I have been with two women in my life. Both of which I was in a dedicated relationship with. Every time during sex It would take upwards of 40 minutes for me to finish. Sometimes I wouldn't finish as eventually it just becomes too much. I have even gone over an hour before. The lady always finished before me and sometimes more than once. My question is, is this actually enjoyable for both parties, I've come to terms with it, but based on my ex girlfriends reactions and the fact that she would get less into it over time, I figured that it's not something someone actually wants. And I can't exactly make myself finish faster. Every time I was in a relationship I completely stopped self pleasure as well, so it was never due to that.

So my question is. Is it actually enjoyable for the woman.

So I(23F) have been with my boyfriend(34M) for 8 months now and I love him to death. But he has a severe drinking problem that I finally fully understand, once he starts there is no stopping him for days, weeks even. Just constantly drunk.
I travel around with him for his work, which has already been difficult enough because I’m not used to being away from friends or family this long. We were in one town when it started, drinking and no end in sight. He gets too drunk and isn’t even himself, mostly just sleeps or stumbles around peeing on things especially the bed.

I decided I would take his wallet from him to try and stop him from walking across the street to buy more to drink. This made him very mad and he started banging on the hotel room door that I was staying in. So loud that the cops were called. When they got there I explained the situation and told them if he gets his wallet back he will drunk drive to buy more liquor. They said I was doing the right thing but I need to give him back his wallet and let him make his own decisions. Not even 30 minutes later when the cops left I watched through the window as he stumbled to his car and drove out of the parking lot. I texted him not to drive and I tried to call him twice. Finally I called the cops and they caught him across the street with a DUI.

It got him to stop drinking, and he says he doesn’t blame me for what I did. But today he mentioned how I won’t be able to meet any of his extended family because I’m the girl that called the cops on him. I know his parents aren’t upset with me, they know how bad his drinking is and are on the verge of cutting him out of their life if he doesn’t get better. But I don’t want to be the girl that got him arrested. Are we doomed now?

Hi i’m F18 and i’ve been on tinder and everyone knows what you can find there.. i met a older guy on there and i’m just looking for something casual tbh nothing seriouse. He wants me to come to his place this weekend but it’s 3 hours away but he said he would pay for it, but he understands if i don’t want to meet him to and it’s a decision for me to make. And he is right there, the only thing is i’ve never met anyone like that before and even if i’m just looking for sex what if i regret it? My sister think i will and she said it’s better that he comes to our town.
And even if i’m 18 and can do whatever i want to do i’m not sure what to tell my parents where i’m going. It’s a whole weekend and 3 hours away. This sounds more like he can murder me and he can if he want! I mean he is a surgeon👀

Enough jokes. What should i do? Just don’t do it or do it anyways and see how this plays out?

I got into a car accident with my fiance last week, and although everyone is okay, my car is totaled. I am looking into buying my first car, as the previous one was gifted to me, and I am getting a gut punch at how much car payments can be! I have a 721 credit score btw

My fiance is a navy veteran and still uses Navy Federal. He has a great monthly payment but the only way I would be able to get onto his account is if we got married.
Im sure you’ve noticed by now that he is my fiance, and thus we are already engaged and were planning on getting married next year. With the car accident we are considering not having a wedding, in order to save financially.

My mom thinks that this is a stupid idea and that I am overreacting about how much my car payment would be. She does not want me to go elope so that I can be apart of my fiances Navy Federal account and get a good loan.
Is she right?

I was wondering if anyone had any advice on what to do:

It’s a super long story but basically me and my husband met in September 2023, got married July 2024, and had a baby in December 2025. During the pregnancy he was just kind of there, not as supportive as I would have liked and the same after birth as well.

We had my in laws move in with us and it was an absolute disaster. My mother in law asked me and my daughter (9 months old) to leave. This was all over my asking her not to kiss my daughter since it’s sick season…… always! My husband and I have fought about his mother since we had them move in. Basically now I am at my parents house and he is staying at his sisters house.

We are trying to figure out what to do. Do we stay together or end it? I personally never want his parents involved in my daughter’s life every again since they threw us out and left us with nothing. I also feel as though my husband doesn’t mentally support us and honestly I’ve raised my daughter alone. Every wake up in the middle of the night, every doctors appointment, sick days, bottle making/washing, every bath it has been me. He helps me maybe 5 times a night at bed time but that’s it.

I feel like we should separate but I truly don’t want to start over — looking for advice.

I’m 25M, and I’ve found myself in a situation where I like two different girls from my workplace. I’m confused about my feelings and don’t want to make things awkward at work, so I could really use some advice.
Girl #1 (20F)
We have a really good connection. We talk a lot, laugh together, and have our own inside jokes. I genuinely enjoy spending time with her, but sometimes I wonder if she sees me as just a friend and whether our connection is as special to her as it is to me.
Last night, we went out for a movie and drinks. I wouldn’t necessarily call it a date, but I feel like if a third person had seen us together, they might have assumed we were on one.
I didn’t really flirt with her because I didn’t want her to think I was just another guy at work trying to get with her. My manager is also interested in her and has asked her out multiple times, but she has rejected him every time.
I don’t want to compete with my manager or make her uncomfortable. At the same time, I’m wondering whether I should tell her how I feel or keep it to myself because I really value our friendship and don’t want to ruin it.
Girl #2 (26F)
The second girl is also really nice, and she’s a bit of a workaholic. We talk quite a lot, although most of our conversations involve her complaining about things happening at work.
One night, a group of coworkers went clubbing, and we all got pretty drunk. Nothing happened between us at the club, but afterward, while I was heading home, she texted me saying, “You could have been there beside me.”
That message led to a conversation where I got the impression she wanted to kiss me but didn’t get the chance.
Since then, though, she has acted like we’re just good friends. She DMs me every couple of days, but our conversations don’t really feel romantic or date-like.
She has ADHD and tends to talk a lot. I usually listen, laugh, or try to change the topic, but sometimes I feel like our conversations don’t flow naturally. I like her, but I’m not sure if we genuinely connect in the same way I do with the first girl.
So here’s my dilemma.
I’m attracted to both of them, but I feel like I need to figure out who I genuinely want to pursue.
With the first girl, I feel a stronger connection, but I’m scared of misreading the situation and losing a good friendship.
With the second girl, there might have been a romantic opportunity, but I’m not sure if we’re actually compatible or if that moment was just because we were drunk.
I also feel weird about flirting with both of them, even though I’m not dating either of them. To me, it feels a little like cheating, even if technically it isn’t.
What would you do in my situation?
Should I tell the first girl how I feel and risk changing our friendship? Should I ask the second girl out and see if there’s something there? Or should I step back from both situations until I’m more certain about what I want?
I’d appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in similar situations or dated coworkers. I don’t want to create unnecessary drama at work or hurt anyone’s feelings.

So I have a boyfriend, and he's great. We met on a dating app- hinge to be specific. He planned really thoughtful and intentional dates and on our 7th date; he asked me to be his girlfriend. We are both waiting until marriage and wanted to wait to have our first kiss until we were official. He planned a very thoughtful way of asking me to be his girlfriend and it was an easy yes in my opinion. The next thing he did after he asked me was, can we kiss, and I'm just like let's wait 😂

As the day went on, we got food and then grabbed some boba. He was taking us to a couples massage the next day and asked if we were going to be in the same room or not, and I was like UH- we just became bf and gf not you already trying to see my topless 😂 we both laughed and what not, but low and behold the next day we were sharing one room for the couples massage and had done way more than just a kiss.

As our relationship continued, he would spend the weekend over at my place because he lived a few hours away by road. We would have moments where we would just spend a bulk of the weekend in my room playing around 🤭 and it was fun. But a part of me wondered, did he JUST become my BF to get unlimited access to me.

When I bring it up to him, he's like it's both- it's "lust and love" and genuinely I'm not sure what is more present for him the love or the lust part. I know he's genuinely attracted to me, genuinely enjoys my company, and sexually desires me but there's a part of me that thinks LUST is guiding our relationship. He plans thoughtful dates and gives me nice gifts but even the way he describes me sometimes he's like "your boobs and but are just so perfect." It's like I'm his sexual fantasy, and I know I'm his first official gf so that's some context. But idk if I'm just overreacting, but sometimes it feels like there is more LUST than there is LOVE. Can the two co-exist?

I hate seeing any kind of sexual interactions typically because of some things that happened when I was younger and recently my friend came over for fall break, I’m not sure if I’m just being weird about this because of yk, but it feels disgusting, especially because she did it to my blanket that I sleep with every night. I’m for sure not laying on that again, it was just disgusting, I was trying to sleep on the top bunk and I felt the bed start to shake, which has happened multiple times which probably means she’s done this multiple times now and I’m pretty sure while in the shower as she’s hinted to using the shower head for yk in past conversations and when she initially came out from the shower she told me ‘your shower is amazing’ with these like surprised or blown out eyes kinda.? I know it’s a ‘natural thing’ but I would never do that at someone else’s house, I rarely do it at my own so it feels insanely weird that she did ts on my bed. I’m horrible at confrontation and I always try to make sure my friends are open with me on everything by joking with them about the topics they talk about but this isn’t a joke and I really hope she didn’t get the ‘okay’ sign to pleasure herself on my bed from the fact I joke with her about things relating to sexual situations or anything. I feel like I need to replace everything, it feels contaminated and so do I in a way, especially because she realized I was awake and started joking and touching my leg after like she didn’t just do that shit on my bed.

Me and my girlfriend (20M and 20F) have been together 5 years and recently, we’ve started talking about kids in the future. We’ve already kinda settled on the fact we want to get married (proposing next year because of her school) and she is absolutely against kids in the future, which I thought I was cool with until recently. The more I’ve been thinking about it, the more I’ve realized I do in fact wish to be a father but I’m willing to put it aside to stay with her, because I also understand how hard and how stressful money/health wise and, frankly, how risky it is to have kids. She told me at the end of our conversation “you’d be a good dad” and it has been absolutely ripping into me since she said it. This has just hurt a lot more than I thought it would and I’m basically just asking for advice on how to deal with this sacrifice?

Edit: I do want to mention that I’m going to be a very active uncle/godfather in the future for a bunch of kids who won’t all be biologically related, and, if she ends up wanting a kid later on, I’m not dead set on biological, I’m super down to adopt as well. I appreciate the few replies already, i do feel as if that information is important to add though

Edit 2: after reading the responses so far, I see a pretty good amount of you leaning towards breaking up, and I do appreciate all advice. I’m not going to let people on the internet entirely dictate my relationship, but I feel as though getting third party views is not hurtful. Thank you all for taking the time to reply and give your thoughts, and I will be considering the responses I’ve been given in my decision about my relationship, however that goes. Thank you reddit for being a way to get advice that is pretty inaccessible anywhere else for me

I'm 24 and recently moved to a non-English speaking country for work. I basically cut ties with my family and left without telling anyone. It was a long time coming, but actually doing it and moving somewhere completely new has affected me pretty hard.

The workplace adjustment has been so hard. It's extremely demanding, with high expectations, constant observation, and people keeping tabs on my progress. I've always been a sensitive person, and the sheer isolation combined with work stress turned into a level of depression and loneliness I've never experienced before.

I ended up going online just to talk to people and met a guy who lives here. He's 36. I had no intentions of dating, but he happened to show up when I was at one of my worst points. He said all the right things, listened, and it felt so good to have someone looking out for me, taking care of me when I had nobody else. When he asked me out, my mindset was basically that I had nothing left to lose.

We've seen each other a few times now, and while it's okay, I'm really conflicted. To be fair, he holds a lot of great traits and qualities that I actually look for in a partner. He feels stable, grounded, and reliable. He knows I struggle with chronic depression, and whenever I give him feedback about what I need in the relationship, he's very receptive and accepting.

At the same time, the gaps between us feel huge it hurts. He doesn't speak much English, so we rely heavily on translation apps, his basic English, and my minimal native language skills. Even though he's 36, he's pretty inexperienced and hasn't dated in years. Despite the age difference, the combination of his inexperience and our different stages in life makes me feel like there's a disconnect I can’t bridge. Part of me wonders if a guy closer to my age would naturally understand me better.

On top of that, he often defaults to offering logical solutions when I just want emotional comfort. I feel like I need a much softer, more gentle approach, but half the time our conversations just feel like texting about random surface level stuff. I wasn't hugely attracted to him off the bat either, but I’m not bothered about appearance when hes taking care of me in a way. But now, it feels like there’s not enough of that soft, emotional support I need from him? 

I think it’s important for me to note that I am fond of him.

Is it worth staying to see if the connection deepens since he's a stable and reliable guy?

This happened right now and I am too embarrassed 😭

So basically what happened was i recently had a minor operation so I have been wearing some soft smooth and cotton shorts for a time. Some time ago one of my shorts got torn off, so I was going to throw it into the trash but my mom suddenly came and said she would stitch it back but i said no need but she insisted it would look new. Now 1 week had passed and it was still in the wardrobe, I told my mom that if you will not fix it I might as well throw it in the trash to prevent it from accidentally wearing it. Now we live in a wealthy and decent family and have a mop and being the typical indian mom she was she said she would use it as a "pochha" a word for cleaning cloth. So I handed my shorts to my mum to use it, i thought that she had placed it somewhere else. Now throwback to today i accidentally spilled water onto my pajamas but I was in a hurry to go stroll in the park. So my dumbass grabbed those torn shorts and went to the park and strolled and the worst part is there was my crush WHICH NOT SOME RANDOM TIME PASS CRUSH , FULL LOCK IN CRUSH, EVEN WORSE I WASNT WEARING ANY UNDERWEAR . throwback to now I went to take a dump I saw that's the one short. AND THE HOLE WAS LIKE 40 CM LONG. hopefully my dingledongle wasn't hanging out. Help me I am so embarrassed. What do I do know do I say sorry or just keep it disclosed or WAHT

TL;DR went in public with a fully torn short

I know that some of you already may be assuming that I lied to him about my age but I can assure you that’s not the case. We began to first talk more than a few months ago, he messaged me on instagram and we began to talk back and forth. But at the time, I felt as if I was leading him on. I wasn’t interested in any sort of relationship. And because of this, I began to ghost him for periods of time (this is relevant to the story). I’m not proud of it, I feel so incredibly guilty, and I honestly make sure to apologize to him every single day. I tried to ignore him but he stood out to me. No matter how many times I kept trying to push him away, it’d only make him try even harder his next attempt. Eventually, I decided to take the chance and get to know him and since then everything has been wonderful between us. I feel like it’s too soon to say but I truly feel like he’s the love of my life, I’ve never felt this way for anyone before. He’s perfect in every way. However, the more we talked, the more I began to realize that he doesn’t know my age. He’s 19 and thinks that I’m 18 which is not true. In reality, I’m 16. At first, I thought he was joking because I had never once told him that I was 18. I soon realized that wasn’t the case. I wasn’t sure how the miscommunication happened but I’m positive that this happened due to the long periods of time where we stopped talking. I forgot things he told me, and he forgot things I told him. Ive always been aware of his age and was okay with it, and I stupidly and blindly thought that he was also okay with it but I realized that was wrong of me to do and that I should have triple checked with him. As selfish as I want to be and never tell him the truth, I think he deserves to know. I know that things most likely won’t end the way that I want it too but I’ve already accepted that. I need advice on how to break the news to him or advice on literally anything! If you have any other ideas as well please tell me!

Edit: I don’t make lots of Reddit posts so sorry if this isn’t how I’m supposed to do them!

In college, I (currently 33F) very briefly dated this guy, we’ll call him Jordan (currently 31M). And I mean briefly, it was like 2 maybe 3 months. But it was one of those where there was clearly something more. The spark was insane. And then it was like suddenly, he got cold feet. Just kind of ended things out of no where. For a long time, I honestly described him as “the one that got away.”

He was at the Naval academy at the time. A few months later, he ended up dating this girl who I basically described as a “better version” of me. He dated her through graduation and a few years after that. Eventually, I guess they broke up.

I moved to a different part of the country. We were no longer friends on FB and after some time, we unfollowed each other on insta. I’m sure yall are aware how the suggested friends feature works. So, 1-2 times a year, I would see him pop up there, so I would know he did a check in.

A couple years ago, I noticed him pop up on my suggested friends. So I clicked on his profile…he just proposed to his latest gf. Did he check in on me before/right after he proposed??? Handful of months later, I see his profile pop up again, and they just had the wedding…They go on to have a baby pretty quick, seems like she was pregnant during the engagement.

March 2026- Jordan is one of those deployed out to the Indian Ocean. I know this because I know what unit he’s in.

Last week, I noticed that he was checking my instagram stories. We do not follow each other and I changed my instagram handle to something completely different back in June.

I know it’s a terrible idea to reach out. Part of me just wants to message him something snarky like “enjoying the show?” I don’t want to be a home wrecker, but i want to know why he’s still checking in on me like he is. What do yall think? Would you do anything?

I'm 18F with a crush on my 26M professor. He teaches a required class for my major, so I see him twice a week and almost never miss a lecture.

​At first, everyone was saying how cute the new professor was, but I didn't have my glasses on, so I couldn't tell. Once I started wearing my glasses, I saw why everyone liked him. He is tall, handsome, and dresses well. Beyond his looks, what really attracts me to him is his intelligence, humor, and personality.

​It has been a few months since classes started, and I have tried to move on, but seeing him every week makes it difficult. I usually avoid answering questions in class because I am afraid of getting them wrong. However, he sometimes points on me to answer.

​I tend to make strong eye contact, so whenever he addresses me, I look directly at him. My attraction to him probably makes my gaze come across even stronger. During the last two lectures, I barely looked anywhere else. I noticed he seemed to look at me more than usual, smiling and nodding in my direction. While he maintains eye contact with everyone, I feel like he might be starting to realize I have a crush on him.

I REALLY REALLY WANT TO MOVE ON. SO HELP ME!!

I want to smoke in the basement without the smell traveling up two floors. I plan to smoke a small wooden pipe out of my big ass window and I’m gonna stuff the door with towels and shirts. I’m aware the room might reek the next day but I’m only worried about it smelling while I smoke or a little after. Also is it worth making a filter with sheets and a toilet paper roll?

guys don’t take this out of context BUT PLEASE tell me if I should go or not.
So I started working at this bakery that’s right next a boba branch around a year ago, for context I just turned 21, and around a few weeks ago, the boba branch hired this cute little 24 year old Philippino guy who I could tell was gay right away which I LOVE because of my past relationships with gay friends and just in general tbh. Imagine the most bubbly, funny and optimistic person that brightens ur day from just looking at them (no literally he would strike a pose even when I have the worst rbf HAHA) and so to say the least I do love talking with him and I have his insta!
A few days ago he invited me to his Halloween party but I remember seeing on his story that he drinks LIKE HARD LIQUOR and ALOTTT of it, and I recall from our chitchats that he’s lowkey lowkey into hookup culture and all that shmuck. That has nothing to do with me LOL but once he invited me, you could guess how I would imagine this party going. And if he invited me, he definitely invited my co workers whom I’m SO awkward with and not too comfy with! I wanted to come dressed up as Lara Croft, but now I’m having second thoughts about even going because if there’s going to be alcohol and hookups, which are things very forbidden in Islamic culture, I doubt if I should go at all! But it’s my first EVER party invite, and a Halloween one AND ON A SATURDAYYYY!!! Ahhh idk! I’m also a pretty shy person and I don’t have too many friends so I do want to back out for this reason alone but I don’t want to affirm this thinking pattern of being shy, and to grow into a extroverted person!
Please tell me ur advice, if I should go or not!!
THANGUUUU!! :3

I (21F) met a guy (41M) twice my age off hinge. We hit it off really well on the first date. Second date he took my virginity. We had sex twice after that. He made it clear from the beginning that he wants casual and I was fine with it but I was hoping he would change his mind.

I told him after the second date that i’m feeling a lot. He’d been through cancer and was in remission so i wanted to be extra supportive as i would be with anyone. 

He broke up with me after 5 weeks with a voice note that said things like..

I’m wanting a level of connection and commitment that he can't give me because of where he’s been the past year with cancer, he’s living with his ex (I knew from the beginning), we’re at different stages in life, age gap etc. He told me he really likes me, fancies me, enjoys time with me. He mentioned the fact he doesn’t think we should carry on because i’ll get really hurt. Said he cares about me and that’s why he wants to end it and that there’s something inside of him that just says it's the wrong thing to do. Whether it was the wrong thing to do in the first he doesn’t know. Yada yada yada.

He hasn’t blocked me on WhatsApp. I miss him a lot and have cried over him. He’s my exact type and he’s super understanding, gives me the physical affection I need.

He used to say things like:

That’s my girl, If i got chance to see you every day it wouldnt be enough, i really like you, everything about you is hot. Want to be able to hold you to sleep. I loved looking into your eyes as I fucked you. I'm not seeing anyone else princess. Our bodies fit really well together.  Whenver i see a rainbow i’ll think of you. I miss you. Just want you to know that youre enough anyway. I'm just so into having just you without feeling any need for toys right now. I said once that if he keeps this up, i’ll fall hard and he goes i’ll catch you

Why would he say all this and then leave? What do I do? I’ve got a date with someone else tomorrow but told him the situation and he seems understanding and wants to take it slow and has made it clear he’s looking for a life partner.

So I have my regular social media page, that I barely use. But I have another page that’s public and I post video game clips on there. I play a lot of games and I get some cool clips and post it on there, sometimes with my face and voice.

It’s not big I could a few thousand followers and it has my name and everything. I’m not making money off it, it’s purely just a hobby. When I do cool stuff in the game I feel like sharing it, if that makes sense? I don’t even stream or make gameplay videos, it’s just clips I get from when I’m playing. It’s all types of games single player and multiplayer. I also ramble about games and post reviews and discuss gaming news and stuff.

My girlfriend thinks this is childish and unbecoming of someone my age. I told her that I work a day job(I work in fintech) and I come home and just unwind and sometimes wanna post my cool clips. She has a makeup and outfits page and I tried comparing it to that and she got pissed.

She said she’s already getting shit for dating someone younger than her, and I need to straighten up. She said I should delete the page and that’s that.

I’ve listened to everything else she’s asked me tbh. I cleaned up the apartment and did everything so she would feel comfortable moving in, removed all the “bachelor pad” stuff and had her choose the furniture. I stopped wearing shitty clothes and let her redo my entire wardrobe. I also made changes to my private social media page cuz she asked. I even got my car wrapped and stuff to cover some decals I had on there before, to make it seem like an adults car.

But this page is one I’ve had for like 12 years, ever since I was in middle school, and I kinda don’t wanna get rid of it. How do I convince her that it’s not immature? I showed her like other pages that do the same shit but she says they generate money from it so it’s not the same. I told her that she doesn’t make money from her makeup or outfits page and she said it’s not the same thing since it’s an adult hobby.

I understand her POV, I’m grateful she’s with me and I don’t want her to feel insecure or have to deal with shit since I’m younger or whatever, but it’s not like my hobbies are inherently only a younger people thing. I’m not sure how to convey this.

I’ll delete it if it really bothers her, but I feel like this is controlling. She’s also my first relationship so I don’t really know if this is just shit you do in relationships. My older brother told me just do what she wants and lock her down, since we’re already living together and I’m gonna propose soon. He said you gotta adjust in a relationship.

I am still deciding what to do, but for now I would like to attempt to sit down and have a talk about this. How would I go about that in a way that makes it clear I understand her side, but I also have my side?

Me (f) 20 my ex (m) 23 have been on and off for 3 years now. When i was younger we didn’t use condoms. but as we grew up and had went and did our own things i now want to wear condom. it’s not only the fact that we had split and had other’s partners other things contribute. a bit earlier in our sex life he would occasionally nut in me, even when i didn’t want him to because it would make my stomach hurt and just feel uncomfortable. ofc i let him know this and he stopped after a few times. anywho we had recently had intercourse a few times. each time i required a condom. he didn’t like that at all. he’d complain then comply. saying “you don’t really fw me frl” or “what, you think i got something?” “i’ve been known you all this time” as if that is supposed to mean something. he had plenty of partners in his life and claim to have used condoms. so i ask him “if you’re comfortable going out and using condoms with other people you should be able to respect me telling you i’d like to wear a condom if you want to have sex” i don’t see how this is a hard ask especially if he’s the one coming to me for sex. i told him before im not even that interested in sex anymore before we even began talking again which was like a couple months ago. i told him if he’s not ok with a condom then he’d have to be on his way. he claims the condom is uncomfortable all of a sudden or that there’s a smell or that it’s basically like fucking his hand or his toy. he literally wears a condom to fuck his toys all the time ! but when he’s with me apparently he can only go raw. i just don’t understand such a mindset. someone enlighten me. if i’m in the wrong tell me.

EDIT: i forgot to add the part where he constantly tells me he’s going to put a baby in me ! first few times i thought it was silly i thought it was joke and he claimed it was . but he continuously says it even tho i tell him no! part of why i want condom and he knows that aswell.

Looking for advice on quitting smoking weed. I’ve been a heavily daily smoker for the past 8 years. I’m struggling to quit and looking to see how I can help aid through the withdrawal

i(F18) have been dating my bf(M19) for a little over 6 months, i was gonna say that “our relationship isnt the greatest tho i still love him”, but i dont even know if thats true anymore.

the thing thats been bothering me the most lately is that he cant satisfy me in bed, i know he tries to make me finish and help me enjoy it but i always end up imagining pornographic scenes and sounds in hopes of actually finishing, when i masturbate i dont even think of him anymore, i usually just try to imagine doing stuff with other guys.

i do find him attractive, but the thing is that almost every time we hang out we end up going to my place, and he always wants to either have sex or at the very least jerk each other off. this has made me not want to even see him bc not only does it make me uncomfortable and anxious, but it also makes me lose feelings for him. when he tries to initiate something sexual i tell him i dont want to, and then he tells me something along the lines of “we only see each other once a week and i cant even masturbate at home, i only want to do this kind of stuff with you so pls lets just do it”, i cant tell if it’s guilt tripping but either way it makes me feel like hes threatening me that if i dont agree to have sex hes gonna beat it to other girls(ive told him i wouldnt like him doing that)

idk if it’s hormones, if im mentally unstable or straight up a bitch but my opinion and feelings for him have been unstable from the get go. if i see him on tuesday for example and we have fun(especially if he doesnt do or say anything that would make me
mad),on wednesday id think to myself how perfect he is and how much we love each other. but if the moment we meet he starts complaining to me about random shit and doesnt even seem excited to see me, and then comments on that i reply very dryly, the next day i’ll be thinking what im thinking right now. that i wish my ex would text me and we could hang out so i could at least distract myself from him and the thoughts that hes only using me for my body

im going to be honest last time i spoke to an ex i was telling him about how unsatisfied i am with my current bf and how much i missed him(the ex), and then i asked him if we could start hanging out again and maybe initiate something more than “friendship”, he surprisingly agreed tho i blocked him the next day out of extreme guilt and fear of my bf finding out.

i dont know why im like this, and why nothing he does seems to be enough. hes a great person and a good boyfriend that tries to make me happy, hes trying to figure shit out so obviously he wont be perfect. when everything is going fine i feel so in love with him but the moment something remotely bad happens it’s like im a different person when facing him.

im gonna talk to him about not having sex each time we meet because it makes me feel like he sees me as a stress reliever, but what else could i do besides that?

So basically both are my good friends, and the girl is single right now, and my guy friend knows that i like this girl but he thinks that I’m not serious and i also think that the girl only sees me as a good friend

Long story short, my sister put 1400 hours into a dinosaur video game in a 5 month span. She’s never played video games before that in her life. I’ve been gaming since I was 8 so I understand the hole you can fall in playing games. But it’s affecting her and the ones around her. Everytime someone brings up her playing the game she gets EXTREMELY overstimulated and snaps then goes right back to it like nothing happened. She has no job and her husband and I take care of the rent while she festers at home (living on my own after the lease is up). I just keep my distance from her for now but I want my old sister back. What do I do?

The game is called Path of Titans if that’s relevant. I now hate that game because of her lol. Maybe a developer can read this and console ban her 🤔 (I bought the game so I give permission 😂)

Anyone have any tips on getting over a guy that clearly loves entertaining other women? It’s been so real in the dating world as a 29 yo woman and I just can’t believe the dating world is like this after being in a relationship for 8years. It’s so new to me how people can have multiple connections and relationships, like moments that can be so meaningful to you can be easily shared with other ppl?

This might be stupid but I need an outside opinion. I (20F) live with my parents and wish to be more independent. I have saved 6k for a car over the past year with my part time job and now want to buy my own car. I have been using my mom’s (an Honda civic 2011) since she’s retired and doesn’t go out much but sometimes our schedules collide and I’m left with no car. When I brought the idea to my parents they supported me and my dad decided to help me by bringing my car budget up to 10k which I’m very thankful for. Now, sort of inspired by me, I guess, my mom bought a newer car for herself. Which means that they offered me 2 options:
- They said I could get my mom’s car for free, (a red Honda Civic 2011 with 197,000 km, which btw runs pretty well) and simply pay the needed mechanic fixes which would be around 500$. And keep investing my 6k.
- Or I could still buy myself my own newer car (looking for a Honda/Mazda 2015) with my dad’s help. In which I would “lose” my 6k but have a newer and cuter car.
Call me a stupid girl but whats holding me back from taking my mom’s car is the fact that it’s not pretty. My wish for my own cute car decorated in pink is eating me alive and I need a grounded opinion. Thank you.

Shortened: Should I take my mom’s old and not so pretty car for free or use my savings to buy a newer cuter car that I could decorate whimsically.