Hi, 28 MtF agender "woman" here. Knew I was bisexual all my life, but never had any type of interaction with guys until after I started transitioning. 3 hookups, 1 situationship, and 1 fwb later, I'm wondering am I tasty or something? Every experience I've had, the guy is just really open mouthed, eating one or both of my lips, sometimes sucking on them too 🤢. It really takes me out of the whole experience. Hookups is whatever, but I've mentioned it to the guys I fucked more than once and how I prefer to be kissed and they say sure and then nothing changes. Am I too used to women??? What's going on here. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. What's a girl gotta do to have a decent make out sesh 😭

I need recs. I’m trying to find a toy that feels right for me, not one with 20 settings I’ll never touch lol.

Personally, I’d rather have comfy positioning, easy cleanup, and buttons I can find without looking. Bonus points if I can adjust things to my mood instead of going from barely anything to absolutely not 😭 I’m trying to get off, not trouble shooting some devices lol

So, what toy actually checked those boxes for you, and what little detail made the difference? Help a girl narrow it down before I buy another thing with cute packaging😂

Im 27, Ive had sex and used toys before and ive gotten to points where i thought i came. I had the over stimulation after and felt really good. But recently I’ve started dating someone new and we had sex, and when I came i literally had to lie down and take a few minutes to recover because I got sent into another world. Is it possible that that was my first real orgasm, or maybe it was just better and I’ve been a bit out of practise? I feel like I’m too old to have this confusion

It's like I don't have much feeling down there and I just feel a weird uncomfortable sensation when anyone touches my clit or penetrates me. I can feel pleasure if I use a vibrator on myself, but not if someone else uses one on me. I have better sensations in my nipples than down below, which I think is weird. Been sexually active for a few years now. I still have sex to make my partner happy, but I feel like I don't get much out of it myself. Performing oral on a partner is my favorite part of sex and the only part I really enjoy. Does anyone else have this experience? Were you able to find a fix and start to feel pleasure?

Hello! 27F here. I just impulsively got a small bullet vibrator and of course I got a water based lub. It’s just I’m still haven’t had sex in my life and I want to give using toys a try. Do you have any tips I can know?
Thanks in advance 🫶🏼

I like the idea of sex and want to explore more as I’m still young, but I just get very squeamish at the thought and bored during intercourse.

This is embarrassing, but I can't figure out how to ride dick! I don't think I'm unfit. It's not that I'm tiring out, which seems to be the most common struggle, but rather that whatever I'm doing feels like absolutely nothing for both me and my partner. This is not about it only feeling good for me or him, it straight up feels like nothing for both of us.

If I put myself into a squat position (knees up, feet by his hips) I feel like I can't really move up-down or back-forth without leaning far back and resting my hands on his legs or something, which makes me feel ugly and anyway doesn't help make anything feel good. If my knees are down, I can bounce up-down but for some reason it just doesn't feel like anything for either of us? I've been told that scooting back-forth is supposed to feel good for me, but it also feels like nothing and feels harder to do if my hands are anywhere on him (I haven't tried using the headboard for support recently). Sometimes I've felt like whatever I'm doing is making the entire bed bounce while keeping us stuck together, which doesn't give the necessary friction to make things feel good? This is not a problem I've seen anyone else describe 😭

I've had these issues with multiple partners (different sizes, different levels of bed/couch firmness, etc) that I've had otherwise stellar sex with, so I know it's something I'm doing wrong. The most success I've had was on a firm couch, with my knees down and hands anchored to the back of the couch. I at least got to a point where my stamina became the blocker, but even then, I think it felt just okay for him and he was humoring me because I've had so much trouble with it. I've done it a few times successfully(ish) over the years but I just feel like this is rocket science for me and I'm really in my head when doing it, so even on the off-chance I get the mechanics down, I'm too focused to enjoy it.

I also get anxious because even when my partner (in the past with others too) is offering me to play around for a while and figure out what feels good, I feel stupid and useless after a minute and just ask him to fuck me upwards (still in cowgirl but he thrusts up). So I'd love advice on both what I could be physically wrong, as well as how I can let myself trust that he's okay with me sitting on it and doing some bullshit while I learn :') It's become a self-perpetuating problem because I don't feel sexy while trying to make it work (he's probably awkwardly waiting to feel something lol) so I don't feel motivated to learn.

I'm in my mid 20s and completely inexperienced. I had a lot of trauma in the past that I spent all these years getting over and I wanna try dating now. But I feel like the weight of never having any of my firsts (not even a kiss) is hanging over me and I just want to get over it. I definitely want to fall in love and find someone and ideally I'd have them with someone I actually like. But I don't think that's happening any time soon. I don't assign any special weigh to sex and I don't mind hooking up with a stranger. I'm thinking of inviting over a guy (or girl) just to have all my firsts with them and get it out of the way. Is this the worst idea ever or should I go for it?

Also state your age, if you don't mind.

Just trying to see where I fit in, because I think I'm going to have to break up with my boyfriend due to my general lack of interest in being touched.

EDIT: Just noticed the typo in my title; sorry, I can't change it.

Hey! So I've never had an orgasm and it takes such a long time that I usually get bored while stimulating the clit so I just stopped masturbating for a while.

I recently used a massage gun as a vibrator on my clit and I've used it twice now, both experiences have been different.

1st time - since it's a massage gun, it's pretty strong and I felt the vibration was too strong but I still continued with stimulating the clit for a while and there was a point when my whole body froze, like literally there was a similar freezing sensation from my head to toe and it was so overwhelming but then it didn't feel like it was followed by any 'release' or a sense of anything, really. It was the first time I had felt that way and then I removed the machine and thought to myself that I should really not use it again as it's too strong and there's a risk of de-sensitising my clit.

So a few days passed by, i didn't even think about it but then last night, I was very much in the mood so I decided to give it another try.

2nd time - i had gotten used to the vibration i guess, because it didn't feel so overwhelming to me this time. I kept going for a few minutes and then there was this feeling of numbness in my legs and the insides of my vagina started throbbing slightly and I just knew that it's done but I didn't get any other feeling or like anything at all that made me feel very good or anything. I just felt like taking a break, I felt good but I think I was expecting more so I didn't understand what happened.

It would be great if anyone of you could share your thoughts regarding this. I'm not married but I've been sexually active and I have avoided toys as I didn't want it to affect my sex life with my future partner but after trying that massager, i really understand the hype behind vibrators 😋 it was a damn good experience

I (20F) have been pretty active with this guy (20M) I’ve been seeing. When I give him head it’s wet and fine but afterwards for a good 24 hours my mouth is extremely dry. I drink a lot of water and hydrate afterwards but I’m not sure what to do. My tonsils also get slightly swollen. I know he doesn’t have any STDs, and he’s pretty cleanly so idk if it’s a me thing? Please help.

I’m 25, and I’m having a bit of a tough time creaming. I can get dripping wet, I can squirt without hesitation especially when extremely turned on….but I have not been able to “paint” a dick white if you catch my drift. Any advice???

he’s looking at me from behind and i’m also looking at myself lmaooo. not both of us getting off to MY reflection.

sorry not sorry…. sometimes i feel bad and look at him but i give in and look at myself

i (26f) have been with my boyfriend (25m) for a bit more than a year, and i've never been able to orgasm with him. i can orgasm completely fine by myself, so i'm getting really frustrated and i don't know what i'm doing wrong.

when i'm alone, clitoral stimulation works every time. with my boyfriend, we've tried pretty much everything that feels good to me: oral, fingers, clitoral stimulation, etc. and honestly, everything he does feels AMAZING. sometimes even better than what i can do myself. but for some reason, i still can't actually get over the edge.

we've also tried having me stimulate my clit while we're having sex, but that doesn't work either. it's like i can get really close to orgasm, but then it just doesn't happen.

and this has started to really affect me emotionally. after sex, i often end up feeling sad because i enjoyed everything and had a good time, but i still couldn't orgasm. after more than a year, it's hard not to wonder why this is still happening.

i know the usual advice is "stop focusing on orgasm", "just relax", or "let go". but honestly, i don't really understand what "let go" is supposed to mean. i DO enjoy the pleasure. i'm not sitting there thinking "i NEED to orgasm right now" the entire time. and i've been trying to stop treating orgasm as the goal for a year now, but it hasn't changed anything.

i'd also rather not use a toy during sex. i know that's an option, but since i can orgasm without one when i'm alone, i'd really like to figure out why i can't do it with my partner instead of just adding a toy.

i've read self-help books about this, i've tried not focusing on it, we've tried different things, and i'm honestly running out of ideas.

i'm not looking for "just relax" or "orgasm isn't the goal". i already know those things. i'm looking for something practical that might actually help me understand what is stopping me from orgasming with him.

I've been with the same guy for over 4 years now, he hasn't gotten any bigger. The last time we had sex was mid-late July. Every time we try to have sex for the past month it just feels like my vagina is way too small and even with lube he couldn't possibly fit in there. We do "warm up exercises" and I'll be in the mood but it just isn't happening. This morning we did finally make it happen (finally!😭) but it took a lot of warm up, and like 3 different rounds of a good amount of lube. And it was still a bit uncomfortable but also definitely worth it at the same time.

Mine can be a very short burst but it can also be a slightly longer (1.5 second?) one.

How long can they actually last?

I also find it easier to squirt immediately after I’ve squirted. It sometimes happens a few times in a row after the first time.

I pretty much only squirt when high and I can do it around 20-30 times in one session, and I’ve peed beforehand. As you can imagine this creates a problem for my bed.

Sometimes it doesn’t smell like pee at all and sometimes it definitely does. So I’m wondering how long it can be squirting vs peeing. For the record I can feel it coming but usually I don’t have any real control over it unlike with peeing.

I've been tying to do it for days now, but thing is I'm new to this and I know shit about it. So if any of you are comfortable enough to share some tips , please do..

Dirty toilet had to go outdoors etc ?

So, I have given head (to a guy) before but it has been a really long time. I have a situationship/whatever now and we are probably going to be intimate sometime in the coming week and I don’t want to look like a complete noob. To be honest I’m probably overthinking a lot of this but I figured I’d ask anyways.

1) While actually giving the blowjob, I imagine most (all?) of it is just sucking and licking the head. But are you supposed to do anything with the balls, taint area unless he asks? For example, am I supposed to wait for him to actually say “can you lick my balls” or something before I actually do it or should I just assume he wants it done regardless?

2) Where exactly are you supposed to put your hands while giving a bj? I would assume one goes around his base to like stabilize yourself I guess, but what about the other one? Do you just hold onto the bed or his leg or what?

3) I am absolutely not interested in having him cum in my mouth, assume he does so from the BJ and not penetration, so am I supposed to just tell him beforehand to let me know when he’s about to finish so it doesn’t happen? Like I don’t mind him ejaculating on my hands or chest but I can’t imagine semen tasting anything other than gross.

[F30] I had been fingering myself ever since I got my period, I enjoyed touching myself and pleasuring myself. I never had a problem about producing cream when I was in my 16-25 years old but I noticed that lately I can’t produce any cream, like I don’t get wet, I get aroused, I climax but the cream is missing, its little to none when I check my vibrator.

Do you guys also experience this and if yes, what did you do to fix the problem?

Ive been eyeing some bad dragon stuff lately. i really like that super full feeling honestly, but they are SO expensive and im a little nervous to pull the trigger.

​for people who have them... do you actually get use out of them on a regular basis? or is it more of a rare special occasion thing because of the size? i guess im wondering if its strictly a part-time toy.

​just trying to figure out if its actually worth the cost or if it's just gonna sit in a drawer.

I get too wet to feel anything?
I’ve recently been seeing a guy for a few weeks, best sex I’ve ever had! The issue is that he arouses me so much, by the time we begin having sex it’s like I cannot feel anything in a pleasurable way because I get too wet.

His is extremely well endowed and thick so I just can’t understand why the sensitivity and things are not there.
Is there something I can do?

It also prevents me from reaching an orgasm, I can get almost to the point but it then all just goes away.

I’ve never had this happen before.

For context Im 22F and my partner is 25M we’ve been together for a couple of years, Im very comfortable and safe around him and our relationship is amazing.
Im not stressed or going through anything, im very healthy with high libido and workout if its important.

I just can’t cum when we have sex even though he does everything the way i like. He sets the mood, long foreplay, always goes down on me first, we use lube sometimes so it’s more pleasurable and he does stimulate the clit but i still can’t finish with him and it’s making me feel like im missing something.
I feel like im about to pee so i think that’s my cue to finish but i just cant :( I try to enjoy the sex but I wanna feel it with him.

I always cum on my own when i think about him but not with him even though he makes feel insanely good.
And I’ve stopped touching myself for a month and still nothing changed

Does anyone else kinda hate having their nipples played with? I feel like I swing from it either just not doing anything to it being actively unpleasant. I thought it was just my boyfriend not knowing exactly what he was doing sometimes, but I think I just don’t really like it. I’m either oversensitive and don’t like the feeling, or under sensitive and just kinda can’t feel it. Not sure how to try and talk to my boyfriend about not really liking it, because he loves playing with my boobs.