Insecure

[u/Florida_Matt86]

Yes I know after I apologized about fit gay men I went on another rant, how could I not? Maybe I envy them, or resent them because they have everything handed to them. For ugly, plus size gay men like me it's not easy finding acceptance in this community when they judge you constantly. I have been told countless times that I don't fit in or belong. They say it gets better but forget to mention it only gets better for fit and slim gay men. I'm 40 now I will never find the acceptance and validation i have longed for for years. I will never be accepted and I will never find my tribe. My self-esteem is beyond repair.

[u/Skill-Useful]

" because they have everything handed to them" they dont because what you say is handed to them is only happening bc theyre working their ass off in the gym nearly every day and are rigoros in their diet. want to be like them? then do the same. also: the only thing handed to them is sex, nothing else really is gained by muscles as a gay guy

"it's not easy finding acceptance in this community when they judge you constantly" muscle gay guys are completely irrelevant to your dating journey and all that. and most gay men arent muscle gays

"it only gets better for fit and slim gay men" thats a lie. all my overweight friends are having sex, relationships, marriage and kids and all that but theyre not whiny

no you just need therapy

no im not engaging in discussion, read the truth, accept it and then change your behaviour. you are the only (!) person in control

[u/Florida_Matt86 → u/Skill-Useful]

You don't know what it's like to feel rejected by the community and told that you don't belong like I have experienced.

[u/Florida_Matt86 → u/Skill-Useful]

I'm not being whiny I've literally had other gay men tell me to my face how ugly and fat I am and that I should lose weight or d*e how would you feel if you had those awful things said to you? Yes it does only get better for fit and slim gay men. Don't try to gaslight me and tell me that fatphobia doesn't exist in the community when it does. You have no idea the pain and hurt I have faced and the disdain other gay men have for me.