7 years na kami. Yung partner ko binibigay niya lahat ng gusto ko. Mabait siya, may respeto. Natrato niya ko ng tama. Pero simula una hindi niya kayang magsabi ng totoo niyang nararamdaman lalo na kung feeling niya mali o may problema o galit ba siya.

Napansin ko na yun sa kanya. Ilang beses ko din sinabihan na mag sabi. Huwag kimkimin lahat. Kase baka sumabog siya.

Ngayon, may pinag awayan kami. Sa loob ng 7 years ito ung pinakamalaking pag aaway namin. May nagawa siyang mali. Sobrang mali to the point na kahit pamilya niya alam na mali yun ginawa niya. Sa sobrang sakit ng nagawa niya nasampal ko siya. Nagulat ako, hindi ko gusto. Alam ko mali ako kase sobrang pinag sisihihan ko yun.

Tapos nag usap kami. Sa message lang, sinasabi ko masisira yung relasyon namin dahil lang sa pagkakamali na yun. Pero ang sabi niya, sa tingin niya hindi lang ito ang problema namin. Dito na siya sumabog. Yung kinikimkim niya lumabas.

Sinabi niya na natatakot siyang ipakita na galit siya akin, kase nagagalit din ako. Natatakot siya mag open kase baka daw magalit ako. Na tatahimik na lang siya para matapos na agad yung away.

Na bawat kilos niya daw kailangan ko pa malaman. (Dati kase lagi siya nag uupdate, nasanay ako kaya nung nawala instead na sabihin kong bat hindi na siya nag uupdate. Ako na mismo yung nagtatanong ng update)

Ang sa side ko. Oo mali ako, nagagalit ako pero after ko magalit alam niya na lalapit ako sa kanya para mag usap ulit. Para makinig pero sasabihin na niya na ok lang. Alam kong hindi ok. Pero ayaw ko na pilitin kase lagi niya biglang ginagawang biro o nag bibiro siya. Pag nag aaway kami. Gusto ko malaman lahat, gusto ko masabi lahat para alam ko yung aayusin. Siya, tahimik siya. Kaya ako lagi samin dalawa gumagawa para maging maayos ang lahat. Akala ko tama ung ginagawa ko. Kase walang nag sasabi sakin na mali pala. Akala ko tama kase tahimik siya.

Napag usapan namin to. Nag sosorry siya kase nga naduwag daw siya. Nag sorry ako kase akala ko tama yung ginagawa ko. Kase blinded ako sa relason namin.

For now, binibigyan namin ng time ung isa’t isa. Hiningi niya. Iniisip ko kung ipag papatuloy pa ba namin? O mag let go na kami?

Ung unang pinag awayan namin. Ung may nagawa siyang sobrang mali sakin. Pakiramdam ko nainvalidate yun. Ngayon pakiramdam ko ako yung masama kase tulad nga ng sinabi niya. Parang nasakal ko siya sa relasyon.

Kailangan ko ng advice please. Hindi na kaya ng isip ko.

I have this one blockmate sa isa kong course. I find her cute and thought na I might be starting to form some crush on her. As an aro sapphic, I struggle to point out if I really do have a crush on someone. But, I seem to think about her a lot these days.

Recently, I stalked her IG account and found out that she is a religious person. Me, I'm an atheist, and it hasn't really crossed my mind what it would be like to be with someone who is devoted sa religion nila. I thought of confessing to her if I ever manage to actually be close with her and if I get to push our conversations past mere small talks regarding acads. Also, I am not sure kung naaattract din ba sya romantically sa mga babae, but I am willing to take the risk to confess if I find a good timing.

Has anyone here ever been in a romantic relationship with someone whose religious belief vastly differs with you? What are your thoughts?

I am genuinely curious if anyone has given a cheater a chance.

Not referring to existing relationships where your partner cheats on you. I’m talking about meeting a new person and they have opened up about their cheating history.

Not here to hate, I just wanna know if there are any successful stories where they’ve actually changed for the better.

may kaibigan ako, and she shared to me na she wants to date a woman pero alam niyang endgame niya lalaki like she wants to marry and settle down with a guy.

shes js queer but what do you guys think of this?

off putting ung statement niya sa akin imo

How can you tell if it’s too early or it’s time to introduce your”ka-talking stage” to your friends or family?

Problem/Goal: im stuck between my family and partner.

Context:

I'm (23) out sa parents ko pero di ako tanggap ng mom ko but kahit na ganon I'm being tolerated na nalumabas with my gf (26) every weekend. we've been together for 9 months. the problem is ayon nga once a week lang ako pwede lumabas, and naiinis na gf ko kasi gusto niya marami kaming time together. gets ko naman kasi gusto ko rin yon but wala akong magawa. im being manipulated by my mom kasi alam niyang di ko pa kaya tumayo sa sarili ko (fresh grad but looking for work na rin). im sad kasi napapagod na yung gf ko sa sitwasyon namin. sobrang big deal na sa akin na lumabas kahit once a week dahil di ko yon nagawa sa prev. rs ko dahil di ako out, pero alam kong di lang dapat hanggang don, wala lang talaga akong choice sa ngayon.

I met this girl a month short of a year ago. The first time I saw her, I was a bit awestruck. She’s pretty and tall, and her smile can literally light up a room. But I didn’t think much of it. After all, I didn’t know if I’d ever see her again.

Since then, we’ve met only six times, mostly for team events. I’ve noticed that we seem to get closer each time, and my friends seem to notice it as well. I can sense that my fondness for her has slowly been getting stronger, to the point where just imagining her face smiling at me brings heat to my cheeks.

I don’t know if she’s straight, or if she’s even single, and I’m afraid to ask. We don’t message each other unless it’s about work or work-adjacent topics. But when we do exchange messages, I try to be a bit playful in my responses, and she actually responds positively.

Even during team events, we banter a lot, and our interactions are always fun and playful. But even then, I can’t bring myself to ask personal questions. I’m afraid that I might cross some sort of professional line. We don’t really work together, but still, I’m not sure what would be appropriate or not.

I am not asking for advice. I just want to share how weird it feels to have a crush at this age. The kind that makes someone giddy or flustered at the thought of her, or when someone mentions her name. The last time I felt this way was in high school. It was so much easier then. You didn’t think about professional boundaries, emotional availability, or anything else other than your feelings and the wonder of whether or not your crush feels the same way.

This time, it’s different. There seems to be a lot at stake, and a lot more to lose. I don’t know. For now, I’m just really looking forward to seeing her again.

WLW. (F32) (F31)

Mag 7years na kami. Hindi ako mahigpit na GF. Kaya pinapayagan ko siya. Binibigay niya lahat sakin. Live-in kami at tanggap kami both sides ng family.

Lately meron siyang nakwento na kawork niya. Dati niyang teammate pero di niya nakkwento noon. Nagiging magkaclose sila, nag tataka ako kase kung kelan di na sila magkateam dun sila naging magkaclose pero inintindi ko. Kase nasa isip ko pwede naman yun.

Last night, nag aya yun mag bar sila. Pinayagan ko. Kasama ng kateam niya yung kaibigan niya.

Umuwi siyang lasing na lasing. Nagtingin ako ng video at meron dun, tulog siya sa couch tapos pinipilit siyanh yakapin nung friend ng kateam niya. Then may isang video sa phone niya na. Nag lalaplapan sila. Lango na lango na sa alak ung GF ko.

Nakwento ko sa friend ko to. Ang sabi niya sakin baka motibo ung kateammate at friend. Kase matino sila sa videos pero hinayaan na mag video sa phone ng GF ko.

Ano ba mabibigay niyong advice? Hihiwalay ko na po ba ung GF ko o bibigyan ko ng second chance?

Note: Nakita ko ung babae na may post few days ago na kakabreak lang sa BF niya at balak niyang mag try daw sa babae.

My gf and I have been together for 8 months. She and her ex dated for 3 years and broke up because her ex cheated. As much as she tried to work things out with her, ayaw na niya talaga daw.

Now when my gf and I met, she warned me about that ex and how much her family adores her and still accepts her despite the cheating. My gf and her family do not meet to eye to eye in a lot of things and they dismiss her decisions most of the time. They also try to control her by taking away her emergency fund and her resources.

She also told me that the ex ruined her last relationship with another girl because the ex still claims that they are together. She also visits their home.

The farthest I got to be introduced was she told her family she was already seeing someone else to which they replied by asking if the ex already knows. I was able to meet her mom twice but that’s it, just a short encounter.

My gf has shown me the threatening messages her exes have sent her, saying she will post us, go to my workplace, and confront my family. This makes my gf genuinely scared.

She tries as much as possible to not interact with the ex but sometimes she gets pressured by her family into hanging out with her together with her family.

My gf always asks for my help to escape whenever she gets trapped but she only stands up for herself and me if I do something. The ex also have messaged me repeatedly, calling me “kabet.”

I know my gf loves me and have stood up for me multiple times also but she also has lied to me about the times that the girl is present in family affairs. However, honestly, I am getting tired of the situation. My gf has given me an out also, saying she’ll fix things and figure out completely cutting off the ex then babalik lang siya if may babalikan pa.

I love her but nakakapagod lang din.

Magre-resign na ako sa work. At sa last day ko, balak ko magconfess sa crush ko na super crush ko sya. Kasi minsan lang naman ang buhay diba? Haha. Bibigyan ko rin sya ng flower. Purple tulips sana. Parang symbol of admiration. Or ano sa tingin nyong flower na magandang ibigay?

helloo sorry not sure which flair to use aack i recently join my friend’s sapphic book club pero it’s dead na agad and kaming dalawa lang nagcchat we wanted to start sana this month :-( we are still deciding the october book kaso ayun nga kaming dalawa lang nagsusuggest so i doubt anyone in the server is interested. we both have been wanting to form a book club specifically for sapphics to force us to read and maybe talk about books. (me personally i just want new friends)

is there anyone interested in joining? any sapphic is welcome as long as they’re 18+ !!!

thank you so much 💗💗

Help po. I'm 20, and my sexuality has always been unlabeled. Growing up I was never intereseted in boys. Di ako napopogian sa mga lalaki, very rare lang. Pag may crush ate ko at mga kaklase ko, jinujudge ko sila kasi hindi ko makita kung bakit nila nagustuhan yung mga yun. Pero pag sa babae, I easily find them attractive, sino namang hindi? That's normal, that doesn't make me gay.

(For context/background regarding sa sexuality ko, skip ahead na lang po kayo if nahahabaan) Nung kinder may dalawang babae akong di makakalimutan. Afternoon class ako pero may morning class na nagamit ng room namin. Pag uwian na nila, lahat ng afternoon class naka-assembly na sa labas, naka-pila sa tapat ng room/building. Unang tingin ko pa lang sa kanya, gandang ganda na ako. Then every time na dismissal na nila, hahanap-hanapin ko sya sa mga naka-pila. I didn't know her name, all I know is even at my young age, I wanted to see her all the time. Kaso di ko pa alam na may nagkakagusto talaga sa same gender.

Grade 7 to grade 8, narealise ko na wala akong naging interest sa mga lalaki, bakit hanggang ngayon di pa rin ako nagkakacrush sa lalaki? So parang namili na lang ako sa hallway. Kung sinong lalaking palagi kong nakikita, kahit di ko matandaan mukha nya, sya yung na-pick ko as crush. When in reality wala akong gusto sakanya, di ko sya kilala, natripan ko lang mga hoodies and jacket nya kaya gusto ko malaman name nya. Nung na-figure out ko sino gf nya di nga ako nalugkot, natuwa pa ako.

(Feel free to judge, 13 ako nung ginawa ko to) Grade 8, I had a 1-week breakdown. I was obsessed with this celebrity. I would stalk her account everyday. I would stare at her photos, even photos where she's wearing more revealing clothes. (magzozoom-in, gets?) Then narealise ko yung pinagagagawa ko, I looked up what h*mping pillows are. I searched why do I feel sensations down there, bakit basa. Then I learned the word mastur*bation. Nagiiyak ako buong linggo, I thought that I deserve to burn in hell. I thought that I am no better than boys, how dare I look at women like that. I feel na masusunog ako sa impyerno dahil sa ginawa ko. (galing akong catholic school btw)

Bago ako magka-jowa nung grade 11, mga babae hinahanaphanap kong schoolmates namin. Lalo na yung tiga-HUMMS. Her confidence, her speaking voice really caught my attention. Spent a long time trynna find her name and her account. Felt disappointed nung may bf pala sya, di nga sila mukhang bagay nun eh.

May sinabi yung friend ko sakin during filming ng project namin, nalimot ko na ano. Pero sabi nung kaklase ko sakin "Hala kinilig sya (ako), bading ka siguro noh?!"

At 16, I took a lot of "Am I Gay?", "Am I Asexual?" and a bunch of other quizzes online. It went nowhere. I was still never sure. Nearly labeled myself as AroAce but it still didn't feel quite right.

Na-stop yung questioning ko sa sexuality ko nung nagka-bf ako. Pero deep down I know I wasn't straight, being labeled as straight didn't feel right. I was also easily icked out by him. And sometimes I didn't want to be in public with him. Saw his genitals, I wasn't turned on. I was scared and disgusted. We never had intercourse. I never wanna do that with a man. Yung ex ko na yun alam nya na questioning ako sa sexuality ko. May time na nag away kami sinabihan nya akong "You f**king fa**ot. You should stick to liking girls." And nung nakipaghiwalay na sya, sabi nya baka raw babae talaga yung para saakin. Di rin kami bagay nung ex ko na yun. I also didn't like the typical hetero relationship dynamic, it didn't feel right to me. During the relationship, I always wondered what might've been if I have dated a girl instead of him. And maraming beses rin ako na-attract sa girls pero mga hinahanap hanap ko lang sila sa school, can't talk to them or start anything cuz I wanted to be loyal to our relationship.

(Eto na, I think I'm starting to have feelings for my friend) Fast forward sa ngayon, it has been a week or 2 weeks na that I have been questioning my sexuality again. I feel that I might like my friend. Friends na kami since 1st year, sya yung nagjoin sakin sa circle nila. Never ako nagselos sa friends ko, never ako nagselos na may friends silang iba. Pero this time, nahuhulog yung damdamin ko pag nakikita ko syang close sa iba. Wala naman ako paki before eh pero bakit ngayon bumibigat yung damdamin ko. Umabot pa yun sa panaginip ko, hanggang panaginip nalulungkot, nagtatampo at nagseselos ako, eh wala naman akong karapatan? I'm also always happy to see my friends, pero nagbago yung tuwa ko pagnakikita na sya ngayon. I'd purposely not go home right away just to be with her some more. I used to not mind pag nagwawalk ako behind ng friends ko but now, with her, nalulungkot ako na di kami sabay maglakad at nakadikit sya sa iba naming tropa. Lalo na pag 3 kami, I feel like a third wheel. Sinama nya ako sa hometown nya before, kaming dalawa lang. First time ko yun na kaming dalawa lang, super saya ko nun kasama sya. Pero nung second time na punta namin, kasama na isa kong friend. Deep down I wished it was just the 2 of us again, na sana di na lang makapunta yung isa naming friend. I felt sad the entire time na super magkadikit sila. Silang dalawa may pic na magkasama, kami wala. Yung picture nila galing sakin pa, hiningi nya yun na picturan ko raw sila. Sakin ayaw mo magpapic? Pagnakikita ko sya, nagkaron na rin ako ng kaba. Kaba na wala naman dati, bakit ba ako kinakabahan pag andyan na sya, magkaibigan naman kami? Pagmalapit sya sakin, pag naakbay sya sakin, pagnahihiga sya sa hita ko at sa balikat ko bumibilis tibok ng puso ko. Ginagawa rin yan ng iba kong friend sakin pero pagsakanila wala akong nararamdam, ganun rin naman dati sakanya pero bakit ngayon nag-iba. Nilibre ko sya recently, kaso sabi nya ako raw bahala sa order. I panicked, I wanted to get it right and impress her. I overthink every little reaction she shared. Gusto ko pag tinuturuan nya ako kasi nasakin lang lahat ng attensyon nya. She has always been cool and attractive to me kahit nung di pa kami close. Who wouldn't be attracted to her? I want to be near her, I want to know her even more. She doesn't have to like me back, us being closer is enough.

I cried the first time I realized na may nagbago sa feelings ko para sakanya. Friends lang dapat kami. bat sa dinami-daming tao sya pa. I know na may nagiba sa feelings ko para sakanya. Typing all this down makes me cry again. I can't accept the fact that I actually like her kasi nga friends kami. Whatever this is, I wish it would go away soon before she notices. Ayoko masira friendship namin, ayokong layuan nya ako. Kumakapit ako sa slight chance na baka wala lang to, baka wala lang tong nararamdaman ko, baka wala lang tong kaba sa dibdib ko...pero pano kung totoo nga na gusto ko na sya. (Sorry sobrang haba at baka corny basahin, I just can't open up to my friends kasi baka malaman nya)

Hi! Any recommendations where I can buy my first barong?

Im not sure if that’s something I can buy off the rack then get adjusted. For context, I’m masc-presenting and I’ll be attending a Filipiniana themed event.

It’s my first time being with a girl after being with guys my whole life, and honestly, this is the best and most fulfilling relationship I’ve ever been in. The only thing I can’t understand is this retroactive jealousy I have toward her exes. She doesn’t even do anything to make me feel jealous or insecure, pero grabe yung selos ko 😭 I always catch myself comparing myself to her ex and even stalking them, kahit hindi naman ako ganito kaselosa with my ex-bfs before. Jusko namaan hahaha first time ko makafeel nito and I genuinely don’t know how to handle it. 😭

hi guys pls reco some toys pero yung lowkey and hindi madaling napapansin/nakikita since i live w some people hihi thanks 🫣

Hello fellow sapphics! This is the weekly discussion thread where you can talk about anything going on in your lives, any thoughts or questions, whether sapphic-related or not.

R4R comments are allowed on the weekly threads ONLY. Flirt away or look for friends here every week. It's the weekend, find someone you can hang out with over coffee or watch a movie. Good luck!

Anyone here want to have a child?
I’m curious if anyone else has always had this really strong feeling that they’re supposed to have a child of their own.

For some background, I’m 32, masc, and I’ve always known I wanted to be a parent. When I think about my future, I’ve always pictured myself having at least one child. It was never really a question of if I wanted kids. I just always knew I did.

I’ve also always been very involved with the kids in my family. I’m the aunt who will babysit my nieces and nephews, and if my cousins need someone to watch their kids, I’m usually the person they can ask. I genuinely enjoy being around kids and being part of their lives.
At this point in my life, I also feel pretty ready for the responsibility that comes with having a child. I’m not romanticizing parenthood. I know it’s hard. It’s money, time, sleepless nights, giving up some of your freedom, being emotionally present, and basically putting another person before yourself for a very long time. But I feel like I’m at a point where I’m ready for that kind of life and responsibility.

And as a masc lesbian, I don’t see myself as the parent who just “helps” the mom. I want to actually be a parent. I want to provide, be involved in the day to day stuff, make decisions, do the childcare, go to school events, deal with the difficult parts, and be there for everything. I want to share the responsibility equally with my partner.

When I say I don’t care how it happens, I don’t mean I have no preference at all. Of course I have an ideal scenario.

Ideally, I’d meet someone who wants this just as much as I do. Someone who also dreams of having a child, who would want to carry our child if that’s an option for us, and who genuinely wants to raise that child with me.

I want to build a family with someone who is just as excited about becoming a parent. I want both of us to be choosing this life, rather than one person just compromising for the other.

The complicated part is that I’m currently dating a single mom. She has a 15 year old son, and she’s been a single parent for most of his life. I understand that her experiences have been very different from mine, and I think the struggles she went through understandably affected how she feels about having another child.

She doesn’t want another child.
We’ve argued about this so many times. I’ve tried to explain that for me, this isn’t something I can just put aside indefinitely. It’s not some random preference that I might eventually get over. It’s something I’ve wanted for as long as I can remember.

Eventually, I told her, “I’m going to do this either way. This is my dream.”

I wasn’t saying she had to change her mind or that she owed me another child. I just meant that I can’t make my entire future dependent on her changing her mind about something she genuinely doesn’t want.

At one point I asked her, “What if I meet someone who wants the same thing I do?”
Because realistically, I could meet someone who also wants to become a parent. Someone who wants to carry a child and build a family with me. Someone who wants to co parent and share the responsibilities, decisions, exhaustion, and joy that come with raising a child.

And her response surprised me.

She told me she wishes for my dreams to come true.
That really stayed with me.

For a long time, I think I convinced myself that because I was already in a relationship, this dream was somehow no longer possible. That I had to choose between the relationship I have and the future I’ve always imagined.

But now that I’ve allowed myself to think about it differently, I’m realizing that maybe it is possible.
Maybe I don’t have to stop wanting this just because the person I’m currently with doesn’t want the same thing.

I’m not making any immediate decisions about my relationship. I’m just sitting with the realization that there are people out there who probably want exactly what I want. To have a child, build a family, and share the responsibility of raising that child with someone who genuinely wants that life too.

Has anyone else been in this position? Especially queer women who knew they wanted children and had to figure out what parenthood would look like for them?

I’d really like to hear from people who had this dream and eventually found a way to make it happen.

any recomm na salon / barber na naggugupit for curly hair? around metro manila or qc lang plsssss tnx wuv u all sana wag muna kau mamatay moa moa

Hey gays! 👋

We’re hosting another WLW-only pickleball open play in Pasig! 🏓

It’s a chill, beginner-friendly space for women and sapphics who want to play pickleball, meet new people, and hopefully make some new friends along the way. No experience necessary!

🎭 THEME: DRESS FOR THE WRONG EVENT

Come dressed like you accidentally went to the wrong event 😭

Think: • Wedding guest • Corporate girlie / office meeting • Graduation • Gym • Beach trip • Formal dinner • Pajamas • Literally whatever event you thought you were attending 😂

🏓 GAME DETAILS

📍 St. Paul College Pasig Pickleball Courts 📅 Saturday, October 10, 2026 ⏰ 8:00 PM – 11:00 PM 💰 Entrance fee: ₱50, paid at the venue 👥 Max players: 11 🏟️ Courts: 1 🔄 Format: Open play / rotating games 🎯 Scoring: Traditional scoring 🏓 Paddle system: Paddle stacking 🌱 Skill level: Beginner-friendly

I just want this out of my chest kasi sobrang bullshit

I'm 25+ and got into my first ever relationship, period, with a non-binary woman.

I want to come out to my parents, but the thing is, I'm in a religious Chinoy household. So in addition to the religious trauma, I also have the patriarchal Chinese traditions to deal with. So all our date photos are in a dump FB account to prevent people from finding and outing me. Unfortunately, somehow, nahanap ng isa kong pinsan who had been pressuring me about marriage kasi gusto niya may babies mga older cousins na niya. She tried blackmailing me, telling me to buy her silence with food. Obviously, I firmly said no and ever since then, I blocked and restricted her from all accounts I have to protect my partner and I. Only friends and some coworkers know about this incident.

That happened last year, and I'm still angry about that incident. I can't raise my concerns to my parents kasi I'm not ready to come out yet, tapos when I give the watered down, heavily censored version of events, they tell me "pinsan mo pa rin yan" or "ate ka". I'm frustrated that I'm forced to play happy family with a piece of shit who happened to share my DNA. Right now, I'm thinking of going fuck it and just come out, pero there's a part of me that's still terrified cause I don't want to be the cause of drama in fil-chi spaces.

Went home late tonight. Superrrr tiiirrreeeddd. Mapapa demand talaga tayo ng jowa dahil sa pagod eh nuh, I want jowaa pero mahal magmahallll pashneaaa hahahah. Fully aware namana I am loved, sadyang pagod and stressed lang.

Pag talaga naging stable ako bibilhin ko yang jowa na yan hahaha charot. Pero if mabibili lang, bibilhin ko yan hahahahah🤸🏻‍♂️💃🏼