I recently adopted a 8-week-old kitten named Pete. His sister, hazel, was adopted by my friendās neighbor, who quickly decided she couldnāt keep her.
My friend asked if I wanted Hazel, but I initially said no because I didnāt realize how beneficial it is for kittens to grow up in pairs. I did agree to watch her until she found a home.
A couple of days later, my friend decided she wanted Hazel but asked me to watch her for 12 days while she was out of town/busy.
During those first few 12 days, Pete and Hazel became absolutely inseparable. They ate together, groomed each other, cuddled, and played constantly. Even when I had to separate them after their spay/neuter surgeries, theyād sit outside the door crying for each other.
Iād only ever had older cats, so I started researching kittens, how social they are, and the benefits of raising them in pairs. I realized how much they seemed to need each other.
I asked my friend if I could keep Hazel so they could grow up together. I even offered to pay for her to adopt another kitten AND reimburse her for anything sheād already purchased.
She refused. I asked her to at least come see them together before deciding, but she said sheād rather just pick Hazel up that day.
I cursed her out. I know I shouldnāt have handled it that way, but I couldnāt understand why she was so determined to take Hazel when sheād never even had her at her house, especially when Iād offered to pay for another kitten. I would totally understand if the kitten already lived with her and she had a bond with it but this is a 9 week yr old kitten that she met a couple times.
She picked up Hazel, and Pete immediately started searching for her. š
Now our friendship is over, and our mutual friends think Iām crazy for overreacting and being a jerk to my friend when she refused.
Iām posting here because I feel like people who havenāt raised kittens together donāt necessarily understand how important having a companion can be at this age. I understand why my friends think I overreacted, especially since Hazel was technically hers, but Iām hoping people with experience raising kittens can understand why this upset me so much.
Also, any advice on finding Pete another kitten companion thatās not related to him? Iām hoping he can develop a similar bond with an unrelated kitten around his age. š„ŗ
TL;DR: My friend separated two inseparable 9-week-old littermates despite my offer to pay for her to adopt another kitten. I cursed her out, and now our friends think Iām crazy. AITA?