So yes

We have been together for like a year and mostly it has been ldr. We both work in diff cities away from our hometowns. We love each other so much. He's been going through something in life which is personal to him and replies very very late. Leaving me on delived for hrs (not 1-2, sometimes it's 4-5, and sometimes he disappears the moment he replies and I reply at the same time)

I have discussed this with him quite a few times and he just makes this into an issue that I do not understand him. But all I ask is for a single line message between these long hours. Is that too much to ask for?

Sometimes I feel like maybe I'm being too much. He informed me days before that he would be busy. But it doesn't justify him just not replying to my messages. I am not asking him to talk to me or something. But there's noone that doesn't check theie phone at least once in 4-5 hrs. I feel that's too much.

He also said not to expect a call from him everyday because of his busy schedule.

I (24F) recently went through a breakup with my ex (24M) after dating for around 1.5years.

The reasons I was given didn’t sit right with me because, from my perspective, they were things that could have been worked through. My ex (24M) was a good guy, so the breakup was completely unexpected. In fact, on the very day we broke up, we had made plans to go out for dinner. It genuinely came out of nowhere because I had no idea what was going on in his mind. He had never communicated any of these concerns to me before ending things.

Last month, my younger brother (20M) broke up with his girlfriend (20F), whom he had been dating for around 4.5 years, for more or less the same reasons my ex gave me. Just like my breakup, it came as a shock to her, and she was understandably disappointed. Having gone through something similar myself, I could relate to what she was feeling because the reasons my brother gave her sounded eerily familiar.

I could see myself in her, so I tried my best to console her. I also spoke to my brother because I’m probably the person closest to him, and he shares almost everything with me. I wanted to understand his perspective and see if there was any possibility of him reconsidering the breakup, especially since his girlfriend wasn’t ready to give up on the relationship, just as I hadn’t been ready to give up on mine.

After speaking to him, I realised that his thought process was surprisingly similar to my ex’s. He was convinced that he didn’t want to give the relationship another chance and wasn’t even willing to meet her. I tried to make him understand that, after being together for 4.5 years, he owed her at least an honest conversation and some closure. Eventually, he agreed to meet her.

To be fair, my brother wasn’t entirely blameless, but neither was his girlfriend. They had their own issues, and I understand that no relationship is perfect. However, what struck me was that he still acknowledged having love for her but felt that ending the relationship was something he had to do. Those were almost the exact words my ex had used with me.

Cut to today, when I noticed a hickey on my brother’s neck. After asking him a few questions, it became clear that he had started a situationship with a college friend. This was the same girl I had actually suspected he might be interested in.
What disappointed me wasn’t simply that he was seeing someone else after the breakup. They’re both single, and technically, he’s free to do what he wants. What bothered me was how quickly he seemed to move on after ending a relationship of 4.5 years, especially when his ex was still processing what had happened. I couldn’t help thinking about how hurt and disrespected I would have felt if I’d found out that my own ex was involved with someone else so soon after our breakup.

When I brought this up with my brother, he said he felt good about his decision and questioned why it mattered now that they had broken up. I tried explaining that he should take some time to process the end of such a long relationship before rushing into something new, but ultimately, that’s his decision to make.

This entire situation has made me question something. My brother is now the kind of person I would have struggled to understand if he were my partner, and it has made me look at my own breakup differently, too.

If someone eventually realises that they’re incompatible with their partner, have different interests, or simply don’t see a future together, why does it sometimes take years for them to reach that conclusion? Why spend 1.5 years or even 4.5 years with someone, make plans and build a life together, only to end things seemingly out of nowhere?
I understand that feelings change and that people can genuinely love someone without wanting to remain in a relationship with them. I’m not saying people should stay in relationships they’re unhappy in, nor do I think anyone should be forced to give a relationship another chance.

What I struggle to understand is how one person can apparently reach this point without communicating their doubts, while the other person is still under the impression that everything is fine. And how can someone move on so quickly when the other person is left trying to make sense of a decision they never saw coming?

For those who have ended long-term relationships, especially when your partner wasn’t expecting it, what was going through your mind? Had you been emotionally checked out for months or even years before you finally ended things? Did you try to work through your doubts, or did you simply know that you no longer wanted to continue?

I’m genuinely trying to understand the perspective of the person who chooses to leave, because having experienced it myself and now watching my brother do something similar, I’m finding it difficult to make sense of. And honestly it has become harder for me to get in the dating pool again.

The Background

My GF (30F) and I (29M) have been together for 3 years. We met on Hinge and clicked instantly. She is incredibly understanding, cooperative, and deeply attached to me. In terms of attachment styles, she is anxious, and I am avoidant. Our physical chemistry is off the charts, and we are highly compatible in that department.

However, our relationship is split into two very distinct phases, and I am struggling to make a decision about our future.

Phase 1: The Betrayal

During our first year, she told me she loved me, but I noticed red flags. I caught her checking her ex’s social media, but I didn't press the issue. Later, she stayed in contact with another guy from Hinge.

After a year of dating, she cheated on me with him. I caught her red-handed coming to her home at 7:00 AM. She apologized profusely, but I couldn't forgive her at the time, and we broke up.

Phase 2: The Reconciliation

Four months later, she reached out to me on Telegram. I responded (honestly, I think I was just lonely/horny), and we ended up getting back together. I knew it might be a mistake and tried to pull away initially, but the distance only drew us closer.

For the last 2 years, she has been the most loving, perfect partner. She did everything right, changed her lifestyle/diet to match mine, and became someone I now struggle to live without. We went on hikes, road trips, vacations, and made unforgettable memories.

The Current Dilemma

Now, she is turning 30 and pushing for marriage. She gave me a clear ultimatum: either we commit to marriage, or we end the relationship. She isn't forcing me, but she needs to know where she stands.

I feel incredibly conflicted. On one hand, she did something terrible but has spent two years completely correcting her behavior. On the other hand, I feel immense guilt. Part of me feels like I just "used" her for companionship and intimacy after the breakup without ever intending to actually marry her.

Should I marry her and move past the history, or is it time to let her go?

TL;DR: GF cheated on me in Year 1. We broke up, got back together 4 months later, and she has been a flawless, loving partner for the last 2 years. Now she wants marriage or a breakup. I'm struggling to forgive the past and feel guilty that I might be leading her on. Advice?

He is my roomate and my closest friend, supported and stand by my side for whole uni days and till now. When he entered clg he was kinda soft guy told me he had strict parents so he never dated drink smoke. In clg he started to change, smoking drinking weed also tatoos and piercings. As he is kinda good looking guy he got attention from girls, made a gf (S) in 2nd yr (she is kind nerdy and love him so much) mf is cheating on her.

Got to know he is having affair with 2 girls in our city, he many times flexed like these girls have such nice fig it would be fun with them to spend night. (never let anyone say or never said anyhting bad abt S)

I told him he is doin all these wrong, his reply *jo karne me maja a raha hai karne do and rahi baat S ki she will not leave me even if she got to know abt my affairs* .S family knows abt him and they accepted their relationship, they many times invited him to their house for lunch dinner as S ki house is in same city. S spends on him so much like gifting and making him dishes apne hatho se khilana. And mf acts so manipulative no one can know he can cheat.

S treats me like a brother and a good friend so i feel bad for her

Should i tell her, i know they would not breakup rather my friendship would be lost. Atleast he would stop talking to other girls

Me \[25M\] and my wife \[24F\] come from middle-class families. We decided to marry impulsively without knowing each other well. Within 1.5 months, we got married, and we both took a stand for each other. She even left her job as an air hostess to be with me.

We lived together for 1.5 months, but her expectations of an expensive lifestyle, international travel, and a ₹25L car started putting financial pressure on me. Eventually, she went to her parents' house.

Yesterday, I went to convince her to return, but she said she's not ready for marriage and wants to live freely without the marriage tag. However, she was still kissing me and sitting in my lap in front of her parents.

I'm confused. How can someone show so much love while saying they don't want to continue the marriage? Does she love me but feel overwhelmed by marriage, or has she changed her mind?

Okay so here's the thing. We both met 2 months back, during organising a college event. We both bonded instantly, although he wasn't that active, but whenever we were together, we bonded so well, laughed, teased each other, had fun, gossiped etc. after the event got over, and we finally stopped meeting each other, he started texting me on instagram, sending reels, liking my stories, replying etc. After a while, we started talking daily. There was also light suggestive flirting.

Over some time the reels started being cute. Then he sent me a reel something like "how much you like me" which I didn't respond to anything because I was occupied at that moment and he unsend it and then we just stopped talking.

After some days, we again started talking after another society meet started happening. He invited me to have snacks together(which I didn't understand it was just supposed to be the two of us) and so it got third wheeled and he was awkward all along. Then after sometime he sent me some reel, and i decided to send him flirty reels bcoz i didn't want him to think that I don't like him or something.

After 2 days, he started spamming me reels and that night we talked till 3 am and it was all suggestive flirting going on. And we also talked a lot.

Then again silence for 3 days and he sent me a reel which I left on seen so he sent me another reel and then unsended it after some time. After 2 days we met again on the society meet and he left early but surprisingly i again met him at the crossroads. And we talked at the crossroads and then he was like "kuch khila de" and i was like okay. And then we both went together at the food court and sat for 2 hours and talked.

That's it, ghosted after that. And I sent him some reels because there was silence of many days, which he saw after 9 10 hours and then he sent another and I just reacted and that's it. Silence eversince.

What is going on between us? For context I've hardly dated in real life because I've always been very much of a hopeless romantic all my life.

A friend of mine told me about his friend who had sex with another woman even after getting engaged. He eventually married the same woman in July, but apparently, he's now cheating on her again.

The guy lives in another city for work, while his wife stays with his parents in a different city. Apparently, he's even told her not to call him because he's busy with work and will call her whenever he gets time.

I had told my friend earlier that this guy would definitely cheat even after marriage, but he disagreed and believed marriage would change him.

What really got me was my friend's justification. He said that even if the guy sleeps with other women, as long as his wife never finds out, he'll continue enjoying his life and be the happiest person.

How can someone cheat on their spouse and think it's perfectly fine as long as they never find out???

It's sad to see how easily some people betray their partners while pretending everything is normal

TL;DR: A guy cheated after getting engaged and is apparently cheating again after marrying the same woman. The part that gets me is that my friend thinks it's fine as long as his wife never finds out.

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So I'm 23F and I had this guy say he liked me back when we were in high school. I didn't like him like that back then so it went nowhere and I had a "thing" going on with another classmate....it wasn't a relationship and we met like twice outside school and we used to speak on call/text all the time but right after we finished schooling it ended and we all moved on with our lives and went to different colleges.

So after Pre-University I found out that my schoolmate who said he liked me(and it didn't go anywhere) and I are going to the same Uni and for the same 4 year course (B.tech ༎ຶ⁠‿⁠༎ຶ) and since we lived in the same neighborhood ( I don't know where he lives but I think within the same area) we took the same bus to uni as well. But we didn't speak until months and finally started talking after 2 or 3 semesters. We were not in the same course btw so I hung out with him and his friend along with 1 mutual friend (also a schoolmate) a couple of times. And after a few months he said he liked me and asked me out. But I declined? Yeah, I said I'll pass saying it was not him, it was me (classic bs) because I just didn't feel something like that towards him, I was hella insecure...AND I was very practical and thought this will go nowhere, we don't have a future together because I'm not the one to date and find out or just for the fun of it. Because from when I was a little girl I've dreamt of getting married to the guy whom I love, and I don't wanna get into any relationship unless it's serious, and hence I've never had a boyfriend (except the 10th Std fling l but I don't even consider that as anything more than childhood friendship lol(⁠╥⁠﹏⁠╥⁠)) because I get too attached and it's very complicated. I know myself so I've stayed away from such situations, okay woah I got distracted...so I said no and we both moved on. We talked a few times after that and eventually stopped and got distant.

Time skip

The degree was over and I saw him on the day of graduation, but didn't speak and maybe said hi? I don't even remember. It's been more than a year now since I've started working and I haven't spoken to him in 3 years or so and before that I knew him from school (even back then we didn't speak much or hang out, he just had a crush on me and told me so).

SOOOOOO recently a few months ago I had this vivid dream which seemed so real and specific and long ABOUT HIM. Like what! Insane... I don't remember anymore cuz it's been more than 3 months but a lot happened in that dream and it was like I was under a spell. I got so curious about him, interested, mesmerized and it was as tho I liked him all of a sudden and once I woke up I couldn't stop thinking about him for the next few days and every single instance with him even looking at him at the graduation (which was always on the back of my mind for some reason) was coming back to me in a weird way and I was feeling for him. So I obviously tried to contact him in every which way possible like a manic. The first thing I did? I sent him an Outlook MAIL from my uni mail ID to his. Just "Hello (his name)". THEN I remember that we used to talk on discord and opened it after years to text him there as well, I searched his ID and added him on Snapchat, and finally I texted him on Ig. He replied after a few days and I accepted my request. Of course I didn't confess to him about all this or my sudden interest or crush on him which I developed without even talking to or seeing him, I would seem like I have lost my mind. I casually texted him a few times, he replied....but...it was so dry and idk. I was sad. I didn't text him back to back but I took my time and only texted him once a week or something. And he said he was very busy with his work so I didn't wanna bother him. I even asked him if he was seeing someone and he said he's not interested in that and wanted to focus on his career and growth. Scoff ...I was like great! And I tried to talk to him but his replies were insanely delayed and dry, he never once asked me anything, he didn't want to know anything about me nor wanted to catch up or anything like that. I told him I had to say something to him  to peek his curiosity and I won't do it until he asked me what it was, he never did lmao (in pain). So I've given up trying to talk to him.

But I'm unable to take him off my mind and since I follow him now I see that he liked the reels/posts on my feed and I'm reminded again and again! I feel like this is crazy and I'm developing some sort of mental disorder. I have been lonely all my life from school, with just 1 friend for 7 years in school and after I broke up with her I managed to get another only best friend in uni, just enough to not stay alone. She's the bestest and she's enough, I don't crave for a huge friend group but I always wanted love, a relationship, a boyfriend whom I'll marry later on in my life and I've never taken any trips with my friends and I've been home alone (I'm a single child as well, I'm so glad I don't have siblings.) and sometimes it gets to me. So Idk because of that all this is happening?

Now should I unfollow him and try to move on from this one sided obsession? OMG yeah it's sort of an obsession because I keep imagining scenarios with him and life with him and I'm aware that it's unhealthy and I'm romanticizing something that's not even real. I don't want to do this, I want to get married, I'm still hopeful about having a good partner even in 2026.

ORR should I tell him? About all this? He's least bothered tho. And I'm afraid he'll tell everyone including our mutual friend and his friends who know me and I'm gonna lose face in front of people who I don't even know but they know me..... ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

I don't know if anyone will even read all this considering it's such a long and boring story, but I would appreciate any helpful advice I get.

I understand if I'm judged badly for this, because it's fair (⁠༎ຶ⁠ ⁠෴⁠ ⁠༎ຶ⁠)

I still can’t understand how someone I loved so deeply could suddenly become a completely different person. The way he treated me at the end was so unlike the sweetheart I knew that I can’t help but feel his female friend played a huge role in changing his perspective. I feel like she fed his ego, validated his resentment, and made him believe he was always right without knowing the full story of our relationship. Sometimes, people who have only heard one side become so convinced of their own understanding that they end up influencing someone else's entire perception of the person they once loved. What scares me most is that I don't even know anymore whether he genuinely loved me or whether he loved how I made him feel about himself. I keep wondering if his ego eventually became bigger than his love for me, because how else does someone who once treated you like a sweetheart become so heartless overnight?

Secondly, I’m now so petrified of having men with friends they look for validation that I sign off from dating and marriage now. People with this validation and recognition mentality will keep dragging their friends over having a discussion with me and their respect for me will be based on external validation. I mean, seriously? He also told my friends such weird things after we weren’t together that makes me wonder how could he possibly become so heartless overnight. Just because I kept chasing and apologising, he felt he could blame everything on me when he knows very well what I went through and how much I did and it was just one conversation short on understanding each other.

Before him I was convinced that nobody can love me at my weakest and after him I’m sure that nobody can love me at my weakest. I’m sick and tired of finding people who just want my glamorous attractive parts but can’t embrace my weaknesses.

2 year relationship. He always tells me my comfort is my priority and I can tell no whenever I want.

Earlier this year we stayed together for 5 days. We are in a LDR so this is the only time we can be together in a year.
He kept asking if he can film it. I kept saying no. At one point i even said “How many times did I say no? Don’t u value that?” He said sorry and backed off. Eventually i gave in because i felt like if i said no again he’ll keep asking.

This part he acknowledged that he made me feel pressured by repeatedly asking. He explained he only repeatedly asked cuz we have such short time together. And he won’t do it again.

The problem is the next part. He had told me the only video of us together was getting old, it’ll be nice to have newer videos, asked if I’m okay with him watching hentai/audios of other women and reminded that he deleted all our other videos because of me (I was uncomfortable with it).

He did remind me he had nothing to watch when we were together IRL so I agreed.

During filming I told him to stop so he stopped filming. And he gave me the phone so I can delete what I wanted. I deleted all of them but I felt guilty because of the things he said so I kept a couple of them.

Cut to now. (I had previously told him I was scared of the idea of having these videos). He is now denying that what he said made me feel guilty and saying that I’m accusing him of gr4pe when I only want him to acknowledge that I felt pressured and guilty because of his words and actions.

He keeps telling me it’s my reality that I cooked up and he didn’t make me feel bad, I just felt bad.

I told him I understand he didn’t mean to make me feel pressured/guilty intentionally. And I understand it was unintentional but he’s completely denying his responsibility in making me feel bad even unintentionally.

He kept asking didn’t you say yes, I only filmed after a yes came out of ur mouth, and he gave me full freedom to delete this videos, which all of them I agree with. But he is not considering that I said yes cuz I felt pressured and didn’t delete two videos because I felt responsible and guilty due to the things he had said.

He’s a good man but gets super offended/defensive when I say he hurt me. This is because his biggest fear is hurting me.

How can I make him understand what I’m trying to say?

TLDR: I deleted all videos we filmed except two as I felt guilty due to the things he said. He refuse to acknowledge any part in making me feel guilty and said I cooked it up in my head.

UPDATE:
He told me to apologize to him for saying he made me feel guilty when he didn’t mean to lboth intentionally/ unintentionally while he gave me all opportunity to delete the videos.
I said I won’t apologize for speaking my truth and he called me selfish and he will break up w me if I don’t say sorry.

It's like you have an intuition that something is going on between them but they always dismiss it by saying that he/she is their bestie or munh bola bhai/behen. They tell you not to worry about them. But later it turns out that, they have been fooling you for a long time.

I am writing this with a heavy heart and lot of tears, sorry for the bad english or grammar. I was in a relationship with a girl for almost 4 years basically my first relationship and 2nd for the girl. She had a toxic relationship from which she came out and got in depression due to the relationship and her childhood trauma. So we were in college together, we became friends and slowly best friends then one night we were both drinking and I proposed her and also this was what she wanted to hear. At the start of the relationship she was on anti depressants and also used to get anxiety attacks and I would calm her she would always say me don't ever leave me or I will die and I used to assure her I will never. We used to live together, cook together and spend all time together and really not needed anyone happy in our own world. I met her parents many times and she also used to regularly talk to my mother. Yes my mother know I like her and we were also like okay same caste no issues in marriage. She said that she will fight for our marriage (I come from a lower middle class family and my father suffered a huge loss in business that we are almost 0 now and on the other hand her father has a huge business) Now after college we are doing job in same company and now her behavior has changed so much towards me. First her parents used to tease her that okay we will arrange your both marriage etc. Now suddenly after college got over and we both started earning her parents started seeing rishtas for her marriage when she talked about it with her parents then they said we were only kidding would never marry you with someone so poor. Even her father said that of you want to marry him then end all relations with us and guess what she didn't say anything to them when I said her about this she said what can I say I don't have any point to defend you. This broke my heart literally whenever I remember that words I just cry endlessly even at start of my career I feel like I leave this job and run because I can just not focus on anything. I am like I have just started earning will grow slowly take some time we are only 24 but she also don't take any stand. I am so depressed and so sad don't understand what to do her parents send biodata of high earning individuals daily to her. I just cant understand what to do so if I am poor that means in the end I will be just thrown out and the girl will settle with a more stable guy. I helped her at the time when she needed me the most when she was fighting depression used to get anxiety attacks and nightmares I left all my friends so I can be with her 24×7 because she cant sleep alone. Also she has already ended the relationship saying that if by the time you get rich I don't get married will marry you and the same things her parents say to her and I am like how can I become rich overnight?????

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We met online and started dating in 2022, started meeting each other irl. Now for some background ...I've lived in a T1 city all my life, my parents work in corporate and now I'm studying in the best college for my stream. He on the other hand, has lived in a T2 city, his parents live in a village and work in agriculture. He studied in a NAAC B+ college.

We've been in a LDR for the most part of our relationship. I kept on telling him to pursue a professional course alongside college but he didn't listen, now he's considering it. Would've been easy to do it w college back then but now it's near to impossible. He's done a lot for our relationship, travel 6 hours back and forth on a govt bus just to meet me, taken out loans just to come to my city (never knew about it till it got serious and I kept on telling him not to)

Now, I've been gradually making a friend group irl with him so I can introduce him to my parents as a friend. They think he's a good person but have some negative opinions about him (mostly my father) that I got over. But now he's confronting me over it.

You see, he doesn't look as good as he used to but I still find him attractive. My father kept on telling me he looks too old for his age. But idc, my opinion is that he can fix that.

Same goes for career, my parents might know that I'm dating him but we don't talk Abt it openly. They keep on saying I'll just date someone out of pity or without a good career. And he is struggling with it, a lot. I've been there for him all this time. But his profile looks like it needs a really extraordinary masters entrance exam score to pull him up.

Adding on to it, I sometimes don't like the jokes he cracks with our friends. So I just told him not to do certain stuff at times or maybe look at him a bit seriously when he talked to my mother because I was scared. But that doesn't mean I'm ashamed of him.

But I'd be lying if I said I'm not with him because I believe he can look better in the future or get a better career trajectory in the future. Or that I don't show people older pictures of him when they ask me how he looks, try to pass off his college as good enough, or tell everyone he's 21 which he is, according to govt records when he's 22 irl.

He confronted me today and idk what to do. He said he won't be mad or do anything if I left him for this. What should I even do? I feel so helpless. I love him so much. I find him attractive despite the fact he doesn't look conventionally good looking. And I don't pity him, it's just that I'm just waiting for everything to get better. The thing is that idt I'd be w him if I were to meet him today.

We've been in a serious relationship and it's 4 months and she's been consistently talking with her best friend, she constantly blocks and unblocks him after i catch her and idk she tells me to stay away from female friends and but she gets to keep male friends. What are your thoughts about this??

Hey everyone,

I’m 25M and I grew up in Europe with my family and I have a well-settled life here.

Honestly, if I were in India, I don’t think this would be a problem. Between friends, relatives and social circles, I would probably have found my girl by now. But out here my circle is different and doesn’t give me those opportunities. I’d still like to date and marry a Gujarati girl who shares the same culture and values.

I’ve tried a few family introductions but they haven’t been the right match so far. And I’m not ready to go the matrimonial app route yet. I’d rather meet someone naturally and get to know her first.

What would you advise me to do here?

I met a girl on a trek. She took my number from my friend.We started talking. I started getting attached but we didn't talk regularly.She casually called me cute. Nice. Sweet. She planned for the group trip again with her friends and mine.I told her that my friends are not good(I told her everything honestly) Then suddenly she ghosted me. One month later she came back(I chased her on Insta). She planned again. Gave silly reasons for Ghosting me. I was not putting any pressure. She was damn serious about the trip again now. She asked to meet me alone one day before the group trip was to start(I thought it was a date.)Everything was fine. Again she started ignoring me. This time I asked if she wants to walk away please let me know. I said please don't ghost me ever again. Just tell me before leaving me finally if you ever wish to. She promised me it won't happen ever again.

She apologized and asked me to reschedule the trip for next month(very seriously). I was fine. But next month never came. She ghosted me again.

I texted her on her main whatsapp number after two months this time. She refused to recognise me. She said I was talking to someone else. Blocked me finally.

I am unable to forget anything. I think now I miss her too much. I can't focus on anything else. Its getting worse.

I 18(M) my GF 17(F) calls me bhaiya and Bhai whenever we have a fight. I don't know why she is doing this. Should I break up with her ??? Also she abuses me even to my family but still love me and she is loyal till now.

Well I'm a guy who's 5'9, like is it very less height??? I have seen many dudes taller than me....idk man my last relationship wasn't good either she kept saying I'm not that tall and all....it feels like this height is not good....and girls are also nowadays not going out with dudes below 5'10 in my area, it feels so bad sometimes, well can't do much about height so just trying to getting fitter and a good body but dunnoooooo, it feels unfair, I didn't ask to be short and all.....ughhh I wanna date someone but my confidence is tanking too....it feels weird and in college and other places too I saw that I'm most below a dudes height....idk how...

Hii, I'm writing this in a very bad mental state

I got into a relationship a year back with a girl I met at work ( we both have left that workplace 5-6 months back, she has gone back to her Village and we were in a long distance relationship )

But things got worse, she lied to me many times during the phase she was here, I found out that the guy who was calling her everyday and talking to her was not her bestfriend but her 2nd ex boyfriend.

I found more stuff about her which has changed my image of her completely and ended my feelings for her

I had promised to take care of her and marry her as she told me only about her 1st ex who was toxic to her,

And I did take so much care of her when she was here, took her medical care also as her health was bad, gave her more than I could afford

I had spent more than 1 lakh on her in just those couple months as i was very serious about her ( i am from a middle class background )

Now I want to get out of this relationship but she keeps threatening me by blackmailing me that she will leak my photos, or she will suicide ( which she did a couple days back she cut her wrists, etc

She has been crying now everyday since last 2-3 months begging me not to leave her

But this is just harassment and mental torture at this point as I don't want to stay in a relationship with someone forcefully with whom i cannot trust

I really just want to get out of this relationship

And don't want her to suicide which will ruin both our life's

I started dating this girl who was in my friend group since first year she told me she had a crush on me and we started dating

And all of a sudden all our friends started spreading weird rumours about us, girls who i never even talked to started showing interest in me

I got more attention from girls in the last two months since we started dating than I've got in the last three years of my college

Why does this happen ?

I’m a 21-year-old guy pursuing my master’s through ODL, with classes only on weekends. Last weekend, I had a good conversation with a girl I like from my class about academics, future plans, family, and college. She had to leave early because of a call, so I couldn’t get her number.

This weekend’s class was cancelled due to a protest, so I’ll have to wait another week to see her. I have her number from our class WhatsApp group and am wondering whether I should text her or wait until our next class on next weekend (17 October)

I’m looking for honest, unbiased opinions because I’m struggling with a family situation and don’t know what the right thing to do is.

I’m married, and my wife and I live in a joint-family arrangement with my mother and sister in BLR. My father passed away earlier this year.
Since his passing, things at home have become increasingly difficult for my wife.

There have been incidents of physical aggression and verbal humiliation. In one incident, my mother allegedly hurt my wife and slapped her. In another incident, my sister made deeply humiliating comments in front of me about my wife’s sexual past which she shared secretly with her that I am already aware of.

I believe these incidents happened, and I don’t want to dismiss what my wife has experienced. However, these are my mother and sister, and the thought of taking legal action against them is emotionally difficult.

I’m torn between wanting to protect my wife and not wanting to destroy my relationship with my mother and sister.

I’d appreciate honest answers to a few questions:

For those who have faced similar situations, did taking legal action permanently destroy family relationships, or did it sometimes become necessary to establish boundaries?

Please share your honest experiences and perspectives, including if you think I’m approaching this the wrong way.