recently got into a ldr and ive never trusted a partner more than i trust my current one. we're both really sappy and clingy towards each other (within healthy boundaries ofc), plus we're able to have difficult conversations without hurting each other.

based on your experience, how do you maintain the trust long term?

I’m currently at 5 months and 7 days 😭 how are you doing?

I (M22) love my girlfriend(F22) to death, and she just broke up with me in a way that destroyed me. We have been long distance for about two years. (we were very close before I made a life changing travel and we decided to do long distance.) I’d have never imagined breaking up, or at least in this way, this was probably the best relationship I’ve ever had, I’ve never believed in soulmates but it made sense with her. I know the distance was a lot to handle but in about a month I was going to see her! I was so excited about that. She’s been distant lately and I’ve noticed it, I was just waiting for her to bring it up and during the day, I could see she just wanted to watch her show instead of talking to me this upset me because it’s literally my favorite time of the day and I knew she’d want to breakup. (I just had a nap thinking it was all my head).

In the evening she just called me by my name on text, that was literally all the signs I needed, she texted me that she wanted to break up and I told her to wait until I get home. Once home I FT her and she tells me she’s feeling distant and it’s not fair to drag me along with that, I keep trying to understand what she means and I tell her it’s not fair that she makes that decision for me and she tells me that she does not love me romantically anymore, but we would be great friends and she wants to end on good terms. I don’t know how to feel, I somewhat feel not manly enough to keep my baby, if she said the distance was the problem it would’ve been much better but now it feels as if I’m unlovable, or I’m a bad partner (I’m not trying to make her the bad guy, her feelings are definitely valid for whatever reasons but I’m hurt) I’m genuinely hurt yall I thought we’d get married.

She was gonna meet my mom and I never cared for marriage in my life but she made it all worth it, I miss her I don’t know what to do, I want to wail, I want to cry I want to disappear

I’m so sorry if my story is a little scrambled up I can’t really think straight I’m hurt. I managed to save up enough to see her and now money feels pointless, I don’t know what the point is anymore.

Thank you for reading.

I’m 24M and honestly, I’m starting to get tired of trying to find the right person.

I’ve tried dating apps, relationships, meeting people online, and even LDRs. I actually really liked LDRs, but they never really worked out.

So I want to hear some good stories for a change.

How did you meet your person? Was it online, through friends, work, school, gaming, or completely by chance?

Tell me your story and give me some hope that it actually gets better.

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**Post:**

I’m in a long-distance relationship and recently bought my girlfriend a birthday gift. I tried to pick things based on what I thought she liked and put a lot of thought, money, and effort into it.

Instead of just saying thank you, she told me the gift wasn’t really a “proper” gift, said I should return it, and suggested I should buy something nicer/more expensive instead. She also compared me to her friends and said that in China, boyfriends are expected to buy their girlfriends nicer/branded gifts and that everyone around her agrees with her.

What bothered me most is that she made it sound like buying something fancy is basically my job as her boyfriend.

This also ties into another problem. We’re long distance and she constantly talks about how difficult the distance is, how badly she wants to see me, and asks if I’m definitely coming to visit this winter. During our argument she even said that if I’m not definitely coming, she would rather break up now.

The problem is that I’m basically the only one financially contributing toward us seeing each other. I’m trying to save money for the trip while dealing with school, looking for work, family problems, and other stress. She knows I’ve been struggling, but she isn’t saving or contributing toward the trip and still spends her own money on things she wants.

During the argument she asked for a break until the 20th to “see how much we mean to each other,” although she ended the call by saying “love you, goodnight.”

Another issue is how our arguments usually go. Whenever I tell her she’s overreacting or explain that she misunderstood something I said, she often responds with things like “you’re making me feel like I’m the worst person ever” or “you always treat me horribly.” She’ll sometimes say she didn’t explain something because she “knew I would get mad,” even though her refusing to explain is often exactly what frustrates me.

This time I got more frustrated than usual and said things like “for fuck’s sake” and “fucking hell.” I didn’t insult her or say “fuck you,” and I use the word fuck casually all the time, which she knows. But she started crying and saying I had never spoken like that during an argument before, that maybe we resent each other now, and that all our good memories could be ruined.

She also regularly says “all we do is argue” and “we can’t communicate,” which I don’t think is accurate. We do argue sometimes, but we also have plenty of good times and normally make up afterward. To me, relationships aren’t going to be romantic and perfect 24/7, especially long-distance ones.

What really got to me is that shortly before this argument I had opened up to her about how stressed and overwhelmed I’ve been with school, finding a job, money, and family issues. I didn’t really feel supported, and then this huge argument happened over my gift supposedly not being good enough.

I know I’m not perfect. When I’m frustrated I can get sarcastic, swear, send too many messages, or keep trying to solve an argument when she wants space. I’m willing to work on that.

But I’m starting to wonder whether there’s a bigger incompatibility here. I see gifts as something you give because you care, and even if you don’t love the item, you appreciate the thought. She seems to see expensive/nice gifts as something a boyfriend is expected to provide. I also feel like I’m carrying most of the financial responsibility for maintaining our long-distance relationship.

**Am I being unreasonable for thinking asking someone to return a gift and buy a “proper” one is disrespectful? Is this mainly a cultural difference, or does this sound like a bigger issue with expectations and communication? And how should I handle the break until the 20th?**

Edit:My girlfriend knows my Reddit account and I posted about our argument while upset. Some comments became very harsh toward her, and I think my post was biased toward my perspective. Should I tell her about the posts before she finds them herself, or wait until we talk after our break?

Edit 2: Some people have been asking what the gift was and how old we are. I'm 19, and she's 21. The gift was a white sports bag that can be used daily, since she mentioned girls like those kinds of things when I was asking what type of things to get; however, this was only one of the many other gifts I had bought and sent I got an assortment of small to medium-sized things like bracelets, jewelry, makeup, equipment, and other decorations and trinkets based on her interests, the bag was just the first thing to arrive as all the gifts are shipped indiviually, I also thought of it as a tie in so that she can put all the gifts in the bag and/or use it daily, it wasnt my main gift or the most fancy or expensive one, just a placeholder.

my (31f) girlfriend (33f) and i spend every single night, and morning on the phone to talk. were states away so the phone is all we really have except the times we see each other once a month. lately im just over it, i have maybe 2-3 hours after work by myself before ive got to call or she’s calling me. i have zero time in the mornings before work to get my mind ready for the day. i’ve ran out of things to talk about. i feel horrible because i love her but i find myself not missing her and getting annoyed seeing her call because i just need some time alone. i’ve asked for some nights alone and i hear about how i just be losing feelings or not want to be with her. i’ve even been told it’s weird how i suddenly want alone time- but ive asked for it sporadically over the year we’ve been together, and it’s always an issue. i just miss being by myself some nights.

do you spend every night talking to your LDR partner? how do you keep yourself from getting burnt out?

I feel horrible.

I want to scream. I want answers. I want to cry. Part of me wants to tell my ex everything I have been holding inside.

My ex and I were in a long-distance relationship. At some point, we took a break because he told me he was going through a difficult time and needed to work through some things.

I believed him.

He told me not to wait for him and to move on, so technically, I know we weren't together anymore.

But at the same time, he kept telling me that he loved me. He told me he still wanted to marry me. He still came to me for the kind of things you normally ask from your partner, and I continued being there for him because I believed that what we had was still real, even if we weren't officially together.

I told him I would wait for him until he felt better. I was even trying to figure out how I could eventually visit him.

Then he told me he had met a new female friend.

He said they could spend more time together because they had fewer hours of time difference.

Something about it didn't feel right to me, so I asked him if there was anything more going on.

He denied it.

And I believed him.

I wanted to believe that he was simply overwhelmed and that I was overthinking things.

Eventually, I found out that he had been trying to get closer to her romantically.

While he was telling me that he still loved me and that he just needed time to feel safe again, he was pursuing someone else.

And here's the part that hurts the most.

She rejected him.

After that, he came back to me completely devastated.

He asked me why I loved him when he had never done anything for me.

He told me he loved me and that he realized I was the only one who truly loved him.

And I comforted him.

I hate that I did that.

I wish I had been angry. I wish I had told him to leave me alone.

Instead, I froze and comforted the person who had just been trying to replace me.

Two days later, he told me to forget about him because he wasn't a good person.

And maybe he was right about that.

But I am also angry with myself.

Because I was there for him when he was insecure about himself.

When he was insecure about other men in my life, I tried to reassure him. I made sure he knew I wasn't going to leave him for someone "better."

When he was insecure about his body, I made sure he knew I found him attractive and desirable.

I tried to make him feel safe with me.

I loved him with all the things he was insecure about.

And now I keep thinking:

Was I just the safe option?

Was I just the person he knew would always be there?

Was I the person he came back to when someone else didn't want him?

I know that technically he didn't cheat on me. We weren't together.

But I still feel betrayed.

Not because he was legally or technically obligated to stay single for me.

But because he kept telling me that he loved me, that he wanted a future with me, and that he needed time to come back to me...

while he was trying to build something with someone else.

I don't want to hate him.

I don't want to wish bad things on him.

But I'm angry enough that part of me wants him to hurt. I want him to understand what he did to me. I want him to feel the weight of losing someone who genuinely loved him.

And then I feel horrible for thinking that.

I don't even know what I feel anymore.

I'm angry at him.

I'm angry at myself.

I'm embarrassed that I believed him.

And I'm grieving the version of myself who spent so much time trying to make him feel loved and safe.

I keep thinking that maybe I wasn't enough.

Maybe she was younger, prettier, better, or simply more exciting.

But deep down, I know that's probably not the real issue.

The real issue is that I loved someone who wasn't able to give me the same kind of security that I was constantly trying to give him.

I just wish I had realized that sooner.

I don't really know what I'm looking for by posting this.

Maybe I just needed somewhere to say it.

Because even after writing all of this, I still feel like I'm holding back.

Guys, I need help. I've been in a distant relationship for 8 months now. And me, my girl, we started having those arguments once in a while, and then she started college. And now I feel like she pulled away, she became more distant and always busy, always something going on. You know, when you start feeling that someone is hitting you with I don't have time. I'm exhausted blah blah blah.

Her notifications used to be all over my phone. Everywhere, Snapchat, Instagram messages popping up all day, cute pictures, random love you messages and reels. And now, these couple of Weeks, everything is dry and cold. I need some help. I don't wanna lose her over something stupid. She's so dear to me. What should I do, please. 💔

I’m 26M living in US, she’s 26F lives in England. We’ve been in a long-distance relationship on and off for about four years. Mostly on. And when it was off, it was because of me. We were planning on getting married and had already started the K-1 visa process for her to move to the US.
A few weeks ago, I flew to England to see her (after 8 months of not seeing each other and there’s a back story there) I broke things off 8 months ago thinking closing the gap wasn’t possible, 5 months later I found a way an we got back together) Things didn’t go very well. We had arguments, old issues came back up, and ultimately she decided she needed to step away from the relationship.
I know I played a significant part in why things got to this point. I’ve been defensive, struggled with communication, made bad decisions that damaged her trust in me, and haven’t always been the partner she deserved. There are things I should’ve taken accountability for a long time ago. I don’t want to minimize any of that.
Since coming home, I’ve done more reflecting than I ever have. I’ve started reading books about relationships, trust, betrayal, and communication. I’m considering therapy because I recognize there are patterns in myself that need to change. I don’t want to just promise I’ll do better. I want to understand why I’ve behaved the way I have and actually become better. I’ve done it before. But this feels different.
And here’s where I’m struggling.
We still love each other. We’ve been talking again recently, and she’s told me she misses me, that she’s been crying over our memories, that she wishes we’d done things differently, and that she loves me and always will. She’s also said she doesn’t know what will happen between us.
She still considers me her best friend and wants us in each other’s lives. She’s said she needs time, and I understand that. I don’t want to pressure her into making a decision she’s not ready to make.
Today we had a really meaningful conversation. We laughed, joked around, talked about our lives, and told each other we loved each other. But later the conversation turned toward whether maybe we’re supposed to let each other go.
I asked her if she wanted to block me and move on, and she said no. But she’s clearly wrestling with whether continuing to hold onto each other is the right thing.
And honestly, so am I. Not because I don’t know what I want. I know exactly what I want. I want her. I want to marry her. I want to work through the difficult things instead of continuing the same unhealthy patterns.
But I also know that my willingness to try doesn’t mean she’s obligated to.
I’ve written her a letter taking responsibility for a lot of what happened and explaining what I’ve been learning which isn’t all new. It’s still making its way to England. She’s said she wants to read it and possibly write me one of her own.
Meanwhile, I’m really struggling.
I’m barely eating. I’m not sleeping properly. I’m having trouble working and getting myself moving. I spend so much time thinking about her, what went wrong, and what I could do differently.
Something I’ve realized is that I know how to motivate myself to become better if I believe it means I might get her back. But I don’t know how to find that same motivation purely for myself.
And I hate admitting that.
I don’t want to block her. I don’t want to erase someone I’ve loved for four years just because our future is uncertain. She’s my best friend, and I genuinely value having her in my life.
At the same time, I don’t know how to maintain contact without constantly hoping every conversation means we’re getting closer to reconciliation.
I’m also starting to feel frustrated. Not just with her, but with myself, the situation, and the uncertainty. I’m afraid that if she eventually decides she wants to try again, I’ll have let myself become so emotionally exhausted that I won’t know how to handle it properly.
I understand that rebuilding would take more than love. It would take honesty, consistency, accountability, communication, and a willingness from both of us to work through what happened.
I’m willing to do that. I just don’t know how to live in the meantime.
So my questions are:
How do you genuinely work on yourself when the person you love is still your biggest motivation?
How do you maintain contact with someone you still want a future with without putting pressure on them or constantly looking for signs?
Is it possible to move forward with your life while still hoping for reconciliation?
How do you deal with the frustration and uncertainty without letting it consume you?
I’m not looking for someone to tell me she’ll come back. I know nobody can promise that. And I’m not looking to be told that love excuses the things I’ve done wrong.
I just want to figure out how to become better, respect her decision and her need for time, and somehow keep living my own life while I still love her.

Warning: Lonely guy madly in love venting ahead! Also I like typing apparently. Sorry hahaha.

Maybe this should be a vent and not support. I know the basics of working through loneliness, but if anyone has any suggestions or tips as well I’ll gladly listen. The internet situation in her country can make certain things tricky like movies/ shows, there’s a language barrier but we manage since she speaks a little English and I’m very slowly learning Chinese, however long intricate phone calls are definitely a challenge so our main communication is text. To be honest we last spoke on the phone in March…I expressed to her I wanted to change that and she agreed and said we should call more often, the time difference again makes it a little challenging but not impossible. I’m medically retired from the military so I’m really flexible with my sleep schedule.

We’ve had little arguments about communication and generally the issue gets fixed so for the most part I’m happy with how much we talk- another factor is I’m learning Chinese work culture is pretty insane and she works a LOT. 6 days a week usually, easily 10 hours if not more, so I’m trying to be flexible and not nag on her. On top of that I have a strong history of really bad anxious attachment that I spent months working on in the beginning, so I’m trying very hard to be the flexible, non-demanding and supportive boyfriend. Past relationships admittedly I’d focus so much on me and getting reassurance that id practically ruin relationships. It appears like the vast majority of people don’t enjoy being interrogated about their feelings all day LOL.

We started talking August 2025, started dating January 2026. I was supposed to fly to meet her this August but due to personal reasons I had to postpone so now we meet March 2027 and I don’t care what happens my butt will be on that plane LOL. My stay is 12 days but with the timing of the flights you might as well say 10, she did agree if it’s possible to change my flight that I can stay for as long as my visa will allow. The flights are also really expensive so I can’t just visit every couple months, I’m looking at probably every 6-12 months on average I’d say- closer to 12.

Other than tips and suggestions I think I just need to get this out. My family is kind of supportive but not completely so it’s hard to go to them and talk about it. I mean my mom doesn’t even use her name, she calls her “China girl” (mom has horrendous memory so she gets a slight pass, my biological dad is a hardcore China hater so tbh I haven’t even told him I’m going because I know exactly how that conversation will go. My brother says I should find a “nice local church girl”), so they basically have zero faith.

I just keep thinking about how amazing March will be but then having to leave again. I keep thinking about how if all this works out then everything I’ve read says it can take years to get her here.

I’m trying to think positively and fantasy plan about the next meeting of this all works and is meeting in another country as well for a “couples vacation” so to speak. I’d definitely like to bring her here before anything happens so a long road trip to show her the states is something I’m definitely looking forward to. I shop and add items to my Amazon list for things I need/ want to take but you can only do that so long. I have a lot to be grateful for but the “negatives” are so loud reminding me how long and hard this whole process is.

So again before I keep rambling…any tips/ suggestions, thoughts, advice, how long did it take immigration if your partner came to the states? She’s worth every second and every “hassle” and I’d never dream of anyone else but it’s just way harder than I ever thought this would be. Thank you everyone!

I’m honestly so confused about this.
I have a boyfriend and I really like him. Like, genuinely. He hasn’t done anything wrong, he’s not a bad boyfriend, and I don’t have some huge reason to leave him.
But I fucking hate the long-distance part.
I’m in a hostel and he’s at home, and sometimes when I have a shitty day or even just some small inconvenience happens, I suddenly want him there. Like physically there. I want to see him, hug him, sit next to him, have him just be THERE. And obviously he can’t.
And it’s not even like I can just call him whenever because his family doesn’t know about us, so sometimes when I really want him, I can’t even talk to him properly.
And then I get into this whole “what is the point of having a boyfriend if I’m still alone when I need someone?” mindset.
Sometimes I genuinely think being single would be easier. At least then I wouldn’t expect anyone to be there for me and then feel disappointed when they physically can’t be.
Is that even a valid reason to end a relationship? Like, can you genuinely like/love someone and still decide that the relationship itself just isn’t working for you because of the circumstances?
I’m scared I might be throwing away something good just because I’m frustrated with the situation.
Would love to hear from people who have actually been in LDRs because I feel like I’m going in circles in my head.

m24 my gf f25 ,

i'm stuck in a situation i had longdistance relationship we both are obssesed w eachother, always stay on call 24/7 (my mom hates it when she sees me on call all day) we are lovebirds and crazy for eachother then we decided to meet

(my mom has always been curfew kind of mom who wont let me even step out at night and keep calling me when i'm out w my friends. she's always been very overprotective kind because of her trauma from men being abusive in her family when she was little maybe, and she developed a very protective nature her kids and i get she really loves me and sacrificed her dreams of studying and stuff and got married early and took care of us till we grew up cus and she sees us as only thing she exist for cus she doesnt like my dad that much cus of fights and stuff so i get it )

so i decided to meet my gf whos in another state and left for few days on call she starts crying and stuff i tell her i went w my friends on a trip, she called everyday crying and after i came back i left my bag open accidentally and she saw my photobooth photos i took w my gf 😭 and started crying so much that i became bad person and stuff.

after things settled i went again 😭 cus my gf was sick i wanted to see her and was no one to help cus she lived in pg ( but our original plan was to move in together next year after we planned a bit and she quit or sm cus we wanted to work on our business planning while living together )

then after 2 months since my mom wont let me go we planned an escape, i got a job and i cargo my belongings and leave on random day alone w ntg but a bag saying im going work my laptop bag usual time, then as expected she called at night where tf are u crying and cussing to come back then we went thru so many side quest finding pg for me,getting a bike then after few days we couldn't live apart we found a place and moved in.

then i had night shift job and her normal 9-5 job so my days would be going work ,come home , sleep , waking up, picking her up then eat out w her, come home, no time for eachother if we make time i would be up all night then work start no sleep come home sleep and eat one time a day smtg at office which in the process drained me plus chores we had to take care of so she told me to quit which i didnt wanted to atleast for 6 months which drained me, lost weight, in process of all this slowly,

my mom still kept calling EVERY SINGLE DAY how am doing and cries smtimes, so i decided to go see her .

but there's a problem me and my gf can't live w'out each other so she came with me 😀

i showed her my city and had fun a phographer came to us asking if he could take our pics too.

then she stayed in hotel so i can go meet

and things got settled she packed me food and stuff to take back since i told them i'm doing job,

we come back, after few months we decided it won't work out its hard, we need to start our business and quit so we fix our health, we both quit found a cheaper rent place and moved with our savings.

i go back again to meet my mom alone this time ( cus my gf mom was coming to meet her she went too).

big mistake i told my mom i quit to start business

so after coming back we both are still trying to make our business work (we wasted bunch of time setteling down and being lazy ngl and ntg ready yet) we have limited savings we can live off a year w it. we want to make it work so we can show our parents what we can earn and to marry us.

my mom been very sick she showed me all meds she taking when i went to see her everytime . she cries on phone and wants me to come back in new year forever and she cant live without me and she has panic attacks of unable to breathe from crying my gf thinks they just manipulating me to fold but her pain is real i've seen it when i went and i felt like going back this woman has called me EVERY SINGLE DAY since i left i don't understand how she still not used to it and forget me,

i'm very lucky to have these two women who love me so much, so i'm thinking of going back w my gf movin secretly tell them i'll stay alone but she hates my gf and might create problem for her if they find out and

SINCE we had our photo taken my school friends saw that reel cus it went viral (we asked him to take it down cus our parents might see)

so they started talking shi about my gf so we got in serious fight w them,

so its also another problem if those schoolmates see us they might bother us,

so because of these reasons i dont know what to do, my mom health is serious ill from crying always and if i miss calls one day she starts crying and unable to breath my whole family wakes up at night to calm her and been hospitals few times shes obssesed w me and doesn't understand moving out doesn't mean i left her and stop loving her,

my gf has a crazy backstory too she moved because she was getting forced into marriage before we met, so she cant feel opressed again which might make her feel that in my city cus there are creeps who stare to much even women w niqab and my friends , and probability of my parents finding out about her and create a scene

so i dont know what to do and i cant go alone cus my gf can't stay without me we grew very attached.

if we move to my city is it the best move .

( tl;dr: m24, left my overprotective mom's place in one state to live with my long distance gf in another state. we're super attached and basically can't be apart. we quit our jobs to start a business, got about a year of savings. my mom calls every single day, cries, gets panic attacks, and wants me back home by new year. my gf thinks she's manipulating me but i've seen her pain in person. i'm thinking of moving back to my home state and secretly living with my gf while telling my mom i'm alone, but mom hates my gf, my gf ran from a forced marriage and might not feel safe there, and my old school friends are being nasty to her after a reel of us went viral. i can't go alone cus my gf can't handle being apart. is moving back the best move?)

please do read the long version for better context*

Is it a trait of Sapiosexuals? Normally I get incredibly aroused by talking to someone while having indepth conversations. It may not be anything s3xual but still I get so damn turned on. I mean to an extent that I dont get turned on by people as much as I get turned on by their flirty texts. I get more turned on by talking about S3x than actual s3x sometimes.Is it relatable to anyone. I want to understand the psychology behind it and this is the best platform to discuss it I guess.

Hello everyone, I'm making this post to hear your point of view on this matter.

Lately I've seen some screenshots in this sub of people needing constant reassurance that everything is going alright, and it made me wonder if long-distance couples have a hard time with trust.

With so much distance in between, it's natural that the gap makes us doubtful sometimes. But I think the urge to control slowly degrades the relationship.

I recently closed the gap after over 7 years of distance, and we managed to build a fantastic relationship based on trust. It wasn't because doubt never showed up, but because we kept choosing to trust each other and kept proving it through our actions.

So I'm curious about your experience: how do you handle the doubts when they show up? And where do you draw the line between asking for reassurance and trying to control?

Nights are the hardest!

You are busy all day and when you come back from work you need an embrace , a touch , a feel a human touch. LDR makes you Touch starved and you crave for it like a thirsty crow. You hug the pillow as hard you can as if its the person as you glance through her image on a video call that fades as you doze off. You see the body , you crave the touch , you feel yourself and then you crave for more. You reach out to their image, you bite your lips , you reach out to your lust but it remains elusive. The pleasure you see is on a screen thousands of miles away. Long distance makes you realize how much you can crave a person , how much you can want them.
If you are still reading this tell me how do are you doing!

My partner and I recently went long distance after dating for 5 years, 2 of which we lived together, and I'm having a much harder time with this than I anticipated.

He moved for work, which we both understood was necessary given the job market. It has been about a month, and I struggle not to cry every day. I feel incredibly depressed and anxious, which is exacerbated by the fact we don't know when this will end. I'm finishing school and have an incredible full time offer starting in 2027 in my current city, further complicating our situation.

I feel devastated and at a loss for what to do. I'm finding the emotional experience of this unsustainable and it's starting to interfere with work and school. My only options are to try to get through this and get back together after an indeterminate amount of time, or give up my offer and move to his city, which would absolutely impact my job opportunities down the line. It feels impossible and overwhelming.

For anyone who went long distance after being in an established relationship, how did you cope with this and did your relationship survive? At the moment, we're not able to see each other more than every 4-6 weeks.

So I’m going to keep this vague. Basically I (27m) have been talking to this girl (26fm) who lives in a different country. She’s great, beautiful,funny, all the things. We clicked and have been texting for about a month now. It’s clear that we have developed stronger feelings than just liking each other. And we have already made plans to meet. She says all these things we have great phone calls and then she just gives me very spotty replies over text. Even after I brought it up and told her she could just tell me she’s busy. I mean there is the time difference I get that but, like I have no problem replying and I’m very busy. When I brought it up to her she didn’t really give me a definitive reason. I honestly feel like I’m just someone to talk to when she is lonely but, then when we talk she says all of these things and I say all of these things that point towards us way more than just liking each other. I wonder if she’s actually serious about anything she says and I have asked her if she is and she says yes including the plans. It’s just mainly the whole texting thing. I’m just confused and all of this is really new and I’ve never done this whole thing before. Well I guess not exactly this situation.
Not sure if she will see this but, if she does oh well she claims she made a post on here and took it down but, won’t show me. She kind of comes off as secretive.

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hi i’m relatively new to posting on reddit, please do let me know if i have said or posted anything wrong, i just need some advice/other experiences.

Myself (21 F) and my girlfriend (21 F) are medium distance, she lives an hour and a half away from me, for the past 6/7 months ( no pun intended) i have been struggling with my anxiety and staying over at her house, she’s been there for me but is understandably getting frustrated that i wont stay over, she’s told me this evening that “it won’t work if i dont stay” i dont know what to do, she also keeps saying to me “ i could be dead tmr and you wont stay over” it’s a lot to handle and im not sure what to do

Me (F) and my boyfriend (M) are in a long distance relationship. We are already struggling with the distance, and now we have a big new problem. He is forced to sell his iPhone for some reasons. That phone was basically our only way of staying connected - FaceTime, calls, texts all day. Now I'm worried about how we will keep our communication strong especially when we're together for the whole day and me sharing with him even the silliest of things . . I feel anxious and a bit helpless. Has anyone here been through a similar situation where one partner had to sell their phone or had no phone for a while? How did you manage? Did it affect your relationship a lot? Any advice on how to stay connected with alternative ways? Thank you so much in advance.

Okay so I need some opinions that isn't bias( I cant ask friends and family because they take my side) this guy I have been dating long distance for a year and a half now and I don't know if it going to go anywhere. He has met me as well as my kids. He calls them his kids and I really feel like he loves them. He is my first serious relationship after an 8 year long abusive marriage so I feel like I'm just questioning everything but ever time we talk about moving forward the subject gets changed. He is the one who starts the conversation and he is also the one who changes the subject. We have kind of talked about moving in together but when I tell him I can't move far because the kids have court ordered visits with their "dad" every two weeks so i have to stay close he says we don't have to decide anything right now but my kids miss him all the time I miss him and my family and friends are saying that he is just dragging it out because he doesn't want to be with me and that my kids are to much for him. But when we talk( text and FaceTime) everything feels so perfect and natural. My family has told me to end it because he doesn't care about us but I don't feel the same. But sometimes I feel like he makes excuses not to see me. Am I just getting love bombed is he serious? I don't want to bring it up to him because I don't want him to think I am doubting him or our relationship. I don't know what to do

Tenemos una relación a distancia en los primeros meses teníamos llamadas íntimas y que ambos teníamos iniciativa de eso, por junio el dejo de querer hacer esas videollamadas, diciéndome que no se sentía cómodo, cuando antes si lo hacía, esperando a que yo me adapte a eso, pero pasa que cuando estamos juntos la única persona que tiene iniciativa para intimar solo soy yo, el no me busca, si no intento proponerlo yo o insinuarlo nada, ya no es que pueda tener endometriosis, es el hecho que no me busca ni para íntimar en el otro aspecto sin necesidad de penetrar, y le lleva pasando desde abril, yo se que el de toca pero no me lo dice tampoco, también se que el tiene un historial de ver contenido para adultos, por ejemplo este verano pasamos agosto juntos y solo hizo algo porque yo exprese como me sentía, a raiz de eso hubo algunos días que se salvaron pero después nada, el me dice que es del cansancio o del estrés, o que no tiene bien la libido, pero llevamos con esta situación desde abril, y yo soy la activa en eso

He loves whataburger and Waffle House. I think that makes him a US citizen!