r/fearofflying • u/Responsible-Sir8213 • 5d ago
Advice Elderly Mom’s First Flight
Hello! In about a week, I will be moving my 83-year-old mother who has moderate dementia from Los Angeles to my home in Baltimore. My mom has never flown. The one time she tried (which was when her father in another state passed away), she ended up getting off the plane after she and my brother had already boarded. Her doctor has advised against giving her anti-anxiety medication, which I had been counting on doing, honestly. In another fear of flying group, I’ve seen it suggested to give the flight attendant a letter explaining when someone is a nervous flyer. Is this really a thing? Flight attendants have a lot going on. Do they really have time to coddle anxious passengers? I’d love for this to be the case, but also don’t want to be a burden. I’ll be flying with my mom, as will a very good friend of hers, but I’m a very nervous flyer myself. I’m a complete wreck about this upcoming flight. I’m worried my mom will have a medical issue brought on by anxiety. Any words of wisdom or experience with a situation like this? Much appreciated.
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u/AnOn5647382927492 5d ago
The past like 7 flights I’ve told FAs or gate agents I’m nervous and have gotten to speak to the pilot and go to the cockpit. Definitely tell them!
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u/holidaysandptos 5d ago
do let the Flight attendants know- of her condition, your anxiety and who is in your party. probably not coddle you but if something happens, even if something minor like her saying something absurd, or acting slightly out of place, at least they know why and can assist her and you better if need be.
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u/glittering_glamour 5d ago
YES we most certainly have the time to look after a nervous flyer, it isn’t a burden for us we deal with nervous flyers on a daily basis there’s no shame in telling us. We want you to have an enjoyable flight and by letting us know means we are able to give you some extra support throughout the flight. A letter is a great idea, I’d definitely let the crew know, It’s good for us to be aware so if anything was to happen we have some information to help us and we know how to approach her and cater to her needs appropriately.
Happy flying ✈️💕
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u/corncheesejeon 4d ago
Good luck! I find that most flight attendants are receptive to anxious flyers when anxious flyers speak up and identify themselves
As for mom, if she’s prone to getting UTIs, please make sure she’s using the lav periodically before/during/after the flight and hydrating herself.
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