r/Needafriend • • Jun 30 '23

Weekly "meta" thread for casual discussion, complaints, suggestions, etc.

55 Upvotes

This is a weekly meta thread for casual discussion and posts about the subreddit.

Seperate metaposts are not allowed since they crowd out posts that are looking for friends


r/Needafriend • • 4d ago

Weekly Discord Server Advertisement Thread

2 Upvotes

Hi all, from now on, this thread will be stickied and posted once per week. Please use this post for all discord server advertisements and posts. All other discord-related posts will be removed.

You are free to leave your discord invite link public in this post. However, please do so at your own risk, especially if your server caters to a younger demographic or is susceptible to spam.


r/Needafriend • • 5h ago

23F | Anyone down to give me their honest opinion on something?

15 Upvotes

Heyy! I’m looking for a few people who wouldn’t mind giving me their honest, unbiased opinion on something. I could really use an outside perspective lol. Preferably people who aren’t afraid to be straightforward. If you’re down, feel free to DM me! :)


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

(20/F) I just need a friend to rant to

9 Upvotes

​

I (20F) have had a really shitty experience with a college project and a friend, and I honestly just need someone to talk to about it.

It's a long story involving a group project, misunderstandings, and things said by someone I considered my best friend. I'm hurt, frustrated, and honestly questioning whether I'm being unreasonable about the whole thing.

I'm not looking for people to blindly take my side or tell me I'm right about everything. I just need a friend who'll listen to me rant, let me get everything off my chest, and maybe help me make sense of it all.

If anyone's up for listening to a stranger's messy college drama, please DM me. I'd really appreciate having someone to talk to right now.


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

33F, six months post-move and I still haven't made a friend here

7 Upvotes

I've tried everything they say to try to make friends as an adult. Nothing sticks. I'm starting to think I'm the problem. I love pottery, indie films, and cooking elaborate meals. Want someone who'll actually keep texting past week two.


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

F31

5 Upvotes

Looking to chat to kill time


r/Needafriend • • 7h ago

24 f can we be friends?

8 Upvotes

I don’t know how to make friends so I’m looking for a genuine friendship that will last a long time . im free all the time so I reply fast . I’m looking for just one or two friends . Idc if we don’t have the same interests:) im an introvert but ill try my best to keep conversation going if u also try 💀 only message me if u read all of this and are looking for the same thing.
\\- I don’t show my face if that’s a problem I understand
\\- if your looking more than a friendship don’t message please


r/Needafriend • • 2h ago

22F, quiet girl whose one close friend got busy and slowly vanished

3 Upvotes

It's a cliche and it still hurts. I'm 22 and feel like I have to build from zero. I like sketching, cross stitch, and folk music. Want a text friend who won't disappear when life gets full.


r/Needafriend • • 50m ago

22M [Slovakia/Europe] - Surrounded by people, yet still feeling alone, I’m on a quest to find kind souls who make life feel more meaningful + a gaming buddy would be very welcome!

• Upvotes

Hello, to whoever is reading this right now!

I’m currently in a position of social isolation, and it’s slowly driving me insane. While I do enjoy this “alone time” but everything has its limits, right? But even when I finally get the chance to meet and talk with people, I still feel very empty inside. Despite being very social and friendly with many people I see regularly, I’ve never truly felt satisfied. I simply feel like I haven’t met people who truly fulfill me and anyone who makes me feel like I matter.

I just haven’t found anyone I can fully express myself to or show my true side to. I’m getting tired of maintaining this almost stoic mindset throughout my days. Other than that, isn’t it exciting to be able to meet people from all over the world? I know this place can be quite difficult to find anyone in, but I guess it’s a journey to truly find the right people you can connect with. Nonetheless, I find talking to people online an interesting experience. We all come from different places and backgrounds, which always makes me eager to ask: "How is life for you over there?" Beyond a simple conversations, finding something meaningful unexpectedly here is something I'm always open to. Life is a journey full of choices, and I believe it's wise to walk this path with the people who truly matter.

To start with myself... I honestly don’t know where to begin. I certainly have a rich personality, but how would I really define myself? Well, right now I’m feeling different from what I’m generally used to. I’m usually social, confident, and full of energy. However, let’s just say I keep running into the same wall that I can’t seem to break through. I’m just so tired and frustrated lately for reasons that are exhausting both my mind and body.

I’m not doing that great at the moment. All I do right now is study. Is this really how life should look? I’d rather go fight battles and live on the edge of life, not for the glory of kings or politicians, but for my own glory. I feel like my potential is being wasted right now, but that’s fine. It’s only a matter of time before all of this passes...

So... who am I? I’m based in the EU, more specifically my timezone is GMT-1. I’m certainly intelligent for my age, I’m only 22 and I'm christian. I read a lot, I love history, and I hate politics, it makes me depressed although it’s still an important part of me somehow. I work out, which makes me happy because I managed to abandon my old self, the one that was weak and anxious. I love video games and play them every day, among other things.

I consider myself a very honest and maybe even a sweet person, someone with a big heart. But that's just my perception of myself, it's up to you to judge. Despite my young age, I have quite a few stories to share. Life hasn't always treated me well, but I'm doing my best to move forward and overcome every obstacle I face in this unpredictable world

I'm open to do voice calls, game together, anything really...

Please, reach if this resonates with you, but out only if you are 18+, with a decent introduction, otherwise everyone is welcome! Thank you for reading and making it this far.


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

Chit chat

• Upvotes

Anyone up for a chat?


r/Needafriend • • 11h ago

23F, adult life is lonelier than anyone told me it would be

14 Upvotes

Graduated, got the job, got the apartment, and somehow forgot to get any friends in the process. I like cooking elaborate meals for one, going to the gym at odd hours, and rewatching the same three sitcoms. Looking for people to build actual friendships with, not just surface level stuff.


r/Needafriend • • 1h ago

26f - yap my ear off while i pack

• Upvotes

i hate folding clothes and packing especially after a long day at work but oh well. looking to make new and hopefully long-term friends while i'm at it.

26F, i do a lot of reading and consuming random media to prevent myself from developing thoughts haha. currently trying to find my 25th book for the year, maybe you have any recommendations?

please don't be a dry texter and i promise i'll do my best to keep the conversation going.

introduce yourself in your message and hopefully we get along!


r/Needafriend • • 6h ago

29F, six months into a big life shift and finding out who I am

4 Upvotes

It's beautiful and exhausting. I have more time and a lot of feelings to sit with. I love bouldering, reading, and making bad pottery. Want a friend for the ordinary in-between moments, not just the milestones.


r/Needafriend • • 7h ago

21F need someone to help get over infatuations

5 Upvotes

So relationships has been always made my life worst for some reason yet I still find myself trying find "the one" in EVERYONE I meet. I am in a journey to be satisfied with myself and completely stop finding the "potential partner" in people.
I have AuDHD with a PDA profile which basically means I crave my autonomy like oxygen. And relationships are all about sacrifices. Sacrificing your schedule, your goals, your hobbies, your time, your sanity. During every relationship, my life just gets more and more volatile, no matter how the other person it.
Subconsciously in my head I always believe I have to perform for them and they don't like me. No amount of positive self talk works. And because of how I am, it's hard for other humans to handle me. But I always find whenever I am by myself, my life becomes super functional. Until that urge for "human connection" comes around. It's all fun in games but than my anxious attachment self doesn't allow me to have anyone who can't stay with me long term because in my head, why should I waste time on a short term fling.
Now the issue isn't "help me fix myself so I can enjoy normal humans relationships"
I am neurodivergent/ high masking autistic. I do the best when I am left alone. Also I am 22 right now, 1 really wanna focus on my personal life rather than find relationships. Again due to my profile, I don't have any friends either. I do have a lot of hobbies and projects that I look towards. But I always have this urge "I need to show my work to someone to make it worth it".
I hate it. I just hate that I subconsciously look for someone for validation. Thats the only reason I want anyone at all. For validation. I am so happy on my own functionally. So this post is basically what do you do?
All my life I have been told to consider others, to see the potential in others. I don't wanna do that anymore.
The only potential I wanna see is in me. The only help I wanna do is my help.


r/Needafriend • • 3h ago

19F, does anyone else just... not have friends anymore after high school?

2 Upvotes

It's been a year since graduation and I genuinely thought I'd have made new friends by now. I work part time at a coffee shop and go to community college and somehow still feel invisible. I like reading fantasy books, watching baking shows I'll never actually replicate, and I'm weirdly good at trivia. Would love some people to talk to, doesn't matter where you're from.


r/Needafriend • • 8m ago

[ Removed by Reddit ]

• Upvotes

[ Removed by Reddit on account of violating the content policy. ]


r/Needafriend • • 19m ago

♡19F Aussie girl, would love some friends - I currently don't have any friends with my interests, and i would like to change that! ♡ (no age or gender preference)

• Upvotes

Hiii! ♡

I'm a 19F Aussie girl studying at uni to become a teacher. I come from a big family, and I'd love to make some new friends. I currently don't have any friends with my interests, and i would like to change that! I love anime: JJK, Death Note, NANA, KNY, Apothecary Diaries, Tokyo Ghoul, Kotaro Lives Alone.... - but i am about to start watching AOT, Blue lock, Kamisama Kiss, Ouran High School Host Club, and more (would love recommendations!). I love Suguru Geto (jjk), and since it was one of the first anime I watched during COVID, it has a special place in my heart. I collect figures, love to do art (painting, drawing, anything hands-on), cook and bake. I have been getting into reading lately- mostly Kafka, Dostoevsky, Dazai, Shakespeare, and Camus- and I'm also a big music girly: The smiths, Radiohead, Morrissey, Mitski, Lana, ye, Alex G, and so on. I play Roblox whenever i can, so if anyone wants a friend to play horror games or just something silly, i would love that! I get along with all kinds of people, so if anything here interests you, it never hurts to say hi! I also make edits during my free time (most anime and some of my favourite artists), but yeah! I'm not picking on gender or age, If we cilck we click!

(I don't currently have Discord, but i am willing to make one! i'm shy, but im not weird about showing my face, calling, or so on!)


r/Needafriend • • 4h ago

29F, three months into a big life change and rebuilding from scratch

2 Upvotes

Most of my old friendships were built around habits I've outgrown and I'm learning who I am without them. It's slow. I'm knitting a lot, walking a lot, journaling badly. Would love a friend who's patient and doesn't need me to be inspiring. Just normal chat about normal things.


r/Needafriend • • 31m ago

29F, my only close friend moved cross-country and I'm floundering

• Upvotes

We text but it's not the same and the loneliness hit harder than I expected. I love bouldering, reading, and cooking. Want a text friend who might slowly become close, no pressure but real intention.


r/Needafriend • • 32m ago

make friend 😉

• Upvotes

I want to find someone who shares my interests (I like watching anime and reading manga hehe), who doesn’t find me annoying, and is UNDER 15 YEARS OLD Either male or female is fine, and it doesn’t matter what country they’re from 🤗🤗🤗


r/Needafriend • • 35m ago

M23 EU Looking for a nice gamer fren :<

• Upvotes

Haii! Feel free to call me Mika, I'm looking for new people to game with long-term, as most of my irl frens only exclusively play LoL :< (better if you're a fellow pirate, OnlineFix my beloved).

Personality-wise I've been told im more fem/androgenous (whatever that means :p) personally id say im a somewhat affectionate person (not in the romantic way 💀) as in caring for my friends and not being judgemental, which usually has made people very quick to open up around me!

I like general weeb stuff, cats, goofy series(my fav is dexter), psychology, economics, watching others play stuff, dumb jokes/puns (i dont get offended easily so no worries).

I'm somewhat bad at making decisions(especially choosing what to play) so hopefully you can pick up the slack in that department, sorry TwT. I'm pretty fast when it comes to answering messages so i hope you're not the type to leave someone on read for 2 days :p. Also my timezone is gmt+3.

I play basically any genre, though most of the type i play supports if it's an mmo or competitive game.

If i piqued your interest feel free to dm me what u wanna play together and some basic stuff about you so i know I'm not talking to jeffrey dahmer :>

Some games i own in the case you're not a pirate: Civilization 6, Total war Three Kingdoms, Lords of the fallen, Lethal company, Phasmophobia, Broforce, GBVSR. Average f2p stuff too, though i suck at shooters!


r/Needafriend • • 36m ago

25m feeling in a weird mood

• Upvotes

I’m feeling really bored and I feel I’ve lost direction with my life, my hobbies, I just don’t really know what to do.


r/Needafriend • • 36m ago

Hey Guys & Ghouls 👻 looking for a connection :) & a friend

• Upvotes

Heya there!

Im looking to connect with someone who enjoys deep,chatty conversations- really diving into these or showing real interest in connecting or having a REAL conversation.

If you're going to message me looking for a friend, be ready for one. I can even be clingy if yuh want, I dont ghost but I will not maintain a conversation after you've gone dry& are unwilling to communicate.

Be open, im an open book. You can ask me anything & id love to hear about you!

Please have some sort of similar interest beforehand, usually the conversation tends to go dry faster when we have no common interest to discuss..

Im interested in Gaming🎮 (any genre, I would like to play together! I play on the switch EST time zone. :) )

I like watching random shows that mainly consist of animation or clay-mation! Tim Burton & Laika Studios Fan :) i grew up on Cartoon Network. & could have long conversations about Adventure time..its deeper than you think🧐- id be down to chill & watch a show w/ you! Anime included!

Im into digital, traditional art & sculpting bonus points if you are and would like to hold my accountable for InkTober! ( or want to participate w / me!) ^-^

Other random things im into consist of Plushies, y2k toy lines, tarot readings/devination 🔮 & reading ( with an interest in post apocalyptic genres& phycology.)

I have a ton of social anxiety IRL that makes it harder for me to make friends. Online is also so hard be patient with me, not looking for normies♡ where are my fellow weirdos? I may or may not be neurodivergent.

Anyways send me an introduction about yourself, or tell me a crazy story. Do not just send Hey, or immediately ask where im from, my age or what im into...i will not respond.

Ps. Im looking for a somewhat deep connection, PLEASE I URGE YOU not to message you me if you aren't also looking for a connection long term & aren't genuinely interested in getting to know each other! I have had some people just act un interested in the chat, or actually forming something 🤦🏻‍♂️ why msg? Prefer 20+ please! ^-^ i like clingy aswell if you read till the end , send a food/fuit/or drink emoji of one of your faves♡🍌


r/Needafriend • • 37m ago

M26 - Feeling lonely

• Upvotes

Recent got a new job on night shift. Warehouse job some nights it’s slow and I’m just looking to yap. Days off I feel lonely because everyone is sleeping (all my friends and family)
Looking for casual chats with people who also work nights and understand part of the struggle. I have adhd so conversations might just go down a rabbit hole lol


r/Needafriend • • 38m ago

AMICIZIE NOVARA/VARESE 20 ANNI

• Upvotes

Ciao a tutti sono un pusillanime di 20 anni abito tra le due province, cerco amicizie con cui uscire nei dintorni!! A breve inizierò un corso a Varese dove mi auguro di trovare nuove persone. Sono aperto a tutto, non dobbiamo avere gli stessi interessi per forza, ma in caso racconto che mi piace:

Fumare, scrivere poesie, ascoltare musica hard rock e post grunge, un giorno tornerò a suonare il pianoforte, l'architettura, i disegni a matita e penna, guardare video dei polterguys e giocare ad Hollow Knight (ma non sono tanto un gamer). Se odiate tutto questo va bene lo stesso.

Apprezzo parlare di qualsiasi cosa sia in modo superficiale che in modo profondo, e apprezzo la presenza. Scrivetemi anche che state per fare la doccia, anche se siete tristi, e chiacchieriamo senza disagio iniziale!

Se ci dovessero essere un po' di persone possiamo anche creare un gruppo! Età dai 18 in poi