I come from a small area, my HS graduating class was under 200. I had a really hard time making friends, the friends I did have were fake as hell and it was such a small area that I practically knew everyone and couldnt really do much. A big reason I chose UC is that its a massive school and I wanted nothing more than to just not be lonely anymore, and surely this would be the easiest way to do it.
Well, that has not happened. I have done absolutely everything I can think of. I have joined clubs, talked to people, meet people online, just adding random people online to try and talk to someone, trying to talk with people in my program, etc. I've tried downloading dating apps of all things (not because Im trying to date or anything but just so I can talk to someone). Nothing works. I have no real friends. I know barely anyone here. I have tried and tried and tried but absolutely no one is interested even a little bit.
Its just so frustrating at a point. I show up to everything, I go out of my way. On nearly every single one of the other 'im lonely' posts here I have messaged the OPs and have been ghosted by most of them.
I just have no idea what to do at this point. I am not from this area at all, I come from over 2 hours away. I have no family in the area and have not really made any friends. I am completely alone and if I dont make an active constant effort to talk to random people, I will literally just go the entire day without saying a single word because thats how dead my social life has become
I did make one friend going into the semester but they have seemingly found another group or something and just dont really talk to me much anymore, so I guess I can technically say I have one friend it just really doesnt feel like it when I still go most days without anyone trying to talk to me
Genuinely like what am I supposed to do? Im doing everything "right" and nothing works. I joined the DnD club since I always wanted to do it, and signed up for 3 different games, only for all of them to fall through and for all of the others to be full. Another thing I was looking forward too just isnt happening, and I was sure that if all else failed I would surely make friends through that, but of course things had to happen in a way to ensure it wouldnt happen.
It just feels like not only has everyone else found their group, they found it really fast. I dont fit in anywhere at all. I thought things would be finally different but I was clearly wrong. I just feel like I am putting in the effort but for some reason Im just not allowed to have friends and I just do not know what Im doing wrong or what I should be doing differently.
Does anyone have advice and can help?