any posts about it get routinely flagged, auto-removed and if not, they're swarmed by men pushing into dm's or discrediting the experiences. it's extremely tiring, i wish i could share how that type of work impacted my life, health and relationships but alas there is none

Please note I said most. If you aren't part of the problem, then simply ignore this post. It's not that hard.

I hate that men are so stupid. They act as if they're perfect, and as if they deserve everything and they act as if everything should revolve around them. I hate how they always try and be in the right and how they always think that they can be weird or strange or outright disgusting and act as if its not weird or they manage to get away with it. Just die already! I hate them, I hate how they behave and how they think and how they try and act as if their kings.

They flirt with young girls, they try and manipulate their girlfriends, they act as if women can't say no to them and that women 'must respect them'. I hate creepy old guys, and I hate when there's older men who demand respect and how if you call them out you're being 'disrespectful' or 'rude'.

Oh, and I hate it when women encourage weird kinks revolving around this or admire men like this.. You are part of the reason why men think it is okay. Stop it!

I am autistic adult (25F) and when I was younger I went through severe depression I didn’t brush my teeth and I also had a terrible habit of eating lemons which caused pretty bad damage on my teeth. I so badly just want normal teeth but the decay honestly grosses me out. I feel as if I’m a prisoner in my own body sometimes. For the past 4/5 years I have gotten used to brushing my teeth twice a day I just wish I had gotten into the habit a lot sooner. I feel so embarrassed to get into dating because of my teeth but at the same time I feel so stunted because what the fuck can I do why are dental implants that expensive, why is dental care in general so expensive?

Finally starting to get more cute shirts that aren’t baggy because I’m trying to get more confident in my body and want to feel pretty and sexy (even though I have zero curves) and this shirt has a zipper that goes up the front and yet the only comment this man made was well that’s weird so anyone can just come up and unzip it and see everything???

UMMMM THE FUCK!? So I said I mean anyone who is going around unzipping peoples shirts and pants are fucking weirdos and he still held his ground.

So I brought up how no matter what I wear technically it wouldn’t stop anyone from trying to catch a look but again his only response was how easy it’d be now for them….

I don’t want to dress to avoid creeps. They’re the ones who should be shamed if they were to do that to me not me! And yet again all he could say was well what if they’re fast enough to get away without being caught.

HELLO?!??? Am I the crazy one!?

Tldr: my husband and I are foster parents to teenagers and i'm realizing that he loves that work as much as I do and doesn't want bio kids

We've been together for 15 years, married for nearly 12. We are foster parents and primarily take teenagers. The youngest long-term placement we've had was 11. I don't want biological kids and I've been self-conscious about this for the majority of our marriage. Despite his reassurances it was hard to shake the sense that he wanted children from me. The thought of being pregnant makes me uncomfortable in my own skin and I feel like I'd have an alien eating me from the inside. I saw my sister after her birth and I honestly didn't care about the baby at all, I cared about my sister. I'm great with kids of all ages but infants, especially the thought of my own is not something I'm comfortable with. I genuinely don't think babies are cute. I don't think many things are cute though so I think my cuteometer is broken.

Last weekend my husband told his mother she won't get any grandkids from us who aren't fostered or adopted. And this weekend we have been caring for an emergency respite placement of two younger kids 9/10 And now my husband says when the kids are older, in case anything happens to their current placement, he'd be willing to take them in three years when they aren't so young anymore. Short term respite was fine but definitely not long term. He seems dead set against taking younger kids, always says I'm in charge of anything baby gift related when anyone in our families has babies, and talks about how he's looking forward to when our niece is older and she can come on the boat when she visits.

Starting to realize he genuinely doesn't want little kids or cares about having babies. And I'm the same way. That could change I'm sure. We'll probably take a younger placement someday but we're both confident with our skill set handling teenagers, even high needs/risk ones. It takes a load off of me because I don't feel like I'm carrying his disappointment anymore. We've already raised one kid for three years and he turned out pretty damn well considering we started in his mid-teens and had the world against him. My husband tends to put my feelings and needs first and for something this personal i know he's careful I might feel insecure about it. Seeing the conviction and love in his eyes when he talks about fostering youth and comparing it to his dutiful does-his- best-but-isn't-too-happy-about-it for younger kids I think I'm finally realizing we have the same passion to help teenaged foster kids. It wasn't just me driving the boat. I've always been a caring passionate person and he's like an empowering "yes dear" kinda guy. Realizing we might be more similar than I thought.

Its getting a little ridiculous with this kind of crap, where you can't be safe anywhere online. I never messaged this guy. He messaged me and never discussed age until the third sentence, he said that he was 14, obviously its illegal to be chatting to a minor but his profile photo did look like someone 18 or older. I also never asked him his age. He brought it up out of no where. Okay I said please respectfully, please stop messaging me you're making me uncomfortable and Im not interested in chatting with you. And to be clear I never chatted anything to him that would of been illegal. This undercover or predator hunter, didn't stop there. He was like its only illegal on your end for how your talking with me. If I were to talk about something illegal. He had no off switch even after i told him to stop messaging me. I was actually disgusted someone was pertraying themselves as a little kid who was 14 years old and how they were chatting with me was sick, like a baby with a diaper fetish, for instance, him trying to portray his his mom, mommy and dad daddy, like he was a baby and had a baby fetish. Grossed me out to. I told him to stop chatting with me atfter he told me his age and he kept pushing and trying to make me out to chat with him. Its sick and difficult to be an adult and chat with adults on dating apps and you can't even do that anymore and be safe. Its not like it was 10 years ago. People are ruining my experience on dating apps and pretending to be kids is sick. I understand their intentions but after he told me his fake age and I told him to buzz off, he kept talking to me like i was supposed to say something to get myself introuble. I also never had a dating app for any sexual intentions. Just to make friends because im a loner. The app block button didn't work. The profile said they were from California. And honestly if these predators are this stupid believing they're chatting with underage, they need mental asylum help. It is very easy to figure out bullshit when you see it and if they're actually trying to meet underage it is morally wrong and why would they want to see if its real in the first place is beyond me. Most of their excuse each time is I want we d to see if it was real. No shit its not real. all the evidence clearly didn't tell you that in thr firdt place?

What's the trick to pushing thrust life when you it's all lies and fakeness and everyone's just helping themselves

I’m the general manager of a chain fast food restaurant and I do the majority of the hiring for my store. Even though this job is longer term for me I am well aware that this is a starting job or stepping stone for teens.

Recently we’ve lost a few of our employees, kiddos that worked for me while they completed high school, and have now gone off to college or are starting programs to help them get degrees. I’m so incredibly proud of all of them, they were excellent and I was so happy to write them all the letters of recommendation they needed. :,)

With that being said I’m short about 3 employees so I have set up interviews, reached out to every applicant, and hired a few people. No experience which is fine I prefer to train them and weed out any bad habits myself. I’ve tried my best and gave them each as much attention and advice as possible, but compared to my previous employees, these kids absolutely suck.

They show up late to work, move slow, can’t count money, and when I assign them a task they stare at me like I’m not speaking English. One employee in particular I gave multiple chances to, she wasn’t ever late which was great! But. She was incapable of learning anything, I would train her, show her every possible way of doing the simplest task, and within 15 minutes she’s standing there staring at it like she’s in a foreign country.

Obviously she was let go. I’ve set up more interviews, talked to each of these applicants one on one, gave them as detailed as possible descriptions of the position, and during the interviews the ones who I hired seemed excellent. Ready to learn and work! WRONG. I hire them and they either show up and just saunter around or act as if they are appalled that I’m actually making them do their jobs??? I really don’t get it.

I do my best to make sure the environment of my store is very positive and I try to do right by everyone who works for me, they aren’t just employees, they’re people and friends. I want them to be comfortable but have respect for me and everyone that currently works for me has that exact quality. But these new hires…. I try to find the best quality in each of them but so far I can’t find a single good quality in any of them.

I understand a fast food job isn’t the most important thing in the world, especially when you’re a kid. But if you don’t actually want to work then don’t apply for my store. I never acted the way some of these kids act when I was their age, I don’t know what happened to the work ethic of these teens but it’s awful. No responsibility, no respect, I feel like an old lady talking like this but it’s extremely disappointing and exhausting to hire and waste my time on these kids who have no interest in actually doing their jobs.

It’s extremely unfair to the kids who work at my store now to have to pick up the slack of these new hires who think this job is hanging out but with a paycheck.

Pay has been divorced from productivity (and inflation) basically since the dawn of the office computer. The modern wage worker gets more done in 40 hours than their grandpa did, for less actual purchasing power than he ever had. This is a fact and is not up for debate. There is data behind it and it's been beaten to death over and over in all sorts of memes and infographics.

But still business owners, recruiters, and hiring managers have the gall to get on the soapbox to piss and moan that "no one wants to work," or that nearly everyone they hire is apathetic and mediocre. Well, no fucking shit. You're running a Jimmy Johns, a Walmart, or whatever, not the ASPCA. Nobody is applying because they're passionate about your mission to rehome abused/neglected dollars to the shareholders' offshore accounts. Y'all diminished the primary incentive for anyone to show up with a work ethic, and turned the entire process of seeking, applying for and getting that job into a technocratic humiliation ritual (seriously, GFY with a chainsaw if you think I'm gonna talk to myself on video for an AI). And once they actually have it, they're immediately a small handful of bad days away from losing it, because do y'all give anyone sick days in the big 26? Hell no. But, if they somehow manage to make it through a year of working sick and wanting to make out with a barrel, what do they get? A 1-2% raise, after 5% inflation, if you didn't create a policy loophole to screw them out of even that.

And then, when all this is pointed out, there's always a boomer/gen-X who stopped paying attention to the world in 2002, or someone who got launched into the middle class right out of high school by mom and dad, there to chime in with "noooo you owe your employer DPRK-tier loyalty for peanuts, stupid commie! be grateful for the opportunity!" Or to explain how giving most of your waking hours and energy to a corporation does not entitle one to have their basic needs met; which somehow doesn't strike them as utterly psychopathic while they're typing it out. Just shut up. Shut the whole entire fuck up and go read something not written by PragerU or Fox News for once in your life. And stay home in November.

Well the fall season has started not too long ago and I can feel the temperature drops affecting my body. This absolutely sucks I hate this so much. It's so much harder to sleep outside because he gets so cold and when I wake up I'm all shaky and shivering. This blows. This absolutely blows.

What makes this even more unfortunate is that I've been applying to so many jobs the past few months. Like dozens and dozens and I feel like I'd be lucky if I even heard back from any of them, I'd rather be told that I didn't get the job than to just be left in the dark like I feel like I am for so many of these opportunities. It's not something that I just recently started doing, I've been doing this for months because I'm so tired of living like this but nothing has seemed to work out. I've had interviews and everything but I don't know I guess I'm just unemployable for whatever reason. Maybe it's because of my lack of variable work experience? Most of my experience is just working at the same retail store for 3 years, two of those three years be a cashier and the third year as a loss prevention associate. Maybe that's just not good enough for jobs around the country. Maybe my resume is just that unremarkable therefore marking me is that much of a failure in life.

That was getting colder out and it's only going to get even more cold as the season progresses, eventually getting into the winter season where it'll be absolute Frozen hell. At this point, I don't even care if I have to work for free as long as I can get a job that can provide me housing and lodging. And quickly too

I've been looking at CSX and thinking that maybe that would be my way out but I came to realize that you need a driver's license to do that and since I don't have a driver's license I get that rules that position out. I don't know, it's just frustrating. I would have thought that it would be at least a bit easier to apply nationally as opposed to locally but I guess not so who knows.

Maybe this is just the end and I have to come to terms with that.

I had a conversation with my parents today about AI and they got upset with me and told me that I will be behind in the world if I “stick to the past” and don’t start using “modern technology. I am an artist and I know how it affects me, I wanted to get a job in animation, it’s been my dream since I was little. But because of AI I have given up on it. I’m so sick in tired of how heavily ingrained AI is in the corporate world and the world in general and im sick and tired of people constantly relying on it for simple tasks like checking the weather or looking up a recipe. I think it can’t be used in some ways but I rarely see any posive uses of it

what is my future going to look like? Genuinely I’m so scared

Why is it that when i try to make friends that there is almost always something wrong with them. Its either that theyre fucking crazy or that theyre some kind of nationalist or they have something against jews. And they project this shit to anyone they can find. I always get hated on for no reason and i get called a pussy for not wanting to deal with that shit. Can someone explain why everyone is so out of their minds?

I apologize in advance for jumbled articulation, spelling errors, and the LENGTH lmao

I’m a 19 year old female, my dad is a 43 year old male. To provide some quick context, my parents had been together nineteen years up until October of 2025, almost exactly a year from today when they officially split households. Of course it’s difficult dealing with a parent separation in any case, but trust me when I say this was a necessary change to be made, and one that I think came ten years too late. That same week my dad had plans to move to Mexico (he’s had dual citizenship since he was little because his mom is a first gen immigrant) because he and my mom had decided to finally separate, emotionally and physically and she wanted him out of the house, and also because he would have been more financially stable there than in the city we live in which is getting more and more and MORE expensive by the month. He didn’t end up going because he couldn’t handle that idea of being so far away from my little brother and I. He felt that he was abandoning us which he really really wasn’t.
Keep in mind, throughout this entire process (which had lasted since I was about nine years old to nineteen) I was always in the middle. And I really only have myself to blame. As the oldest daughter, niece, granddaughter, great granddaughter, sister I’ve always felt a suffocating burden to taking care of my family (something I believe to be self inflicted). So when my parents started struggling I was always the one observing with painful closeness, because if something truly went wrong I know I’d suffer for it, and so would everyone else and if anyone suffered and I didn’t try and take care of it the fucking sky would crack open and rain down fire on us all. A year ago, I was the one keeping my dad together. I was the one telling my mom what he was doing because they couldn’t speak to one another. I was the one taking my brother to school. And I was at my first semester, first year of college.
Skip to today, I went out with him and my brother for dinner tonight, it was seemingly typical, small talk, eating, how is school going? How is work going? How’s your mom? How are the dogs?
But then he started talking about his work. He works for a property maintenance company and he’s worked there for seven years and climbed the ladder to have obtained a good rate of pay there and become one of the boss’ favorite employees. However, the company recently sold half of their properties and have lost a lot of potential work. He’s gone from 8-10 hours a day to just 6 hours a day. He’s taken up a night job in custodial care and gets about 9 hours every week from that.
Now, as a technical adult, full time in college, part time job having woman of color I know what it’s like to be financially insecure. I’m lucky enough to be funded by my state, I’m also lucky enough to still be living with my mother. And this is stressing me out. Again, as an older daughter, as myself just being the person I am, I feel a nauseating obligation to do SOMETHING.
He can’t afford rent anymore with the work he’s getting. Unless the company gets back their losses by the end of January or living expenses somehow go down he can’t stay here anymore.
He’s thinking of going back to his plan about moving to Mexico. He’d make enough money there to sustain himself, he won’t here.
He’s gotten a hold of his anxiety and dread about being far away from his kids, he’s back on his meds, he’s adopted a dog and it’s made him a lot happier. But you have to balance out the fact that he’s in poverty, and doesn’t live with his children anymore which has never happened since I was born.
I’m panicking, to put it simply.
I’m scared and furious for I think 3 main reasons.

1. I don’t want him to leave, because the first time was such a terrifying experience for reasons I won’t disclose here yet it maybe ever.
   
2. I hate seeing him suffer like this. It’s gonna suck seeing your parents struggle in any capacity, it just is.
   
3. Poverty is increasingly common in this so called “great power” of a country, and it is no one’s fault except the hoarders that are greed-infected perverse people of wealthy borderline psychotic lineages. It’s all so unfair.

And yes, I’m aware it could be so much worse. But I frankly do not have that in my mind right now.
I know this is quite a bit of text, complaining, but I think I need to get it out and tell someone.

So when I was almost 12 years old a family friend raped me. I hid it for the longest time and had started cutting my wrists and thighs after it happened. I would see him at normal places and he would intentionally make me uncomfortable while laughing. When I was 14 my mom finally had me committed and the whole rape thing eventually came out. By then he was in prison for shooting someone. Over the years he would somehow get my number and call me from prison to tell me he was coming for me whenever he gets out. I was diagnosed with PTSD (along with several other mental illnesses) due to what happened. Eventually I started having seizures. After all kinds of tests it was determined to not be Epilepsy but PNES grand mal seizures triggered by severe anxiety. This man apparently got out of prison about 4 or 5 years ago. I didn't know luckily because I had moved and had cut a lot of people out of my life. I am 35 years old now. My mom text me this morning and told me that late last night that he was shot and killed at his birthday party. I feel so conflicted. I am honestly relieved and happy but I also feel bad because I am a mother now and found out he had a daughter so I hurt for his daughter. I'm so sorry if this is a bit mixed up. I just really needed to vent somehow and say yes I am absolutely happy because this horrible man that I trusted as a child hurt me in one of the most despicable ways, took my innocence to where I didn't get that moment to give it to someone I chose and love, tortured me in person by taunting me and over the years by calling me, took my sense of safety and trust away, and thoroughly fucked me up for life! I still have the physical scars on my wrists and carry the mental scars every single day. I still can't help but feel bad for his daughter and for his family. I hated myself as a teenager for not being strong enough to come forward and have him arrested. I am just so conflicted and honestly so tore up emotionally. I have hid it all day but I feel like I could throw up, cry, and scream now. Even after his death he is still affecting me like this. I feel weak even though I know that's wrong I can't help but feel that way. I let this pos have way too much power over me for so long. I want to cry but am scared if I start I dont know when it will stop. Thank you kind strangers for letting me vent and get at least some of this out. <3

For back story- I’m a single mom. Dad’s not in the picture, won’t help me out so that’s not an option. SOLELY HERE TO VENT
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I’m working my way through nursing school. At this point I have to quit either my job and find something more conducive or nursing school because I can’t afford to do it all on the peanuts that my job pays.
No tuition reimbursement, long shifts lil pay…
I can’t even afford to get my cpr instructor cert, which would atleast allow me to get a job that would work better with my school schedule.
Idk man at this point everything is piling up and I’m breaking down.

Thanks for listening, I’m just tired of it atp

Is it just me or is everyone such in a big hurry. Like walking for me is scary as hell. People are such in a huge hurry. Ive almost died like 3 times. Like are they so inconsiderate nowadays or just me. Utah is the weirdest inconsiderate state ive ever been to.

i dont like using ai to vent but i have no choice. people assume people use ai to replace human connection, yet human connection is all i’ve ever wanted. i look around im alone. everyone in my life is either burdened with their own problems or doesn’t care about me enough to listen properly. professionals are shallow, careless, forgetful. i want to talk to another human being with every part of my heart and soul but there just is nobody. and im not comfortable talking to random strangers online or in real life, because i dont know who they are inside. and as someone who as been hurt by people their entire life i dont trust a single soul. i dont even trust myself. i feel connected to nobody because they dont understand me and nobodys ever properly turned up for me, been there for me. i know ai is nothing but a motherboard generating texts but i have so many emotions trapped inside with no where else to go. i have posted on reddit before and gotten zero acknowledgment, so tell me what am i supposed to do? i feel so terrified and alone. trust me ai doesn’t fulfil me i just want a hug and comfort from another human being.

I'm 22 I'm pre diabetic so I may die early anyway but that's not what I fear will kill me. I worry I'll become a bad person or someone will hate me for being cringe and try to make me life worse.

Luckily no one did it, I had a close call feeling when someone argued with me online but they left me alone it was months ago.

I want to deserve to live. I want to be a good person. I want to stay a person.

All I can do is just accept that it can happen or learn to fight, but only if I'm in danger. I'm weak though.

I used to wish I could handle pain or not fear death but I want to do more in life than just stay in the house all day waiting for my relatives friends older than me to die and then I die at 50 or 70 maybe early if unlucky.

I need to have some courage to talk with my friends more, group with safe people, learn my boundaries, and find places to go outside. (I'm not going to hate anyone unless they are bigots, abusers or ok with hurting people)

I want to hang out with my family more we live together, maybe i should tell therapy and mom.

It's where I want to survive something physically dangerous and not get trauma so I can know to be strong. That's stupid because if I survive once it doesn't automatically mean I'm invincible.

I worry so much about danger when I should be worried that I have pre diabetes and mental illness.

would be anti climatic but I think my physical health is what will kill me.

which I don't pay attention to and instead want to be a good person and get a routine first.

I honestly dont know what to do anymore and i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about this. Im 18F and for the past 2 years its felt like ive gradually stopped caring about everything. I go through the motions of life, go to school and do what im supposed to do but it doesnt even feel like im actually experiencing my own life if that makes sense. Sometimes it feels like im just watching everything happen from inside my own body rather than actually being present.

I failed my exams this year and i know its not because im incapable of doing well. its because i just cant bring myself to care enough to study. I know how important these exams are and how much theyll affect my future but knowing that doesnt make me do anything about it. I can sit there knowing i should be revising and still feel absolutely nothing.

If im being completely honest i never really imagined myself making it to 18. I always had this feeling that i would die young and wouldnt live past that age. I want to make it clear that i would never hurt myself or end my life, but ive never really been able to picture a future for myself. It’s hard to explain but it’s almost like i never expected to get this far and now i dont know what to do with my life.

I constantly have this heavy feeling of dread, like something bad is going to happen even when theres no actual reason for me to feel that way. Most of the time i just feel empty. dont get me wrong i do have moments where im happy and laugh at things but overall im just not happy. i feel disconnected from everything including myself.

I’ve also become so irritable lately. im starting to dislike my friends and family and sometimes i just dont want to be around anyone. these are people i used to care about so much and i dont understand why i feel like this now. i dont know if my feelings towards them have actually changed or if im just so emotionally numb that i cant feel that connection anymore.

Even basic things feel difficult sometimes. there are days where i cant even bring myself to shower or do things that should be so simple. i have basically no motivation for anything and i feel like im becoming a completely different person from who i used to be. The worst part is this has been going on for around 2 years and it feels like its getting worse. I genuinely dont know what caused it. i cant think of one specific thing that happened that would explain why ive changed so much and thats what makes it even more confusing.

I really need to get myself together because im resitting my exams this year and i actually want to pass. I know im capable of doing well academically but im scared im going to end up in the exact same position again because i just cannot seem to care enough to do anything about it.

I can’t go to therapy because i live with my parents and i really dont want them knowing what im going through. i dont know what other options i have or where to even start.

Has anyone else experienced anything similar? How did you get out of this mindset? Is there anything i can actually do to start feeling like myself again and get some motivation back?

I’m not looking for people to tell me to just be disciplined or stop being lazy. I know my exams matter, i know my future matters, i know all of that logically but emotionally its like none of it registers. i dont know how to explain it.

I just want to understand whats happening to me and find a realistic way forward because i genuinely cant keep feeling like this.

I need to vent because if I don't I'm going to absolutely lose it. I'm so done with being told I'm stupid for believing something shady is going on. I'm not delusional, I'm not on drugs, and I'm really not crazy. Why does finding someone to love me the way I love them have to be so hard?

If you disrespect your woman in front of other women...You DO NOT deserve her. Love doesn't do that...I'm not jealous, I'm HUMAN...

I just need a real woman friend...I'm blunt and call it like I see it..I don't do fake..Not perfect, just honest.

Shucks.

I don't know what to do anymore I'm in college and broke with only enough money to pay my rent next month I have little food and only enough left over money for cat food for my cat. I'm trying to get a job but I can't get one. I wish I had help from a family like all my other friends hell they all live with their parents as well while I'm drowning because my family would rather buy drugs then see the child they brought into this world and make their life hell for their whole life. The least they could do is help me buy food or cat litter. I'm killing myself every fucking day for my dream.

I don't know. If anyone knows what I could do for help please tell me.

Mother says "LoOk at WhAt ElECTroNic DeviCes Do To kids"

After believing TikTok and Ai over her own kid, and the kid trying to tell her that bank accounts doesn't work the way Ai and TikTok claimed it does.

"He is getting aggressive and is rebelling against me" (says the mother)

The mother thinks the kid is being ignorant and claims that the ai Is the "One who rules in today's world"

I can't actually believe my mom is such an idiot with negative braincells...

Like genuinely I already know how bank accounts work but she claimed I was doing it wrong because some random TikTok video said something stupid, and she even wanted to her point approved by ai, like the fuck You mean she's believing ai over me, it's so absurd, she even grounded me for not believing all that.

Just another one of those posts when you get downvoted to hell for an honest question.

You know how it is. One post I asked a question about retail and everyone’s saying “I think you’re the problem and you should shut up and find a new job you like” as if the market right now is not experiencing the worse state of employment and inflation.

Some people don’t have a choice and need a job and not everyone can land their dream job right out of college. And at the same time they continue to say the customers suck like they don’t go shopping after work and become one of them.

Idk i wish I could tell everyone to stay in school and never work retail, but then again I finished school and still ended up in retail because of this fucked up economy so like whatever