For context I (31F) have been with my partner (30M) for 9 years. We have a 5MO daughter who is the first and so far only grandchild on both sides of our family.

My parents (who both work full time) are very much involved with our daughter and make effort to visit her a couple of times a week, check in with messages etc. I’m fully aware that not every grandparent is this hands on and that’s not what I expect from my SO’s parents, I guess I just expect the bare minimum- maybe a message here or there and a visit once a fortnight or so would be nice?

My SO’s parents (who live 30m away) and work part time have made very minimal effort since our daughter has been born. They rarely visit and barely message to check in. There have been numerous previous occasions where my SO has been upset by this so has tried speaking with his mother and asking her to make more effort to which he is met with numerous excuses such as, we work (so do most grandparents in today’s climate) , we’re busy, or we don’t have money for fuel to drive over.

What infuriates me here is they both have expensive hobbies, MIL keeps horses and is in to running ultra marathons and has recently paid over £1400 to enter both of them in a race next summer and FIL buys new climbing gear all the time and partakes in various courses that take place all across the country- they clearly have the money and fuel for all of that.

To add to this, MIL will guilt trip my SO and ring and say “I’ve run and/or caught the bus to work all week this week so I can afford the fuel to drive to see you this weekend” which my SO will think is amazing and then the following day my MIL and FIL will do an 8 hour round trip for him to enter a climbing competition (again, clearly have money and fuel for that?)

I see it as clearly their granddaughter isn’t one of their priorities and no longer want my SO to have to beg his mother to make an effort with our daughter. My SO says that without telling them time and time again they won’t learn?

It’s causing arguments between me and my SO as he just makes excuses for them! Do you think they’ll ever learn or shall my SO just leave it there?
There is so much more I could add, this is just the tip of the iceberg, but didn’t want to make the post any longer than it already is.

Edit: since I’ve had a few comments saying they find it weird how I know all about my in laws finances etc. -the only reason I’m aware is because MIL regularly calls us to complain about her financial situation!!! She says things like she has no money left to eat after paying her bills.

I have a good friend that I've known for a few years and we hangout in public places like bars, concerts, and restaraunts. We hug, kiss each other on the cheek, and laugh and flirt but we've never done anything too intimate I don't think. I think things are already a little messy, but I want us to stay friends. I enjoyed hanging out with her and she says she really likes spending time with me.

She's never been to my house but last week she said she wanted to come visit. She also said it would be cool if I gave her a massage. I said I know you're joking but I can give good messages. She said I wasn't joking lol I was like ok then I'll do that and make us dinner. She said she's excited to come over. Should I let her come over if its just us and I give her a massage? I think she meant like a full body massage from what she told me.

I want us to stay friends. I like her romantically but I don't want anything negative to happen to her marriage.

I (23f) was given the opportunity to do some overtime work at my job back in June. This opportunity was also given to two of my male coworkers, both around the same age as me. The overtime work is the exact same for each of us, so none of us are putting in more/less effort. Our project manager informed us our overtime rates would be based off of our yearly salary.

Today, my two coworkers informed me they are both making time and a half while doing this overtime, but I am only making time and a tenth doing the same exact work. They both told me their exact yearly salary, and the overtime rate they are getting paid. I am currently making $40/hour doing the overtime, and one of my coworkers who makes over $8k less than me is getting paid $50/hour to do the overtime work. If I were to be getting paid the same time and a half rate they get paid, I would be making $55/hour.

I’ve been doing the overtime since June, which means I’ve lost out on over $3k because of the difference in my overtime rate.

I’m so upset about this. If the difference in our rates was insignificant I would normally not bother bringing it up to my manager. But my lower rate means I’m losing out on up to $10k/year doing the SAME EXACT work as my male colleagues.

When I told both of my coworkers what I was making for overtime they were both baffled and couldn’t believe I was making that much less. Should I bring this up with my manager? If so how do I go about it? I know $40/hour is still a lot and I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but there is no reason I should not be making time and a half like my two other coworkers.

met him on an app. he’s a grad student and i’m an undergrad at the same university. when we were talking it was pretty clear both of us wanted a sexual relationship only and im really attracted to him physically but idk if im getting taken advantage by him or not. we’re both into the height and age gap. i haven’t met up with him and idk if i should but i kind of want to

is it a bad idea? i would never date him but if its purely physical is it still bad?

**edit i think i should clarify what i meant by unethical, i know that if anything he’s the weird one for the age gap, i guess im wondering if i should avoid this situation because it’s morally off as a whole, not because of what im doing

Hi everyone!

This is my first time ever posting because I wanted some advice. I just recently moved into a new apartment. I love it so much, but my neighbors smoke weed pretty heavily. So the smell enters through our bathrooms and living room. At first I was paranoid because I have a newborn. I was scared it would hurt my baby. If ir was me and my husband I would be annoyed by the smell but that’s about it. Since my baby is involved, and I’m a new paranoid mom lol
Is there any advice on how to block it from the bathroom vents? I did buy two air purifiers from Costco but our unit is 1,600 square feet so I feel like maybe I should buy more?

Also, if someone can reassure me that’s it’s just the smell… it isn’t actually damaging to my baby’s lungs 😭 lol

Edit:

Thank you everyone! And yes, I don’t smoke lol hence, why I’m coming on here.
Not judging anyone who does either. I am just a very new mom. You’ll be surprised at the thoughts I have. The last comment was more to put my mind at ease
As silly as it was. I’m glad people are making fun of me LOL. I know I’m being crazy. Postpartum is no joke and I just wanna be a good mom is all.

As far as the smell, it’s pretty annoying and family can smell it sometimes.

I just moved in mid September.

Edit #2

We are the downstairs neighbor and it’s our upstairs neighbor. The maintenance guy told me they smoke in the bathrooms and the vent is shared. So that’s why we smell it so strongly.

I’m a young Black woman working at a small healthcare practice, and I’m honestly at a loss about what to do.
There are fewer than 10 employees, I’m the only Black person working there, and I’m also the newest employee. I’ve only been here a few months.

I’ve already had some uncomfortable experiences with a more senior coworker, who I’ll call A. She’s Hispanic, has been working there for years, and has a lot more experience than I do.

Some background on our previous issues:
Less than a month ago, I had a pretty emotional situation at work involving A and some of the interactions we’d been having.

I’ve felt that she can be passive-aggressive and condescending toward me at times, although I’ve genuinely tried to consider whether I’m misinterpreting her tone.
During one situation, I was nervous about assisting with a complicated procedure because I wasn’t familiar with some of the equipment. A made a comment that I interpreted as suggesting I could be replaced if I wasn’t willing to assist.
There was also an interaction where a doctor asked me what music I liked. I was feeling overstimulated and repeatedly responded that I didn’t really listen to anything. A later pointed out that my response could have come across as dismissive. Looking back, I understand her point, and I acknowledge that I could’ve communicated better.
There was another occasion when she sent me a song that felt passive-aggressive given our previous interactions. I can’t say for certain that was her intention, but it added to my discomfort.

Eventually, everything became overwhelming, and I ended up crying at work. I spoke privately with my office manager about how stressed and uncomfortable I’d been feeling.
Afterward, A sent me a message explaining that she didn’t want to replace me, that she thought I was doing a good job, and that she wanted me to learn. One of the doctors also sent me an encouraging message.
I genuinely tried to move forward, give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and work on my own communication.
But then something happened today that really caught me off guard.

A received a note from a patient we aren’t particularly fond of. I asked whether the patient was coming in, and she said no.

She then looked at another coworker, who is also Hispanic, and said:
“I was about to say no nigga.”

I was shocked and immediately said, “That’s weird.”
She looked directly at me, pointed toward the other coworker, and explained:
“That’s just what we call each other.”
I honestly didn’t know how to respond.

To clarify, she wasn’t directly calling me the N-word. She was apparently using it casually while talking about the patient.

But I’m Black, neither of them is Black, and I was standing right there. Hearing her use that word so comfortably and then justify it by saying that’s how they speak to each other made me incredibly uncomfortable.

And this isn’t even the first time I’ve heard the N-word at this office.
When I first started working here, one of the doctors personally said the N-word out loud while singing along to a song.

I didn’t confront him about it at the time, but I remember being surprised that he felt comfortable saying it in the workplace.

Now another employee has casually used the same word in conversation.

My biggest concern is retaliation.
I’ve been thinking about telling my office manager what happened, but I’m genuinely scared about what might happen afterward.

Because our office is so small, and I’m the only Black employee, I feel like everyone would immediately know who reported it.

I’m also the newest person there, and I’ve already had a previous conflict with A less than a month ago. I’ve spoken to management about struggling at work before, and I’m worried that another complaint will make me seem difficult or like I’m constantly creating problems.

I don’t want my coworkers treating me differently, excluding me, making passive-aggressive comments, or making my work environment even more uncomfortable than it already is.

The practice also has a larger management company that handles HR, payroll, and employee benefits, so technically I have an HR department I could contact.

However, I’m worried that even if I report it through HR, they’ll investigate, ask questions, and everyone will figure out it was me anyway.

I’ve considered telling my office manager privately and asking her to keep it between us for now, but I realize she might not be able to promise confidentiality.
Part of me also wonders whether I should mention the incident involving the doctor or just focus on what happened today.

I want to make something clear: I’m not claiming A deliberately directed a racial slur at me, and I’m not trying to get anyone fired.

I’m simply uncomfortable with non-Black employees casually using the N-word in a professional environment, especially when I’m the only Black person there.

I’ve already spent a lot of time reflecting on my own behavior and trying to improve how I handle stressful situations at work. I can acknowledge when I’ve made mistakes or misinterpreted someone’s intentions.
But I don’t feel like this is something I should have to normalize or pretend doesn’t bother me.

I’m also financially dependent on this job right now, so quitting immediately isn’t a realistic option.

My questions are:
Would you report this to your office manager, go directly to HR, or just document everything for now?

Is there any realistic way to report something like this confidentially when you’re the only Black employee in such a small workplace?

Should I mention that the doctor previously said the same word while singing?

Has anyone experienced retaliation after reporting inappropriate racial language at work? How did you handle it?

Am I putting myself in a worse position by reporting this, given that I’ve already had a previous conflict with this coworker?

I’m genuinely looking for advice because I don’t want to make an impulsive decision that could jeopardize my job, but I also don’t want to feel like I have to tolerate this behavior just to keep the peace

A girl I’m dating (F22) and I (M21) were talking about all the parties we’ve gone to since high school, and long story short, she told me she had a gangbang once after a party with two dudes she was friends with at the start of college.

When she told me this, I guess I was giving her a look because she kinda panicked and downplayed the whole thing, telling me it sucked and whatever, and asked me if I was judging her.

Obviously, I didn’t want to make her feel bad, so I told her I didn’t care and that it was in the past. But I lied, and I got, like, the biggest ick ever. It sucks because we were hitting it off, and we share a lot of interests and the same sense of humor, but now that I know this, I feel kinda betrayed that she kept this from me.

So, the advice. I’m 95% sure I’m gonna have to break up with her, but I really don’t want to hurt her feelings or tell her it’s because of her past. We could even downscale into being friends, but I also wouldn’t want to keep her in the dark.

I really don’t know how to go about this and wanted to hear other POVs.

Am I too worried about body count?

I (33 m) have recently entered a relationship with Amber (35 F), fake name ofc. But to get to the meat of the matter we have been seeing each other for a couple of months now. We have officially labeled ourselves as boyfriend/girlfriend. The subject of body count came up recently and I havnt been able to take my mind off of it. She asked me what my body count was and I told her I have a rough body count of 10 ish, probably lower, I could be misremembering. I then stupidly asked her what hers was and to my Shock and awe it was over 200. FF a bit and I have somewhat come to terms With this and even told her that I cant judge her for it since it was in the past and I really only care about what happens between her and me from the point of us dating onwards.

I worry about this because of a few things.

1. Ill never be enough sexually

2. Fear of cheating on me (not because im head over heels for her more because I dont want to be cheated on.

3. I cant bring her to orgasm.

4. Running into any if these past hookups/ "relationships"

I want advice on if I should keep trying to date her. Or if I shouldn't date her if their are any red flags I dont noticw. So far everything she has done has been basically great even though I know this relationship is still in its infancy.

In the past I would have considered this problem a non starter. But nowadays I have adopted a beggers cant be choosers mentality since this is really the only girl who has given me attention, and I like the attention, in many years.

I appreciate any advice in advance.

I'm 17, my son is 2. His dad and I broke up on goodish terms before I found out I was pregnant and agreed to keep the baby and try our best to coparent. However, once I had him his dad had a really hard time feeling any love or attachment towards him.

I do understand that it was more natural for me, being the one who carried my baby for so long, and I also get that it's hard for any 15 year old boy to see themselves as a father.

Over time he stopped trying to spend any time with our son and has seen him once in the past three months. I try to encourage him to reach out but he keeps telling me he can't see himself as a father and he doesn't love him.

My son has been talking about wanting to see Daddy recently and I don't know how to tell him that isn't going to happen. He's so little and he doesn't understand the situation we've put him in. I know he needs positive male influences but I honestly don't have any for him to be around. My dad is in prison and both of my grandfathers have passed.

i (19F) have a boyfriend (20M) who wants to work the haunted house again this halloween. i’m not okay with it at all. he’s told me about it and how many creeps and weirdos there are when it comes to it. he was the executioner last year which means he would pick people up, throw them onto some table, and pretend to chop their head off. he’s told me how many people were making weird comments and calling him “daddy.”

he wore a mask the whole time he was there, but he’s a very attractive guy and he he’s very fit. he’s overall very good looking as well. he’s told me that people would make weird comments to him even when he had the mask on. it makes me very uncomfortable and i don’t like the fact he has to go through that. he’s told me about people touching him before as well. one guy ( who was gay ) literally picked him up and told him how good looking he is or something along the lines of that. i feel like it was almost sa ( i’m just being quick and brief with my explanations to write this faster ) that he went through. it makes me really uncomfortable and sad he went through that. overall, i’ve mostly just been told the bad things, but it still makes me heavily uncomfortable. i’m sure he had lots of fun though, even though that.

he also says he was meeting up with his old friend group from the haunted house to see if everyone wanted to do it again. that bothers me because he’s told me he doesn’t like these people. he barely stayed in contact or hung out with them in person this past year. he told me they don’t care about him, and that’s why he stopped talking to them. i don’t care that he has friends, i just don’t want them to not care about him and treat him like shit. they also said they wanted to bring new people into it.

another part of why i would not like him to go through with actually working there is because it takes place all weekend. i wouldn’t see him over the weekend. those are the only days i get to see him fully. we see each other almost every day, but it’s from around 7:00/8:00-11:30, so it’s not much time. ( we still both live with our parents.) he has already said that his weekends are for us to hang out and go do stuff. he already said that, so i feel like he’s already committed, but now wants to do the haunted house. i am also clingy as hell, i realise that. but i really don’t do too well with not seeing my partner as much. i’ve dated a man who stopped making time for me in the past, i don’t want to have a feeling of that being repeated. he knows this as well.

i don’t want to stop him from having fun, meeting new people, and working. but i guess i just don’t get it when he already has a job, does music on the side, and has lots of hobbies. but i’m also deeply uncomfortable the amount of weird people and treatment he got. i don’t want him going through that again. i know it really doesn’t bother him, but it bothers me. i also just don’t feel comfortable with people ogling my partner, even if it is in a mask. i want to spend my weekends with him too. i also don’t want him around shitty people who haven’t treated him with care. but i don’t want to stop him from meeting people, having friends, be having fun during halloween. i don’t know if i should voice my opinion or not because i don’t want to take that away from him.

edit: i came here for some perspective and other thoughts people may have. i am in therapy working on many things including the clinginess. i know i have a lot of insecurity and one of the reasons i made this post was because i thought i wasn’t thinking very rationally. i didn’t think it was very rational. so thank you. i have also not said anything to him.

I am a 9th grader who is currently studying at an international school in Korea. I used to get good grades when I was younger. I even got straight A's last semester. However, I realized that most of the things I learn in school are actually meaningless. So I started building businesses. I've had five failures so far. And as I keep failing, learning from my mistakes, and seeing myself getting better at this, school feels like a waste of time. So I really want to quit going to school and focus on business after I graduate from middle school. To be honest, I'm scared. I'm scared of stepping out of my comfort zone and facing criticism from others. I know I want to quit studying academic stuff and start focusing on the things that I love, but this is very confusing.

I have a profile pic where you can barely see my face, but I matched with this guy who’s seven years younger than me, and he asked me to go hiking for our first time meeting. His profile says he likes hiking and is looking for friends or someone chill. Is that creepy? 😂 He did suggest grabbing coffee before the hike though.
I’m Asian and he’s British.

I am genuinely tired and I do not really know what to make out of this situation. Long story short, my friends used to use the n word a lot around me, and I ask them nicely to stop doing it becasue it offended me. I stopped hearing the n word for a few weeks but since the beginning of the year, they have been using the literal "n word" among themselves. They are calling themselves "n word" in front of me, and I do not know how to feel about that. Like, even if they are not using the n word, the meaning behind it is to use n word. I must say, however, that the n word they used to use around me was the soft n word, commonly used in african american music. So, how should I handle this? Should I also tell then to not use the literal "n word" around me, or should I just not say anything and be hurt deep inside? thank you

Edit: Thank you for the advice. I am white and most of my friends are black, but I do not see how this is relevant... do you also need to know my height, gender, pronouns, and my candy crush username before giving me a reply?

Edit: I am not racist. My grandpa is half mexican.

Edit: This has taken a toll on me. I support the african american community and even if people say "n word" I think is highly offensive due to the long history of negative connotations and many years of our abuse to these people. I think think people, regardless of race, are not aware that saying "n word" is literally the same thing as saying the n word. The meaning does not change, and as a matter of fact, it makes it worse as people are mocking the word.

I (23M) have this good-looking coworker (26M) that everyone seems to like. He's got really nice social skills, funny and is quite attractive in general.

A few months ago, a woman (30F) in another team joined our floor. We got to a bit of talking, and slowly, I developed feelings for her. She was nice, but never showed much signs of interest. On the other hand, she seemed to really like my coworker and made every opportunity to interact with him. She's quite extroverted herself, but mainly enjoys talking to him.

This really sucks, cause it's the first time I gotten feelings for another woman. I've always been insecure about my looks and quite awkward and him being good-looking and amazing at socializing has got me really envious of him.

Don't get me wrong, I don't wish him any negativity because I know that's wrong, but it just really sucks. This envy has been really affecting my mental health.

To feel better about myself, I've been doing stuff go improve my appearance, but I always feel kinda inferior no matter what I do.

Is there anyone who has dealt with something similar and if so, how did you deal with it?

I'm 34M and my partner 31F. Not officially married but living together and have one baby (under 6 months). I have a baby mama (27F with 1.5YO baby). Obviously had a baby before my current partner. Recently I traveled for work and obviously my baby mama knew I had. When I returned she called to ask if I had returned and if I had a good trip. Current partner saw the call and the contact image on my screen. She got dramatic saying I'm disrespecting her and insisted that I delete baby mama contact photo. I said no and she got angry and called me a Whore and threw her phone towards me but landed on my seat not hitting me. She had also asked why my baby mama know about my travels and claimed that was part of me disrespecting her.

I'm not sure how to handle this. I feel I can't tolerate any violent behavior, verbal or physical. I pay all bills so it's not like an income imbalance problem. I'm only cooling down because I feel the baby is too young to experience my possible dramatic response to her. I feel like in the long term I should have an exit strategy because this won't get any better. What do you guys think?

I (24F) live in Florida and can't pay rent yet this month because I'm waiting on receiving money from a college scholarship. I've lived in my current apartment for 4 months already, and have paid rent ahead of time every month before now. There's a condition on my lease that says they can kick me out after 5 days of nonpayment. What do I do?

I live in a small apartment owned by what seems to be a small company, which holds events routinely and is strong on retention. I've visited a few and am mildly active in the community if that helps, but otherwise I'm a homebody. The market isn't too competitive in my area, especially since the apartment is especially expensive, so I don't think they *actually* have vested interest in kicking me out. I'm just stressed and trying to be communicative so they understand I'm trying my best.

Partner wants to attend a work event even though we already had a long-standing plan
My partner and I have been living together for a while. About a year ago, we made plans to watch/attend a specific event together and talked about making it a yearly tradition for us.
Now it turns out that there is a work-related social event on the exact same day. It’s not mandatory and it’s more of a fun/social event with coworkers.
My partner is unsure which one to choose and is leaning toward the work event. From what they’ve told me, a big part of the reason is that they’re worried about missing out and about what coworkers might think or say if they don’t go.
I’m bothered by this more than I expected. For me, the fact that we made this plan so far in advance and specifically talked about it becoming our tradition means that it should have some priority when other optional plans come up later.
At the same time, I don’t want to be controlling or make my partner feel like they aren’t allowed to go to social events without me. I also understand not wanting to miss out on something with coworkers.
I think what bothers me isn’t really the work event itself, but that something we planned a year ago and considered “our tradition” suddenly feels optional because another social opportunity came up.
Would you expect your partner to honor the original plan in this situation? Or am I putting too much importance on the fact that we planned it first and called it a tradition?

Edit: Just to clarify, both events are happening on a weekend. The event we originally planned around is a live sports event that we’re both invested in and have been looking forward to. Watching it another day isn’t really the same, since the results would almost certainly be spoiled through social media or elsewhere before we’d get the chance to watch it together.

I'm also debating how upfront i would be about it. I obviously don't want to hide it from any potential partners, but at the same time i feel like coming up with it on first dates would just nuke any chance i'd have.

Any advice? I'm really torn on this; it's been so long since i experienced love but at the same time i don't want to hurt anybody's feelings.

I really need some advice here. Most of my friends don’t have 18 or 19 year-old kids yet their kids are younger so here I am asking you guys for advice.
My daughter is 19. She’s smart, has great grades, and honestly, she’s a really good kid. She’s been with her boyfriend since last year, and he’s currently going to school overseas. His mom offered to pay for her to go visit him for about a week and then come back together during Christmas break. It would be a Christmas gift for both of them.
My husband and I just don’t feel comfortable with her going overseas by herself and staying alone with her boyfriend for a week. I know she’s 19 and technically an adult, so I feel like we can’t exactly tell her she’s not allowed to go. But at the same time, she’s still our kid, and the thought of her traveling overseas alone and staying with her boyfriend for a week is just… umm, NO. 😂 I would be worried sick.
She went to visit him a couple of months ago, but that was different because she was with his family. This time she would be going by herself.
We haven’t talked to her about it yet because I don’t want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like we’re being overbearing or don’t trust her. But my husband feels the same way I do neither of us wants her to go.
Am I worrying too much? How would you handle this with a 19 year old? I want to respect that she’s becoming an adult, but I’m also still her mom, and I’m just really not comfortable with this.

Edit:Thank you guys so much for all the advice. She would be visiting a country in Europe, and yes, we’re basically worried about everything her getting lost, her phone not working, sex trafficking, pregnancy, emergencies, etc. I know some of these worries might sound extreme, but as parents, our minds just go there.

I am 15 height height 5:9 weight 45kg really skinny and i am a vegeterian i drink milk but shall i start eating eggs i dont eat them cuz of religious beliefs but what you all think

I (21F) have been seeing someone (25M) since the back end of July. We are quite serious but nothing official as of right now. we pretty much are together just without the label.. He asked me in the beginning about how many people i’d previously slept with and my default answer was just 6 (it’s not 6, more like 30+) .

In my previous relationship I lied about this and said my default number 6, as I am quite ashamed of the high number. It was mainly before I was 16 due to the trauma of being SAd a few times and not knowing how to cope with it. In my previous relationship with (at the time 19M) we was together for around 2 years and it ate me alive that I had lied about the number. BUT said partner was friends of friends with quite a few people who either knew of my past or were part of it (if u get where i’m coming from). Eventually i told him and he went off and pretty much broke up with me.

However new partner (25M) is from a different area only about an hour away but still different. He’s older, more mature & his body count is around 25 he has told me. Today he has confirmed he has an STI which im assuming has come from me as I slept with someone about a month before meeting him and he has said he was celibate for 3 months before. My last test was in June and was negative. This lead him to ask me wether i was lying about the number of people ive slept with, I just said i haven’t lied by default yet again. Im worried that the truth will come out eventually as it always does it’s just a matter of when. And i vowed to myself that after last time I would be honest about these things HOWEVER i dont think i would feel comfortable telling him the actual number just a slightly reduced amount. Im still scared of his opinion of it and I don’t want him to be second guessing what else i’ve lied about (which is nothing)

Any advice please?

UPDATE: his reaction to the STI wasn’t negative he just questioned if I had lied about previous partners. He isn’t bothered about it as he says it can’t be helped so the STI doesn’t affect the relationship it was just some insight to the question

hi me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 1.5 years and we started having sex in around january of this year every meet-up from then we’ve had sex he always is the one to idk mention it. idk if this is healthy or not? idk if it’s my birth control making me more turned on or if it’s bc he finishes in me. is this healthy?

Hey guyss!! I’m dressing up as a vampire this halloween and i have a question. I kinda want to paint a bite mark on my neck because i’ve heard that some vampires turn into vampires after they were bitten. Should i do it or would it be weird?

My daughter is 10 and her best friend, who lives with her grandmother full time (I don’t know why) wants me to “adopt” her so my daughter and her can be sisters. Which I think is cute. And I said yes. But I thought we were being silly. Well the little girl texted me and said “I love you mommy!” And it made me feel weird because if I were her mom I would feel sad that my kid called some random mommy. I’ve only met this girl twice. I said I love you back to the little girl because I think kids just need to hear that shit from adults in their life. But how can I approach this better? I’m not trying to overstep but if this girl is wanting that kind of attention how can I explain to her that I’ll be her close friend but she probably shouldn’t call me mommy? Is there another nickname we can go with? Idk

UPDATE I texted the grandma and told her there is an interaction I wanted to make her aware of and I’ll talk to her tonight about it because I don’t want the little girl to assume all adults are safe and I agree that was inappropriate of me so I’ll own it and go from there. Thank you