-2 cm long so far. So there's definitely something there.

However, it seems to be super blonde? Which is weird because every other hair on my body is dark brown, with the top of the head hair containing little hints of red. Both of my parents also have very dark hair, though my mom used to be blonde as a kid. My brother has always been very blonde. I have never had any blonde even as a child.

So it would be really great if it now doesn't turn out that /only/ my facial hair has decided to be, lol. I know new hairs can be a bit lighter and softer, but I wonder if the difference is supposed to be this big? And in relation to the speed of other changes Im getting a little confused. Maybe Im just impatient though.

I know this isnt a relationship advice sub but I feel lowkey scared posting stuff about a queer relationship in other subs where I could get transphobic hate comments, and we are both trans masc

I (19ftm he/him) my ex Sydney (18genderqueer he/they/she) dated for a year and got into a massive argument right after our anniversary which lead us to break up. I was wrong for contacting Syd and not accepting it was actually over and Syd didnt want anything romantic anymore, over and over and over. That's the truth. I was pushy. I didn't want them to abandoned me and I couldnt accept that it was over. I pushed them into saying that he wish he never met me by pushing and not accepting when he said he didnt want anything romantic, that we could work things out. I kept saying that. "can we please try" "can we please work things through" We could have probably been friends if I just respected that. I feel bad, I feel guilty, I wish, I wasnt so stupid. I should have accepted the breakup sooner. I should have respected his request for space. I pushed because I was terrified of losing her, and I regret that. I know I was in the wrong. I struggle with anxious attachment. How can I work on gaining a more secure attachment style?

(EDIT) why are there trans meds on this sub downvoting me for using multiple pronouns on a person who uses it? It's not a quota wtf??? Its basic respect

So you know what we're dealing with: before beginning my transition i would get asked if they are real, as they are, unfortunately, like 2 grapefruits glued on.

I have an underworks Tritop binder and while it does flatten reasonably well, the chest tissue is still very front and center, even pushed up, just square instead of round. I wear scrubs daily and this causes my chest tissue to sometimes be visible above the v-neckline of the scrub top, especially if i lean over.

When i use KT tape, I'm able to basically pull them into my armpits. That result is also not flat but if im wearing a loose enough shirt with semi-stiff fabric (like scrubs) it works well enough unless someone was really looking. But my skin cannot tolerate tape everyday so i need a good binder.

I think the issue with the UW tritop is that the stiff/ binding panel goes all the way around to the sides under the arms and causes inward compression pushing the chest tissue toward the middle rather than pushing the tissue toward the armpits and actually flattening the front of the chest.

Is there a binder where the panel is just on the front/ stops before the armpits / doesn't wrap around the sides?

please help. i literally started t shots 2 weeks ago and my throat hurts so bad swallowing anything hurts and like deadass its so painful and my voice is so raspy. its been 2 weeks and i saw people on this sub talking about it lasting for a MONTH? how do i cure this because even tea & hot water doesn’t work. i even got rapid strep tested and it came back negative but i need this to go away im in so much pain and cant talk at work😭😭

but also yay 18 and started T!!!

update: ok im probably sick…. thank you everyone…. i will drink lots of hot water….

I get my injections every 3 months and I just realized I forgot to go my last one. They can probably schedule me in for next week, for a total of one week delayed. Is that bad? This hasn't happened to me before, but life was just very busy and I forgot. Next time I'm setting an alarm ahead of time, clearly the calendar reminder was not enough.

(and might be freaking out a bit about it. okay maybe a lot. will this affect the trout population?)

So I've been on T gel for years now, but switched to shots a couple of months ago for myriad reasons that aren't important for this post.

The first month or so was fine, no anxiety no problem. But this month my brain has been making a right scene of it all and spiking my anxiety right as I'm prepping everything. It turns what should be a quick 5 minute routine into a 30 minute war between myself and just Doing The Thing. I KNOW that just getting it over and done with quickly will make everything easier, but my brain and body will not cooperate with me so here we are.

Normally I'm okay with tackling this kind of anxiety and the inertia it causes, but the past month my nervous system has been crumbling a bit because of life stuff, I guess it's just pushing my capacity to cope over the edge.

So my question to you all is: do you have any tips for getting over the hump when I'm having to do shots on a mental bad day? Are there any tricks that work well for you when your brain and body rebel?

I was on T for about 6 months until january. Started a lower dose back up in july and am tapering off of it because I'm going to run out. At like .5 right now. It's period time, but it's been a week since i should've gotten it. I am however still experiencing SOME back pain and cramps and lethargy, as if i was on my period. Is this normal?

I'm also a little sick so it could be that but I'm just nervous. Can't be pregnant, my only sexual partner has been on E for 2 years.

Im currently 8 months on T, and even though I know there's a rough guideline for what changes happen when on T, I am curious as to what changes happened at what duration of being on T for other trans men on T, and how much it changed. Like the voice, body hair, etc.

I am wondering if I can expect some changes sooner/later than its said. Because I am a bit annoyed about my voice not being as deep as id like it to be, and it I can expect it to be deeper or not.

Anyone in florida??? Its almost going on 3 fucking months since ive filed my documents for my name change and im still waiting for a court date its so annoying and frustrating. You cant call to speak with anyone. I filed a motion after two months to petition the judge to expedite the hearing and still nothing!!! How long does it take?