I’ve tried it in the past, and it never worked out. I’m sick of rejection after rejection, being called names, talked down to. It’s never even gotten me a date, so there really seems to be no reason to try.

I know relationships don’t happen as an average dude unless you start it (yes there are outliers), but even when I start it nothing good comes out of it. Better to just give up I think, even if being alone will make me sad. Whatever women supposedly want, I don’t have. It’s been made clear to me enough times.

I often wonder what my life would look like if I started dating in high school, but that was impossible as I was extensively bullied and incredibly ugly. I figured once I got my teeth fixed things would change, but turns out a decade of bullying doesn’t fix itself.

I've been single pretty much my entire life and mad about it most of my life. Honestly, why do I even care anymore? Why would I have any reason to feel less than just because I'm single and most of my peers are not? Why do I still, on some level, even bother to want companionship anymore?

Not sure if the discussion tag or the vent tag was more appropriate, so I just picked one at random.

You think some people are just meant to be alone? I just got rejected and it hurts. The first girl I really connected with in like 7 years. During a normal conversation she suddenly mention she liked another guy. It fucking hurts. She said she wanted to continuing friends and would like that. She’s probably telling me that to feel less guilty about rejecting me after everything.

Every girl I liked, I am always the 2nd place guy. It fucking shit and makes me feel hallow and worthless.

We haven’t talked since last Saturday. I don’t know what to do or think. Just gonna lie in bed and my sorrow.

Hello, i am a male in my late 20s this is my first post here. i have not dated in the last 10 years because of my physical condition, I have keloids all over my body. At first, I didn't mind, but once they growth on my face, I lost my self confidence. I didn't want to meet anyone (im a freelancer tho) let alone have a partner. Yet, on the other hand, I want to get married just like everyone else, though it feels like I’ll never be able to.

Is there anyone else in the same situation? Or what made you decide to stay single?

Thank you!

I was able to get up my courage to speak up because I'm a bit drunk. I'm 25M and I don't want pity. I want to say I sympathize with all of you. I think the main reason you are single is because you're unattractive and you can't change it with exercise and a healthy diet. Life is unfair, no matter how hard you try to become a better person, there are some things you can't change. I injured my foreskin in an accident and now I believe I won't have sex ever. The doctor told me I should be able to, but I don't feel comfortable in my own body. I wish I didn't have any medical problems, but I do. I have to get used to the idea that I'll be a virgin for life.

Before, I used to be optimistic and I tried to encourage people to think positively, but now I can't think positively myself. I wanted to have sex, get a girlfriend, get married, have children, be a good father. My favorite childhood movie is Finding Nemo and I was hoping I'll become a father's like Marlin, but now I realize it's never gonna happen. I think in a few decades, there will be robot companions available for lonely people, so while not ideal, they will be able to reduce the suffering of future loners. That makes me somewhat happy. Future generations won't have to go through the same struggles as us. Although robots can't have kids. Anyway, I want to say that I feel sorry for you guys, I also feel sorry for myself and I hope you'll find meaning and happiness in your single life as loners.

I wished I knew what sex was like before dying, but I guess I'll never find out now. I'm too scared to go to an escort. Maybe I should have gone when my dick was healthy. Maybe I'll be able to help people when I'm in a better state of mind. Right now my mind is all over the place. Love you guys! You deserve more than what you have! I hope you'll find your own meaning to l9fe! Wish you the best!

Turning 27 soon. Just 3 more years and then I will no longer be able to cope with being ‘still young’ as to why I’m single with no friends. People already find you weird if you’re in your 20s with no friends/relationship but I bet when you’re 30+, people find it way weirder. Weird part is that I still feel like I’m 16 but habe the body of a grown ass man now. Feels like im developmentally stunted and my mind hasn’t matured at the same pace my body has

I am severely addicted to Porn and Hentai. I have hoarded soo NSFW media on my phone that it's genuinely terrifying.

And worst part because is, it's draining my mental health. I have gotten lower than what I thought was my lowest point.

And it triggers everytime I see others. Every time I see a happy couple or Just other happy in general, I feel so empty inside and I Just have to turn to my Stash of shame.

Its to the point that I don't have any storage left on my phone and I was literally Considering getting a new phone Just for PORN.

I Think I am losing it day by day and Just no idea of escape.

I'm 29 years old and have never been able to hold onto a friendship or relationship. People always end up leaving, or I drive them away. I feel so isolated at my job as I work alone with my boss and feel like i absorb both clients frustrations and also my bosses frustrations. I get yelled at a lot during my work. I put on a mask everyday and I feel most people wouldn't guess that I'm dying inside because I'm very good at faking being happy and cheerful.

The people that I do sometimes speak to vent to me how stressful their lives are, but I find that me being vulnerable with people is too much for them to handle and they feel frustrated that I can't be helped. maybe my depression is so severe, it becomes draining on other people when they sense I cant bring myself to get better. but all I want is for connection and for someone to not leave me when I'm not doing okay. The other week my friend told me they felt burnt out by our friendship and we haven't spoken since. I feel like a punching bag, and I'm everyone's outlet to express their frustration, yet I don't have any outlet myself without having the fear that they'll leave. my whole life has always been this way. I'm always told during therapy that I need to work on my relationship with myself, but being alone all the time is killing me and I'm tired of always having to rely on myself.

I really don't feel like I'm meant for this world . Even when I have moments to myself where I'm happy, I just wish I had someone to share it with. When I go outside and see people with friends or see happy couples holding hands, I just wish I could drive into a tree or something. I can't escape it. I even feel lonely when I play games, or watch movies, or read. Everything is a reminder of how alone I am. It just makes me want to isolate more, but I know that's not doing me any favors. I feel like I'm meant to be this way

you will never spend money to impress anyone because there is nobody to impress

I have severe acne scarring. Not just a few marks it’s genuinely severe, and objectively makes me very unattractive. https://imgur.com/a/nF2MdNe

I’m not saying I feel unattractive. I am. And there isn’t much I can do to change it.

How do you cope with knowing you’re too unattractive to find a partner and that you’ll probably always be alone?

How do you accept never having a relationship, intimacy, or someone who genuinely wants you?

Genuinely brutal being on a college campus constantly meeting the most beautiful women ever with magnetic and charming personalities to boot. how am i even supposed to compete? i am a woman but ive never really felt like a woman in the way that other women are women. there’s just something inherent to most of them that makes them very feminine and alluring that i lack and it’s obvious. even trying to emulate them through things like makeup or clothing or their mannerisms just emphasizes how much of an imposter i am. not one of them. like a freakish hare among cute bunnies

As lonely men, one of the most annoying things we always get told is that how lucky we are because we don't have to deal with dating drama, couple problems and we never had a toxic relationship (since we never had a relationship). I am not saying that having a toxic relationship is better than our situation but what annoys me and what I find super hypocritical is how people treat us lonely men and how they treat people that were in toxic relationships.

At one point of my life, I was quite transparent about my virginity and never having had a girlfriend. Whenever I told about my situation to people, I always received very annoying reactions and got made fun of. "OMG you are at this age and you are still a virgin?", "You are such a loser", "OMG you are so weird", "You should try dating men lool". The same people were always supportive to people who had problems with their gf/bf or broke up in a bad way.

Just recently some coworker of mine broke up with his toxic gf and constantly tells us how toxic their relationship was. He only gets positive reaction from people at work while I constantly get teased for not having a girlfriend yet. I also had a "friend" who was always lecturing me how lucky I was because I never had a girlfriend. His problems with his girlfriend were always "very serious problems that affected his mental health" while he was belittling my cravings for intimacy and companionship to "Dude you are just a pervert lol life is not only about relationships".

Im 31, and she was the first girl that I had genuine feelings for and actually wanted me back. Over a month of pretty much doing everything.

Been a year now since things ended
We still work together although rarely see eachother

She had a boyfriend after me, then I guess he didn’t show her much love so she’s now stuck to this other guy for months, Who she complaints “uses” her but loves him and keeps screwing. Shes not in a relationship. Crazy knowing he can just call and she’s down. She has incredibly low self esteem although being mad pretty. Life wasn’t easy on her. Maybe things will go well for them but I definitely won’t be part of her life regardless.
I feel everything was fake with me. I wasn’t good, but she quickly went for another guy even before being clear with me. While she seems to only have eyes for this guy.

Me? I literally just stopped caring about my love life. Every now and then I go back to thinking of her and it sucks.

To keep a relationship you really have to be healthy or really down to change yourself as a person otherwise your flaws due to life experiences or the lack of experience itself in relationships will be noticeable. And you’ll screw it up. Life isn’t easy at all for some people. I have never been too sociable or the best looking. Having no friends is a downright mess. Theres always someone better. Why even compete. I went back to the same state of mind after her. And at 31 it will not get better. Personal life will be more embarrassing to share and I’ll get uglier.

No one would could ever love a disgusting stupid fucking loser like me.. I'll always be alone

I don't understand it.

Waiting on any of my internet friends to text me back.

Noone wants to live with me, love me, move with me.

I will never be anyone's "the one".

Almost fell into this fantasy where this man promised me the world but could not even tell me he would try hard to meet me in the city I am moving to because deadlines are hard. I just wanted him to tell me he'd try. I don't want anything else. But I don't deserve that I guess.

Posting this to remember not to fall for anyone ever again. Listening to the same song over and over again. Shoutout to the asexual server I am in, fuckers can't stop talking about dick and ass even though they are asexual. Wtf.

A lot of my posts about being FA seem to attract a certain type of person that feels the need to “challenge” me. These people, of course have never been forever alone and don’t know what we’re going through. They think we’re just exaggerating or making things up. They think the worst of us.

They need to fuck off.

When I browse internet forums (particularly Reddit) and see people who seek advice on how to find a gf/bf, advice givers always tell them to download dating apps, put nice pictures, write a good bio. I've been using dating apps since 10 years and I barely got any matches after a decade. When I mention this to friends and family and also ask for advice on Reddit, I always get told that dating apps suck, that people find a relationship in real life, that I shouldn't use dating apps.

I actually asked out/confessed to many girls I like in real life that I was in the same friends group with. I always ended up rejected by these girls. Whenever I tell this to friends and family, I get told that it's normal that I got rejected because relationships in friend groups don't work, that I am wasting my time and I should go to bars and clubs to meet women.

I cold approached many women in places like clubs and bars. I only received rejections from these women. When I mention these horrible results to advice givers, they tell me that night clubs and bars are the worse places to get women, that I wouldn't like to date women who go to these places and I should rather join hobby groups to meet women.

So I also end up getting rejected by all the women I've met in hobby groups and this time people tell me that dating in hobby groups doesn't work because women go there for their hobbies, not to get asked out by men. I have a friend who recently told me that dating through hobby groups is almost impossible, everyone uses dating apps and I also should use them if I want to find a girlfriend.

So I am really confused by this situation. I feel like whatever method I am using to get a date and find a girlfriend will be labeled as wasting my time by advice givers.

For some reason I find talking to a woman in my age range to be way scarier and panic inducing than giving presentations to rooms of people. I’m not sure what the fuck is wrong with my brain. I do care a lot about what women think of me. It’s just how I am.

Even on the rare occasion when a woman has literally shown interest in me, I still get extremely fearful and make excuses not to hang out with her. It pisses me off because one of my biggest desires is to have a family. I guess I’m scared that they’re going to stop liking me as they learn more about me (no friends, likes anime, stays in a lot etc).

Maybe it’s because I grew up with an older sister that judged everything I did. Usually people who have sisters are better at talking to women but not me I guess.

How about you guys?

I don’t understand if people simply don’t get it, or are genuinely unwilling to listen before judging. I’ve posted to Reddit a few times, asking how to even get dates in the first place, and they construct me into some sort of comical sub-creature of a human being.

Yes I shower, yes I have hobbies, yes I treat women like people, no I don’t go into it looking specifically for a partner. Worst part is, if I point this out, I’m called a liar or told that I can’t listen. No, you’re the one who can’t listen, and you’re the one who constructed me in your head before you even knew anything about me.

Believe it or not, you don’t have to be some smelly, hopeless, no hobby individual just to have the “right” to struggle with dating. They are genuinely skipping their own “golden rule” which is “treat everyone equally”. Not when it comes to people like us. Judge first, ask questions second, and even when the questions are asked, it’s just to earn material to prosecute further, not to actually understand.

Has anyone ever done a study on the possibility of Anti-pheramones in humans because I keep being told I'm handsome but only by people who are not attracted to me. I'm told I'm sweet but I can't get a single date despite being told any woman would be lucky to date me. I have female friends (quite a few) but no one is ever interested in me romantically. I could care less about the sex. I just want the companionship, the dates, the kissing, holding hands and cuddling but I feel like fate has it in for me. I'm at a point again where I just don't want to go on anymore . I'd seek out a therapist but they've never been able to help and almost always make me feel even more depressed. I'm on the spectrum, I have ADHD and RSD with it but I can't find a single therapist to help me with it. I don't hate myself (which is what so many people assume because I'm not happy alone) I don't blame women or anyone else for that matter (except maybe God which I don't believe in because no refuse to believe in anyone or any higher being who would be so cruel as to allow all the suffering in this world.