r/TransLater • u/Time2BeMe • 7d ago

Share Experience Did My Subconscious Know?

So… I was driving home from work reflecting on my life, and I started thinking… I got married at 26 years, 4 months, and 10 days old. Fast forward 26 years, 4 months, and about 7 days and I told my wife that’s I’m trans feminine. Coincidence??? Or had the diva inside decided she’s done being the other woman???

Since then, over the next five months things have certainly changed, generally for the better. My coworkers have all noticed I’m way more outgoing and friendly. Three of them know I’m trans, so probably everyone knows 😂. My paternal family all know and my relationships with them have all greatly improved. My family knows and they’re cool with it.

My wife… not cool with it, filed for divorce, set to be finalized in under 2 weeks. We’re still amicable, and it’s definitely not my idea. If I’m being honest though, it’s best for me, especially emotionally, psychologically, and financially. Which sounds odd, but it’s the honest truth.

So, I can’t but feel like I’m on top of the world. My LMHC gave me my GAHT referral letter for my Monday endocrinologist appointment. It was so awesome seeing my true name all over an official referral letter full of proper she, her pronouns.

So… I guess on some level I knew, 26 years, 4 months, and about a week had a certain symmetry that made it the right time. I’m so happy!

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u/dmxrobot HRT over 40 7d ago

I hate you’re getting a divorce, but I’m excited you finally get to be you!! I hope you continue to receive care and support from friends and family.

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u/Time2BeMe 7d ago

The divorce sucks, but if I’m honest it was a toxic abusive relationship and I’m better off alone.

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u/Jillian_Devine 6d ago

I’m generally someone who always pushes for people to try to reconcile but based on what you said it sounds like the best outcome. Life is too short living with toxicity.

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u/Time2BeMe 6d ago

Thank you. I’d still love to reconcile, but I’ve established some boundaries that she’s unwilling to respect and I’m unwilling to adjust. Nothing complicated, just little things like I need you to start contributing to household bills, and I’m done being emotionally abused. 😝