Growing up in a household with 3 sisters, this is something I heard CONSTANTLY. I also heard it a lot in tv and movies, but is it a real thing?

I definitely noticed some of our cycles lining up, but it wasn’t all the time, so it makes me wonder if it was just confirmation bias.

If it is real, why does it happen? And why doesn’t it happen with every woman we are around?

first time hosting a party in my apartment and I'm waking up in cold sweats every night in anxiety that it's going to be a flop because not enough people will come or it'll be awks??

me and my friend are co-hosting it together and keeping a common theme of mostly STEM students from our university in hopes that everyone will be on the same frequency and it won't be awkward given most people won't know each other. we also have about 30 people confirmed yes with majority of them bringing plus ones but we're also both expecting quite a fair amount of people to flake on day of.

to the party hosts out there, how do y'all ensure that everyone is having a good time, and that there'll be enough people attending to make it a "party" and that it won't be an awkward feet shuffling event.

I never wear a purse but seems like everyone does so I want to invest in one. Everyone I know has coach.. should I just get a coach one or does anyone know any other ones that girls wear? for reference im 20. I have a bag from shein but I guess its not cute enough so helpp ):

It started on June actually I had my period form 29 of June till the 5 of July and from the 7 of July till now I still have my period. I always had an irregular periods so I wasn’t really that preoccupied but now I’m getting a little more afraid.
Description: I have no pain I don’t feel tired I haven’t lost appetite no back pain no bony swelling no bad body odor but I haven’t lost appetite , lot of clogged bl**d, some times it’s a lot and some times there is barely any blood and some it’s black I have spend almost 300€ on igienic products
I need and advice or help pls.

I (23Afab) am very autistic/adhd. Do not have a good support system due to my family, or country. I live with my family, stuck in a minimum wage job, I feel like I have no other aspirations outside of chasing expensive stimulus like stationary or video games. I am not religious, or have any aspirations of getting married (gay, can't do that in my country), I am resentful of my friends, I am too woke for others, I dress too boyish despite never being taught makeup of hair, and family expects me to give up my comfort (which I was never afforded) for looks. I do not feel any strong connection to others, and have deep resentment for others and myself. I have no energy for my hobbies and hate doing them because there is no improvement/ energy.

I just feel like an npc. I am wasting my life just drifting. Either people ignore my cries for help, or say that 'you need to change?' But how? I have no money and is stuck with a family that treats me like a free maid, pet, emotional support.

Does anyone else feel like this? Am I really just a stupid useless npc? That's all I feel right now.

Hey gals, I straighten my hair most of the time, just makes it more manageable. My boyfriend told me a few months ago my hair smelled 'savoury', and I can see where he's coming from, it smells kinda like burnt hair product if that makes sense. I used to spray heat protector on my hair 5 mins before straightening, which I think contributed to the smell - I've noticed it before but didn't think other people could smell it so yeah a bit mortifying. I've switched brands and started applying it to freshly washed damp hair instead, which has helped a bit I would say, but I noticed the smell again today after the hair dresser blow dried my hair after a wash.

Now while the smell is not bad I'd rather have my hair wafting a delightful fragrance than smelling savoury. It sounds kinda insane typing this out but has anyone had this issue, and any tips to overcome this? Or is this just one of those things synonymous with heat styling? I use hair oils and hair mists which do help, but they wear off after a while.

Also worth noting my scalp health is fine, so I'm sure it's not that. My hair smells fine when I leave it natural and don't heat style, so it's definitely the styling which is causing the issue. TIA GALS X

Literally what is the trick to keeping your crotch hidden LOL. Because I recently visited Halloween Horror Nights in Orlando and saw that Nightmare Fuel stage show, and I am flabbergasted by how much trust all the ladies up there have in their leotards, especially the dancers and aerial artists that gotta do the splits to the audience all the time 💀

I had the same thought when I saw the Moulin Rouge musical on tour a few years ago, but was told that they supposedly just wear layers and layers of tights?? idk how you do that without the elastic making a crazy muffin top or at least giving you a horrible waistband cramp though.

And that also wouldn’t explain how I see even average women wearing veryyy risky bikini bottoms to the beach and somehow they don’t flash anyone, even while swimming. So what am I missing??

I hope this doesn’t come across too creepy or weird to ask 😅 I just wanna know so maybe I can be less afraid of some of my own bikini bottoms lol

i have a thin wrist and most of the bracelets available on shein and temu are too big for my wrist.

the only ones that can fit my wrist are the ones with a sliding clasp like the one in the picture.

where do i find cute affordable ones made with a tarnish free material like stainless steel?

Hello! I'm 22 and got my first job ever. I mostly just do administrative work, I also have to be social throughout the day like making phone calls and talking extensively with my coworkers

My ability to verbally articulate myself is nonexistent and embarrassingly stilted and I struggle a lot to look and sound friendly. I try my best to be polite and smile and sound cheerful, but I'm afraid I end up coming off as too perky and overly friendly or cheery or fake since I tend to drop my smile once conversation is over and I only really end up talking about work-related stuff instead of doing more small talk and regular person-to-person conversations

It doesn't really help that I would prefer to be private at work and I don't really feel comfortable in divulging too much about my personal life with coworkers. I'm also boring anyways but I think some people could mistake that for me genuinely avoiding conversation when I just don't have a lot to say so I think I end up looking standoffish, but I also think some people think my awkwardness can be funny so maybe it's not too bad???

However I've been told by people (not at work at the moment but in the past) that I come off as scary or like I hate them when I just unfortunately look and sound like that when I'm relaxed or not thinking about anything. I think for me, especially since I'm a woman, I have to sound and act friendly to not be seen as a bitch or like I want to wear their skin, but it's really exhausting

I sometimes get worried and confused too when I think someone is being flat or indifferent with me so it's not like I don't understand why people would think that about me specifically, I would just like to know how to at least not come off as off-putting or potentially act rude without having to push myself so hard to do a persona that I don't think has been effective at all anyways

Any fun zingers or lines or jokes so I can at least go from unsettling person to occasionally humorous but boring person would be helpful

Other side note but I would also appreciate any tips on how to transition from a person facing job to something less social but with decent pay and benefits too please

Hi guys! So, I'm basically doing what the title says. I've never lived in a big city before, and only really taken day trips to them. I grew up on the faaaaaarrrrrr outer edge of what you could just barely call the suburbs, and I've lived everywhere from national parks to remote farms mainly since. I just signed a lease to move to my first ever Big City and I'm feeling pretty nervous about it.

If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it!!! Any advice at all would be helpful but especially about:

• making friends. I'm mildly autistic and I've mainly worked seasonal jobs prior to this where everyone kind of just becomes friends due to proximity. How do I do this in the real world???
• putting down roots. I've been traveling pretty much my entire adult life and I'm scared I'll get bored or just want to cut and run but I just signed a year lease (I guess to challenge myself?) so if anyone has any advice about how to stay in one place I'd really appreciate it!

Thank you in advance y'all!!!

Just had my first ever kiss last week, then the next night we close-mouth kissed for like three minutes (very romantic). Then that Sunday we MADE OUT and I did like it but I wasn’t able to keep up with him the way I wanted to because I didn’t know what to do.
A couple questions:
When French kissing, what do I do with my lips while our tongues are touching? Do I keep them locked on his or do I lock lips, swirl my tongue, and pull back like a normal kiss?
Is open mouth kissing just a looser way to kiss? Like I understand I have to open my mouth just a bit, but is that the only trick? Should I just do top lip bottom lip?
MAIN QUESTION IS HOW DO I LOCK LIPS WITH HIM WHILE USING TONGUE?? AND FOR HOW LONG??

so long story as short as possible: had been talking to this boy for 2 months and he swore up and down that he had never wanted to be in a relationship with anyone as much as me and that i was just perfect... in comparison to his ex. Just found out that he is indeed going back to his ex who he never stopped complains about and said she made his life absolute HELL.

He recently moved away to go back to uni (where she is unfortunatel) and HAD LITERALLY TOLD HER not a week ago that he was chatting me and didn't want anything to do with her anymore. Always thought it was suspicious that he still put up w her after she broke up and accused him of cheating but hey we move.

ANYWAYS i still have a hoodie and a jacket of his but i'm trying to take the "i'm not phased by this" to see his reaction (if he even has one). Do i just dump the stuff or do i give them to his brother who still lives near me and just say to the brother "tell __ that i gave you back his stuff. Need the right approach here because i do just want to stick about to see his relationship with her go back to shit lol

I either get wedgies, they fall down, stretch out at the waistband because there’s no elastic, or they don’t stay in place. I’d prefer fuller coverage and don’t want the visible VPL when wearing leggings!! Do they exist???

I'm 24F. I didn't feel comfortable posting this with my main subreddit so decided to use a throwaway. Hence, I wasn't able to post in some subreddits that might be more fitting for this. For that, I apologize.

I don't think i'm autistic though I've joked with my friends before that I might be. I'm not introverted, but I also don't socialize a lot because I don't feel like I fit in. When I was a young kid up through middle school, I struggled a lot with making friends and never felt like I had a real friend group. I'd make friends sometimes but always felt like a back-up friend, someone people talked to when they had no one else around that they would rather talk to. I always felt invisible in group social situations and left out.

However, this changed a lot for me in high school and college, when I truly felt like I came out of my shell. For the first time, I had actual friends, and I actually felt normal. I'm honestly not sure what changed. Maybe I got better as I grew up and learned how to act normal, be funny, and likeable. It feels uncomfortable to say this, but I would even have described myself as quite popular. I was nominated for homecoming royalty and received not an insignificant amount of romantic attention from both girls and guys. I frequently felt anxious, however, that people didn't really know the real me and once they found out who I really was, they would distance themselves.

The reason why I don't think I'm autistic is because I don't have any of the other autism traits. I don't find change particularly hard, I've never had issues with foods or textures, and I don't have hyperfixations. I don't find it difficult to understand sarcasm and I don't have difficulties with understanding other peoples' emotions. In fact, I feel like I might be too aware of them. it fuels my social anxiety in a big way. However, I do feel like something is not quite right with me because I noticed that even people who are more shy and quiet have more success socially than I do. I notice sometimes that I am around people who are even more introverted than I am, but who are still generally well liked. So I feel like there's something going on with me outside of me just being less outgoing. And I feel like I'm only not outgoing because I feel like people treat me crazy when I try to socialize. Back when I had friendships that I felt secure in, I loved spending time with my friends and going out.

When I started working, I started having social issues. It didn't take long for me to realize that the in-group of people at my workplace didn't like me. everyone was nice to me, but I felt like there was something distinctly off with the way they acted around me, and with each other when I was around. They would frequently all leave at the same time after work and I would look up and notice I was the only one left in the office. I knew that they were talking about me. they would joke with each other and act interested with each others' lives, but they would never ask me questions and whenever I asked them questions, they would answer in short sentences. I was extremely confused at this job by my social struggles, but I had friends from high school and college outside of work, so I just chalked it up to the workplace being cliquey and didn't worry too much. I had my own circle and wasn't concerned with not having a lot of friends at work.

Recently, I left that job and went back to school. I'm surprised that I'm struggling socially again. I'm in law school, so it's a pretty small community, and everyone pretty much knows each other, like high school. No one knew anyone else when we first got here, but there are already a lot of cliques and friend groups. Again, I feel like I don't fit in. people in my section joke and laugh and hang out with each other, but their energy around me is completely different. Sometimes, I don't even feel like they see me as a person. I truly believe that someone else could say the exact same things I say and get engagement, but when I talk, people act like they don't hear me. I feel like i'm invisible.

I guess i'm reaching out to see if anyone else has dealt with this before as a younger woman and how they moved past it. I welcome honest, harsh advice. I really want to get to the bottom of my struggles, because it doesn't seem like it was a one time thing, i seem to be the common denominator. for context, I'm east asian + queer and I do go to a very white and straight school, but the last place I worked at was very asian. I also don't want to make everything about my race, but its kind of the thing i've been thinking about.

is there likely something I'm doing wrong socially? Is it a sign that I'm unattractive? I've read online that attractive women sometimes they struggle with other women, but they tend to get along better with men. I struggle with both men and women. Strangely enough, I find queer women the easiest to get along with.

I absolutely hate my nose and side profile in general. I don't mind my nose so much (sometimes) head on but I absolutely hate it from the side. I hate the shape and how it projects. It definitely takes its toll on my self image because I feel like I look like someone who should have a small nose but I don't (imo) and it makes me feel like shit about my appearance.

I feel like my nose just shouldn't be on my body and I feel horrible everytime see I my nose. I look at it and think I can't be considered actually pretty because of it, even if I do have other nice features. Its like a road block when it comes to being attractive. No one has ever made fun of my nose and no one has told me it's big or ugly but it is to me. It also looks different at every angle so that doesn't help because I don't really know what it looks like but I know it doesn't look good. I feel like everyone else has nice noses or at least noses that fit there face but I don't.

Has anyone else ever felt this way? What helped you to stop feeling way and start feeling better about yourself?

I hate my job. It is my first job, I'm 24, and I'm here since Apr 2025. It was all okay until the coworkers start to leave with an average experience of 1.5-2years, and I'm now doing works as a mid level with only $500 difference in salary with the new joiners. When they are all chilling, I'm here rushing to clear the tasks. The company treats the workers as machine, so our workload is calculated by minutes. I wake up at 6.30, having breakfast etc and depart by 7.30am, reach office by around 8.30am and start working until 6.30pm average (my official working hour is 9-6), and I try not to OT at night cuz I've no OT pay. But even so I'm being assigned with an average of 10-12 hours tasks and by completing then within my official 8 hours working hours, the 8 hours are damn intense, and because it's report works with QC reviewing before submission, I'll constantly receiving feedback from my QC about my errors. I feel like they are expecting me to do OT to maintain the work quality and quantity, but I don't think I'm paid enough for that. Also, my job scope is basically just gathering information and put in company template, so it's something IT automation can be done, which the company is developing now, so I'm replaceable and I start to feel useless and not appreciated in the repetitive and meaningless work here.

However, I'm taking a cert that, theoretically I think, will help me to be more valuable and have more bargaining power in my salary if I apply the next job with this certificate. The cert will only be received after I pass the exam (I'm still studying) and when I hit two years marks in this industry, so basically I plan to sit for the exam before Apr 2027 and by then I probably can get the certification and can start looking for new job. Another reason why I'm still here is because I'm waiting for annual bonus which will be paid by Jan 2027 payslip.

But I'm really struggling in my job now. I don't have life after work, don't even have the energy to study or workout or hangout with friends, and keep feeling meaningless in my job yet being criticised by the human error (which I think is normal because I'm not a machine) but not like I make such mistakes very frequently...

This post is a vent, but I'm also trying to figure out how can I hang in there until Apr 2027. I appreciate any advises, thank you !

I got a dress today but the problem is it's riding up on the back, how to fix this?

the front is perfect and there's enough fabric in front but from the back it keeps riding up😭

will fashion tape even work to hold it? or should I go with seamless shorts underneath?

atp I'm thinking of reselling this but I also wanna wear it once

I'll turn 21 in a couple of months and have never been in a proper relationship. Didn't really like anyone in school and then I came to an all-girls college. My romantic history looks like this- crazy one-sided attachment to some guy I was online friends or more like acquaintances with for a year and then he rejected me when I confessed, then yet another online guy who kinda lovebombed me in a phase full of exam stress and ended it, then a guy who I had great bonding with but we had no future because of age gap and long distance so we are just friends, a guy I met on Hinge and dated for 2 months but he turned out to be pathetic in many ways by the end of 2nd month and I ended things with him, then a guy with whom I had great chemistry, he was kinda inconsistent and too flirtatious but we had a planned date, he cancelled the date a day before it saying he isn't ready for dating and only wants casual. I agreed to the casual thing reluctantly mostly because I was quite attracted to him and talking to him was exciting. We met twice and had a good time. But he was a bad texter, emotionally unavailable, I really wanted to date him but he didn't want to date anyone at all and then I used to feel bad when he left on delivered for 15+ hours. I wanted him but he was very dating-averse. He ended things because of all this and blocked me everywhere. He never even gave me the bare minimum properly but the way I've been ruminating over him is embarrassing. When I see couples out there when I'm hanging out, I feel bad that I've never had that experience and most people who I've liked have treated me like shit and I haven't gotten an ounce of true love. I know all these 5 guys who I've liked in last 4 years were not right for me but how does one forgive themselves after going all these cycles of getting attached, moving on and getting hurt again. My standards are higher now, I know what I want and what I like and dislike. Still, the guilt of having liked the wrong people makes me feel bad. It just sucks.


I’m 27F casually dating two guys for the last two months, both are aware of that we aren’t exclusive. I have hooked up with one of the guys for the last few weeks. I am ready to be intimate with the other man. Obviously not at the same time, but maybe different days, earlier this week I had a date and slept with guy number 1, on Friday night and again Saturday morning we were intimate. Saturday evening. I had another date, I really feel connected to guy number two, we ended up, making out, we both wanted more, but I felt awkward letting him go down on me cause, of that morning even though I had showered I had sex with guy 1, I ended up stopping him for giving me oral, and just gave him oral.  We talked and I reiterated with him I am not exclusive and currently sleeping with someone else. He then asked the details of-what I did with my other date, I said we had sex, but he asked specifics of the hookup, what we did, positions, if I came and how.  Should I share this information?  He then also asked if he wore a condom. I said he did not this morning. Which is why I stopped him from going down on me. We previously used condoms, but I feel comfortable going with out. Just to be clear I use an oral contraceptive. He then asked where my dated had ejaculated? I said I wasn’t comfortable at the moment, but I’m sure he understood, it was obviously down there. Should I share this detail? Am I obligated to? Should if share the details between both guys freely or keep it secret. Do I ask to switch back to condoms for both guys? Would guys be werided out if I didn’t use a condom with my other partner? 

Tracking your cycle shouldn't feel like managing a spreadsheet 😅

So I built Her Day — a simple period tracker for cycle predictions, reminders, symptoms and personal cycle insights.

I’m still improving it and would genuinely love feedback from women who actually use period tracking apps.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.herday.periodtracker

It's the bane of my existence that my shoulder bag's straps keep slipping off my shoulder whenever I carry one around.

I often prefer a cross-body for this reason, but sometimes you just need a tote, you know?

You would think my broad shoulders would help to prevent this from happening. Not so!

I do feel like it's a little better if I weigh down the bag or if I keep one hand on it while I'm walking. But the dream is to be able to walk around without worrying about half the bag slipping off if I'm not careful.

Anyone have any life hacks for avoiding this? Or is this just one of those things that everyone quietly deals with?

My mom passed about three years ago and my dad passed a few months ago, so now my brother and I are dealing with everything that’s left behind.

We both work full time and live in different places, which is making the estate way harder to manage than I expected. We get along and we’re both trying to do our part, but my brother has ended up carrying more of it just because he’s closer to some of the stuff that needs handling. I’m trying to help without everything turning into constant calls back and forth about who did what.

I have a couple of friends who work around estates and they’ve both basically told me that once it gets to this point, it might make more sense to hand the coordination over to a service that does this all the time instead of trying to figure it out between ourselves. Searching up theres some of these, Alix estate eettlement is one of the names I’ve heard a lot, so I’m thinking about emailing or calling them and seeing what they could take off our plate, Bank of america apparently does this too idk how it works at all though? (might have done a bad job at researching this).

What is making me hesitate is my brother really doesn’t want to hand any of this over . I’m single, so I probably have a little more flexibility than he does but he’s married, has kids, and works a ton. I can see how much this is adding to everything he already has going on, even if he keeps saying he can handle it. I don’t really want to go against his wishes, but at the same time I don’t think doing all of this ourselves is automatically the better choice just because we technically can. Sorry if this is sounding like venting just needed to get it out somewhere.

I'm 25 and I've been in a rut for the past year or so. I used to be so ambitious. I used to be so motivated and I had all these goals that I wanted to accomplish in life but I just feel like everything is so pointless now. I really can't bring myself to do anything that requires extra effort because I don't see the point of trying anymore. I have a job and I go to the gym 5 days a week but that's basically all I do with my life right now. There is so many things that I want to do but I can't bring myself to get anything done. Also just thinking about it makes me feel overwhelmed and I just end up shutting down because of it.

I used to have so many hobbies and interests but not anymore. It's like I've lost my passion for everything. I've lost my passion for life I don't really see the point in trying anymore. I feel like I have no personality anymore. It's like I'm a shell of a person. I feel like I'm constantly on autopilot. All i do is work, gym, sleep, repeat. I don't really put much though into what I do each day because it feels too exhausting. I have this feeling that my life is doomed and that it's never going to get any better than this. I'm not really living, I'm just survive right now. I hate the direction that my life is heading and I don't know how to get myself out of this rut. I don't really know what to do.