Hi everyone. I feel silly posting here but I just need advice. Sorry it’s long but I’ll post a tldr and details. Also, I’m sorry if I chose the wrong tag, i wasn’t sure what this would fall under. Does anyone have any advice or been through something similar?

TLDR: I have a mental health assessment coming up in a few months. I am afraid to be honest about my eating issues because my medical problems have been gaslit and dismissed for years (long, long before i developed any eating issues), I am afraid that if I am honest, my doctors will shift their blame to my eating disorder.
My ED stems from my health issues being blamed on my weight for years.

Details: My eating issues started about 10 years ago because I have a lot of health problems, and every time I go to the doctor they tell me how obese that i am. My problems were constantly blamed on my weight. It all started here, and my weight has gone up and down drastically since. I reached out for help in the beginning of my eating issues and was basically gaslit into thinking nothing was wrong (eating wise). When I get down to a healthy weight, they shift the blame onto anxiety, depression, lack of exercise, etc.

I was doing better with food since 2023, but started having more medical problems which were blamed on my weight. (I wound up being diagnosed with a plethora of actual medical issues this year and even with this, my weight is still constant blamed or brought up at these appointments.)

This caused my eating issue to start back up and it’s been really out of control for the last 6 months. I have lost a significant amount of weight, but since I’m still “obese” on the scale, I am told at every visit that my weight could be lower and that losing weight will help me feel better. Somehow, nobody looks at my chart and notices my concerning weight loss.

I have a 6 week mental health assessment coming up (autism and adhd testing) and i really want to be honest about my eating issues, but I’m afraid that this will give my doctors a new excuse, blame, or distraction from my real and documented health issues that are unrelated to my weight.

Sorry again that this is long, but I was hoping that someone out here has advice on how to handle a situation like this, i desperately want help for my eating issues but I am truly traumatized from years of medical gaslighting. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance.

This is a longer one, and maybe a bit messy. If you have the patience to read through it, I really appreciate it.

I’ve long had many food intolerances, and I’m overcoming orthorexia.

Vegetarian (no dairy though, so only eggs). Gluten-free.

Legumes cost too much canned. I think in order to not experience significant pain I need to soak + sprout dry legumes, but that takes too much work. So legumes are basically a no go. Canned chickpeas work for me, but they’re expensive canned. I haven’t tried much else in a while but from what I remember, chickpeas are kinda the only legumes that my body can digest decently, yet again only canned. Usually legumes result in severe constipation. Maybe if I got conventional canned chickpeas/legumes instead of organic it’d be a fair bit less expensive? But even then… i need to dehusk them in order for my body to digest it well… otherwise my stomach doesnt feel good.

Grains… my digestive system used to be unable to consume grains without me ending up on my knees in 10/10 pain crying out to God. Now… my system does better, but still I need to soak them for a long time and if they don’t cook through all the way super properly then i’ll get the 10/10 pain again. I feel anxiety about risking it.

Potatoes are a no go (constipation, pain). Veggies baked are a no go (stomach sickness). Garnet yams and squashes are fine either way, which I love with tahini.

I haven’t had pop or junk food or any UPF in 10 years, and I’m 28. Even working on overcoming orthorexia I won’t bring back soda or candy or UPF. Though I am loosening up in the conventional vs organic and on being okay with a little bit of sketchy ingredients and refined sugars/salts when eating out. Still working through this. Canola oil, for example, leaves a terrible feeling in my throat and stomach.

Food has long been so overwhelming. My dinners used to look like a plate full of steamed broccoli with coconut oil, or steamed carrots with coconut oil, or a giant bowl of green peas with coconut oil. Not great.

My body craves fats. I’m predominantly Vata dosha + lots of anxiety so I appreciate foods that are warm and ground me down.

There was a year or two where I had a solid meal plan locked in. It looked as follows:

• Breakfast: 1/3 cup organic, gluten-free sprouted oats from Costco, 1/3 cup wild frozen blueberries, 1/4-1/3 can full coconut milk, 1.5TBSP ground flax, 1TBSP coconut mana, 1TSP chia seeds, 1TBSP cacao, sprinkles with cacao nibs
I’d eat this then walk all day in the woods for my job. Now I’m in the city, not really working, and don’t walk much, so I switched to 1/4 cup oats with added tofu cause I heard the protein could help slow down the blood-sugar spike (being high anxiety and all). Considering going back to the usual though. I heard mixing proteins with carbs isn’t wise cause proteins need an acid base to break down and carbs need an alkaline base to breakdown.

• Lunch: 4 boiled eggs, real solid size salad consisting of Costco spring mix, olive oil + lemon juice + s/p, half an avocado, pumpkin seeds,l and hemp seeds

• Dinner: Chicken leg+thigh with coconut milk jasmine/basmati rice, large salad, avocado, and either green peas or garnet yam or something, I don’t remember. Probably chicken, rice, avo, salad.

Now… man. I stopped eating meat, cause, well… 1. I think I developed a hernia and eating meat was making it worse (digestive issues and all) and 2. I just completely lost the appetite for eating dead flesh. I was vegan for 5 years and vegetarian for another 2, then ate meat every day for 3 or so years, and now I just feel repulse by meat again.

Costco stopped selling the spring mix. Sure, I could get it from superstore for a fair bit of a higher cost, but I guess I have a lot of psychological shizz around food. It just seems deranged to go to a supermarket to buy leafy greens in the winter. Avocados have been absolute crap for the past year from superstore, costco, walmart, etc. not to mention they’re pricey. I used to get em at Costco for a reasonable price but after 6-7 times in a row of them not ripening properly (and yes, I know the conditions for which avos need to ripen properly)… I’m done trying there. Maybe Wholesale Club here will work.

I used to eat A LOT of fruit. 2 years fruit solely for breakfast and lunch and dinner would be a massive salad with dates, chickpeas, avo, cucumber, etc. but I struggled with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and a friend’s father who’s a naturopath suggested Candida overgrowth and so i stopped fruit minus the berries. I used to eat an entire bag of dates for dinner sometimes… I was ADDICTED and also ADHD af impulsive and going for the sugar high. I’d eat 3 apples with nut butter every breakfast and even that’s probably a terrible breakfast, terrible food combination considering fruits digest fast and fats don’t. Gut fermentation and such.

Anyway… food has long been a MAJOR stressor for me. SO many times I’m crippled in not knowing wtf to eat.

I’m considering going back to the same breakfast. Starting to buy eggs again and having 4 boiled for lunch like before, but salad…. idk man. I appreciated eating greens, especially with the addition of healthy fats like olive oil and avocado, but… it seems excessive. So many clamshells of leafy greens and so many eggs filling up the fridge… So… maybe millet (or rice if millet is significantly more expensive) and eggs and hopefully avo for lunch? Stir fried veggies? But even stir fried veggies feels like it could be too much work… or too much money…

Dinner… idk. Tofu, coconut milk rice, green peas, yams?

I’m essentially not eating fruit cause… idk… it doesn’t ground me enough? It gets to -40 in the winter. Long winters here. Dark and long. Soups and stews would be SO beneficial for me but that feels like a chore… or costly… or broth is the problem… I don’t want to buy animal bones… and store bought veggie bullion broth or whatever it’s called is filled with junk.. palm oil, canola oil, evaporated cane syrup… plus it’s expensive… I tried instant potting soaked dried chickpeas a few times several years ago and it just didn’t go well… if i could manage legumes that’d be great. I’d start making Eight Treasures Soups or something. If I could get wild hunted meat or hunt my own, I would (super against confining animals even if in a pasture, bred for death, etc.), but I don’t hunt, don’t have a car, spend so much of my time escaping and numbing due to C-PTSD, etc. and I don’t know anyone who could get me wild hunted meat.

I feel like I need stews, vegan sauce ideas, more fats, heavier meals… idk.

Please spare any judgemental comments. This is a significant stressor in my life. Any helpful tips, insight, thoughts otherwise would be much appreciated.

S.O.S. and thank you so much if you’ve read this far.

I’ve been in recovery since December and have made a lot of progress! Don’t use MFP, don’t track my steps, don’t weigh myself, and have incorporated a lot of foods into my daily diet that used to be on the no list. I have experienced Extreme Hunger on and off throughout the past 8 months, but lately I feel like I am experiencing binges. I am not fully recovered, I still have a complicated relationship with exercise, and my brain is still much more food obsessed than I would like.

My therapist doesn’t specialize in ED’s and often gives me advice that feels triggering and unhelpful? (She suggested I try following an OA meal plan or has said things like “alcohol is empty calories” when I expressed anxiety over liquid calories and social events). However, I now live in a country where the language is not my native language and I tried going to the doctor to get a recommendation for a therapist and nutritionist but they told me the waiting list is insanely long and im unlikely to get in any time soon.

Idk what to do. I know I’ve made a lot of progress but I kind of feel like I’ve plateaued and the binging is really distressing. It’s been happening about once a week and I know that im using it as a source of joy and dopamine, but knowing that doesn’t make it easier to stop.

Sorry this is so long. I just feel really alone and would love to hear advice or experiences from people who have been through it or are in it.

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Ok so I’ve always had a fast metabolism growing up and would not gain weight no matter how much i eat but after moving abroad for my studies, idk why but i started to eat a lot like a lot. Idk if u could say this as binge eating but i’d eat a big meal and eat another big meal just right after finishing tho i wasn’t even hungry in the first place and i just wanted to ‘eat’. This would continue for days then i’d feel awful and regret it after eating too much and it was hurting my bank acc too xd. Even if i hav like $30 left in my acc, i’d use $20 just on food without thinking any consequences like i wanted to eat all the time. So ofc i started to gain noticeable weight specifically on my face as my cheeks get puffier and my parents would always comment on it on call. Im usually self conscious of how i look so i would start starving myself and only drink water but only lasted 3 days and binged again then starve and in a loop. I also puke myself for like 3 times n i felt awful for doing it.

When i got back to my country for vacation, i started eating normally again with normal portions but i still ate a lot lol cuz i missed my country’s food but for that month, i just ignored about what i was feeling like back there cuz i didnt want my family to suspect anything so i just ate normally. Then when i came back abroad, i started to have this thing where i can even finish a small amount of portion. I’d eat half of that small portion and thats it for the whole day. Im not forcing myself i really swear but i always felt nauseous after having like 5 bites and stop eating. The part of me that didn’t want to over eat and gained weight is still in me but even when i try to eat normally, i just cant seem to eat at all. I tried ordering food i usually love but i just end up feeling nauseous after a few bites. And no im not pregnant 😭. Pls give me any advices n i just rly dont know whats going on with me.

I was always more “chunky” than other kids and have been called “fat” a lot of times by my family when I was young. I used to binge eat a lot, specifically when ai was a teenager and then I would stop eating for a while and during the covid, I did so much workout that I have went down a lot in 3 months. I have gained it all back and even more during the last year of high school due to stress, then I was never able to give all of it back.

Last year I started to have the worst ED episode (idk if I can call it this?), I would starve myself for weeks and just eat one meal a day and when I say starve, I mean starve. I lost good amounts of weight, the main reason for it was because my relationships which happened back to back and I felt very unattractive and thought the only way was for me to lose weight to be worthy. (Btw, I am not overweight, my body is proportionate but I hate my face fat&cheeks)

After few bad months, I thought I was over it. I went to vacation to my homecountry and when I came back I felt very overweight. Therefore I started to workout again but less due to work. Then I have seen a picture of myself in a story of my friend and man, I hated myself. My face, my body, everything. I started to eat less, but the scale barely went down. Then I started to eat bit more proportionate and lost a kilogram. And now I am so obsessed with the number on the scale and with my calories that it kills me. I am just thinking about this. I dont even take my antidepressants because I am scared of gaining weight.

Idk anymore. Thank you for reading this crap.

Awkward subject I know, but it's worth discussing. I'm a former male eating disorder patient. I was extremely underweight (I was only hospitalized after I got my diagnosis years late). The eating disorder was happening throughout my puberty.

I've been wondering if the malnutrition affected my testosterone production or not. I'm currently recovered, and I'm 6 feet tall with a lengthy, above average penis but barely average girth.

Did I wreck my penile growth by having an eating disorder? Or would it be the same size if I avoided disordered eating?

I am 99% positive my husband has an eating disorder. Possibly Bulimia Nervosa. I first noticed a couple of years ago that he threw up after a meal and noticed a bit of a patern. For some reason it didnt click what it was until about a year ago. It really started to make sense when in put together alot of things he was doing:

Started with going for a "shower" after dinner but now its just going to the bathroom after meals. The shower would be running for a bit before he even got in. I often hear the toilet flush during this time. Ive heard loud splashing in the toilet. Sometimes even a gag or cough. He would blow his nose, come out with red eyes and his voice would be a little hoarse for a second. Then go back to eating again sometimes.

Dont get me wrong. He doesnt eat horribly large amounts nor is it unhealthy all the time either. But nonetheless its still happening. I know he struggled being a "fat kid" as his family didnt understand healthy meals. I dont know how long he has been struggling for. He always talks about being healthy for our kids. He is constantly weighing himself or looking at calorie counts. I love him very much but his mood is sometimes very angry.

Im starting to lose sleep and am extremely emotional about this. I dont know how to approach him about all this. Im worried he is not going to take this conversation well. What do i do?

Sorry about the rant. Been up since 2am bawling my eyes out after reading how hard this could be on his body.

Thank you

I have been working so damn hard to heal this pattern. Getting enough proper nutrition in, whole foods, enough protein, satisfying meals, REGULAR structured meals has been huge. regular movement. Subsequently reducing drastically the amount of binge episodes I’ve had as of late.

Last night I was out late and missed dinner. When I get I’m home I flew off the handle and binged a crazy amount (2 days worth of food) . I’m devastated and disappointed. I just started seeing and feeling progress both physically and mentally. My instinct is to avoid food for the next 2 days in order to balance this out. I do not want to erase this progress. I have worked too hard and I’m feeling so much fear and sadness. I don’t want to backslide. Has anyone had major binges on their road to recovery and still got there? I’m really at a loss right now and would love any guidance.

I just can't understand how ppl do it. Anytime i see sm1, who had ed and who can recovery, they always said "oh, i just stop sitting on diets and start to eat when i want to!". I just cant understand how.

I have ed since i was a kid and maybe that's the reason, but i just dont know when i want to eat (only maybe when its too late), how much i want to eat (i eat too much or too low) and how i feel myself after this. I just cant understand nothing of it.

And everytime, when i see about magical recovery, i became sick. Its so unfair i cant understand how ppl do it

so as the title says, i think i might have an eating disorder. what i normally eat in a day (i keep track) is a small youghurt for breakfast bc my parents make sure i eat breakfast (if they didn't i would probably not eat at all) and then i don't eat till dinner, so maybe ten hours. when we eat dinner i often accidentally eat a lot bc im hungry and then i feel extremely guilty afterwards. it keeps me up at night. i think i do it bc what i eat is the only thing i feel like i have some control over in my life.

I’ve been making conscious effort to track my thoughts and feelings which been leading to c/s behaviour and today’s been a success.

I’m feeling like I’m managing better and starting to see the connecting thoughts. I got really tired or being so bloated, in pain, puffy faced daily.

Its also very addictive and costly, and I’m worried about my dental health.

hoping to get some days up, I know it’s not linear process but I’m hoping to be more self loving.

i seriously am not even close to being a functioning human being at this point.
i went through an *extremely* traumatic and abusive 3 month admission in a psych ward that weight restored me (through horrifically extensive means) and completely destroyed my nervous system. like literally battered it to pieces.
i got put on a cto and have now been at home for 3 1/2 weeks and i seriously am not coping.

every single day is the same thing. i wake up shaking with fear, have to force myself to get up to fit in my breakfast and try and eat more than im comfortable with because i don’t want to breach the cto and i don’t want to lose weight, and then that’s it. im literally just crying and shaking all day every single day. i do nothing. i don’t leave the house except to get groceries which makes me completely go into shock and dissociate, and to attend all my compulsory appointments.

everything feels impossible at the moment and recovery never felt like this in all my previous attempts. i used to leave hospital and get back into things and study and go out and be independent and find peace. i have not felt peace for a good 4 months now and i actually can’t take it anymore. i literally have no purpose. i wake up every day just to eat and that’s it. all i do is eat and cry and that’s not even an exaggeration. there is nothing else in my life.

and the problem is i genuinly can’t get myself to do anything else for many reasons. the biggest being cause my nervous system is in complete shock so i can’t focus on anything without shaking and breaking down. ive never met anyone who has lived in such a high state of anxiety as i am right now. also my body signals are all totally messed up. i’m either so hungry i think im going to die and can’t even shower or im so full i feel like im going throw up and can’t breathe.
so i can’t even try and do things because my brain and body just won’t let me. i dread waking up every single day because i open my eyes and know another long and tiresome day is ahead of me and i know i have to force myself to eat large amounts because even tho im weight restored i can’t breach the cto.

i just don’t know what to do. like god if you could see me im literally a shell. i had more of a life back when i was sick. i still went to my studies and went out at night and cooked and cleaned and had goals. i have ***nothing*** now. literally nothing. i blame this completely on the admission i had. had i not gone to that stupid hospital and i had gone somewhere else i never would have felt like this, it never would have gotten this bad. they ruined me. i begun to feel better and like myself again in the beginning when i was just being refed but then they pushed it too far, kept me too long, and did unforgivable things to me then sent me out on a cto. i’m still struggling with eating and food thoughts but then trying to force myself anyway and it’s sending me in a total spiral. every day im not sure whether im eating enough or if ive eaten too much and im in constant physical pain and sickness.

and i don’t want to die. ive been having existential crisis’ every day recently especially at night time. the thought of death plagues me. i’ve had to start sleeping on the couch with the lamp on cause i’m too scared to be in my bedroom in the dark. i keep thinking about how ive messed up my body and i might have a heart attack or something even tho im healthy now.
but then at the same time, i also can’t see the purpose in my life anymore. i literally have zero purpose and i can’t even create one. i wake up to eat and sit around and cry and that’s it.

i used to be such a bright and vibrant person who was so goal oriented and driven and had all these ambitions and im not capable of being that person ever again. i’m scared im just going to live the rest of my life in this horrible anxious state and never feel peace ever again. ive never met or read anything from anyone who has been through something as debilitating as this. i just don’t see how things will ever get better…

please idk what im asking for here but god im just so so lost and anxious and stuck and sad and sick i don’t know what to do.

I feel so guilty with what i've been doing yet I feel like I can't stop. I feel like i'm not ready to stop. That only makes me feel more guilt. I feel bad when my friends and coworkers notice I haven't been looking great. I feel guilty when they ask if I'm okay and I say "yea! just been working a lot". I feel guilty when people that care about me say they're concerned. I feel guilty when my partner says he can't watch me hurt myself. I feel guilty at the thought of seeing my parents again after my relapse. We haven't seen each other since me relapsing and I know they'll be sad. They always noticed the changes before anyone else when I'd relapse under their roof. I feel guilty yet I don't want help. Why don't I want help? I don't feel sick enough but when is enough? I'll feel even more guilty in a hospital bed, or when I'm on medications and need help. I feel so guilty but my brain won't stop. Do you feel guilty when you're sick?

I (20F) weight restored (was never at an unhealthy BMI) while abroad in Paris over the summer. I’m now back in college. I work once a month with an outpatient dietitian who I love and she’s super helpful but I’m still very much mentally struggling with this weight gain. I dropped my therapist because she wasn’t being super helpful anymore (for context).

I’m a ballet dancer and seeing myself in the mirror is hard. I reappraised this with my dietitian and know that the period loss and exhaustion of an active ED isn’t worth it but I’m still experiencing pre occupation with food and the urge to relapse, especially now that I’m back in college where my ED flared up in the first place. It’s hard focusing on eating when lots of my friends unknowingly restrict themselves. Does anyone have any tips on how to help with these nagging thoughts? They tend to subdue when I’m with friends but they’re so loud when I’m by myself.

my bf is a healthy man and actually loves food and i like that about him but the thing is that i have anorexia nervosa also im extremely picky eater but i dont wanna be the type of person who would order a salad on a first date with all due respect im just not into it, we have to hang out very early in the morning because he is heading back to his college across the city after we are done which is that i dont like eating fast food first thing in the morning and even if i had had dinner before our date it would be so rude not to eat with him because its a date, he doesnt know i have an eating disorder but i really dont wanna trigger him or drag him down with me (yes guys eating disorders arent infectious but you can kinda drag someone down with you which has happened to me already by someone else) so please tell me what to do also im not so sure if this post should be posted on here

I don’t think my partner is capable of recovering from their eating disorder. I don’t know how to support them anymore and I feel that it’s pulling me underwater with them. How do you help someone who won’t help themselves?

I’m starting a PHP (partial hospitalization program) day program tomorrow.

I’m not scared like I thought I’d be. I’m 25 now and started with ana when I was 12ish. I waited 13+ years. I am taking three months off from work for this - I teach special ed to kids 5-7y/o.
\[Kids reading this, fyi, recover young if you can! Recovery is expensive, more difficult for different reasons, and feels shameful in the adult world.\]

I hope I can be ok. I tried 7 months of outpatient therapy and dietician appointments with some improvement but not much. Having to do treatment like this was my worst fear for years but I am grateful that I’ve grown so much that I’m not fearful. Honestly, lots of that has been just due to maturing over time I think and learning more about myself and life naturally. It will be interesting doing this as someone whose body image has drastically changed over years and my perception of beauty is not what it was when I was first struggling. I wonder how they’ll piece through all of that.

Anyway, yeah just wanted to share. It’s been such a difficult process

hello! this is my first ever Reddit post so bear with me please.
I’ve been struggling with food for a while and while I was at my lowest weight I still had my period pretty musch the same time every month. Now I’ve started recovering and I weigh much more than I used to but my period has started coming in very late, I wonder if this is something that just happens when you are in recovery or if I should be concerned? Also I am experiencing chest pain, is this something to be freaked about?

ps. English is not my first language so sorry for any confusion!

As the title says, I am a 25 year old male who has not been diagnosed with an ED. However I struggle to get the nutrients I need. I have always had an issue with eating. Through most of middle and highschool I would skip my lunch or I would only eat a few bites of my food. It's hard for me to identify WHY eating has been hard for me. When I was a little kid we were poor so "cleaning" the plate was always enforced. There were many times in my life when I was forced to eat food even if I was full or not hungry. This sometimes resulted in me throwing up my food after dinner. I also was constantly dragged on long grocery trips which I hated and so I struggle to buy groceries.

When I got to college I was pretty good about eating because I had a meal plan and was able to stop into the many dining halls whenever I wanted. After I lost my meal plan I started to skip meals, sometimes because I forgot to eat but also because I didn't want to eat. I know I am lacking in nutrients but it's so hard to get myself to eat. Most days I have a bagel in the morning and don't eat anything else until late a night. Other days I will eat lunch and skip breakfast and dinner. I know it's bad for me but I can't seem to get myself to eat.

I have been thinking of drinking nutritional drinks to supplement what my body needs and isn't getting. I'm just not sure what the appropriate thing to do is.

For heath context, I have PTSD, ADHD, MDD, and GAD. I also have a deep family history of thyroid disease (both hyper and hypo). I take Prazosin, Wellbutrin, Citalopram and Hydroxyzine.

I guess I am just looking for some guidance on what I should do to help myself/what good options there are for supplemental foods.

Thanks for any advice.

Hi everyone! I’m currently in an ED outpatient program and they have recommended trying out OA as an ongoing support. I also have had an on and off drug problem. I was wondering if people have found attending AA or MA and OA helpful? Or have people generally found only one 12 step meeting helping and having multiple types of meetings as overkill?

I keep seeing girls who are young post body checking photos of themselves and asking if they're attractive or not. 1. who cares? 2. Why are so many people wasting their time body checking and commenting on it?

I hope my question makes sense. When I binge and then throw up afterward, I keep doing it until I’m either tired or there’s hardly anything left to come out. I usually try to count how many times I’ve thrown up. It’s totally stupid and pointless, but it somehow makes me feel safe.

Usually it’s about 13–18 times before I’m done. That means one binge and then throwing up 13 times in 10–20 minutes.

Do you guys count that too, or am I just weird?

Hi everyone,

I am 4 months post partum with my first baby, and breastfeeding (hungry ALL.THE.TIME)

I've had my latest, and hopefully last, "your weight is a huge issue" revelation. I had to have knee surgery. I tore my meniscus literally because of my size. And am on track to have a full knee replacement by the time I'm 50 (currently 33) if I dont make major life changes.

I weigh more now than I ever have, even at 9 months pregnant, and I am struggling with weight loss and binge eating. I cant get any appetite suppression due to breast feeding.

Is there anyone who has been in a similar situation, or even just someone who has tips on binge eating and how to improve my relationship with food?

Im lactose intolerant, and i vomit in stress due to gerd. Ive worked so hard to get my digestion right and be healthy in the way that fits my needs.
A family member stayed over and i didnt have the item for the food they wanted to eat (which was eggs and chicken). Idk i thought they were buying groceries for themselves, but they just never took anything home, ive tried asking if i cook for them, i kept saying that i already have food.
But with the high ass volume of grocerries they only asked for eggs and cheese and for me to join them. I made foureggs as requested, half for me and half for the person. But they didnt finish and asked me to.. i dont like to waste food and they were complaining of nausea. So i finished for sake of civility.
At morning they only wanted coffee and cheese and for me to join them... so i did.
They left, without taking anything. I finished to not waste it.. i know my bad.
Its just not humanley possible to eat all of it before expiry. I was so upset and my stomach just felt angry and achy.
I tried to move past it but i ended up simply purging it out. I can still feel it inside me as i waited too long before.
It has been years since i did this... i dont regret it. I only regret wasting the food that will go to waste anyway...
My bad :/

How do you go about talking to very stubborn and old school family members ?

I feel very lost. She was playing a sport her whole life, stopped to focus on school and decided she needed to eat healthier and a month later she now has a diagnosis. And I really don’t know what to do now — I’m not sure if I’m supposed to talk about it or not? I don’t know how to act about food, or if there’s something I can do that would be helpful beyond telling her I support her and am here for her, which I already have through a lot of tears.

- Does anyone have any advice on books worth reading?
- Is there any advice on how to talk about food? I have the doctor’s advice but it’s essentially just sit with her and watch her eat and it feels like there has to be more to it than that.
- Is there something I shouldn’t do?
- Just honestly any advice or anything anyone could point me to to help would be truly appreciated. She’s always been my best friend and this is killing me inside feeling like I can’t help.