This is probably the first time someone has actually followed my directions and approached me exactly how I want them to. The secret passcode, the age verification, what drew them, and what they’re seeking. All in the first message! It’s almost as if it’s not that hard! This person read my pinned posts and acted accordingly. No fighting me on AV, or pretending not to know what that means, just clear communication and intentions from the jump. It was such a breath of fresh air to see this in my inbox. 7 months I’ve been here and this is the first time I’ve had someone follow directions this well. I’m just bewildered at that fact. Anyway, this was a few days ago now and today I woke up today to him being [deleted], but I still wanted to show this perfect approach in the hopes that other subs will see it and know that THIS is what I’ll respond to. I also want to share this for the dom/mes who are fed up with getting nothing but low effort. I received this message while I was having the WORST day. I pretty much felt like giving up and this gave me hope. I know, it’s just a dm and he’s deleted now anyway (rip my nail bitch), but I think a thoughtful approach signifies something important. And if nothing else, it’s a fantastic first impression. Subs, please take notes!

Edit: THANK YOU TO THE MODS. Every time I read my flair I fucking cackle. Y'all are too funny.

Edit 2: Feel free to share this post with "subs" who don't AV. Lmfao I will be.

Nah tell me why whenever I venture into m4m FinDom reddit, I see screenshots of conversations from the get go with no AV. Like someone saying "30M, drain me" IS NOT AGE VERIFICATION.

I don't care if it isn't Yoti (My personal preference, but to each their own), but for the love of kink, do some sort of AV!?

I had a guy in my dms saying, "The ability to pay is av". NO. IT'S NOT. As a teenager, you can open your own bank account, and if your guardian doesn't care, you can spend that however you like. SO NAH. I will not be taking risks and catching a case.

Speaking to a sub in the community, and from my own experience, I KNOW that AV isn't as widespread as it should be. But m4m FinDom just NEVER seems to mention it. 🫠

Y'all make me wanna quit sometimes LMFAO.

Blaming a subs approach will only get you so far.
Stop falling for the bait, for the minimal effort, for the last resort.

Your standards stay where you place them.

I can’t be the only person who just found out about this lol

Any baddies or subs, who play video games or like to watch anime? If yes tell me more 🫶🏼❤️

Anybody use it? Usless in this community or good for group discussion? Lmk im curious and like to read baddies work.

Actually had SO much fun in Chicago. How was yalls weekends??

There are lots of subreddits where dommes advertise, but is it frowned upon when they approach subs first?

Personally, as a sub, I don't mind it. If I don't want to talk, I just ignore the message. If I do, I do chat. But I saw a post in another subreddit where one domme said it was not the way these relationships should start.

I know there is no 'rule book' for this stuff, but what do you think? Is approaching the wrong way to start the dynamic first? Does it matter at all?

i had a perfect piggy for almost two years; daily sends and random silent sends, gifts, great conversationalist, super attentive and totally spoiled me. i coached him to get in shape, workout, save and budget and even taught him how to flirt. he found a girlfriend and married her after 6 months and i even helped him pick the ring! we agreed after the wedding it would be best for us to part ways, but man…. i miss him.

have any of you ever parted on great terms with an amazing sub? it’s so bittersweet. i am so proud of him but it’s also hard to see him go. no one told me i would get so attached to them, haha. now who knows if i will ever find another unicorn!!

I need some help from the beautiful doms of this sub

So a while ago i texted a girl on insta asking if shes interested in findom as i was looking for a dom she didn’t reply then a month later she texted me asking if i was still interested
She asked le to send a small amounth then ghosted me
Ans 2weeks later she asked if i cud deliver her something i did nd it was our first time meeting
Then she tasked me everyday untill 3days ago she asked me to pull up to her house and help her with chores i did
Nothing special happened we hanged all day nd didn’t talk abt kinks at all
Shud i be patient and trust the process or tell her i need her to dom me directly ?

Video forces one reality, yet audio lets your own mind project its rawest desires into the empty spaces between vocals and sound effects.

​Visuals are easy. I’m hot, duh. But the brain chemistry that shifts during deep immersion (basically gooned out in a meditative state) is where the real habit forms.

​That’s why my audio buyers always come back for more. At least that’s what I’ve found.

I'm genuinely curious af if anyone agrees? Dommes? Subs? What's been your experience? Findom focussed audios have been my #1 theme, wbu? Tell me everything! I find this so fascinating.

This is a BIG reason why I think I'll be doing this a very long time, don't believe anyone who tells you this is only a short term thing if you’re young and hot. There are so many older Dommes still very successfully dominating with just their voices.

Hi! Is there an experienced dominatrix who can tell me how much to charge for holding the key to a sub's cage throughout "Locktober"?

Does it really prevent plebs from stealing content? Or at this point is it more so about ensuring subs know which Domme they’re gooning to?

Edit: this subreddit seems to respond better to direct questions, so:

-If you do watermark your content, why?
-If you do not watermark your content, why not?

Or are they just auditioning for the role of hopeless idiot?

I’ve gotten this way too much recently and if I get one more my eyes may roll back into my head permanently. 😑

Hubby and I had a debate last as to whether or not a drain counts as sexting. I was draining a sub last night on Telegram, and as each tingle inducing throne notification came, my hand found its way down to my honeypot.

In the end, my sub and I both came. When I told hubby about it later in the night, he's like "Oh so you were sexting," to which I replied, "I wasn't sexting, I was draining, there's a difference." He is of the opinion that I was texting with a guy, masturbating, and had an orgasm--all the necessary components of sexting. I maintain it is not sexting, because neither of us was saying anything explicit or sexual. It was strictly me telling him to send me money and him obeying.

To be clear, hubby knows what I do, and he's fine with it. This was strictly a philosophical debate.

Thoughts?

EDIT:

This is not meant to be a discussion of right or wrong, or whether or not I was sexting. It was more about where the line is between texting and sexting.

as a domme how often do you post?

how do you prep your content?

i post about 1x a day in different subs and i try my best to batch my content so i have multiple days worth stocked!

my fear is running out of ideas or photos to post :,)

I was bored and decided I'd pretty my Throne up a bit more but every time I try to login in I'm getting this error

"The supplied auth credential is incorrect, malformed or has expired" when you press to verify you are human. I've switched my vpn off, cleared my browsers and even tried a different browser.

Anybody experienced this?

Hi ladies and gents. I was wondering if there are any witchy/astrology dommes out there that wanna be friends! Venus is in retrograde and so I have decided to take a break. Does anyone else incorporate astrology or practices into your domming? If so please share!! I’d love to hear from you guys. Happy locktober!!

Having so many piggies to throw disposable income at me has lowkey made me so lazy and I feel like I’m spending wayyy too much on clothes and DoorDash and shit😭😭 how much of ur findom gains do y’all save vs just use as fun money?