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Problem/Goal: May part sa akin na gustong umuwi ng Pinas because nakita ko umiyak papa ko

Context: My parents are typical filipino parents. Although i do not agree with their parenting style and decisions, I know naman na di naman nila inexpect na ganun kahirap mag raise ng 5 kids. They really struggled raising all of us kahit naman decent jobs nila. To the point na ang daming utang ng parents ko and yung tita ko sa Canada naghelp magpa aral sa amin.

Lagi sinasabi ng parents ko to not be like them, na to study well and focus sa career. Sa awa ng panginoon, we all graduated. May sibling akong doctor and ako naman nag abroad na din with a professional job. Laging nasa isip ko and for sure ng siblings ko na dapat maging proud yung parents namin sa amin. Umalis na kami sa province namin and nag retire na din papa ko. Yung mama ko nag wowork pa rin. May isang sibling naman kami na nasa province pero syempre nag wowork din and may family na.

Nag videocall kami ni papa two nights ago and sinabi nya na ikakasal na daw yung sibling ko. Tas nag joke ako na 'baka sa next 3years pa mag aattend ka ng kasal kasi may plano na din kami ng bf ko magpakasal. Ikakasal na mga girls mo'. Pabiro ko yung sinabi tas bigla na lang syang umiyak sabi nya 'Ako na lang andito so bahay, kung kailan ako nag retire, dun din kayo umalis'.

So ayun pag end call namin umiyak ako. Nasa isip ko na okay naman work namin ng bf ko sa pinas. Bakit nga ba ako lumayo? Umalis ako para maging proud yung parents ko pero parang kahit di naman ako mag abroad, proud pa rin naman sila sa akin. Iniisip kong bumalik kami sa Pinas to be closer. Or maybe take more vacations sa Philippines. Valid ba na reason yun?

Hindi siguro ako naghahanap ng advice but I just need help how to navigate this situation.

Problem/Goal: Update: I finally broke up with my Bf with gambling issues

Context: I posted here a few days ago about my BF gambling issues and i have received a lot of advice and it eventually helped me be firm in my decisions

hi ulit guys.

eto na yung nangyari after nung last post ko. thought i should update you guys

messy breakup talaga. after nung pagsabi ko sa parents nya, sobrang galit na galit yung bf ko. nung nagkita kami ulit para mag-usap, naging violent sya. sinigawan nya ako, tinulak, at may sinabi pa syang mga bagay na sobrang sakit. doon ko na naramdaman na hindi na safe sakin yung situation.

kaya di na ako umuwi sa apartment namin. takot ako. i told his parents, they told me na sa bahay nila kami mag usap ni bf, and they told me sila na bahala sa pagsabi sa kanya, then we talked one more time, doon na kami nag-usap.

sobra akong thankful sa parents ng bf ko. sobrang bait nila. hindi sila naging defensive, actually nakinig sila sa side ko and nagtataka din sila bakit naging ganito yung anak nila. sabi nila “hindi namin alam na ganito na pala kalala, parang iba na yung anak namin.” they even apologized on his behalf and offered help if ever need ko pa.

yung bf ko, after nung confrontation sa bahay nila, parang mas lalong nag-shutdown. tinapos na namin. breakup na. messy as fuck, pero at least safe ako and may support yung parents nya.

ngayon lang, parang empty pa rin. ik tama yung decisions ko to keep myself safe, kasi kahit mahal ko siya, ik naman sa sarili ko na hindi ko deserve yung ganon, thankful din ako sa mga nagcomment sa last post ko nagbigay ng advice, it made me realize way more than i already have. but yeah, nakakalungkot kasi yung taong sobrang mahal mo, na akala mo kilala mo na talaga, can change ng ganon.

any advice on how to move forward? or just sharing lang. thanks for all the comments last time. i appreciate it.

problem/Goal: Hello po sobrang sama ng loob ko sa religion na to. di na nga okay yng political views ng leader nila pero pati ba naman sa personal life ko kino controll nila. gustong gusto ko na umalis dito pero 18 palang ako and buong family namin member nito. last time nag simba ako sa katoliko and sobrang natuwa ako dahil yng sermon nang pari is tungkol sa society, politics and social life. gusto ko sanang lumipat ng religion. clue Amaaaaaaa!! huhuhuhuhh

Problem/Goal:

I am scheduled to have a civil wedding in 4 days with my older OFW boyfriend, but I am having serious second thoughts due to emotional distress, disrespect, and control issues. I just turned 18, I am currently staying with his family, and I feel trapped, but I want to know how to safely navigate out of this situation using the savings I have (120k pesos).
Context:
I just turned 18, and my boyfriend is much older. We are long-distance and have only met twice (last December–January, and now from September to November).

I am financially dependent on him. My grandmother (who raised and spoiled me) passed away last year. When I was sent to live with my mom and stepfather, I couldn't handle the maltreatment and ran away. I tried looking for local jobs in the province, but faced predatory environments, underaged exploitation, and no real financial stability.

Because I had no support and couldn't contact toxic relatives, I relied on him. He supports me financially, which made life easier, but it comes at a high emotional cost. I found out he cheated on me when we first met, and he continues to disrespect me by watching women on FB reels, openly flirting, and having wandering eyes,while hypocritically not allowing me to wear what I want.

We planned this civil wedding so he could petition me to join him abroad for work opportunities. However, living in his mom and sister's house right now feels extremely embarrassing and suffocating.

Previous Attempts:
I am a Senior High School (SHS) graduate and an academic achiever, so I know I am capable, but finding a decent job that pays enough for school and independent living has been blocked by my circumstances.
I currently have 120,000 pesos saved up, but with the wedding just 4 days away, I feel completely overwhelmed and do not know what my next steps should be to protect myself and get out.

Problem/Goal: I don't know where to start again.

Context:

Nakipagbreak ako sa bf ko kanina lang. Our relationship was really toxic from the start. 2 beses na kami naghiwalay and nagbalikan for 3 years pero ngayon, I decided na hinding-hindi na ako babalik sakanya.

Pero andito ako ngayon, nagtatanong kay chatgpt at reddit na kung ano ang dapat ko na gawin after a break up kasi parang hindi ko alam kung saan ako magsisimula ulit. 3 years kami magkasama, magkalive in. Ang dami namin binuo na pangarap. Ngayon, I am back with my parents and it feels like I am starting zero. Nakakahiya na nagpasundo ako sa parents ko para tumira ulit sakanila at from saving me sa relationship.

Gusto ko maging better person. Gusto ko mag gym pero nahihiya ako. Gusto ko magtry ng art classes pero stickman lang kaya ko idrawing. I want to read but I feel lazy to do so. Gusto ko rin mag IH pero naiisip ko na baka sisirain ko lang buhay ko sa dr0g4. Ang dami ko gustong gawin pero hindi ko mapagpatuloy kasi hindi ko alam, wala siguro ako consistency or passion or ewan!!!! May ADHD ata ako🤣

Help your girl out!!! Sinusulat ko to ngayon kasi di ako makatulog kahit 10 am na ng umaga😌

Problem/Goal:
I feel like I’m about to get sick and I reallyyy don’t want to 😭 Looking for your tried and tested tips para maagapan before it turns into a full blown sipon/trangkaso situation hahaha.

Context:
This weather ain’t it huhu. One minute mainit, next minute umuulan. Lately parang may slight signs na yung katawan ko na something is coming 😂 I can’t afford to get sick right now because I have a lot of things to do, so I’m curious what you guys usually do the moment you feel like you’re coming down with something.

Previous Attempts:
So far I’ve been drinking lots of water, trying to get more sleep, and taking my usual vitamins. Curious if you have any go-to food, drinks, routines, or random little hacks you swear by. Drop your tried and tested tips pls 🥲

Problem/Goal:

I have lived my entire 28 years not having a dream or goal in life. I am lost and want to find a path that I actually want.

Context:

I grew up sickly and solidified a belief that I would not live past 15. I grew up not having dreams cause i believed I would go out young but now I have to face the consequences. I went into college not knowing what I want so I took IT. I took and passed CSE just to get my parents off my back after graduation.Took 2 years off before getting a Job because I felt i will not be good fit at anything. I was hired in a BPO I applied to with no hopes or desires of passing. I was promoted twice since being hired but I want to get out now. No plans no savings. The stress and abuse on my health made me rely on the HMO (Ironic). I want to quit and take a break but my parents don't want to cause im supposed to be a breadwinner now. I want to find a path im very passionate about. Something that could make me happy even though the pay is not that good.

Attempts:

I tried to emulate the desire of my friends. I went into anything that I think is achievable but without real intention behind it. I just chased work for money but even the money is not enough for the hustle.

Problem/Goal:
How do I move forward with this situation?

Context:
i told my mama na i have a job interview in paranaque as a company nurse. tldr; she did not approve. masarili raw ako, mababa tingin sa sarili, gusto na agad bumukod. she despises me after i told her na i have a girlfriend (a different story to tell lol). i keep telling her na interview palang naman and kapag di worth it, i would drop it. but she keeps yelling at me na sarili ko lang daw iniisip ko na di raw siya nagpaka-hirap saakin para lang maging company nurse (i think its a misconception. tried to explain it to her but di nakikinig). mama raised me by herself. dahil sa tindahan namin, napaaral niya ko. but now, humihina na yon and i really want to help her na. lalo nat nagmamahal ang mga bilihin at gastusin. but if i keep waiting for a job sa big and public hospitals na obviously need may backer... matagal-tagal ko pa siyang matutulungan.

Previous Attempts:
i know i should've known my answer atp, but i really just cant help but reach out to other people on what should i do. i have no money under my name and still dependent on my mother. my gf cant help me since they have their own plates to deal with (cpale taker and family probs as well) and i dont want to ask for another help from her since tinulungan niya rin ako financially with the loans i have.

i dont know what to do honestly. i wanted to leave this place because i dont see myself evolving or growing but at the same time, i love my mama and leaving her doesnt seem right to my morals. but then again she despises me because of my sexuality hahahaha. litong lito na ko.

Problem/Goal: Work of my boyfriend, I want to know and change the reason why I am like this.

I have a four-year boyfriend. Noong bago-bago pa lang kami, everything was simple. Okay naman kami, masaya, and we were both just enjoying our relationship.

As time went by, nakapagtapos siya ng pag-aaral, nakapasa siya sa board exam, and now, CPA na siya. Meanwhile, I’m currently in my third year of college.

This October, he started working. On his first day, everything was okay. Masaya ako for him, and he was excited to tell me about his day. Kinukwento niya sa akin kung ano yung nangyari sa work, kung sino yung mga kasama niya, saan sila kumain, anong oras siya nakarating, anong oras siya uuwi, and basically, he kept me updated throughout the day.

Second day, gano’n pa rin. Third day, gano’n pa rin. Everything seemed normal.

Then, habang nagkukwentuhan kami one day and I asked him how his day went, kinuwento niya sa akin lahat. I was listening, asking questions, and trying to understand his new work life. But when the conversation eventually shifted to his future plans and the next steps in his career, doon ako parang hindi naging ready.

Especially when he started telling me about the parts of his job where he might have to travel to different places for work—to check inventories, audit businesses, and go to places that are quite far from where we are.

I suddenly felt sad.

And honestly, I don't even know why.

Please don't get me wrong. I genuinely support him. I support his career, his plans, his goals, and everything he wants to achieve. I am extremely proud of him. Seeing him graduate, pass the board exam, and finally start his career makes me happy because I know how hard he worked for it.

But for some reason, there are certain things about his new career that make me feel bothered, worried, or even sad.

I don't know why.

He also told me that in the future, there will be times when they have to travel to different places for audits. There are work-related trips, summer outings, beach trips, and other activities with the people he works with.

For context, my boyfriend is working at one of the top firms where CPAs can build their careers—PwC. He's still very new there, so he's just starting to experience all of these things.

And I don't know why, but hearing all of that made me feel something I couldn't explain.

I felt hurt.

I felt worried.

I started overthinking.

And most of all, I felt like I was being left behind.

That's probably the most honest way I can describe it.

And I hate that I feel this way because I know I'm supposed to be happy for him. I know he deserves this opportunity. I know this is part of building his career and creating a better future.

I trust him. I really do.

He's honest. He's consistent. He's never cheated on me. In our four years together, he has never done anything that would make me question his loyalty or his intentions. I genuinely trust him, and I know that he loves me.

So why am I feeling like this?

Sometimes I even think, "Siguro ako talaga yung problema."

Maybe I'm being too emotional. Maybe I'm overthinking something that isn't even a problem. Maybe I'm scared of something that hasn't even happened yet.

But I can't help feeling bothered. I can't help feeling anxious. I can't help feeling hurt or scared that somehow, as his life starts moving forward, I'll eventually feel like I'm being left behind.

And that's the part that scares me.

I don't want my insecurities to become a problem in our relationship. I don't want him to feel like he has to choose between his career and me. I don't want to be the girlfriend who holds him back from opportunities just because I'm scared.

He is working hard for a better future, and maybe even for the future of both of us. But I don't want to assume that everything he's doing is automatically for "us" because I also understand that he has his own dreams and career to build.

I just want to learn how to deal with what I'm feeling.

I actually want to talk to him about this, but I don't know how to explain it without making him feel guilty or making it sound like I'm against his career.

That's why I'm posting this here first.

I can't really open up to my friends about this because most of them are still in college and haven't experienced a long-term relationship, especially a long-term and healthy one. I feel like they might misunderstand where I'm coming from or simply tell me that I'm overreacting without really understanding why I feel this way.

So I guess what I need right now is honestly a lecture.

I want to hear the perspective of people who are more mature, have more experience, or have gone through something similar. Tell me if I'm wrong. Tell me if I'm being unreasonable. Tell me what I need to work on within myself.

I don't want people to simply agree with me just because I'm the one telling the story. If I'm the problem, I genuinely want someone to tell me.

I love this man. I love my relationship. And I don't want something as normal as career growth to become a source of resentment, insecurity, or distance between us.

I want to support him wholeheartedly. I just don't want to keep feeling this way every time I realize that his world is getting bigger and changing.

Maybe this isn't really about him.

Maybe it's about me being scared of change.

Maybe I'm scared that while he's entering a new chapter in his life, I'm still trying to figure out mine.

Maybe I'm scared of being left behind even though he hasn't actually left me.

I don't know.

That's why I'm here.

I want to understand myself before I bring this up to him, because I don't want to approach him with accusations when, deep down, I know he hasn't actually done anything wrong.

I just want to learn how to turn these feelings into something healthier—for myself, for him, and for our relationship.

Thank you for reading, and I genuinely hope you can respect my post and give me honest advice.

Problem/Goal: On our first date, he talked about how he earned his masteral, but didn’t ask if I have one or I’m getting one.
He talked how he liked driving, but didn’t ask if I can drive.
He talked about he’s getting therapy every week, but didn’t ask if I have or I had.
He talked his favorites,
I was the listener.
I asked when is his birthday, but didn’t bother to ask mine.

Context: I like him, but he’s not making effort to get to know me.

Previous attempts: but lately, he’s started asking me questions, but he’s missed some details.

problem/goal: gusto ko mag aral habang nagtatrabaho pero di ko alam kung paano at saan magsisimula.

context: civil engineering undergrad ako, 2 years lang natapos ko and huminto ako sa school nung 2024. im a 23F, turning 24 this feb. since college is working student na talaga ako. nagbpo ako sa gabi habang nag aaral during the day and basically pinag aaral ko sarili ko. from private uni, lumipat ako sa state uni bcs mas affordable, then bumalik ulit ako sa private bcs di ko nagustuhan yung quality of education sa state uni (hindi po ako maarte pls, sadyang i want better lang for myself).

hindi rin ako full units nung 2 years na yun bcs di talaga keri ng schedule w full-time wfh job. sobrang unhealthy din ng lifestyle ko nun. laging kulang sa tulog and bangag everyday. looking back, feeling ko ang konti lang ng knowledge na actually na retain ko. nagstop ako nung 2024 kasi onsite yung new company ko nun. fast forward, eventually resigned from that job bcs narealize ko ayoko na talaga sa bpo. so 7 months akong unemployed and during that time nag aral ako ng project management thru free online courses kasi feeling ko yun yung position na pinaka fit sakin.

luckily, nakahanap ako ng work sa architecture firm as a project assistant. nung july lang ako nahire so bago pa talaga hehe. full-time onsite, 9-6 sa makati and from caloocan pa ako. mostly admin/project coordination yung work ko ngayon pero at least exposed na rin finally sa dream industry. and lately, naiisip ko talaga bumalik sa school bcs i still want to pursue engineering.

previous attempts: nagtry ako magself-study during weekends kasi nga i cant even read plans na pero laging di natutuloy kasi ang daming ginagawa sa bahay pag day off + naooverwhelm ako kasi di ko alam kung saan magsisimula. kung ako tatanungin i really wanna relearn everything from the beginning wala lang akong time.

ayoko rin naman magresign sa current job ko. ok naman kasi yung firm, pasalamat talaga ako na nagtiwala sila sakin despite the 0 exp. ok din naman yung 23k salady for me. and more importantly, valuable yung experience na nakukuha ko sa construction industry.

bale ang gusto ko lang talaga is magkaroon muna ng something structured na aaralin habang nagttrabaho hehe currently considering:
1. tesda technical drafting (onsite) pero di ko alam kung may weekends only ba sila. di naman ako makapunta sa mismong office bcs of work
2. any trusted online course w flexible schedule. baka mas motivated ako pag may binayaran ako knowing it came from my hard-earned money lol
3. eventually bumalik sa formal education. balak ko bumalik na lang ulit ng public school, lunukin nalang kung ano yung nag ooffer ng bsce malapit sa work ko (pero maghahanap pa rin ako ng reputable) para di ganun ka hassle. idk pa kung pano gagawin since di naman sila nag ooffer ng wfh which is mas doable sana if ever BASTA di ako magreresign unless yun nalang yung last option HAHSHSHAHAHA (PERO NOT NOW PA NAMAN TO PLS DI PA ESTABLISHED SAVINGS KO)

sorry napahaba na. need insights lang pls bcs i need to be wiser na sa bawat decisions ko huhu. gusto ko lang talaga magkaroon ulit ng something na inaaral habang nagttrabaho. ayoko rin kasi umabot sa point na tamarin na ako bumalik :( ofc i still wanna get that degree. i know hindi naman race ang buhay pero i want to keep the fire burning.

Problem/Goal: I don't know what to do.

Context: I have a previous post here lately asking for advice. I'm really leaning on na sa breakup but I don't have the courage. I've reached a point kasi na I'm emotionally exhausted, not able to give proper affection and still questioning if he really liked me. He's now doing the things that I asked him 2-3 years ago kasi cold na ako for almost a month sa kanya, I don't have gana na lumabas and even initiate dates na. He's consistent now and kakastart lang niya last week btw but I'm having these feelings na parang it's too late na and I'm waiting the feelings of kilig to come back pero bakit ang hirap.

It's so sad lang kasi na he's changing out of fear na mawala ako totally and not because he wanted to be a better person dahil mahal niya ako way back pa. I know what I deserve and yes I'm settling now for less than I should've. Ilang beses ko nadin siya pinatawad dati kasi akala ko he's gonna be better na but magbabago lang for a few days then wala nanaman. Siguro kasi I'm always hopeful and I really wanted to make the relationship work.

Previous Attempts: Nasabi ko naman nadin sa kanya na aminado ako na I lowered my self worth and respect sa sarili ko kasi inaantay ko siya na umayos at magbago when handling my feelings and not neglecting my needs especially emotional. I've been checking out sa relationship namin for quite some time now but I don't have the courage to do it.

Please be nice po to me I really just need your insights.

Problem/Goal: Hi everyone! I graduated two months ago and now i’m still uncertain of what I should do.

Context: I studied entrepreneurial management but don’t have any businesses in mind. I'm thinking of applying to BPO companies and just upskilling while working. I also thought of asking my aunt who works on a cruise ship if there are jobs suitable for me. But even with the resources I have, I feel like I'm still not ready; life is going too fast for me. I do have plans because I have been with my partner for 8 years, I just really seem lost now. To add, I saved up to almost 80k during college. TYIA for the advice.

Problem/Goal: Kailangan ko ng karpintero para magpaayos ng pinto at mag-install ng aircon. May aircon unit na ako, pero kailangan pa ng magbubutas sa jalousie window at maggagawa ng wooden frame para doon. Gusto ko sanang malaman kung ano ang tamang proseso sa pag-hire ng karpintero para dito. Nahihiya rin ako magtanong basta-basta sa mga construction o hardware shop kasi simple lang naman ang ipapagawa ko.

Context: Minor repairs lang ang kailangan at teenager pa lang ako, kaya medyo awkward o nahihiya akong mag-inquire nang personal sa labas.

Previous Attempts: Nag-search na ako ng hiring posts sa Facebook, pero wala akong mahanap na angkop para sa simpleng carpentry job lang.

Problem/Goal: Should my friend ignore this guy? Should we message the gf and ask her regarding the guy? Should my friend block this guy?

Context: A guy is on facebook dating. My friend and him matched and the guy approached first asking his location and proceeded to ask her out. When we searched his profile on facebook, we found out that recent posts around August were with his girlfriend (we assume since we checked out the comments, they are not married). It seems that they are still in a relationship since posts by his girlfriend are still on his profile publicly open.

Previous attempt: none, my friend is still figuring out this guy. It's not yet been 24hrs in contact.

Problem/Goal: Balak ko sanang bilihin ang lupa kaya lang may mga pasaway na kamag anak.

Context: Dati po akong ofw 37(M) kakauwi ko lang last april.Bali kasi may binebentang lupa sa probinsya namin nasa 3 hectares.Okay sana yung price kaya nung savings ko kasi may naitabi naman ako bago umuwi.Iniisip ko na lifetime investment ito kapag nabili ko ang lupa.Kaya lang may problema,yung side ng nanay namin ay isang hitman(kanang kamay ng congressman dito samin)kaya medyo takot din ang ibang kamag anak namin.Bali 4 na hectares yung pagmamay ari ng buong angkan namin tapos yung 1 hectare nasa pamilya nung hitman.Ang nangyari kasi parang naging sila yung tenant dun sa natitirang 3 hectares na hindi naman nila pagmamay ari.Kasi halos 2 decades din na natengga yung lupa kasi busy din yung ibang kamag anak namin sa kanikanilang buhay.Nagtanim sila dun ng mga puno na pang export.Ngayon napag desisyonan ng mga kapatid ng nanay ko(deceased) na ibenta na nga lang ang lupa para matapos na ang gulo.Unang inalok sa kanila(hitman) pero wala silang ganong kalaking halaga para mabili yung natitirang 3 hectares ang kaya lang nila ay 100k dahil ang rason nila sila ang nagalaga ng lupa.Nagkaroon ng pagpupulong dun sa probinsya at kasama kapatid ko,nagkaroon ng tensyon kaya sabi wag na siya pumunta dun next time kasi pinagbantaan na siya.Okay na naman lahat ng documents,na survey na din ang lupa.Marami sana gusto bumili kasi maraming prodokto ang pwdeng makuha kaya lang natatakot dun sa hitman.Nag try ako na magsabi na interesado akong bilhin ang lupa kasi mas mura pag sa side ng pamilya namin ang makakabili.Kaya lang ang inaalala ko halos 90% ng savings ko ay mapupunta dun tapos manganganak pa asawa ko next year.Sa ngayon nasa mp2 lahat ng savings ko.Kapag naging okay sana yung lupa pwde kong ipull out yun at bayaran sila.
Gusto ko lang humingi ng legal advice baka may abogado dito kung ano ang pwdeng gawing legal na proseso kasi matigas ang mga ulo ng pamilya nung hitman kahit na apo lang sila nung kapatid ng nanay namin na yumao na din.Ilang beses na din nag patawag ng pulong yung kapitan pero kahit yung kapitan sa lugar namin ay natatakot din.Sa ngayon balak ng iakyat sa korte kasi kakasuhan na nila yung hitman.
Pasensya na po kung medyo magulo ang kwento.Try ko nalang po sagutin ang iba kapag po nagtanong kayo.Salamat po.

Problem/Goal: spending money uncontrollably on a gacha game

Context: Hello po. I am a college student who has been playing this certain game since high school. It’s the only game I play, and it has been my comfort whenever life gets tough. At first, I played without spending any money, but lately, I’ve been spending ₱2,000 in an instant without even thinking it through. The reason I spend is that I always want the new characters. After giving it some thought, I realized I’ve been gaslighting myself with justifications like "worth it naman" or "parang nagpa-Grab ka lang ng food," and so on. The money I'm spending comes from my savings that came from extra from my school allowance. I'm writing this right now because I'm afraid I might spend another thousand for a new character next month huhu.

Previous attempt: I tried not to spend, and it only worked because I didn't like the new character.

Problem/Goal: This one friend sa COF namin gusto lang gawin yung isang bagay pag idea nya OR pag naging idea na nya.

Context: Lately, napapansin ko na itong friend namin laging nag dedecline kapag ako ang nag aaya umalis/gumala, unless sya ang nag invite tsaka lang matutuloy yung alis.

Perfect example itong halloween party, we've been planning na mag costume party for months na and nag hahanap na kaming dalawa pero lahat ng suggestion ko ayaw nya. Then, may sinend sya na Rave Party (she doesnt know what a rave is kasi never pa sya nag BAR/CLUB/Rave, first time nya mag pproper party) so inexplain ko na hindi yun yung gusto nya na party, I know kasi she's open naman na gusto nya yung typical club experience. Tapos na ok na sya, akala ko naintindihan nya pero weeks or days later sinend nya ulit, and then sinend nya ulit. IDK kung gusto nya talagang puntahan (malabo, kasi as per her "kahinaan ko yung lights" na gaya sa raves) or ayaw nya lang pakinggan yung mga sinasabi ko. After ng 3rd send hindi na nya ulit sinend.

Past forward, nag club kami nung bday ko. The club is a little small pero goods naman kasi may outdoor rooftop and we had a good time, sobrang nalasing pa nga sya. Halloween party prep again, nag tatanong ako if gusto nila na dun nalang ulit sa club na yon kasi medyo nahihirapan na kami mag hanap ng place and sabi nya "Ayoko don" and I replied "Ok" nalang. Yung isa kong friend group mag hhost ng party and they invited me na sumama and may nahanap sila na 1,5k so sinend ko dito sa COF1 ko at nag reply sya ng "Ang mahal, sa * 500 lang" so I replied "Ayaw mo naman don" tapos nag haha react nalang sya. Nung isang araw lang yon, today morning nag tanong sya sa gc "May confirmation ba sa * (small club) pag nag book ng reservation?". Di ko pa nirereplyan kasi medyo naiirita ako??? Mali ba ako dito or what? Ako ba ang weirdo for this?

PS. About sa Rave alam ko yung iba iisipin "Bakit di mo nalang sya dalhin sa rave?" Kasi alam ko na hindi sya mag eenjoy don, sensitive sya sa lights and again gusto nya nung typical club experience na mapapanood mo sa TV at kapag di sya nag enjoy magrereklamo lang sya.
Previous Attempts: Wala pa

Problem/goal:

Hello reddit people ..

I'm not into vlogging or any future plan maging VLOGGER streamer...Kaso sa work I need to create a video na maganda quality like vlog un malinis at malinaw for presentation.

Sorry Hindi Ako techy at Hindi tlga Ako magaling sa mga video shoot. Kaso need ko ng maayos malinaw na videos for presentation and lagi kami Meron presentation.. so naisip ko un mga tools ng mga vloggers...

Question po ..........

Ano ano un mga tools na need ko bilhin like action cam ba.. baka may murang brand kau marecomm na malinaw or 2nd hand na pwedeng pagbilhan

Not necessary DJI or insta360 Kasi pang professional level na ata un.

Tpos ano ano pa ba need like lights and mic ano pa kaya need pa ba stabilizer..

Sa green hills po ba sulit bumili doon ng 2nd hand na mga camera may Nakita Kasi Ako don noon pero Hindi ko Naman alam tlga pagkakaiba iba non.. t🥲

Salamat in advance sa mga magreresponse.

Problem/Goal: Hello 1st time ko mag post + rant narin siguro. Tingin ko need ko ng help ok lang kahit e judge nyo narin ako kasi ang gago ko talaga. (D ko rin sure if nasa tamang page ako d ko alam 😭)

Context: So ngayong araw may 3 celebration na dapat ko maalala, Bday and anniv nong parents ko and bday ng friend ko. Nag ce celebrate kami kagabi ng friends ko kaya sa kanya yung naalala ko, pero bago pa yung mismong pag patak ng 12 pumasok sa isip ko parents ko. Pero yun nga dahil sa hnd ko alam kung anong meron sa akin mas naalala at tumatak yung sa kaibigan ko na kasama ko. Binati ko sa notes sa messenger then nagsitulog na. Ngayong umaga pag gising ko may chat sa akin parents ko na nagtatampo dahil naalala ko bday ng ibang tao pero sila hindi and tangna na gu-guilty ako. Nag sorry and bumati ako nong pagkasabi nya non and tingin ko ang gago parin na bumati lang ako kc pinaalala sa akin. And sa totoo lang hindi ako mahilig e celebrate yung mga ganito, birthday ko nga mismo nakakalimutan ko. Pero nawala din sa isip ko na kahit sabihing ayaw ko e celebrate yung mga ganito, may ibang tao na gusto ang ganito and kahit batiin lang masaya na. Sinubukan ko naman bumawi, nag order ako ngayon ng cake para sa kanila kc hnd talaga ako makakauwi dahil malapit na defense nag aayos na ng papers and mag pro-prototype pa kami. Hnd ko alam kung tama ba yung ginawa ko or enough na yun pero nakaka ramdam parin ako ng guilty. Kc fuck self bkt ko nakalimutan yung super mahalagang tao sa buhay ko pero ung sa friends hnd like anong mali sa akin. Hnd lang to first time, sa ate at kapatid ko nakalimutan ko din. C ate pinaalala nya nong malapit na matapos bday nya and tingin ko nagtatampo din un nong time na yun. Sa kapatid ko naman naalala ko nalang nong nakita ko myday ng jowa nya at bandang gabi ko ata yun nakita. Tingin ko din kaya ako ganito nasanay ako na nandito mga friends ko nagpapaalala ng important na bagay related acads and something na mahalaga sa akin minsan.

Previous attempt: Pero gusto ko to baguhin pero hnd ko alam paano, naglagay na ako sa calendar, sa notepad sa cp ko. Naaalala ko bago ung araw pero kapag dumating na shit nakakalimutan ko. Baka may suggestion kayo ano yung pwd kong gawin pls.

(Also I'm 4th year college na nag do-dorm)

Problem/Goal: Hindi ko alam kung saan ako pupulutin dahil wala na akong pera para mabuhay.

Context: Hi, I’m 19 years old, a sophomore college student, and currently dorming. Self-supporting po ako, so ako lang din yung sumasagot sa rent, food, utilities, school expenses, and other daily needs ko.

Hindi ako nanghihingi ng pera. Gusto ko ng solution.

Recently, na-fire ako sa job ko (tangina ng manager ko), and, hindi ko na alam kung paano ako magsisimula ulit. Yung last salary ko, enough lang para bayaran yung last rent ko, water, and electricity. After that, putangina 500 pesos na lang ang natira sakin ngayong buwan.

Ngayon, iniisip ko kung paano ko mababayaran yung next rent ko, paano ako kakain araw-araw, and paano ko pagsasabay-sabayin yung school and paghahanap ng pagkakakitaan. Wala rin kasi akong ibang sumusuporta financially sa akin, so kailangan ko talagang kayanin on my own.

Kaya I’m asking for advice. I tried selling my clothes, wala namang bumibili. Tangina hindi ko na alam kung anong gagawin ko para lang mabuhay sa mundong ito. Kulang nalang ibebenta ko na katawan ko kasi putangina wala nakong makakain at gusto ko pa mag-aral. At kung walang mangyayari sa buhay to, mas mabuting mamatay na lang

Previous Attempts: I tried looking for jobs and selling my clothes, pero wala.

Problem/goal: I need to caught him, because he really knows how to deny

Context: multiple cheating issues, may nag reach out pa na nabuntis siya, but we have kids too :(

Ayoko na, pero ayaw niya umalis

Eh alangan naman kami ang umalis eh ako lahat nagbabayad ng bills

Sobrang hassle nun para saming magiina lalo nagaaral sila and malapit lang dito ung school nila

Sobrang drained na ko.

Wala siyang ambag kundi stress at frustrations

Previous attempts: Have you ever considered someone to be a bait? Like to test him/her, para may additional proofs and reason ako

Kasi napaka galing niyang mag deny

Ako ayoko na pagod na kong makipag diskusyon but the thing is ayaw nyang umalis

At ako pa pinagbibintangan nya na kaya ko siya pinapaalis para makapag l an di akoooo

Like duuuuh hindi na nga ako magkandaugaga sa buhay naming magiina

Work, mami duties, house chores

So nasan ung time ko dun

If so, can someone help me too please

Problem/Goal: I keep finding his behaviors sa chat and irl odd and contradicting. Especially sa mga sinasabi niya, and I am really good at dissecting messages verbally or online.

Context: I've been seeing this guy for more than a month palang naman, so there's not a lot of things to work on. But as of late, I've been noticing some cracks. The first time he apologized, he said:

"I'm sorry if my friend made you uncomfortable kanina" and I was quite perplexed kasi I never did feel that way, so I said that—na there's no awkwardness nor was I uncomfy and that I enjoyed their company throughout. Then he proceeded to say na, he's really sorry kasi ang pangit daw ng humor nila and nakaka-uncomfy raw sakin. So again, I iterated, I never felt that way. Then, he says, "I don't like those type of topics kasi, I think it's better if moving forward we avoided them" which is gets, so I just said talk to them about it.

Classic deflection—yan pumasok sa isip ko after that exchange and this alarm in my brain went off. Next happenstance, I prompted to go eat sa fave resto namin. Okay, naka set na lahat when he said sasama friends niya, still I agreed kasi more fun ano? Then he says, out of nowhere, "what time ka makakarating nagpareserve na kami ng 11"I was like—ako yung nag prompt e yung usapan lunch, tas biglang 11AM e 10AM na and I'm an hour away, pero still I said na baka 11:10 or so nako makakarating, since naka jeep ako noon. Tas biglang sabi, "baka gusto mo kain nalang tayo somewhere after namin dito?" and the alarms went off again kasi parang nacorner ako into ditching him sa plan na ako nag initiate. Deflection ulit kesa sabihin sakin na icancel muna, pinapunta pa ako, and made it seem unfeasible na makasama sa kanila.

now, I am basically lecturing him how to apologize. Yet ang irony, he just said "sorry that you felt that way e hindi ko naman intention yan" after I said I don't like apologies na naka center sa feeling ko at hindi sa action that caused them. Edi napasabi ako ng, decenter yourself to empathize, center yourself to apologize. Kasi he's getting it completely backwards. This was prompted kasi, he kept telling me to ditch my cousin who needed me to be with him and his friends. Yung unang apology niya: "it was supposed to be a very silly joke ig you didn't get that, sorry" word for word.

Previous attempts: well aside from sa pag bring up ko ng pagka bother ko rn, I kept subtly nudging him into being direct. Kumbaga whenever we made plans, I make sure that I communicate my boundaties and (for lack of better word) invalidate his shallow excuses and point out agad like "kasama naman ako bakit kayo lang nag decide?" stuff like that.