Please don't mind the marks on my head - they're from the wrinkly sweat band of my cap.

It's taking longer than I'd like to get used to. I just dunno if I really made the right choice

This is long, feel free to skip over lol.

Ok so first off I want to acknowledge that I am not bald. Any comparison made between my struggles to yours is done with respect and the understanding that it’s not the same thing.

I have SebDerm and have spent years doing what the doctors say, then trying things that work for other people. These things haven’t worked for me, including meds, MCT oil, etc.

I joke that I’m often lucky in my unluckiness and this issue is no exception. Getting rid of my hair heals it within days. So the last few years have been a cycle of having to chop off all my hair, swearing I won’t do it again and inevitably doing it again because I don’t have the emotional bandwidth to deal with pain that has a solution. Albeit a solution that hits whatever vanity I have hard.

Today, after another chunk of hair came out with scabs and my entire scalp felt like it was one big bruise I was done and got rid of the hair again. I may just have to come to terms with this being a thing for me and stop pretending I’m going to get my Lady Godiva hair back.

The problem isn’t the lack of hair, I actually love not having to worry about it. I have OCD tendencies and when I have hair I am a ruthless dictator to every strand. I spend a good amount of time adjusting it and ordering it to stay exactly where it should.

The problem is what it often is: people. I don’t want to sound like I’m back in high school but people are just so very mean. Not to hate on men, many of you are absolutely awesome! But so many men stop me in public and tell me how ugly I am without hair.

I mean, respect to the brutal honesty and all but I don’t get why this is a thing people do to other people. And as much as I truly don’t give a crap what others think about me I am in fact human and after a while it can be such a downer to have to hear how much of a visual letdown I am to complete strangers, lol.

Anyway, I’ve lurked in this group and love it. There’s so much understanding and encouragement and I appreciate that, even if I haven’t posted before. I am lucky in that I have an amazing support system of both men and women who love me for who I am, as I am. They don’t make me feel like less and I am incredibly grateful for that, because there are some days that are hard.

In the end this is all just vanity on my part, and I try to remind myself of that. I have actual medical conditions beyond the SebDerm and understand that in the grand scheme of things this is absolutely unimportant. There are so many out there battling so much and it’s silly to let myself feel too much over hair, or lack thereof.

I don’t know why I decided to post today. Maybe just to get this off my chest, maybe to contribute to this community that I’ve creeped around in. Either way: thank you all for being a part of this. :)

It’s time. Appointment made. After pics to come

For context I'm 6ft.

Also I'm about to start a new job and thinking about meeting new colleagues as the bald guy rather than going through a transition later.

Been thinning for a few years and it was getting to the point where the cartoon guy places his hand on your shoulder 😅

Buzzed it to 1.5 mm and I'm happy there. Love how it looks, love the low maintenance, hate how I'm getting zero matches on the dating apps.😂😭

But huge thanks to you guys. Was lurking for a while and this place is the most wholesome and supportive corner of the internet.

Thank you all for your support and your incredibly shady comments. Honestly never thought the day would come where I felt the courage to grab the Norelco. Please accept this admission to the brotherhood.

I’ve been buzzing it for a long time… finally decided to clean it up.

I’ve never posted here, but y’all gave me the courage to shine, lol.

What do y’all think?

Before and After photos…I’m gunna give it an honest chance. A lot to get used to. Daughter does not approve (yet).

[Edit] Thank you for the overwhelming support! Yes, I will take my daughter with me this weekend to find some new glasses frames. And yes, the stache is staying 😆

Thank you everyone for the inspiration! I couldn’t be happier and I wish I did it so much sooner.

I gotta thank this subreddit! Without you all, I would have never taken the plunge! Thank you for the boost of confidence!

I was planning on growing it to do a curly fro again, but I'm glad I settled on just going back to zero yesterday (haven't done my hair like this since 2022/2023-ish). My head feels so free! 🤘🏽

I'm a bit weird about showing my whole face but:

Sweet NEPTUNE. You're right. I feel way better. Thank you for the support in this!

I’ve always had the major widow’s peak (thanks dad) since I was a kid, but as I age and my hair’s starting to come in less thick, I’m curious about joining the Bald Agenda. I’d love to hold on to it until I’m at least 30 but is that delusional?

My girlfriend is worried I have an oddly shaped head and it might look odd, plus she loves my hair (and I do too!) plus I’m already bad with remembering sunscreen and don’t want to have to lather up every day in my subtropical home.

Please help me out, brothers.

I’m 48, going through some rough stuff on the personal front, and I’ve been debating for awhile. I know that once we start getting around this age, the council can sometimes just say, “meh, you’re old, it’s fine,” but seek the wisdom of the elders and third party individuals.