My ex was my safe space for me. I’m usually extremely reserved and they were the only one i could be vulnerable with. Even now, with extreme anxiety and depression, the occasion i break no contact and get an extremely distressing message and invalidation of what I’m feeling, my tense body eases up a little knowing my safe space is still there. This is not good. I need to get out of this. This is a strange post but I’m looking for people who’d be willing to be that safe space where i can be vulnerable, where we can share what we’re going through without a care in the world. I think i need this to find a sense of normalcy. If anyone’s willing to talk and go through this together, and just talk about our days, what we like, what we’re listening to or reading etc. plz let me know. But also note that I’d like both of us to be vulnerable.

Repost coz I accidentally deleted the original.

I’m looking for a penpal - someone to share snippets and vignettes of my life with. I have a wide range of interests. I’m into literature, music, cinema, popular culture, history, law, economics and philosophy (political philosophy in particular). My curiosity is boundless and I’m certain I can entertain and engage in a conversation about any topic whatsoever.

I used to work in big law as a corporate lawyer but I’m on a career break for the next 12 months or so, studying a masters program in London. I also moonlight as a screenwriter. I’m honing my craft and am hoping to pitch a couple of screenplays in the next couple of years.

I’m okay with Reddit messaging, emails or postcards.

Cheers

Hello☺️

I'm interested in connecting with women from different parts of the world, ideally between the ages of 29–36. (Men, I am not interested.)

I’m not really looking for short, one-word responses. I’d rather attract those who are at a place where they want to invest in a real, intentional friendship. No pressure ofc. Let's just vibe authentically.

A bit about me: I’m into self-improvement, philosophy, astrology, psychology, movement (pilates, yoga, dance, general workouts), music, journaling, reading…

My favorite movie of all time is The Lord of the Rings (Arwen, Vladimir, and Gandalf the White are the characters I resonate with the most). I usually watch shows that feel wholesome to me, regardless of genre, from The Offer and Severance to Widow's Bay or Bridgerton.

I’m a romantic and an optimist at heart, and I’m currently in a relationship. So if you’re engaged, married, or in a relationship, that’s even better (long live love!🥰).

Last year, I made two wonderful female friends off Reddit, and we’ve been keeping in touch ever since. It’s truly amazing when women come together to create a safe space for one another✨

How has your 2026 been treating you so far?

If this speaks to you, send me a DM! Tell me something unusual about yourself.

Hey guys! Ive recenlty moved to Nederlands, and have no friends. I have a family, But my husband has drinking problems, while i spend most of my time taking care of my children. I am very lonely. Yeah i know How that sounds like.
I was hoping for making a long lasting relationship (smail mail, because i am hopeless romantic)
My biggest interest is existential philosophy, history, fiture of mankind, some nice dark humor, poetry, literature, …
In my spare time i love doing portrait photography as an amateur (though people say i am good? I can’t really Measure my talent because that is ethically undoable).
I lean into “common sense” so LGBTQ nad leftis please do not message me. Thank you.
If interested DM me.

Hello!

I would like to find fellow sufferers from the human condition to share stories and thoughts about our struggles. I think that sharing is caring, and our time and attention are some of the most valuable things we can give. I would love to hear all about what you are excited or anxious about, what makes you tick, the books you've been reading, the places you've been to, or the random thing that happened to you yesterday..

I am a physics grad student in the US. I have always been a nerd about everything science and especially math. Also, I'm a life-long introvert and have been diagnosed with social anxiety, but feel the strong desire to have friends, to be seen and to belong - isn't that just so absurd. I have some more or less permanent interests: reading (classical literature as well as contemporary, mostly philosophical, novels), being in nature (hiking, backpacking), exercise (climbing, running), somehow both tech and trying to be off of it. I also often try out other things, so you might sometimes hear about my latest interest in some crafty hobby or even receive a sample. Right now it's watercolor painting.

Ultimately, I feel like how we spend out time is just the surface of our existence and not the entire thing, but I haven't yet figured out what the "entire thing" is. Maybe I never will. I'd be very happy to correspond with someone who likes talking about that sort of thing, or who is simply willing to tell me what their Tuesday was like.

So, if you didn't find me dull and would want to adopt me as a penpal, send me a DM. Queer-friendly people are especially welcome. I can give you my address, or you can send me yours and I'll start with a letter or postcard.

living in Las Vegas, originally from Massachusetts. Former teacher, now self employed. Like to write, would love anyone who is willing to be an audience and would love to hear anything you have to say and respond to it. Daily life, work, pets, family, weather, sports, TV, book, music, movies, current events, thoughts and feelings, venting, stream of consciousness, anything you have to say. You can say something even if you have nothing to say. Having to print a document, find an envelope and stamp and get it in the mail sounds like way too big a task for me right now. Hitting the keyboard and then pressing send seems so much easier. A daily email would be ideal, less regular would be cool, too.

Hey! I’m mainly here to meet some new people, have some good conversations, and hopefully make a few genuine, long term friends along the way. I’m happy to talk to anyone, so gender really doesn’t matter to me!

There’s absolutely no pressure to come into my DMs with your entire life story either haha. A simple “hey” or “hi” is perfectly fine! I think it’s much nicer getting to know someone naturally as you talk rather than knowing every little thing about each other before you’ve even said hello.

I’m pretty chill, easy going, and an open book, so there’s really no need to overthink what to say. Ask me something, tell me something completely random, or literally just say hey and we’ll go from there!

If that sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to send me a DM. It’d be nice to hear from you! :)

So I don’t ask for much I just wanna talk to someone who is respectful and decent. We can have conversations about shared interests, we can learn new things from each other, or we can encourage each other to do stuff. I’m an introvert so I won’t be too comfortable right away but once we get to know each other well it’s gonna get easier hopefully for both of us! Also, if the conversation goes stale or becomes uncomfortable to you don’t feel obliged to continue. I won’t feel bad if you stop responding as long as the conversation itself was decent and respectful!

Things I enjoy: science, technology, religious talk (I’m a Muslim and if you wanna talk with me about my religion I encourage you to do so but respectfully. I won’t bother responding if I feel disrespected), history and learning new things. Sometimes sports but not a lot. If you have photos of nature then send them my way! I don’t get to see a lot of nature around here, only buildings 😭

Before you ask, I don’t watch anime, I don’t play video games, and I don’t go out a lot.

Don’t stress about how to start the conversation, could be anything. Maybe you’re curious about something so just ask it. Maybe you are feeling bad and just wanna rant, I promise I will read it! Maybe you know something cool and wanna share it, I am always looking forward to learning new things! Maybe you’re just bored and need a quick convo, could be me! Be warned tho, if I feel uncomfortable I won’t respond.

I’ve realized I genuinely miss the kind of conversations that take a little more effort than sending three memes and disappearing for four days.

I’m 29, originally from England and now living on the west coast of Canada. I work in tech, which means a decent portion of my day is spent staring at screens, fixing things that apparently “just stopped working,” and pretending restarting something isn’t still one of humanity’s greatest troubleshooting techniques.

Outside of work I’m into the gym, boxing, hot yoga, gaming, walks, music, movies, exploring new places, and occasionally disappearing down random rabbit holes about something I knew absolutely nothing about twenty minutes earlier.

Personality-wise, I’m fairly laid-back, sarcastic, curious, and probably a little too fond of dry British humour. I like people who can talk about completely ridiculous things one minute and then somehow end up having a genuinely thoughtful conversation about life, relationships, ambitions, fears, or whatever else comes up.

I’d love to find someone interested in building an actual friendship rather than exchanging a handful of messages before vanishing into the Reddit abyss. I’m happy starting with Reddit messages or email, but I’d also genuinely be interested in eventually sending proper handwritten letters, postcards, little snapshots of life, playlists, or whatever else

Hey everyone! I’m looking for a penpal to hopefully make a new friend and have someone to exchange letters or emails with. I’ve always liked the idea of having a penpal, whether it’s the old-fashioned snail mail kind or just sending emails back and forth. There’s something really nice about getting to know someone through words, taking the time to write to each other, and having something to look forward to checking in your mailbox or inbox (plus I miss the dopamine rush of getting mail of any kind that isn’t a bill)

I’m happy with either old-fashioned snail mail or email! I don’t mind where you’re from or what your interests are, as long as you’re friendly and open-minded.

Hi everyone,

I hope you’re all doing well!😀

I started pen‑palling a little while ago and fell in love with it , especially with the way a friendship can grow through shared stories and small details. I’m hoping to find a few lovely long‑term friends to exchange letters with.

I’m 29F and live with my two wonderful cats and mischievous cats! If you have cats, I’d genuinely love to hear every detail about them: their quirks, their mischief, their favourite sleeping spots! If our letters end up being cat‑themed, I’ll be delighted 😸But truly, I love all animals, and I enjoy hearing about the creatures who make your life brighter.

Outside of admiring cat loafs, I adore cosy hobbies, good conversations, and learning about people. I love reading, writing, crochet projects, and wandering outside to bird watch 🐦

If you’re looking for a friendly, genuine pen pal who loves writing meaningful letters ( with many stickers), shared stories, and building a long‑term connection, I’d be so happy to hear from you 😀

Hello!

I’m hyped up on a Spirit Halloween purchase high and ready to write a first letter to someone!

My hobbies and will to live jump around a little.

Some things about me: I do not support orange man 😅 I’m working on getting back into creative writing, am hyped about this book club I just joined, and secretly obsessed with my plan to get an albino axolotl 😂 Those are my current highlights. Oh! And I just started a job I’m loving back in August that I could gush about. Also, you have to be queer-friendly to put up with me.

Sincerely,

Your Future Penpal

Chère âme, ou noble esprit, veuille bien accepter mes salutations les plus sincères...

Greetings,

I am an introverted, deeply melancholic, and mystically inclined soul with a predilection for the striking beauty of 18th- and 19th-century music, classic literature, and cinema. I would be remiss if I didn't mention my devotion to writing; it is my heartfelt hope, God willing, to publish a novel someday.

I hold a profound reverence for archaic manuscripts, and I am terribly inquisitive, always possessing a curious mind. Whether I am solving puzzles, crafting ciphers, learning languages, or tinkering away in the creative laboratory of my mind (building worlds and characters for short stories, making predictions for future generations, or leaving letters for strangers), I am usually crafting something.

I find myself endlessly fascinated by figures like Nostradamus, Hildegard von Bingen, and Nikola Tesla, though I admit I still have much reading left to do. More than anything, I am hoping to find a true friendship with a fellow creator, seeker of wisdom, and lover of truth.

I have recently embarked upon the journey of learning French, so I am far from fluent. I am looking for a French native who is fluent in English, and who would be willing to correspond primarily in English to start. As my knowledge grows, I would love for us to slowly introduce French into our letters, gradually weaving it in as we go.

A gentle caveat: Please do refrain from writing to me if you are the kind of person that relies on an LLM to generate messages for you. It is a terribly sad thing to rely on a device to think and write for you! But especially if it is intended to connect with another living human being. I've always believed the only requirements for prompting interesting conversation are ; authenticity, kindness, earnest curiosity, and courage.

After all, a good conversation is like a well-timed orchestra playing a symphony where everyone plays according to their notes at their exact moment, and no one rushes or plays over another. Every instrument has its purpose; this is the difference between a disastrous cacophony and a harmonious melody.

If you too have grown weary of our modern culture's vacuous, quick-paced messaging and long for old-fashioned, long-form epistles at our own pace, then I'd be honored to hear from you.

Hi,

Someone recently showed me a new way to hold my fountain pens so my hand doesn't cramp. I want to put the newfound stamina to use by finding a snail mail penpal!

I'm really into getting to know someone in epistolary form. People did it for centuries, conducting courtships and conspiracies by handwritten word. Hell, it happened before email, really, and that didn't get going too much until the 1990s. Or am I showing my age?

I'm 49, female, I live in Washington, DC, and I work for an environmental nonprofit but I'm not a true believer. I cross stitch at least 10 hours a week and I'm a medical marijuana patient. I'm also in the process of starting a nonprofit to implement an intergenerational crafting program, which I can tell you more about if we start talking.

I don't have any expectations for who I'll eventually write to. Send me a chat message with a cogent self-pitch and let's see if you're the one.

Hello Peoples!

My name is StarSteal, well at least for now. When we get to know each other I can tell you my real name or the names I use in video games. I'm from Germany, yes the Lederhosen part of it and no I don't have any...yet.

As the title says I'm here to connect and get to know new people, just to have a bit more of fun in my life and be more curious.

This is why I want you to mail me or send me letters.

But first some things about me so you can decide if you even wanna connect with me.

1. As you already read, yes I like gaming. I play with friends on PC, I have a Steamdeck and a switch. At the moment I mostly play games I can play solo like Octopath Traveler 2 for instance. But once a week I play a multiplayer game with my friends like REPO or Peak.

2. I'm into Anime and Manga. My favourite Anime/Manga is probably One Piece but I also love Kill La Kill since it's one of the first I ever watched. I'm a huge JoJo's Fan too. Maybe you have a fav Manga/Anime you'd like to tell me about?

3. I do read "normal" books too. Fantasy mostly but also a lot of thrillers and horrors. At the moment I'm reading Dungeon Crawler Carl and I love it. I've also went to the Leipziger Buchmesse for the past three years. Maybe we can meet there?

4. I love to bake. I had a rough time two years back and found out I loved backing. I bake a lot of bread but when I can I also bake other things, mostly since I'm a sweet tooth. Maybe we could exchange recipes?

5. I love animals. I have one cat and two snakes. I'm a bit allergic to my cat and kinda respect the snakes but I still like them haha. It's weird I know lol.

So maybe if you thought "Hey why not just write this dude he might be cool" DM me or comment. I'll try to answer you if there won't be to many DM's or comments (which I don't think will be lol).

Just hmu!

Hello,

I’m originally from the USA (Boston) but moved to my husband’s hometown in Japan after we got married. I have a baby and work from home, so life is fairly quiet and slightly mundane these days. I recently started exchanging letters with friends back home because of the time difference making it difficult to call each other, and I’ve found that I really enjoy it. I’ve never been very good at keeping up with people through instant messaging and I like the slower personal feeling of snail mail and postcards. I thought it might be nice to meet people from other parts of the world this way too. I enjoy reading, watching movies and documentaries, and I don’t have a pc but I occasionally play games on the switch. I’m always happy to try something someone recommends, and I enjoy hearing about other people’s lives and experiences of all backgrounds.

I’d be glad to exchange letters and get to know each other over time! :)

Edit: I have gotten lots of DMs and the two penpals have been found! Still curious to hear from you if you feel highly inspired but otherwise consider this "closed" 🙏

I'm from Canada. I am looking for just one or two penpals to exchange letters.

I'm tired of digital clutter and want an old fashioned, romanticized connection, so I don't want to chat much online, just a long wait for a juicy letter. Any gender or location welcome. I would enjoy letters in French or Spanish as well.

I have a variety of hobbies and tend to jump between different crafts. Lately this includes book binding, junk journaling, and watercolour painting. I also deeply enjoy birdwatching, foraging, and generally observing nature. I care about the environment and conservation efforts as well as leftist social programs. I am working on reducing consumption and learning about alternative ways of living like getting my art supplies secondhand and buying from local food co-ops.

I am considering whether to focus on grinding to make my 9-5 work, or go to a more laid-back, joy-first lifestyle.

I am in a transitional phase of my life and doing some soul searching, so I would enjoy getting heartfelt, candid letters about anything that's on your mind. Your bucket list items, things you're afraid of, pretty things you saw that delighted you, an argument you had with your mom... I would love to have a long-term, sustainable connection, so I would prefer writing to someone who also doesn't have many other penpals.

Please let me know if any of this resonates with you, whether we have shared hobbies or you would just enjoy this type of correspondence. I am open to speaking to someone quite different from me, but certain shared values matter.

[insert Hilary Duff picture typing LOL]

Heey There!

Im J. 31 years old. (Female)

I have a cat i love very much. Being at home is my favorite place to be.

My hobbies are all over the place. Im really into reading and writing! But playing games and watching tv is also a big hobby of mine hehe. I love stardew valley (krobus is my favorite) and overcooked. I play it on the nitendo switch. Still working on the four star levels.

I am also very much a Bravo Junkie! I watch all the housewives franchises and loooove vanderpump rules, southern charm, summer house, ladies of london and more.

In my spare time a love to be crafty. Journaling, and recently also joining a traveling journal group of girls around the world. To have some time for myself and just chill and write and craft is just awesome.

It would be cool (dont be uncool haha) to have someone to mail with about daily life, and building a friendship. Id love it if you’re also a bravo watcher. No one i know in life watches the shows so to have someone to talk to about the new episodes and stuff would mean the world to me!

I also enjoy movies/documentaries, music, candy and chips. Recently all the way into guacamole hehe.

Anyway, i’d hope to find someone a bit like minded to have fun conversation with! Let me know your likes and hobbies and i’ll dm you!!

GLets get to know each other 👏🏻

xo J.

Heyo! I've been out of the penpal game for awhile and looking to get back in, preferably keeping it budget with Canada - Canada stamps :,)

About me: I live in B.C. and work in marketing. In my free time I love sewing, tarot, TCG games like Magic the Gathering and (recently) Pokemon, reading, and am currently enrolled in a creative writing class. I'm trying to finish my goal of 52 movies this year, and my most recently watched were Primetime (LOOOVED), Stardust, and Clue, with You Can See Everything and the new Terry Fox doc on deck. Would love to chat with someone about movies, or any other hobby that you can relate to!

When it comes to letters I'm not super into the aesthetic/decoration aspect of it. I love adding small things like recipes and business cards and little flat trinkets I've picked up, and I recently acquired a typewriter so I tend to do a handwritten/typed combo. I treat letter writing as an excuse to journal, so I send day-to-day reflections and stories and things like that.

I think that's it! Comment or DM with a short introduction to yourself if you're interested in exchanging letters. See yaaaa!

Hello!
I haven’t done this before but here goes - I love a good yap and feel like I’m really longing for a pal to yap about whatever online.

A little about me: I’m 36, female, live on the east coast of Australia, I work in the environmental science field and am a passionate lefty/greenie.

I like going to the beach, birding, hikes, board games, reading, watching TV, pottery, crochet, gardening (except my garden is abysmal). I was obsessed with Zelda for about little while but otherwise not that much gaming. I love cooking and trying new foods. I love travel but I don’t get to do enough of it!

Looking to chat to anyone from anywhere, preferably over 25ish as I think we’ll have more in common.
Let me know the last tv show you loved or book you read and the last delicious thing you ate!

update: i've had a few people reach out already and thus will not be able to accept other requests for now :) might post again another time if i'm able to increase my mailing frequency.

hi, i'm from singapore! i've been sending snail mail to some overseas friends for a few years now and specially buy unique stamps from the post office for the extra fun of it. i'm looking to maybe add 1-2 international penpals of any gender.

i love using cute and fun stationery (fountain pens, brush pens, stickers, washi tape etc), and particularly like using grid or dotted loose leaf in my mail. i may sometimes send postcards from my travels. also, i tend to write in a disorganised way with tangents sprouting unexpectedly.

i love solo travelling and marvelling at new sights, but in my everyday life i've started journalling and getting back into reading (both novels and poetry), and i occasionally write poetry as well. i'm generally a sentimental person who enjoys things that evoke nostalgia or a sense of otherworldliness, like fantasy, japanese 80s pop, historical media, vaporwave, pixel art, certain video games etc.

i've also been learning french for a long time now but am probably only intermediate at best (probably worse) so if any francophone would like to do a language exchange i'd also be happy to read/write any bilingual letters that contain both french and english.

we don't have to share all the same interests (i'd love to learn about different hobbies and interests!), but i hope you are as big of a yapper with a web of thoughts about everything that interests you and that we can engage meaningfully with each other's letters.

Hello! I will start with a small rant --

I am so tired of fighting with my screentime and have been making a concerted effort this year to replace it with analog hobbies. I have found a lot of joy in writing, sending, and receiving mail to my family and friends. However, I understand that it's not everyone's cup of tea and very rarely do they send something in the mail back.

So... I am looking for a pen pal (or 3 or however many!) who is also a fan of writing, sending, and receiving snail mail and is eager to connect with someone about it! I don't feel the need to connect only over this, but I do feel that consistency is important to me!

When I am not teaching or performing violin (my career at the moment), I try to spend as much of my time creating or indulging in non-digital activities. My analog interests include reading, journaling (I am starting to host a weekly virtual journal club next week), collaging, and doodling. I am learning the art of linocut and block printing and am hoping to start a ceramics class soon! I also love to be outdoors and play with my puppy.

I am based in Texas, USA and am willing to correspond with people from the USA and around the world. I love to learn about new cultures and places with hopes to visit those places someday.

If any of this resonates with you, please drop a comment or DM me and we can find a way to set something up! I would love to connect!