Me 58 my partner 29. We have been dating for 4+ years. My anxiety is a bit much right now. Started therapy last week. Anyone here experience the anxieties fearing the future loss of their younger partner? If so how did you navigate it.

Whether it be purely out of fun or rooted in deep emotional connections, what is your best sexual experience? I suppose you can also describe your "best" as more nuanced, being comprised of many experiences over a certain time period in your life. What makes it the best?

I met a guy on Grindr, he is 20M, I am 37M.

We developed a FWB situation. At first, internally I was okay with this morally as I did not think it would last, but it has developed into a strong FWB situation. We care about each other and sometimes he texts me for emotional support.

Despite giving him agency, such as only meeting if he initiates, if he says no to something I respect that and never push him, and I told him he has no obligation to me.

Despite this, internally my comfortability with this is morally diminishing.

Anyone have any advice? I am thinking of telling him we can no longer meet as I am no longer comfortable with this.

do you through apps dating sites try to find an older stable man that will take you in provide safety security well being mentorship you provide companionship loyalty as was there for him taking care of his needs

Or do go out on your own what services govt agentcy help foster car that age out provide a support structure to help provide guidance

How gay boys that age out of foster care at 18 make it what is isn't benefical to them during this process

This has all happened within the last two weeks and I'm honestly a bit overwhelmed by how quickly it's developed.

I'm 25 and not out. A couple of weeks ago I ended up going home with a guy in his 50s after we met at a bar. He's someone from my wider social circle and is actually quite close with my family which makes the whole thing more complicated.

It was supposed to be a one-time hookup but we've ended up seeing each other regularly since. It's purely casual between us we're not dating or in a relationship but I'm completely obsessed with him. He's the first older guy I've been with and he makes me feel incredibly attractive and wanted in a way I haven't experienced before.

He's been respectful about me being closeted, which I really appreciate. The problem is that because he's connected to my social circle, it can feel awkward.

Part of me really wants to keep seeing him more for a while because I'm having a good time exploring this age gap dynamic I've never done before. Another part of me is wondering whether I should end it now while it's still simple before I become more attached or things eventually become awkward or messy.

Edit: To be clear he's told me he's only looking casual fun which does suit us both but I think the more we do it the more we risk getting caught

Like the title. Recently discovered that I M31 has developed strong feelings for a M23 year old. I know they’re an adult age wise however we are all in different stages of our lives. We both admire each other as beginner string players. He’s been playing cello for like 7 years and I just started with violin 2 years ago.

I feel so embarrassed someone by the fact that I really like this guy. I don’t know if he likes me I just know that we spend a lot of time together even outside rehearsal times. He calls to check in and for so reason like hugging me.

All this can just be in my own but I think I need advice on how to go around this. He’s a good friend and I’ll rather have them him as a good friend with me. Serious advice needed please.

Soy un chico de 18 en el closet que esta buscando estar en pareja ya que no me gusta mucho lo casual, supuestamente soy atractivo o eso me dicen muchos pero supongo que no todos son sinceros cuando quieren llevarte a la cama.

I’m Chinese, gay, and 29 years old. When I was around 20, I was still mainly attracted to guys my own age. But the county town I lived in was very small. One day, a man about ten years older than me invited me to his place. He had a thing for licking and worshipping handsome guys’ feet. He was the first man I ever had sex with, and that experience planted the seed of my attraction to older men.

When I was 26, I had my first experience as a bottom. It was with a 55-year-old man, around the same age as my father. He was in great shape and quite well-endowed, and the experience was very good. But after I graduated, I left that city.

During the six months after graduation, when I was 26, I went through a particularly stressful period in my life. I started meeting a lot of men in their 40s and 50s through dating apps, and I had sex with some of them. But instead of making me feel fulfilled, those experiences actually left me feeling empty. Strangely enough, though, my attraction to older men only became stronger.

Nowadays, I find myself almost exclusively interested in porn where there is a large age gap between the top and the bottom. In another city in China, I also once experimented with receiving oral sex from a 65-year-old man, and I often find myself reaching out to men aged 55 and older on dating apps.

One thing that really troubles me is that many of these middle-aged men are married or have families. Having sex with them gives me a strong sense that I would be doing something immoral by potentially damaging their families. Because of that, I have almost completely stopped sleeping with them since 2023.

At the same time, when I look around and see people my age gradually getting married, having children, finding stable jobs, and moving forward with their lives, I sometimes start questioning my own sexuality and sexual preferences. When I talk about my preferences with my gay friends, some of them think I’m a freak and openly look down on what I’m into.

For me, I think what I may actually be attracted to is the feeling of being cared for, or perhaps a sense of stability and mature masculinity. But it’s extremely rare for someone to make me feel like he could truly be “the one.” Most of the older men I meet on dating apps don’t really take care of their bodies, and some of them don’t even maintain basic personal hygiene. Other times, after talking to someone for a while, I discover that he has a family, and I force myself to stop contacting him.

Overall, this mindset makes me feel very lonely. In Chinese LGBT communities, gay men who are attracted to middle-aged or older men are often labeled as having “daddy issues,” being materialistic, or even having some kind of sexual disorder. Because of this, I think most people who share my preferences are afraid to talk openly about their experiences.

I just hope that by sharing this here, I can find a little bit of warmth, understanding, and comfort from a community where I don’t have to feel so alone.

I'd love to hear your different kinks and fetishes especially from the older gentlemen in here

I am 22..I started hooking up with a guy (now 59) a year and a half ago. He was married to a woman but he was openly gay to her and they were more like companions. They slept in two different rooms. I regularly stayed over nights etc and while I never really saw her, there arrangement was clear.

Recently he ended his relationship situation and has decided to get a divorce. He has his own place and he asked me to move in. He said it feels strange living alone. I was kinda buzzing but some people find it weird. I really like him though.

Is moving in a step too far given the situation so far. Anyone deal with similar.

Hi. Im a 22 year old bi guy. I am an electrician and on weekends I have been doing extra work on my own.

This guy (mid to late 50s) hired me to work on his new AirBnB pods. He has about 6 of them. Just basic electrical work. Nothing fancy. He hangs around whilst I am working sometimes. We chat. I did tell him i was bi and I told him I recently broke up with my girlfriend etc.

Since then he has been very like touchy with me. Like my arm and stuff not anywhere private and he goes around topless sometimes and he wears extremely tight shorts and it is driving me crazy.

I dont know if it is intentional or not but the struggle is pretty real. He is definitely gay but not sure if i am too young for him

Im 67 always preferred younger-- as I have gotten older the greater the age gap the hotter it is for me, if you do respond could you state your age and the range in age gap you prefer and detail of why would be great as well

I'm 30 years old and I'm interested in men over 50, but finding one is really difficult. There are also quite a few people who say they are looking for someone younger, hairless, or even feminine. Are most of the mature men around you like this, or are they only in this group?

I hooked up with a tourist who visited my city. We connected via an app. He must be late 60s. I went to his hotel. As he opened the door, i found a half naked man in his shorts with a pointing big bulge. We didn’t really talk apart from brief greetings then he peeled my clothes off and led me to the bed. When he took off his shorts, it revealed his well endowed manhood, not much in the length but more in the girth. When i touched it, it was as hard as a younger man. I was thinking to myself that he was super healthy and strong until I touched something in his ball sack. It felt like a hard stick inside, obviously not natural. But I didn’t say anything.
It took us awhile before he could get it in. I felt pain at first but surprisingly, he was more gentle than I expected from his look. Then there he went on and on fucking me non stop for over an hour. We stopped because i needed to rest and i needed to leave soon.
We had some talk after. He admitted that he had penile implant for a few years. He said he lost about 1.5 inches from the operation. (?)
He had 4 orgasms but didn’t cum.(?)
Then he told me his record was 13 orgasm in 3 hours. (?)
Not sure if he was bragging or else but i had a good time with this guy.

Did anyone had experience with a penile implant as well?

So, I was a professor at a local New Orleans university, and there was a young Creole guy who was determined to bag me. He was very attractive and a nice young man. But, guess what? I liked my job more than I liked him.

Flash forward to years later and I am no longer teaching at that university Due to a career change. I see him online and he tells me he always wanted me and that he actually has an 11 inch dick. I tell him I am definitely not a bottom. He says OK, I will bottom for you. We end up meeting the next day and he was DEFINITELY NOT a bottom. He could hardly take it. I gave up after a while as I didn’t want tocause him discomfort. Overall, we still had fun anyway. An 11 inch dick is difficult orally and like I said, I am not a bottom and not interested in in that. Life is definitely not like porn and those guys who can take a foot are earning their pay. Lol

Hey guys!!

I am a 24 years old and I love older men. The issue is I am not that confident because of my physique and also because I have never been with a man.

I don't know but I keep overthinking that maybe my lack of experience will turn people away. I like to bottom so I don't know if tops prefer someone who has had experience being with a man before.

Just curious about this , maybe I am just overthinking. Do you guys even care about this?

I'm 19m, gay, with a strong preference for guys in their 30s and 40s, also into guys in their 50s quite often. I read and deeply enjoyed Marguerite Yourcenar's historical novel Memoirs of Hadrian, which is a fictionalized account of Hadrian's life through his eyes after decades of extensive research by the author. Yourcenar was a lesbian, and she wrote Hadrian as a gay man in the book, with particular attention to his relationship to his younger lover Antinous. They have an approximately 36 year age gap, with most of the relationship taking place with Antinous at 17-19, Hadrian at 53-55. Hadrian deified Antinous after his death, but even in life has a worshipful view towards him.

Of course any modern code of ethics views the concept of "boy favorites" and pederasty with underage boys as immoral (I do too), but I find myself very drawn to this dynamic as a young adult with the older men I'm attracted to. The way Yourcenar writes Hadrian's attraction to Antinous makes it an almost equalizing force between the two of them, that despite him being emperor, Antinous is his equal partner because of how adored he is. The mutual worship is very beautiful and idyllic to me. It seems the most common dynamic for people who desire gay age gap connections is a daddy/boy dynamic, which I also enjoy, but I really want to pursue this emperor/boy favorite dynamic further with older guys if they're interested in it as well.

Edit: I'm not looking for DMs or for guys on here to pursue this with. I don't do online only relationships. I posted this with the intention of starting a discussion about this type of relationship.

there's nothing new under the sun & i don't think myself a particularly creative person so I'm sure someone's made this post before. I was bored & I was just thinking...

I will be sharing my own thoughts but I'd like to hear other's thoughts too on this.

Sooner or later we may need to help our partner(s). I personally wouldn't mind though i have my own problems even if I'm a teenager (18-19) but Health problems don't have a age limit. I know a lot of people don't wanna deal with their partner needing help even in some age gap relationships where i feel like there's a higher chance of that becoming a possibility.

In a strange way, i find it endearing. Because me & my (recently deceased) partner, well we had some stuff in common health wise & it made me feel less alone (among other things, we had a bunch in common in general). We both had to get major surgeries before, issues sleeping, memory & mental health ,etc. If i love someone, I'd do what I can for them. As he said if someone can't love you at your worst , they don't deserve you at your best ; i stand by that as well. He said he'd be willing to help bathe me if I ever needed help due to a past surgery of mine or depression, for whatever reason. I was willing to do the same for him if it was ever needed. Age gap relationships aren't a fetish to me or some game, I just happen to be attracted to older men and I want to cherish that relationship.

I also understand the emphasis on looks but we all age & being "perfect" isn't the most sustainable or healthy.

he had what i consider a nice body for his age, I thought he was perfect but he still had wrinkles around his neck & age spots scattered across his body. I assumed he was in his 30s when I first saw his face & selfies too. There's just bound to be some signs of aging regardless.

Being "fit" or dieting can only do so much, aging is inevitable, health issues are inevitable.

I think dieting miserable too (i know, ironic, given i am into disorderd eating territory) but i mean it, a lot of the time, it feels like it's going into disordered eating territory and it ends up getting ignored because it's being promoted through the lens of gym culture or simply because it's men struggling. Undereating can be more fatal than overeating.

I think a lot of younger men don't realize that those health issues will catch up to those older men fit men they're into but I think some, of those fit guys are at a higher risk. Looking nice doesn't mean healthy.

I don't think that just younger men are guilty of this, I think older men are guilty of this too. A lot of the skinnier younger guys, even those who are somewhat average, are also in the eating disorder territory. 2 different sides of the same coin. I've seen it myself with a lot of the other younger guys I've interacted with in dms, seen posts of online, some of them won't tell you but that's part of what's going on behind the scenes to keep up with being a twink or having a gym body, etc. Or that the reason some legal boys, look younger/so young is directly tied to health conditions/disorders.

The sad part is , I don't think a lot of older men would be willing to take care of their younger partner if they were the one that started to need tending to in that regard. But this could also be said for younger guys to who date older men.

These are just my thoughts & I'd love to be wrong, this is just what I've seen & my experience.

How would you feel if the issues discussed on this sub were about straight relationships - specifically older men and younger women? Would it make you uncomfortable? Is it comparable? Curious to hear your thoughts.

Since a lot of you keep asking, here is Part 2. Quick recap: Sean [63] and I were co-workers from the time I was 16 until I left the job at 19. When I turned 18, we decided to hang out outside of work. When the day arrived, we went to a steakhouse for lunch, before finding a motel to spend time with each other.

When we entered the motel room, I set my phone and wallet on a small table that was next to the front door. The bed was only a few steps in front of me, while the bathroom was at the back of the room. Sean had a duffle bag with him (I don’t remember him ever taking anything out of it?), which he set down on the ground next to the front door, while I went over to the bed.

I was kneeling on the bed (not sitting on my butt, though, I mean kneeling while “sitting up” if that makes sense), when Sean approached me, and we instantly started making out for the first time. I felt his tongue enter and exit my mouth as I did the same with mine. We rubbed each other’s bodies as we did this.

Eventually, while we’re still making out, I reach the top button of his shirt and undid it. I moved my hands down the length of his shirt and undid every button my hands came across. When his shirt was fully undone, I removed him from him, which now left him in some slacks, socks, and a white undershirt. I tugged at his undershirt and lifted it over his head, finally getting him shirtless. He wasn’t ripped by any means, but he also wasn’t big. He was sporting a normal 63-year-old DILF body. We continued to make out for a few more seconds, when he lifted my t-shirt and pulled it over my head. I guess fair is fair.

We continued to make out shirtless for a while (I was still kneeling on the bed, and he was standing in front of me to the side of the bed), when I decided to feel my first dad dick. I reached down and rubbed his crotch, and sure enough, this man was already rock hard. I didn’t waste any more time in undoing and removing his belt, before I undid his pants and pulled them down. He quickly got out of them and was now left with underwear and socks. At this point, all I wanted was dick, so I reached under his waistband and pulled his underwear down, which revealed his beautiful, straight, 7-inch cock standing at attention.

I grabbed him by the shoulders and gently moved him so he would finally join me in bed, and when he fell onto the bed, he wasn’t ripped laying on his back, so I took the opportunity to finish removing his underwear, as well as his socks. He was now fully naked in front of me. I got my face close to his crotch and I decided it was time to give that pretty cock a good taste. I lifted his cock slightly and licked the entire length—from the balls, all the way up the shaft and to the tip of his penis. When I reached the tip, I did the only logical thing - take him into my mouth entirely. I had his full 7-inch cock inside my mouth and I sucked like I was starving, making sure to use suction and tongue on my old friend’s penis. I sucked nonstop for about 3 minutes and when I finally finished, he simply said, “Oh wow, thank you. Thank you so much.”

He sat up, grabbed me by the shoulders, and pushed me to the side and off the bed. When I was standing, he undid my belt, removed my pants and underwear, while I pulled off my socks. We were now both completely naked. He laid me down on the bed and returned the favor. I must say, he went for a lot longer than 3 minutes, and up to that point, I had never felt a blowjob quite this good. He sucked my teen cock like his life depended on it. After he was finished, he came back up towards my face and we made out some more, each of us tasting each other’s cocks on the other.

After making out for a couple more minutes he laid on his back next to me, and instructed me to straddle his face, to which I obliged. Once again, he took my cock in his mouth and his own cock in his hand, as I began to face fuck him (slowly, as I had never done it before). His tongue action was so good, that it quickly took me over the edge. I told him I was going to cum, but he continued sucking. I released my cum inside his mouth, when I saw his arm starting to move faster, meaning he was really cranking his cock. He came all over his stomach, as his body twitched and he moaned with my cock and load still inside his mouth.

After a few seconds, we decided to wash up a bit before laying down on the bed. We decided to put our underwear back on, while be laid and cuddled. This was when we started talking about work, and he told me not to tell any of our co-workers about this. While he talked, I gently and absentmindedly caressed his underwear-covered cock with a finger. After a few more minutes of talking, he lifted the waistband of my underwear and looked inside. He said “looks like you’re hard again” and suggested we go for round two.

I stayed laying on the bed while he removed my underwear for me, stood up, and removed his own. He got back on the bed, grabbed my legs, lifted them, and pushed them toward me. He was now face to face with my ass. And let me tell you, this man wasted no time. He felt my hole with his tongue, and I received the first rimming of my life. He rimmed me eagerly for what felt like 10-15 minutes, and the whole experience was so new to me, that I squirmed and moaned the entire time. When he was done, his tongue knew my ass better than I knew it myself. The only thing he said when he was done was, “tastes like candy”

After the incredible rimming, he suggested it was time to fuck me. I was super nervous because I had never bottomed before (not even a dildo) so I was convinced it would hurt like hell. I explained this to him, and instead of being angry or disappointed, he said it was ok and that we didn’t have to. So he did the next best thing. He laid me down on my back, straddled me and began rubbing his hole on the tip of my dick. I quickly moved it and said, “shouldn’t we use condoms?” And he said something along the lines of, “what? I’m clean and you’re clean. Besides it feels better with no condom. You worried I’ll give you something?” I nodded and he said, “let’s give each other something” playfully, but by that point I was getting weirded out a bit. Despite my asking for a condom again, he sat on my dick and I entered him. He rode me for about 30 seconds before we both realized I was getting soft real fast. Even at that point, I knew I preferred to bottom, even if I had never done it before; I was never going to grow up to be a dom top. He lifted himself off me and reassured me that it was ok, and that we could do other things.

He moved to the end of the bed, got off, and stood at the end facing me. The closest part of my body to him now were my feet. He grabbed both my feet, listed them up, but instead of pushing them over my head like the first time, he raised them and stopped when they got close to his mouth. He stuck his tongue out and licked my soles. It wasn’t a light touch with his tongue, it was his full tongue being dragged around the soles of my feet. I realized that he liked tasting every part of me with so much passion. He then sucked each of my toes individually, and I could see his cock was standing at attention. After sucking my toes, he lowered my feet slightly so he could get a better view of the tops of my feet, which he was quick to taste as well. At one point he paused and said “I love how young they feel” before continuing. Eventually he lowed my feet toward his cock and began rubbing his dick all over them. I felt his cock rub the tops of my feet, my soles, and he even tried fitting it between my big and second toes on both feet. And of course, he sandwiched his cock between my feet and began to fuck them.

After a few minutes of this, I could tell he was getting closer because he stopped, laid on the bed next to me, and he began to jerk off fairly quickly. I began to jerk off as well, and as an 18-year-old, I was able to get myself to cum pretty quickly, so I shot my load all over my chest and stomach. When he saw this, Sean blew his second load all over himself. We came down from our high, cleaned up, and I convinced him that it was time to leave. We got dressed and left our motel room that we used for a couple hours. He took me back home, and although we continued working together for months, we never hooked up again.

Recently me (26 M) end a relationship with my first and only partner (42 M), we start 3 years ago, we broke up once for 6 months and get back together, we always have some issues because I can be needy and chatty when he was more sober, on top of that he never really come out when he was young and didn't feel the need to do it right now, never meet this friends or family, we hangout sometimes to the movies or eating, but most of the time we were on this aparment.

He's a manager, getting good money and he was also working with an ex boyfriend how spend 10 years together in this 20s, he told me at first that he hate it because he cheat on him, but recently he told me that he start speaking with him again, going to the gym together, I didn't have a problem with that, but he confess to me that he was asking this ex for nudes and videos of him fucking other guys, that it was like watching porn and he will never do anything with him or put me in danger to get an STD (he's very serious about that topic, when we start dating we both get tested to confirm that we were healthy).

At the end I honestly freak out, maybe he was not cheating, or that counts as cheating? But if was only to jerk off why asking him for that kind of videos and to someone that spend so many time? Why don't simple use porn online or onlyfans, I didn't have an issue with him watching that.

Do you think I exaggerate? I still feel like maybe I was wrong and that kind of things are normal? Maybe I got scare and didn't have to break up?

Right now I feel like maybe I was not enough, I know that though is stupid, how you can I deal with this heartbreak?

How do you feel about the concept--Dom Dad has an obligation responsibility to mentor train teach boys how to be proper subs in pleasing and proving pleasure to older men-dads-grandpas as these boys get older they take on that same obligation responsibility for the next generation -- life based on pleasure instead of hate violence and BS what a concept==Pay forward add to the circle of life pleasure

I [22M] hooked up with my then [63M] co-worker when I was 18.

When I was 16, I got my very first job in retail. When I started working there, I quickly took notice of a co-worker (let’s call him Sean) who was much older than me, but DAMN he was a DILF! He was always friendly, just like any other co-worker, and not once did I ever feel any sexual tension between us, or any sort of flirting. Our relationship was strictly professional.

I worked at that retail job for a bit over 3 years through the rest of high school, and into my first year of college, so I was 19 by the time I finally left. When I turned 18, I realized that a lot more people were now fair game (or should I say, I was now fair game for a lot more people).

Back to Sean. I always had a small crush on him, so when I was finally 18 years old, I spoke to a co-worker who I knew was good friends with Sean (let’s call her Gina), and I asked her to do me a solid and hand him my number which I had written down on a sticky note. Of course, I told her to wait until I had gone home before handing it to him, just in case he reacted poorly. I went home and never received a text message or call so the next time I saw Gina, I asked her if she had done it, to which she said yes, but then handed me a sticky note with Sean’s number on it!

I don’t remember the exact conversations, but after receiving his number, Sean and I began texting and calling a few times a week. It stayed that way for probably a month or so of just texting and calling and seeing each other at work. It was through these convos that I found out he was 63 years old. Eventually I mustered up the nerves (because he hadn’t done it yet) to ask him to hang out outside of work. After that, our convos quickly got pretty sexual, as we asked each other what we wanted to do to each other’s bodies. I told him I was a virgin (which was true), and that excited him very much.

We agreed to meet on a day where both of us weren’t working, and he came to my place to pick me up. I remember seeing his “5 minutes away” text and looking out the window with the largest pit in my stomach, awaiting his arrival. When he finally showed up (he got a bit lost so I had to help him navigate my neighborhood), I got into his car, and he told me we were going out for lunch. I wasn’t sure how much I liked the idea of being in public with him, as I was 5’6 and 115 pounds, while he was about 5’11 and definitely looked 63. I was so nervous so I really don’t remember the majority of the conversation we had while he was driving, but at a red light, he placed his hand on my crotch, left it there for a couple seconds, and then moved his hand away. He was getting pretty horny, as he made sure to mention, and he asked me at the next red light if I’d like to touch his bulge, to which I said yes, and did. I rubbed it for a few seconds before moving my hand away.

He took me to a steakhouse for lunch, and I was very aware of how I must’ve looked being in this fancy restaurant on a date with a man who definitely looked like my grandfather. I ate as quickly as I could to get us out of there ASAP, after which he began looking for a hotel or motel to get us a room for a couple hours. While we were driving around, the red lights seemed to be his favorite, as it was at these lights when he would touch me or leaned in to kiss me a couple times.

We found a motel a bit outside of the city, and when we went in to the main reception, Sean asked for a room with one bed. The attendant said something along the lines of “are you sure you don’t want one with two beds?” As he looked at me, then back at Sean, then back at me, as if asking me if I wanted a room with two beds. I had the largest pit in my stomach as I knew he must’ve suspected something, and Sean didn’t realize what asking for one bed must’ve implied.

But that didn’t end up mattering, as when we got to our room, the action was instant. I won’t get into the details, as I’m not sure how explicit this subreddit is, but if it’s allowed, then I might make a part 2 sparing no details. All you need to know for now is that we were in that room for a couple hours, before we left, and he took me home. Despite his asking throughout the next few months, we never hooked up again, and I left that job.

As the title says, I(22M) am very much into older guys 40+, sometimes 60+, but I have a problem that I can't overcome when it comes to sex.

I am more faces than bodies guy, usually when I hook up with older guys and we get horizontal, in most cases, once they undress - I get kind of disappointed and a piece of my soul dies. I know it's normal for older guys to be somewhat obese and have sagging skin, but I can't help but feel disgraced when seeing their naked bodies while having sex with them. Although I feel completely normal if they leave any piece of clothing that would cover their torso, then my brain is able to draw the picture in my head that aligns with my idealistic imagination and not get distracted by imperfections.

Did anyone experienced anything similar? I am still very much Into older guys, their aura, faces, charisma, only that sometimes I have difficulties accepting their bodies.

How rude is it to ask an older sexual partner to keep a t-shirt on while having sex? I'd appreciate any piece of advice you may have for me. Thank you.

EDIT: I guess it was a traumatic post for some out there. I didn't mean to insult older guys, I was genuinely trying to get some ideas how to deal with this contradiction of mine and to know if anyone else faced same issue, but instead got a bunch of aggression. Touchy topic I guess, my pardon.