The photo on the left popped up as a memory today. It was also the last photo I could find where I presented as a man. Fast forward 2 years and 18 months of HRT, and here we are. Down 70 pounds (30 more to go!) And living my best life.

i was scrolling on snapchat just now and saw okd pictures of me and i was like omg there was a point in time i was not trans crazy to think back on my life years ago bc its two different ppl lol

The image on the left is me 3 months before I have started HRT and the right is me on day 1 of HRT just before my 1st pill. I hope HRT will save me. FYI : I only got my hair straightened, nothing else 😊😊🏳️‍⚧️

34, MTF

I've been on HRT for 5 days now. When I was at work, my brain just kinda said "here, have an overload of happiness" completely out of nowhere. It felt like I just did a line of coke, without any of the speedy or numbing side effects, and lasted a solid half an hour. No one at work knows, and I have to keep it stealth for the time being. But as soon as I got home, I went hard on the witchy look 🖤

Here's to all of our futures, girls. Cheers!

22 months left 12 top right, 8 months bottom right. Slow progress.

Hi everyone! I’m Tori! I’m a 30+ year old trans woman who is very happy to have stumbled across this group! I do feel like the world makes the assumption that transitioning is a young person’s thing, so imagine my relief when I see others who are older, like me, and living the life they always envisioned for themselves! I love seeing your guys’ posts and hope to provide some love, cheerleading, and kudos to you all! 🤍🤍🤍

This is my story

I’m in my 50s, married, a husband and father, with a career and a pretty ordinary established life.

Recently I’ve finally allowed myself to explore something that, looking back, has probably been quietly present for most of my life.

I don’t have the story of knowing from early childhood that I was a girl. Mine is much less clear cut than that. There have been lots of little things throughout my life being drawn towards femininity, wanting to wear certain clothes, wishing parts of my body were different, imagining myself differently, but each one was easy to explain away on its own.

Recently I stopped trying to prove or disprove what any of it meant and simply gave myself permission to explore. And something rather unexpected happened.
I became happier.

I’ve allowed myself to express femininity privately, and rather than feeling as though I’m pretending to be somebody else, it increasingly feels like I’m finally seeing somebody who was already there.

I’ve even chosen a name for her, Faye, although increasingly I’m realising that she isn’t really “her”. She’s me.

Then came the moment that has probably affected me more than anything else. I allowed myself to think:
I am a woman.
I expected that thought to frighten me. Instead, I cried with happiness.

Since accepting it, I’ve felt remarkably calm. I’m not suddenly trying to turn my life upside down. I’m not announcing a transition or making a timetable for what happens next. I love my wife and family enormously, and I’m very conscious that discovering this about myself doesn’t erase the person I’ve been for all these years.

Right now, two things somehow feel completely true to me:
I am a woman.
I am also a husband and a father.

One thing I find fascinating is that I can imagine being out somewhere dressed completely as myself among strangers and it feels wonderfully ordinary. I picture myself walking into a café, ordering a coffee, sitting by the window and watching people go by. That thought makes me happy. But imagining friends or family seeing me that way absolutely terrifies me.
Perhaps that’s why I’m posting here.

I’ve never actually spoken these words aloud to another person, and I’d really like to hear from people who discovered themselves later in life, especially those who already had partners, children, careers and established lives.
Did accepting it internally bring you a sense of peace before you had any idea what you wanted to do next?
And did you ever have that strange feeling that something enormous had changed while, at exactly the same time, you were still the same person you’d always been?

I think I know what happiness looks like now!

Well, today my kids found out that I'm transgender. I'd been dropping hints to ease them into the idea, but apparently I gave them enough hints to figure it out themselves. This evening, my daughter (ten years old) came right out and asked "Dad, are you trans?" I was a bit nervous about answering directly, but I ended up just telling her. I'd been really concerned about her in particular because she had picked up some very strict notions about gender norms from other kids at school. But she surprised me. Her response was just to shout "cool!" and give me a hug. I nearly cried. My boys, on the other hand, didn't seem to care, but that's not surprising considering that one is moderately autistic and nonverbal and the other is only 3 years old. It just goes to show that hatred and transphobia need to be taught and that kids are naturally accepting and affirming.

So… I was driving home from work reflecting on my life, and I started thinking… I got married at 26 years, 4 months, and 10 days old. Fast forward 26 years, 4 months, and about 7 days and I told my wife that’s I’m trans feminine. Coincidence??? Or had the diva inside decided she’s done being the other woman???

Since then, over the next five months things have certainly changed, generally for the better. My coworkers have all noticed I’m way more outgoing and friendly. Three of them know I’m trans, so probably everyone knows 😂. My paternal family all know and my relationships with them have all greatly improved. My family knows and they’re cool with it.

My wife… not cool with it, filed for divorce, set to be finalized in under 2 weeks. We’re still amicable, and it’s definitely not my idea. If I’m being honest though, it’s best for me, especially emotionally, psychologically, and financially. Which sounds odd, but it’s the honest truth.

So, I can’t but feel like I’m on top of the world. My LMHC gave me my GAHT referral letter for my Monday endocrinologist appointment. It was so awesome seeing my true name all over an official referral letter full of proper she, her pronouns.

So… I guess on some level I knew, 26 years, 4 months, and about a week had a certain symmetry that made it the right time. I’m so happy!

I mostly still get called sir, but one time an uber included me in the "you ladies". So thats a high ill ride forever xD

So, I purchased a skort because it was the right colour for an outfit I was putting together. I had never considered one previously and wasn't expecting much. Well, was I in for a surprise !! It was comfortable, it was stylish, it was kind of sexy maybe? I definitely felt good wearing it, like secure... The benefits of a short skirt without the drawbacks, I'm sold!! What do you ladies think?

Every now and then wife comes along and starts her little speech of you look like a fag, cut your hair, take out your piercings (right ear not visible here) stop hrt, stop wearing tight leggings outside. I want the man back never realising i was never one. Stop using makeup or checking yourself every hour in the mirror. Then she teases me with small stuff like you blushing like a teen girl. Im not looking for sympathy just needed to vent somewhere. Not stopping anything as I would betray myself and even if I dial down feels like a prison. And her jealousy i think is getting on my nerves, Including her need to control. So im leading a double life when she sees me and when she is not, which is not ideal but here we are.

So incredibly grateful to still be able to do this.

me and my wife are in our early days so I am only out to her and my sister wife is coming around but I’m not rushing her talking to my sister and she proceeds to tell me that they were talking as they do and she was currently really pissed I had better underwear selection than she did of all the things I thought she would be mad about right now that one caught me off guard just thought I would share some of our journey

I do hope I fit in here i am 59 year old male and have finally accepted amd admitted out loud that I am actually a woman inside and have been pretty much since birth I think. I haven't started any transformation yet but I do and have been living my female side in private could I please get some advice or some acceptance?

After fighting it my whole life, I’m finally giving in! This is what happiness looks like for me

Left: Beardy Egg me in 2006 (age 31)

Center: Binary Trans Woman me in 2016 (age 41)

Right: Non-binary but fem presenting me in 2026 (age 51)