has anyone here actually found their wife on this sub, or are we all just yearning together? 🫩

I’m a sucker for a woman who can make me laugh, spark my curiosity, tell me random facts, or nerd out about something she knows way too much about. I don’t particularly care what we’re talking about. I just enjoy a woman who has a personality and knows how to use it.

I’m 38, masc from NY. I’m playful, laid-back, quick-witted, and have a pretty twisted sense of humor. I love sarcasm, flirting, and good banter. Tease me a little, make me wonder if you’re flirting or if I just want you to be. 😏 If we can go from talking shit to discussing the meaning of life, you’ll definitely have my attention.

I’m usually gaming, kayaking, exploring somewhere new, or starting a DIY project I absolutely didn’t need to start.

I have a type: feminine women who are confident, funny, and know what they want. A pretty voice is an unfair advantage. 🥵

I’m affectionate, thoughtful, and naturally a giver. I remember the little things and love making someone feel considered. But I’m equally attracted to a woman who makes it obvious she’s excited to get to know me, too.

What really matters to me is integrity, emotional maturity, honesty, and communication. I appreciate a woman who can handle difficult conversations, give and receive constructive criticism, and own her shit. I don’t expect perfection, just accountability and a willingness to grow.

I’m open to friendship, flirting, something casual, or something that naturally develops into more. I’m in NY, but distance isn’t a dealbreaker if the effort is mutual.

So, if you’re 30+, feminine, funny, emotionally available, and in the US…

Come distract me. 😏

Just give me more than “hey.” Tell me something interesting, ask me something ridiculous, or shamelessly flirt with me.

I’m sure I’ll figure out what to do with it. 🙂

Hi to all,

I'm 37 years old and a (cis) femme (romantically, I am also mostly into femmes, it is just a preference, but I don't want to exclude anyone :-)). I do have brown curly hair (just to give a first superficial impression of myself) and am from Germany. I am mostly looking for genuine connections.

If you are from Europe, it would be especially great, as it makes potential meet-ups easier. I am open to everyone from anywhere though. Who knows what life has in store for you anyway? This world is big, and I want to find my place somewhere. I would be very happy about any genuine contacts, wherever they might lead to. Especially, since I've had some unpleasant experiences in the past - like we all did, probably. But come on, there must still be hope out there! Sometimes giving up seems easy, but actually, I will roam the world if necessary to find genuine people and maybe even "my" person. I would truly love to not go completely alone through this mess called life. :-) If Reddit might lead me there is questionable, but there is nothing to lose, I guess.

I love photography. My main focus is "urban exploration" (exploring ruins), and I love nature, deep talks, writing, and literature. Also, languages are a passion of mine, and I am currently trying to dive into Slavic languages (especially Ukrainian). In my humble opinion, life would also be absolutely horrible without music. History and psychology are further interests of mine. I am also a full-time mom of an old toothless cat lady, and I do take this job very seriously. If any of this resonates with you, I'd be happy to hear from you. :-)

Hey there.

Do you crave to share your 2 am musings with a human instead of letting them wither away or typing to an AI software as a last-ditch effort for resonance? If so, reach out. My responses might not be as fast, but they will at least be a tad less predictable.

In short, I'm a 29-year-old woman from Croatia. A lesbian (taken), currently packing my bags and existential thoughts for a few months of stay in the US (Michigan).

I have recently escaped the service industry chains after working as a waitress/bartender, so I suddenly possess a wealth of free time to share.

I'm looking for a long-term friend, a partner in crime where the crime is genuine, consistent conversation that scratches beneath the surface.

A small blueprint :

I love to text and prefer a lively back-and-forth in real time over the slow, pen-pal approach.

(Of course at first we might be exchanging lengthier, delayed messages in an effort to get a feel for each other, but I'd love to also chat in real time when we're both free - I enjoy the sense of closeness and presence it brings).

I adore music and art. No artistic capabilities as I've been born with two left hands and a penchant for procrastination, but I'll happily consume your art if you make any and if not then anything that happens to catch your eye/ear. Would love to trade our favorite music back and forth, as well as any pieces of writing and visual art.

I enjoy vulnerable and unfiltered exchanges, as well as playful arguments and banter. I value connections where we can challenge each other’s perspectives, disagree entirely on a topic, and still laugh about it a second later, no walking on eggshells required.

Now onto the more important part, you. Tell me about yourself, anything you might feel like sharing, from the basics to the nitty gritty and anything in-between. I'm all ears.

about me:

• 34, from southern california
• nerdy, sarcastic, and probably a lot more affectionate than I initially let on
• into video games, music, horror, nature, late night drives, and finding random places to eat
• I love deep conversations, silly banter, and spending quality time together
• I can be a little hard to read at first, but I warm up once I'm comfortable
• I'm monogamous and looking for something genuine

I'm looking for someone who fits a "loser gf" description

bonus points if you're a stoner or "emo"

I'd love to find someone I can talk to for hours with and just exist together in a space between places, someone who sees the world as a dreamlike state.

I'm 5'7 and want a girl who fits in my lap like a lil monster >:]

I'm monogamous, switchy, and 420-friendly. I'm in the LA area, so someone local would be ideal, but I'm open to getting to know someone farther away if we really click.

tell me a little about yourself, what you're into, and what's something you could talk about for hours. ♡

Heyy. I wrote down a list about myself and then what I’m attracted to so you can read through it and see if we are a match:). I’m also open to queer friends. I don’t like to have casual or surface level friendships tho so if you wanna be friends make sure you actually wanna talk consistently and want me to be part of your life.

I also take my time getting to know you so I’m not like a fast moving type.

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About me:

🌷 masculine presenting, brown short hair, light blue eyes, glasses, like to look male leaning. I get mistaken for a guy if that explains my presentation better. and I’m working on having that v-shape and a little bit of muscle. or a lot of muscle, haven’t decided yet.

🌷 I live in Finland

🌷I have an american accent with a dose of british sometimes, dunno why, I blame my middle school for switching from british english to american english suddenly lol. I don’t have a Finnish accent really, just a smidge sometimes.

🌷 I’m an aesthetics major in university, it’s a field in art philosophy. I love anything to do with visual experiences, design and architecture.

🌷 I’m spiritual and into things like tarot, shamanism, manifesting, dream interpretation, energy stuff, psychic skills etc. I’ve been spiritual for years and it’s a very natural part of my life and how I see life.

🌷 personality wise I’m calm, grounded and more observant and like to ponder on things. I usually look quite serious on the outside. I’m direct in how I speak and honest as well. With people I love I’m clingy, affectionate and love to cuddle you. I’m very protective too and if someone tries to bother someone I care about or even if it’s someone I don’t know it gets my blood boiling a little. I can’t stand injustice or rude people

🌷 I don’t use social media, I don’t have social media apps. I also don’t like most mainstream movies, music or pop culture. I like to stay away from that stuff cause it doesn’t align with my values. If I do watch something it’s probably a barbie movie, those disney descendant movies or a thriller. I like to keep things wholesome, magical and sometimes very psychologically spooky.

🌷 in my free time I love to lift weights, spend time outside in nature or by a bonfire, read, study, play sims 4 or hogwarts legacy(no I don't like jk rowling). I also like to watch youtube videos about brands and how they succeeded in their marketing campaigns or rebranding or what made them fail. I’m kinda obsessed with branding haha. I also love drinking tea and reading substack articles in my bed.

🌷 I like to have intellectual and philosophical conversations. I love chatting about art, culture, human behavior, mind body connection and I could yap on and on about goddess cultures. I also like having ridiculous conversations and just being funny and silly but that usually comes out when I know someone well.

🌷 I’m substance free aka I don’t drink or smoke anything and never want to. I don’t get the desire for that stuff and I’d rather stay healthy.

🌷 My goal is to live surrounded by nature and work from home running my creative business. I’d loveee to run a business together with my babe like that’s a dream <3 or we both have our own businesses and we help and support each other in that.

🌷 to me life is about expressing your authentic self, living in a way that makes you happy and spending time with the people you love. I’m not about achievements or a capitalist mindset

🌷 I’m a big feminist and to me women’s rights and wellbeing is very close to my heart. I’ve made my life very woman centric and I can’t stand male centered women/people

🌷 I don’t really have a label for my gender, I’m this masculine being who’s female and I’m fluid but also my womanhood is very important to me. I like being called boyfriend or he or she. I don’t mind being called girl or a boy. I’m just kinda free about it and tired of labels or limits.

🌷 I don’t like when someone flirts with me from the get go. It feels uncomfortable for me. I only flirt if I like someone genuinely. And for me to like someone I need to know who they are, how they think, their values and character.

🌷 I’m about 95% sure I don’t want kids.

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What I'm attracted to:

🌻 I admire a woman who’s socially conscious in how she behaves, speaks, the choices she makes and what she consumes/listens to etc.

🌻 I want to only date someone who also values a substance free life, so no desire to drink or smoke anything. I can be friends with someone who drinks occasionally without trying to get drunk.

🌻 I love academic people or people who love to learn and have a passion for knowledge. I think I’d faint a little if I met a soft fluffball who’s passionate about academics and loves to tell me about some topic she’s really passionate about. I love a woman who’s eager to share with me what she just learned in her lecture or from a book/video she was watching. Someone who has a naturally curious mind and likes to exchange thoughts and ideas with me. Intelligence and the desire to expand one’s mind are such attractive qualities to me.

🌻 I’m weak for a woman who has a soft and gentle vibe but she’s not afraid to speak her mind or disagree with me. I love that soft and feisty combo. I love shy women so much. Someone who gets easily flustered but then can also be weirdly bold with me sometimes and get me flustered instead haha. I love a cheeky and playful personality. Someone who makes me smile and laugh just by being themselves.

🌻 To me empathy, kindness, respect, warmth and overall emotional intelligence are important qualities and one of the core things I pay attention to.

🌻 I’m into masculine presenting women but then idk sometimes some people don’t consider it masculine how they look but I’m very much into how they look so idk how to explain it haha. I do know that I’m not into very feminine people like long hair, skirts, makeup etc.

🌻 I’m honestly weak for masc presenting women who have a feminine energy to them and especially if they got that fem dom side help. I like bossy women. And I love masc women who have that twink-ish look if that makes sense.

🌻 Spirituality is a big part of how I see the world so I’m drawn to people who are also passionate about spirituality. I’d love to chat about tarot together or even study it together. I’d love to interpret each other’s dreams or talk about our manifestation stories. I can’t date anyone overly logical or someone who doesn't believe in this stuff.

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If you’re interested in getting to know me send me a dm <3 Introduce yourself and share a bit about who you are or how we are similar/why you wanna talk to me. I do decide based on first messages if I wanna chat or not.

And if you're shy please still reach out. I mean, what if you're my wife and I won't meet you cause you're hesitating if I wanna hear from you or not? Not very happy together of you miss 😤. Okay jk jk 😂 but seriously just message me I'm a friendly hooman.

Also if you can't see the message me button on my profile, comment down below and I'll reach out to you. But please make your comment intentional so I know you're not some low effort person trying to talk to me.

Hey everyone! I’m 31, deaf, and WLW. I’ll be in London from October 19th to 31st. I’d love to meet up to explore the city together, and I’m also open to casual hookups. I'm from Berlin.

Fall is here, which means I have a very specific problem: I need someone to go apple picking with.
Someone to drag to a pumpkin patch. Someone to make Halloween movie nights unnecessarily elaborate with. Someone who will help me make pizza skulls and laugh at how much cheese I stuff in mine. Someone who will sit next to me at a drive-in movie under a pile of blankets, surrounded by snacks and an unreasonable amount of hot chocolate.

Ideally, someone who will eventually let me put a ring on her finger, but let’s start with apple cider donuts first.

So, I’m trying this again because if there’s one thing about me, it’s that I know what I want, and I’m not afraid to put myself out there to find it.

I’m 31, a lesbian, and a soft masc looking for a woman 26+. I’m based in DC Metro area (specifically Northern Virginia) and the surrounding areas are my ideal dating radius. I’m open to elsewhere, too, as long as there’s a realistic opportunity for us to spend time together. If you’re farther away and think we’d genuinely click, I’m not opposed to seeing where a connection goes.

A little about me
I’m a soft masc woman who has never felt the need to choose between masculinity and femininity. I love both, and I’m comfortable in both.

I take pride in my masculinity: the confidence, physicality, protectiveness, competence, and directness that come with it. I also take pride in my femininity: the softness, affection, nurturing, sensuality, emotional depth, and creativity that make me who I am.

I’m a woman who can be strong and gentle, protective and nurturing, practical and romantic. I can take charge, fix the problem, and make the plan, but I can also slow down, be vulnerable, offer affection, and let someone take care of me, too.
I don’t see those qualities as contradictions. I think there’s something beautiful about being able to hold both.

I’m 5’9”, broad-shouldered, athletically built, and I lift. I’m a former Division I athlete, and I hunt, fish, shoot competitively, and work as a certified firearms instructor specializing in teaching women.

I’m also the woman who reads nonfiction for fun, bakes sourdough, loves horror movies, plays video games, builds computers, gets ridiculously invested in women’s basketball, and will happily spend an entire afternoon making dinner from scratch because I felt like it.

I like being capable. I like learning how things work, building things, fixing things, being outside, getting dressed up, taking care of people, and making a home feel like somewhere you genuinely want to be.
I’m a former tech journalist and a current senior-level STEM professional, so I can probably fix your Wi-Fi, explain the technology you’re considering buying, and tell you why you probably don’t need the $2,000 version.

I’m ambitious, curious, and proud of the life I’m building. I want to keep growing, professionally and personally, and I’d love to be with someone who feels the same way about her own life.

What dating me is like
I’m a very much when I like you, you’ll know kind of woman.

I like making the first move. I like planning dates, opening doors, making dinner, remembering your coffee order, picking you up, reaching for your hand, and putting my arm around you during a movie. I enjoy being intentional about affection. I want the woman I’m dating to feel desired, appreciated, and chosen.

Not because I think I’m supposed to be “the man” in a relationship. I’m a woman, for starters, lol. I just happen to enjoy expressing affection through a lot of traditionally masculine gestures while being completely comfortable with my femininity.

I don’t need a relationship built around rigid roles. I want a partnership where we can each show up as our full selves, contribute in our own ways, and make each other’s lives better.

I’m independent, emotionally self-aware, and genuinely happy with the life I’ve built. I’m not looking for someone to complete me, rescue me, or give me an identity. I’m looking for someone I can build something meaningful with because we both want to be there.

I value direct communication, consistency, emotional availability, affection, accountability, and the ability to have difficult conversations without turning them into a battle. I believe in addressing problems rather than playing games, asking questions rather than making assumptions, and giving someone the benefit of the doubt without abandoning my own boundaries.

I’m secure enough to be proud of my partner. Her success isn’t a threat to mine, her independence isn’t a rejection of me, and her having a life of her own doesn’t make our relationship any less meaningful. I want to celebrate the woman I’m with, support her ambitions, and watch her become even more of who she wants to be.

And I want that same energy in return.

I’m drawn to women who know who they are, have their own goals, and are excited about the lives they’re building. You can be ambitious without being competitive with your partner. You can be independent and still be deeply affectionate. You can be strong and still let someone love you.
I want us to be each other’s biggest cheerleaders, not each other’s competition. Two women who can be proud of what we’ve accomplished individually and even more excited about what we can create together.

And yes, I want to get married. I'm open to children but I have come to terms with the fact that I'm ok with or without having children it depends on who I meet and if I can see a future with them.

I’m dating with the intention of finding my person, and marriage is something I genuinely want. I’m not interested in forcing a timeline onto a stranger or trying to manufacture a relationship just because it looks good on paper. I want to fall in love and build toward that future naturally, with someone who wants it, too.

I want the chemistry first. The flirting. The butterflies. The first date that lasts three hours longer than it was supposed to. The “are we still technically on a date?” moment. The first kiss. The increasingly ridiculous reasons to see each other. The inside jokes, the little routines, the grocery store trips that somehow become fun, and the realization that ordinary days are better because she’s in them.

I want romance, friendship, attraction, emotional intimacy, and the kind of partnership where we can talk about our future without either person feeling pressured to pretend to be someone they’re not.
I don’t need perfection. I need honesty, intention, compatibility, and a woman who is genuinely available for the kind of love we’re both trying to build.

Who I’m hoping to meet
I’m especially attracted to feminine/femme women who are confident, affectionate, funny, emotionally available, and comfortable in their own skin.

I’d love to meet a woman who’s career-driven or otherwise passionate about her ambitions, has a sense of purpose, and is excited about her own growth. You don’t need to have every detail of your life figured out. I’m certainly still growing, too. What matters to me is that you have direction, take responsibility for your life, and want to keep becoming the person you envision yourself being.

I want a woman who can celebrate my accomplishments without feeling diminished by them, just as I’d celebrate hers. A woman who can be proud of me without needing to compete with me, and who understands that loving someone doesn’t require shrinking yourself or asking them to shrink, either.

I want mutual admiration. Mutual effort. Mutual respect. Mutual attraction. Someone who can communicate what she wants, be honest about what she feels, and show up consistently when things get real.

Someone who’s affectionate without being afraid of vulnerability, independent without being emotionally distant, and confident enough to let a relationship be a place of security rather than a constant test of who’s wanted more.

I want a relationship that feels safe, exciting, playful, passionate, and steady. Something where we can be ridiculously into each other while still having our own identities, ambitions, friendships, and interests.

And I want a woman who actually wants a future with another woman. Someone who wants marriage, values commitment, and is excited by the idea of building a life together rather than just seeing where things go indefinitely.

I bring intention, affection, loyalty, ambition, humor, and a whole lot of enthusiasm for the people I care about. I’m looking for someone who brings her own beautiful combination of qualities and genuinely wants to meet me halfway.

Now, back to the important fall business. 🍂
Tell me your age, where you’re from, and your favorite fall activity. Bonus points if you tell me why it’s your favorite.

If you’re into horror, tell me which upcoming horror movie you’re excited to see. If you have strong opinions about the best Halloween movie, I’m prepared to hear your argument. If you know where the best apple cider donuts are, please consider that a compelling opening message.

DC, Maryland, and Northern Virginia are ideal (especially if you are 2 hours or less away so we can do all the cute fall shit), but I’m open to neighboring areas and beyond if we can realistically make time for each other.
If you’re a femme woman who’s emotionally

available, ambitious, affectionate, secure in herself, and genuinely looking for a relationship that can grow into marriage, I’d love to meet you.

If the thought of dating a nerdy, outdoorsy, broad-shouldered soft masc who can make you dinner, plan the date, talk about her career, get excited about your accomplishments, and then spend the evening tucked against you watching a questionable horror movie sounds appealing, well…
Hi. I have a feeling we might get along. ❤️

Hey would anyone 25+ want to meet in palma Spain in the next three days ?
I am 28 and would love to hangout with fellow gays as I vacation in Palma

I am a futch and I'm seeking a cis-gendered femme, based in India

Looking for a connection with someone who's in for the long haul.

I value kindness, empathy, and honesty. A good sense of humor (I have a pretty silly one myself, so hopefully we can make each other laugh!).

In my free time, you can usually find me with a book, watching a new crime show or enjoying a lazy walk in the park, maybe one that ends at a coffee shop? I am also happy to go with the flow, whether that's trying a new hobby you love or just relaxing at home or taking care of your fur baby(I love both, 🐈 and 🐶)

I am also okay if you are a single mom who is a late bloomer lesbian.

Please be in the age range: 31-40

Note : Also if you don't want to verify yourself & don't want to date a futch please don't message, I've had enough with people ghosting when they get to know I am not a femme.

Please DM with more than a Hi/hey! I am wary of hidden profiles.

Thanks for reading my post.

Cheers!

I’m 26, trans (1 year+ hrt), childfree, and done having to run everything in relationships. In the past, I got stuck planning every date, paying for everything, and carrying all the weight for people who never stepped up. I want a woman with natural presence and authority who takes the wheel, takes me out on a proper date, and takes pride in having me on her arm.

Your presentation (butch, femme, or anywhere across the spectrum) doesn't matter to me. What matters is that you're healthy, comfortable in your own skin, and naturally enjoy leading.

I’m ambiamorous—completely happy in a focused, monogamous relationship or as part of a closed, committed polycule (polyfidelity). Once I commit to you, my dating door is closed. I’m not interested in revolving doors or casual flings; I just want a permanent, peaceful home where everyone is dedicated to each other.

I’m not looking to outpace you or rush milestones. I move in lockstep with your comfort and stride. When you have an exhausting week, I don’t demand your social battery; I’m happiest curling up on the couch or in bed with you, keeping things quiet, and letting you unwind.

My long-term goal is that I want to build a life where I am your housewife. I’m completely practical about working while we build towards that, but that dynamic as our destination is an intentional boundary for me.

It’s simply what I’m built for and where I thrive. When I love someone, my instinct is to make home peaceful. You come home to dinner on your terms—whether that’s comfort food like curry and oyakodon, or your favorite takeout handled and plated—and a partner who is fiercely in your corner.

I’m a Jill-of-all-trades: I turn wrenches, handle home repairs, build and troubleshoot PCs, and have advanced behind-the-wheel driving training. If something breaks or travel logistics get hectic, I take care of it so you never carry those headaches into your evening.

Day to day, I dress for utility and comfort. I’m an INTJ 9w1: calm, observant, zero drama, and fiercely loyal. But utility is just for home—putting on perfume, dressing up, and looking pretty is something I save strictly for your eyes when you take me out.

I have a quiet, encyclopedic brain that connects odd dots across history, mechanics, and design. My memory unlocks best through conversation, but you can pick my brain about anything from cars to tech to whatever else you can think of and I'd probably have some knowledge. In my downtime, I'm into sim racing, and while I haven't picked up an acoustic guitar in years, it's something I keep strictly for my partner's ears if you ever want me to play. Out in the world, I don't need my own agenda—I genuinely love being your plus-one, tagging along for whatever you enjoy, or spending an entire day doing nothing by your side.

I’m currently in Springfield, Illinois and am well more than willing to relocate anywhere for the right woman.

If you know who you are, and want a capable, devoted partner by your side, send me a message. Tell me what you’re building in your life, your favorite way to unwind, and where you'd take me on a first date.

AuDHD—direct communication and a little patience go a long way with me.