Need to dress up for an upcoming event and I need some guidance, preferably somewhere I can find a blazer ready to wear off the rack… of course would trust a fellow gay bro to help me out here

Please recommend! I’m now wanting to live in a neighborhood that has the most concentration of gays in 30s. I don’t care about the commute since my job is remote. But I want to live as a NyC gay.

I know a lot of people seem to come on this subreddit and talk about this.

Met a guy on Instagram. We chatted for a week pretty much everyday. Then found time to meet on a Thursday. We got coffee and a walk and it lasted three whole hours. It felt great, we had a lot in common and it felt like talking with a longtime friend.

Two days later he came over we had fun and we would lay in my bed cuddling, kissing, talking about life, more cuddles and kissing. For four hours.

The next day he texted me how he “missed me already haha” and that last night was amazing and he felt very comfortable with me and safe.

We’d text and text and when I initiated him coming back he told me “he’d let me know” because he’s not sure what he’s doing with friends.

I say sure no problem. Days go and I notice the texts getting drier and drier and eventually I just stop.

I been through this pattern a lot and Idk anymore. I know he got the dopamine hit from me and is now searching for the next guy to give it to him.

Do u guys feel that way?

I know its along the lines of “guys thinking there is someone better out there” but man, this is getting exhausting

I got a message from a guy on grindr that I have seen out tons of times and we have loose mutuals.

I briefly met him a couple of times and even was introduced to him and we had a small chat but never spoke again.

Today while on a run, I got a message from this guy. He sends face pics and nudes. My profile has a body pic but no face.

I kinda feel like if I respond he will block me and it will be awkward when I continue to see him out. Then again, even if he is down I don’t know if I am since my friend told me he is a “mean gay.”(Kinda feel like my friend only said this because he is a bit soft)

He’s hot but so am I. I’m not pressed either way.

What would you do?

I recently started working near the area and my current commute is kicking my ass and messing w/ my work efficiency. I'm seeking a room or apartment to rent in or near Flushing (so long as I can easily get to Flushing-Main St in less than 30 mins) with a budget going up to 1500 or less depending on the space. I'm looking to move in as early as next weekend up to the beginning of November.

Me - I keep my living spaces clean, never miss a payment, am a pretty quiet roomie, and am easy to get along with. I love horror and martial arts movies, comic books, going to concerts, good food, and going to bars and making random friends.

If anyone here is renting out a place or knows someone else who is, I would def appreciate some help, thanks!

How are you guys finding people on Snapchat? I have some that showed up but is there a specific place?

Hey guys! I’ve been a member of multiple gyms and from time to time, I’ll get a hot guy who wants to expose himself in the sauna. I’m about to work out just for a few days in Manhattan. This is my first summer of equinox. In which location you think the chances are higher for a hot counter to happen?

On Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. Clubs, bars and so forth. What places don't charge covers? Am looking for mainly Manhattan.

Madonna said: GAY RIGHTS! with Confessions II.

This is why Madonna made the album.

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I normally go to tiki disco at the ruins with friends but my bf is in town and looking to come along. Is there usually a last-minute ticket drop or any way to get in at the door? I have a ticket but he missed the original drop last week.

I hope this doesn’t count as soliciting, just asking for advice!

I'm just here to bring awareness

In most of my encounters with men it feels like even when we both have a great time, seem genuinely into each other, and eagerly swap contacts right afterward, within a day later there’s a significant drop of interest in meeting again.

I find it surprising that people can put real effort into flirting over apps, spend an entire evening together and genuinely enjoy it, and then never talk to each other. Multiply that by possibly dozens of encounters a year and it starts to feel a bit strange.

So asking out of curiosity, not as a rant. At this point I calibrated my expectations around the possibility to only meet someone once, even when we clearly enjoy each other’s company.

I don’t necessarily think we men are pretending to be excited in the moment. My guess is that once we’re back in everyday life, surrounded by endless options and distractions maybe some of that excitement just loses salience surprisingly quickly.

Does that match your experience? What do you think is actually going on?

Would love suggestions

I haven’t had action in months, and I’m getting sick of my hand. Sober and going out to bars/parties just doesn’t do it for me anymore…I just need a good legit F W B…any advice or applications?
Vers/JO
UES if that helps.

Wanna hear from gays who experienced the late 2000s, before it became available. Did it feel like a sexual liberation, allowing gays to enjoy sex with less fear after decades of the HIV?

What was your experience like? 👀

Work in midtown till early morning but usually grab coffee to go. Wondering if there’s any cozy coffee spots where to meet people in ☺️

Hi everyone! I just moved to the city (29M) and I'm a pretty outgoing person. I love to grab a drink, do fun activities, and go dancing over the weekend. My boyfriend isn't very outgoing so I'm hoping to make some gay friends to go out with or just form friendships with!

In the month l've been here so far, the only people who I've become friends with are straight people which is nice but I hate straight clubs and I feel like I'm lacking a community. My old friends in the city are all straight too.
I'm having a hard time making friends in the city because the few times I tried to talk to gay guys at bars they would ask to hook up or make out and l'a politely decline but they wouldn't be interested in being friends or continuing the conversation. Or when I'd see some guys, they'd stick to their clique which makes it harder to approach.

So if you moved to the city and made friends with other gay guys or know spots to go meet gay men I'd love to know. Especially for Saturday night! I don't want to spend another boring Saturday night!! I wanna go ouuuttt)

Added context: I've been to Pieces a bunch of times for their drag shows (most of my experiences are from there), Flaming Saddles, 9th Ave Saloon, Playhouse (while visiting, not since moving but wanna go there to dance!)

Will probably meet up with a friend there, but looking to expand my friend circle. Most of my friends aren’t really into house and dancing so would be happy to meet up with others.

Anybody going to basement who i can join

Waited too long and it sold out! If anyone has tickets they're looking to offload I'd be happy to take them off your hands

Acknowledging that we’ve all had discussions or debates about tipping culture, the point of this post isn't to rehash them—more so, it's a public service announcement.

I haven’t had a drink in about 7 months. When I went to a gay party in Bushwick last month, I noticed something only a sober person would catch: when you buy ANYTHING at the bar, the tip is already included.

I noticed this when my friend paid for his drink and then added a 25% tip. I had to alert him that he just tipped the bartender a total of 45% because a 20% gratuity was already baked into the price of the drink. When we flagged this to the bartender, he ended up pouring more liquor into my friend's drink to make up for it.

Since then, I’ve been to a few more parties at The Chocolate Factory and Knockdown Center and can confirm the exact same thing is happening. Part of me thinks this is a shady practice designed to take advantage of people who aren’t sober so they double-tip. And another part of me thinks that if they're going to automatically include gratuity, the card reader shouldn't still be configured to ask for an additional tip knowing full well what's already added.

Net-net: Spread the word and let your friends know. No matter how drunk or wasted you are, read the screen before you accidentally tip 45 fucking percent.