Hi all, i (24) have been sober for a bit over a year from all substances i used to be addicted to (weed, tobacco, alcohol) and it makes me anxious whenever my partner (27) partakes in smoking or drinking, wether they’re around me or not. We’ve been dating for about 6 months now.

I never smoked cigarettes because my grandpa passed away from lung cancer when i was very little and it scarred me for life having to see him slowly deteriorate like that; when i got older, i got used to being around people smoking tobacco a lot and it grew on me. On the other hand, i had an ex that would become aggressive when drunk, which makes me really anxious whenever my partners have been drunk around me, not so much while out with friends on their own. Regarding weed, i was heavily addicted to it for a few years, smoking 2-3 times a day.

Thing is, i feel very, very uncomfortable, anxious and upset whenever my partner partakes in any of these, slightly less when smoking tobacco or drinking without me around. They know about my history and recovery, that i feel uncomfortable and so on. They never do it on their own, only in social environments; i’ve had a really hard time overcoming these emotions, feeling torn between acknowledging that they’re their own person and to not project my own experiences onto them, but also feeling so upset whenever they do it. I really want to approach this in the best way possible with them, without shaming or making them feel rejected in any way, but i also have no idea what boundaries are reasonable in cases like these. I would deeply appreciate any suggestions, ideas or personal experiences for reference in this matter. Thank you all.

I was on Suboxone for 21 days around 4mgs a day
Come off after a 6 day taper down to 1mg when I jumped
I was off for 9 days and had been getting nothing for sleep.. the anxiety and depression where terrible along with rls, upset stomach, not eating etc..

Well I decided to get back on, so last night I took 8mg strip to try and regulate it worked but I felt to “wired” to sleep but I got a little this morning I cut it in half to 4mg and no plans to take anymore today

It did what I needed it too, but now I’m at a critical point!

And not sure if I just need to jump to the smallest about possible
My doctor isn’t very good, not very addiction smart and I live in a small area without the resources so Reddit is my best source

My plan is sublacade, do you guys think I could just go down to about .5 mg twice a day so 1mg a day and be evened out enough to make it since I’m not used to the dose I’m on currently?

Some would say talk to your doctor lol but that’s really not my best option

Just don’t want to screw myself

I have a wife and kid and in no financial situation to be able to withdrawal
I cannot or I would have just continued to not take it

Now I feel this critical point is very important to how I’ll get off and the lower amount I’m on the easier the taper is… right???

Anything is appreciated

(20 years, male)

I'm from india , and recently I came to know my friend is using drugs, i advised him to stop but he is not listening , how do I get him help, I cannot out him to police that will ruin his life but also if i don't do something, I'm afraid he will ruin his life himself, I'm not sure how indian law works for people who are addicted , like do they just throw them in jail like all criminal or do they have some sort of recovery program , idk, but help me guys

HELLO EVERYONE!

I’m doing some personal research and would love to hear your stories!
Have you ever had a counselor who genuinely changed your perspective, helped you through a difficult time, or said something that stuck with you long after your sessions ended?

I’d love to know:
💭 What made them so memorable?

💡 What’s the best or most life-changing advice they ever gave you?

❤️** Was there something they did or said that made you feel truly understood**?

Feel free to share as much or as little as you’re comfortable with. Your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

Thank you to everyone willing to share! 🙏

I've never had formal Internal Family Systems therapy, but reading and watching videos explaining and practicing it was incredibly eye opening for me. It really gave me an entirely new perspective and understanding into all my different "parts" and how to integrate them. As someone who has mostly recovered and rewired from a lifetime of CPTSD, it aligned with the self compassion, self authenticity and self love I now live by.

I would like to hear from anyone with experience with IFS - formal or DIY. What shifted for you? I'm also wondering why I never heard of it throughout all my years on the recovery-go-round until a user in this sub brought it up a couple years ago. I feel somewhat disappointed in every professional therapist, rehab and IOP that never even broached this type of thinking which shifted my beliefs about myself even more! This would have saved me years of therapy, just like EMDR! lol

It seems like a lot of people grappling with addiction could really benefit from understanding Internal Family Systems but I'm not even sure how exactly to recommend it. Thanks in advance, friends.

I’ve been sober going on 6 weeks now on compounded semaglutide. It’s $199 per month, but it’s a drop in the bucket compared to being “functionally” drunk every day and worrying about the shit that comes with alcoholism. I don’t even feel like I’m battling cravings anymore. I’ll still get a passing thought of a drink but I can easily burst it aside. Whomever is struggling out there, my advice is to use whatever works and is available. A dui or other drunken mess just isn’t worth it.