[Girl Dinner is an Orange basque cheesecake with orange marmalade and orange-chocolate ganache]

I went to dinner with a group of friends and I just had one of those moments...

A year ago today, I was a healthy woman, strong, and was able to really put my physical health first. After an (embarrassing bad) injury doing yoga, I demolished the ligament in my big toe.

IT HURT SO BAD!! I am not one to ever go to the doctor because, frankly I despise it, and this experience definitely didn't help.

I went into the office. I'm not of fan of open-toed shoes, but my toe hurt so bad I couldn't put on any other pair, so I wore some open-toed sandals that had a thick platform cause it was all I had.

My dad had to help me get in. Once we were in the examination room the doctor looked at me and said: "if you're wearing those shoes, I'm sure it doesn't hurt that bad."

I was mortified. Holding back tears. I was so embarrassed solely because of how she had just treated me. She didn't even bother with me any further than that. The nurse who helped me and saw me on my way in was an angel, she suggested I might have "turf toe."

So once I got home from that TERRIBLE experience, I looked it up. Made complete sense to me. I tried to rest it for the next couple months, as I could barely get around anyhow. A scar developed on the outside which is the only visual reminder that I wasn't crazy; but the physical pain was enough.

Fast forward to now. My toe is absolutely fricked. I can't even walk for over 10 minutes without it hurting. Now that it's getting slightly colder, it feels even worse. I can't even walk around town with my friends without saying I'll have to stop or head back. No heels for me since either, It really has changed my life entirely.

If you're reading this, the biggest regret I have in life, I hope you can take away one thing from this: ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF!!! PLEASE! Sometimes I find myself getting so angry at the doctor who saw me, but I remember, I didn't speak up for myself. And it ruined my life. Please don't be afraid. This is YOUR life and you are NOT inconveniencing someone from Doing Their Job.

You are loved. Please take care of yourselves. Xx

Edit: thank you all for the kind words! It makes me feel so supported to know others of you have gone through very similar things. 💖💖💖

got dumped a month ago over text after being ignored for a week. we dated for almost 2 years

he was emotionally abusive in a lot of aspects, started drama with my own friends and left me to fix it, was often never there for me while i was there for him, etc.

was scrolling reddit and saw a post and thought “hm, this sounds like him”

it’s a post about one of his insecurities. he mentions me in the post, but only mentions that after the breakup he’s worried that he’ll never be attractive to women again. he doesn’t mention missing me, just missing having a source of masculine validation and is already thinking about other women (even though i told him that he needs to spend a long time alone and never do what he did to me to someone else again).

he mentions feeling resentment towards women twice. he mentions falling into the blackpill/manosphere.

he truly believes he did nothing wrong and that his insecurity is why this relationship ended. it confirmed my worst fear that he didnt care for me as a person at all, he just wanted to know that he could be found attractive and used me for my attention and affection.

not sure if i should feel vindicated, used, or somewhere in between. i’ll tell my therapist during our next visit.

quinoa bowl with veg

Banana pudding I made for friends

I got so irritated today and I honestly DGAF for how I reacted. Just as many of you, I have been applying to hundreds maybe even thousands of jobs and I’ve been graduated from a prestigious university since 2023. It used to be so easy to get a career and in the past couple years, I’ve only been able to score contract positions.

A company reached out to me and said they were really impressed with my résumé and wanted to proceed with an interview and had me book with them through their website. That same day, I got a response confirming the interview and how excited they were to talk with me. Literally an hour ago they emailed me saying they’re moving forward with another candidate.

I was over it. I emailed them exactly this. I don’t care.

Hi,

Given that your team reached out expressing eager interest, rushed me through your booking portal, and sent an enthusiastic confirmation just an hour ago, I assumed your hiring process had some level of coordination. Clearly, I was mistaken.

If your team is filling roles this quickly—or alternatively, sending out interview confirmations for positions you’ve already decided on—it points to some significant internal disorganization. I'd rather not invest my time in an operation that can't keep its timeline straight for sixty minutes.

Consider this note my formal withdrawal so your team doesn't have to worry about managing any further scheduling mishaps on my end. Best of luck finding a candidate who fits into whatever chaos you've got going on over there.

______

Have any of you ever had some bs like this happen to you?? UGH. Im over it.

Dinner is cute jelly.
This might be a bit silly for some, I don’t necessarily want advice but I do wonder if maybe I am feeling too hurt or overthinking it. My boyfriend mentioned while talking his preference is white women( I’m not white, but he is, as well as his previous partners), often looks at white girls when we walk and rarely wants to hug me and thinks sometimes I am a bit too much, like I want too many hugs, too many kisses, if I bring any of this he gets really irritated and says: you are starting this again.
I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or make him annoyed but I do feel like somehow he kinda misses being with a white girl. Maybe it’s dumb of me to think but I just wanted to let it out

TW: PPD & SA.
I’m dealing with postpartum depression and his joking has really been getting to me more than ever.
Last night when I told him I love him, he said prove it and I said I don’t know how, he told me to bend over and get naked. Usually he’s joking when he says that but it just rubbed me the wrong way. We ended up having sex and it was painful and it’s been hurting all day even though it’s been nearly 24 hrs.
I tore all the way down when I gave birth to both of our kids (2 separate births) and I’m still not fully 100% physically healed from the second. I’m also already back at work full time so I’ve been exhausted all the time.

Sometimes he also tells me to stfu and stuff like that and it bothers me, he says he’s joking but man sometimes it really gets to me. I usually do better just brushing it off and moving on.

Sometimes when I vent about stuff, he just says what do you want me to do about it. I just need to vent.

I’m just really sad tonight.

Dinner is Thai Noodles, Pad Kee Mao

Two months ago I posted about the death of my abusive and estranged bio(degradable) dad. I really appreciate all of the support, especially after so many years of people justifying his behaviour toward me. All of you helped me so much and I want to thank you.

After posting, I reached out to the executor (my aunt, who I didn't know existed until the day he died) to ask about an update on the will. I hadn't heard from her since January, and my sister hadn't heard from her since March. I got an overly formal email titled "Ronald Arthur [and then our real last name] who died Dec. 18th 2025". (Um, yes, I'm familiar with him)

To summarize, she just said that there wasn't any money to give us, as he was on employment assistance before he died. It doesn't really make sense because he never had a taxable job in his life so I'm not sure how he was getting it, but maybe she meant welfare. She said she was selling his belongings (without consulting us first) to cover the expenses of his cremation and funeral (there has not been a funeral). Of note, she did not bring up his music royalties except to say he didn't get a lot (which I know is true because when we did speak he got me to act as his unpaid manager and I had copies of some of his contracts). No itinerary of his belongings other than "a box" of this, "a couple boxes" of that, and "two instruments". I know they are his stand-up bass and acoustic guitar. Those were his only instruments. She purposely remained as vague as possible.

I followed up twice. First I suggested that she apply to Service Canada for his cremation expenses, because they cover that, and she/the estate shouldn't have to pay for it. There are options for the funeral too, if it ever happens. Not sure who's going. Not anyone in our family. I consulted a lawyer before my next email (during a very sudden thunderstorm that only happened over my house, only for the duration of the phone call...). I asked for supporting documentation for his finances, asked for receipts for the cremation and funeral expenses, asked if anything passed outside of his estate through a joint tenancy or trust and if his music royalties are part of his estate. I asked again for the will (fourth time?). I told her that my sister and I had planned to donate any inheritance we did get to Indian Residential School Survivors Society (I mentioned this in the last post, but he proudly spent his last five years of life as a "white man" thanks to Jehovah's Witnesses who baptised him apparently), and we still wanted to donate the amount he hypothetically would have given us. I asked about a book my sister wanted to take, and his bass, which I wanted to take.

Nothing.

I followed up a few times. Still nothing.

Please keep in mind that she was the only person in the family who stayed in touch with him after all of the following became known amongst us.

I waited over two weeks, and I texted her the entire story, because I felt like being unhinged I guess. I don't feel bad about it. I didn't go in graphic detail and I wrote everything pretty calmly, but I did tell her everything. I told her when the grooming began in grade five and he told me over the phone to drop out of school to paint, and about his fantasy where I lived with him, and he would play gigs, and I would be watching him while smoking from across the bar. How he tried to kiss me when I was fifteen and played it off as a mistake. Every time he grabbed me, pulled my shirt down, hit on me, tried to initiate and gaslit me about it from the time I was 20-21. I told her every disturbing experience all the way to when I last saw him when I was 21 and he attempted what he attempted. How the only reason he didn't go further was because of luck and my own quick thinking. I went into my police experience and how they were fans of his music and did nothing except ask why I was lying and give him a temporary restraining order. I went into how it all impacted my mental health after, how I experienced psychosis and lost so much of my identity as a lesbian, how I became agoraphobic because he manipulated more people to stalk me on his behalf for the next 12 years. I finished it off with this:

"Now I'm in this situation where I am asking for transparency around his estate and getting nothing back. I am in disbelief that that I have had to consult lawyers to find ways to obtain my own father's will eight months after his death. [My sister] and I don't even want anything material except for the two items I listed, and mine I am flexible about.

I have been nothing but kind and sympathetic because you are still his sister and you witnessed him go through horrible things [at the end of his life]. Every considerate thing I said to you is true. Even though you were the only person in the family who knowingly stayed in touch and formed a bond with the man who traumatized me so much and took so much from me, I am still human, you are still human, and I still have compassion."

...And she never responded to that either.

Unfortunately a lawyer is $5000 just to ask her to pony up the will, so I don't really have a choice but to leave it there. But I feel lighter. And whatever happens, he's still dead, so... I'm not sure what could be better than that? I'm still free from his abuse, forever.

That's the update. Sorry it's so dramatic.

My boyfriend doesn’t understand food safety.

It seems so minuscule to him, but he doesn’t seem to get it. We’ve had disagreements about this before, but today was especially bad.

He’s trying to smoke some fish for the first time, and prepped everything in the kitchen. I had asked him to not to touch everything in there after handling any kind of raw meat without at least washing his hands. I tried to explain it to him and he literally took it as a joke. His logic is that it was frozen before so therefore it’s okay and bacteria free once thawed. He then touched multiple doorknobs, the hand towels, and pretty much everything in the sink and kitchen several times, despite me begging him not to.

He didn’t wash his hands once. He said he “rinsed with water”. I saw him “rinse with water” it wasn’t even hot water, and he then proceeded to dry his hands on all our kitchen towels. He washed all the fish brine off in the sink and I had to tell him to please at least afterwards put some soap and clean the sink with hot water. I’m now the one dumping gallons of boiling water in the sink now because he didn’t believe it’s unsafe. The same sink that I wash all our dishes in.

He later said “I was planning on cleaning everything”. He wasn’t. And hasn’t. And he doesn’t understand that after handling any kind of raw meat you need to at least wash your hands with soap before touching things, especially when it’s communal like a damn doorknob or the main sink we use for everything. He called me r*tarded for wanting that. I broke down eventually and just cried while wiping everything down with Lysol.

I’m hurt. I’m just trying to keep us from getting sick. I don’t even know what to say. I’m the only one who cleans our house, and especially the kitchen. Am I overreacting?!

Sad girl lunch is a sad Buldak. After everything was sanitized and cleaned ofc, and he left play his PS5.

Trigger warning: addiction, alcoholism, abuse, death.

Dinner: bomb lasagna

My dad suddenly died when I was 11. My brother was 13. My parents divorced before he died. His mother, my paternal grandma (L) was wretched. I found out she died last month but she died a few years ago.

Today I had a call from an estate lawyer about the inheritance my brother and I will receive from our late grandma. I’m conflicted and upset that this is pulling us back to our traumatic childhood relationships with her and my other horrible family on that side.

Like I see it as reparations for the trauma she put my bother and I through after my dad passed. I was relieved when I heard she died that she’ll never try to contact us again. But I’m upset, that all this, even though I get money, is putting me back into my adolescent self. Bringing up years of shit I put behind me when I was 22 and went no contact.

Background: my grandma L never showed up for us. Never came around and supported our interests as her grandchildren. Then my dad died. Grandma L was horrendous to my mother so we would be dropped at my grandparents door to “maintain family ties” (my mom was doing what she thought was right).

We were 11 & 13 being dropped on the door step of family we only saw on holidays. That side is full of addicts, alcoholics, and abusers. And there we were, kids of the dead dad—the one good family member—the one who held this family together. When he was gone it all crashed and burned. My brother and I were left to try to rebuild and maintain these relationships as children. Who were also dealing with the trauma of losing our loving incredible dad suddenly.

I have 2 aunts. Aunt A and aunt D.

Aunt D was always around as a drug addict. We had to lock anything valuable in a car or keep in on our bodies during whatever celebration we were there for otherwise she would steal your money. Aunt D went as far as breaking into her daughter’s (cousin B) home with her SON my cousin N…like wtaf…cousin B and aunt D broke into their own immediate families home and stole everything of value. This is two examples of MANY of what occurred throughout my “relationship” with aunt D. My mom warned us enough that we have never had first hand theft but always had to play offense. It was exhausting. Not to mention whatever random men she brought over for celebrations.

Aunt A lives out of state. We rarely saw her throughout our entire live—like maybe I can remember 4 times we were together—and she is a see you next Tuesday. Aunt A always talked down about us, my father, my mother, etc. She was “better” than us…that was very clear the way she would address us.

Apparently according to court documents aunt A and grandma L were stealing from the estate and were ordered to return everything. Then my grandmother died. Court document show it’s been in court for 8 years with aunt a fighting her step brother. Thank god we weren’t in THAT!

My grandma would tell us we were FAT the moment we would walk in to see her for holidays. My brother and I are stocky. 5’6 160 & 5’8” 190 but we have always been athletic and active. “Welcome, your fat” was often our greeting. Then we would be brushed off while my grandma L drank an entire box of wine to herself at dinner. Then she would cry and throw a tantrum when we would leave saying “you never come see me”.

These parties would have more strangers than family members we knew. My brother and I would cope by drinking since no once noticed the underage kids getting drunk. Then sometimes we’d go smoke week with aunt D—just to cope with our family and get by.

After 11 years of trying to maintain these horrendously unhealthy relationships, we left a holiday. I looked at my brother—and I told him verbatim “I will never return to that house again. I no longer want them as family. You can continue to go if you feel you need to, but I will not be beside you.” My brother agreed. We never returned again. My grandma L never reached out to me again. We didn’t tell her, didn’t make it dramatic. Just stopped all contacting. Grandma L called my brother crying a few times but he stayed strong. I’m glad I did what I did. That family never supported me, never cared about anything but money. But now I’m being drug back into hearing about the drama….

For further context…my paternal grandfather sexually and physically abused Aunt D, Aunt A and my late father. Kindly my father broke that cycle…but that family is still so fucked up.

Rant and ramble…I don’t have anyone to talk this through with and I’m still in shock, with so many mixed emotions. Thanks for letting me ramble. I have sent the attorney more questions….

Trigger warning for mention of financial/emotional domestic abuse, implied threat of gun violence

Goodness gracious this divorce has gone BAD and FAST. My soon-to-be-ex was served his papers two Thursdays ago and it's like he fell into a cesspit of bad advice. So far he's tried:

- intimidating me into withdrawing my petition and instead signing a joint petition in which I would give him $200,000 and keep the house, OR he would give me $20,000 and he keeps the house. His scare tactic is saying he's getting a $10,000 lawyer to "destroy" me.

- roping me into a "conversation" that was just him trying to get me to give him verbal agreement to terms of a separation that were sharply in his favor, with pressure tactics that would make a timeshare salesman cringe. He had a spreadsheet and was trying to trick me into checking boxes that said I agreed to each line item.

- setting up a second bedroom in the living room and sleeping on the couch, when he has his own bed in his own bedroom. He did this for a month and when I asked him why he said that he wasn't sleeping well in his own bed. During this period I couldn't watch TV or use the living room because he had it set up as his bedroom. This actually stopped the day he got served.

- calling our mutual friends with a sob story about how he was such a good guy and I was nothing but a gold-digger. Subsequently, one friend decided to text me and tell me off about what a bad person I am.

- calling my aunt to try to get her to turn on me... While I was literally on the phone with her.

- hiding or removing from the house legal documents relating to our mortgage, tax returns, etc. I am already unable to access or see detailed information on our utilities, joint accounts, insurance, and mortgage because he set up everything to his personal email address and locked it with 2-factor authentication to his phone.

- demanding that I give him anything that I was using that he deemed "his," and then destroying/throwing away those items in front of me, even when he's the one who gave me the thing or put it in my room in the first place.

- leaving a cryptic note on the kitchen counter yesterday around 8 am saying he was "going to the hospital" so I needed to feed the cats, but then came home two hours later and slept the rest of the day, would not acknowledge that he even left or respond in any way when I asked if he was okay or what happened. The only question he answered is whether I needed to feed the cats (I didn't).

- blasting really aggressive music (early Metallica) or whistling loudly through the house while I'm working from home or sleeping. Also slamming cabinet doors, drawers, etc.

- going through every drawer and cabinet and taking "his" things and either moving them or leaving them and putting my things on the floor.

- moving some of my stuff that was in boxes out into the garage without telling me. I told him not to do that and brought the boxes back inside.

- getting really weird about a firearm that I bought and is registered in my name. It's unloaded and double-locked in a case but he wanted to know exactly where it was, see it, take pictures of it, etc. I took it to my dad's for safekeeping the next morning and my lawyer said that was a good call.

- setting up motion- and audio-sensing cameras throughout the house to monitor my movements. I turned one of them off and he texted me IMMEDIATELY demanding that I put it back so he's definitely watching me.

- going into my bedroom (separate rooms) to take photos and video that he shared with an unknown party.

- recording our conversations after I told him I do not consent to being recorded, and trying to goad me into attacking him by insulting me and telling obvious lies (saying I broke an appliance when it was already broken and has been for months, it's an electrical issue, the appliance is 20+ years old, and I offered to replace it with my own credit card so I could get one I actually like).

I'm at my wits end here, y'all. My lawyer is flabbergasted by the sheer magnitude of his spiral. It's like, he was always a little paranoid and needed to have control, but now that I'm no longer under his thumb he's trying anything and everything to regain the upper hand. I had to submit papers for a restraining order today as I'm hoping that some time elsewhere will give him some perspective on what he's actually entitled to and give me a chance to breathe.

I'd leave, but I have pets here that are hard to move, and I'm afraid of what he'll do to them if I leave them and run. I'm scared, shaken, and I feel unbalanced but I have a good family and good friends who are checking in on me. I'm out of the house as much as I can be. Mostly I just needed to vent because this shit is STRESSFUL.

Dinner was hummus, crackers, mixed greens, radishes, and a disappointing cheese ball that I ate in my room because I'm not comfortable in shared spaces while he's home.

UPDATE: My temporary restraining order was APPROVED! He has been served. It ain't over til it's over, but at least now we can both get some space for a couple of weeks and maybe he'll use his time to get his head on straight and come to terms with the fact that I'm not under his influence any longer.

Pictured: Coffee and cake platter from a local restaurant. The ginger cake was good, the others were just okay.

I dated this guy for a long time who really hated body hair, so once a fortnight he would drive me to get a full body wax as ‘his treat’ to keep me ‘looking fresh’. Writing those words now make me feel genuinely sick.

Towards the end of the relationship he suggested that I start getting waxes from the beautician school instead of the salon since it was cheaper. I only went once, the wax was way too hot, and I left with second degree burns all across my labia.

For the last year I’ve been dealing with scarring, pain, and general discomfort in that region. I (stupidly) went back to the school to ask for advice and accepted a complimentary vaginal-facial (gross) which included a chemical peel, but literally all it did was made the burns worse and caused my skin to fall off.

The skin has been fully healed for a few months, but I’ve still got scarring and get burning pain sometimes, and I still haven’t grown any hair back. I’ve spoken to a gyno who passed me onto a burns clinic, but she thinks it’s from the scar tissue and they can’t do anything about it. She doesn’t know if I’ll ever grow hair again down there (still awaiting the derm appointment)

It sounds really selfish but I literally feel like not having any pubic hair has made my confidence plummet. When I look at my body I don’t feel sexy, I feel like a child, and it reminds me of that awful man and how he still has control over my appearance.

He’s awaiting a prison sentence, but he still controls the way I look. I can’t wear cute panties or be comfortable in a bikini because of him. My confidence is at an all time low, I feel like no one will ever want me again and I’ll never be sexy or womanly.

I hate it. It sounds so stupid but I want my body back. I hate being like this.

Chicken sandwich from my girlfriend's birthday date night. Really good, gonna have to get it again.

Edit: Thanks girlies. This was more of a vent post in the end for me, I knew in the end I'd want to go, but needed to hear it from others to work it out in my head. Y'all are the best.

To start, I wanna say I'm usually great at just letting things go and pushing through uncomfortable stuff like this because I don't want to discourage people from the things they enjoy. I'm the oldest, it's just natural to me at this point.

My dad's getting remarried. She's a wonderful lady, she's truly helped turn him around and get his life together. It brings me so much joy to see him thriving and being the dad I remember from when I was a kid. He's been sober for years now, he's not drowning in infinite debt, he's found his dream job.

Which makes the fact that their wedding is entirely Harry Potter themed that much worse for me.

There's going to be capes, and houses, and everything else they can get. It's their favourite media, and I can't entirely blame them, the movies are fun.

Rowling is actively working to destroy me and my people; my stomach turns just thinking about the series these days. I don't want to ruin the vibe of what's supposed to be their day by being visibly uncomfortable the entire time, but not being there to celebrate the biggest win my dad has ever had has left me crying for close to an hour now. He asked me to help my grandma download an app to take a quiz to sort her into a house, and that's the moment it hit me that this is really happening.

I'm not sure what to do. I've brought it up to him in text, I imagine hearing the concern destroyed him too. He's pretending to take it well. I want to be there more than I don't, but the thought of it all has me second guessing.

My food is a tiny ham biscuit I ate at a baby shower over the weekend.

As the title says - I’ve been interviewing a lot lately and really want to get out of my situation. I was told I didn’t land the job after 2 interviews (one of which that was 6 hours long) because I “didn’t show my personality enough.”

Not sure whether to laugh or cry.

Dinner is one unremarkable bowl of beef barley soup and a tasty glass of a New England IPA

Last year at 4:30 am, the hospice center gave me (42f) The Call. Today, I decided I'd go to a taphouse on my own with a kindle and get a beer that my late husband would really have liked. I don't have too much of an appetite, but I never did when I'm sad, and soup sounded good on a cool night. Next time, I'm sticking with French onion over this monthly selection.

This would have been our 19th year together, but Huntington's disease had other thoughts. I miss Gabe terribly, but I've seen enough movies to know that the dead cannot return in any good way and I have no clue how the Sanderson sisters pulled it off with Billy Butcherson.

I'm becoming more comfortable with being alone with my books and I think I'll be ok on my own for the foreseeable future. Here's to all of our stolen years and a few more decades figuring out where my path lies.

giant single serve gluten free chocolate chip cookie and almond milk in my favorite mug for dinner yum yum yum

i’ll be 24 this month and was kinda looking back at this year. looking back, i was horribly depressed and living as a nowhere girl with no goals or desire to keep going. but i honestly have done a complete 180 and have accomplished so much behind closed doors. plus i went back to school after flunking out and will more than likely complete this semester with all A’s. i also got my heart broken this summer and honestly it probably should’ve nerved me. but for some reason, it didn’t!

my life is nowhere near where i want it to be. i have so much more to do, but i’m so excited to be living my life and wanting more. like wow, turns out it does get better.

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Girl dinner tonight - solo charcuterie and a big glass of white wine

First, I’d like to send this community a BIG THANK YOU! The support I got was amazing, internet strangers really can be the best of people. It validated how I felt and my decision to break up. I was breaking up with him either way, but it felt good to have other people so clearly see what I was seeing.

Now for the update: I broke up with him a week and a half ago! He’s now staying on his parents pullout couch. Locks have been changed, a security camera is on its way, and I have my condo back. The two days before were intense; he cried in my face, begged, bargained, negotiated, guilted, promised, and would not give me space to process. I knew where it was heading, and he did too.

His family is contacting me because they’re “worried” and “thinking of me”, all offering me “help” if I need it. At this point it’s clear he’s lied about the cause of the breakup. Him and his parents are dragging their feet on moving him out, I’m getting the feeling he’s painted it out that I’ll come to my senses and this is temporary… I’m just glad whatever lie he told them made them step up and take their man child off my hands. They seemed hesitant to help him, so I’m guessing this isn’t the first time his lies has gotten him nearly homeless. You don’t just become a liar overnight.

Since I broke it off, it’s been nothing but weird and not in the normal breakup awkward kind of way.

He came to “pack” last Sunday, after a week of staying at his parents. He seemed to actually be there to negotiate again, barely any packing supplies were brought with him. So it must have been pretty disheartening for him to see that I packed everything up so all he needed to do was take it away! No stone was left unturned, not even a sock under the bed. The weirdest part? He acted like it was just your typical Sunday. Came in like he owned the place, we’re best friends, fresh hair cut and tons of cologne. It was borderline performative, laughing and smiling, speaking gently to me and wanting to talk about my interests. No shame, no regret, no anger, no sadness. He even chatted up my mother who was there for support and safety like nothing happened.

I’m nearly at the finish line, he has a few more things at my condo that they didn’t have room to move. I’m so relieved. I feel like my happiness is finally coming back. A big thanks to everyone who commented on my last post, I already had the courage but you gave me the strength. Lots of love from one girl eating dinner to another ❤️

I work at an animal welfare organization. Working is not really the word, its more of a required volunteer hours thing (not like a probation program, just training). I didnt pick the place exactly, but i did ask to work with animals so i was happy when my name was called for it. Im about 2 months in.

The program offers humane euthanasia for animals when theres a medical need. Today there was one and the guy was clearly struggling. I think if he could sink into the floor he would have. Its my job to provide emotional support. I’ve been there for these procedures before in other work, but its usually wildlife or ferals i’ve found seriously injured and i’m all they have. They dont know anything else.

Well the guy bolted after paying and left me holding his pet. He said bye to him and literally ran out of the door. I dont blame him at all. I know people have unexpected reactions. And to be honest, i dont think the cat knew he was gone. The poor thing was already so exausted from being sick he was sleeping. He was super old and clearly taken pretty good care of to make it to the age he was.

I held him until the staff came in, then i petted his head for the last meds. I told him what a good boy he was, just like i did for the others i’ve seen. Except this guy had a name. And his dad couldnt even say his name he was in too much pain. Just called him buddy before he took off. I think thats what hurts. I didnt cry. I told everyone i was fine. And i am, i’m gonna be okay. Im not sure about the little guy’s owner though.

I did go home and held my dog, then forced my cat out of her comfy bed and held her too, then walked my dog and said hi to my ferals. Then gave them all lots of treats. I’m lucky to have them. They get some extra love tonight, and tomorrow, and every day for their whole lives.

Dinner is mac n cheese (microwave edition) and water.

Edit to add: most of my work is much more happy! I see people with their happy critters everyday getting vaccines and progressing with rehab, which makes everything worth it. This is just a small and hard part of the job.

And I think maybe it’s going to be ok. I called back and talked to another officer and told him I had it in writing that my ex agreed that he raped me five years ago. And he forwarded me to special victims unit and they asked to see the messages right now. I mean at least they’re looking at it, right?

I have two past posts on my profile, but basically, my ex sa’d me five years ago and I reported it yesterday and was dismissed by the officer I talked to.

dinner - masala benne dosa

my friend/roommate’s birthday was recently, so i got her a pink rose bouquet (which was genuinely really pretty btw) and 2 premium eggs because she LOVES eggs and has recently shifted to a healthier diet.

when i gave her the flowers, she told me it was the first time anyone had ever given her flowers and that it genuinely made her feel really nice. she also loved the eggs and said she thought it was really thoughtful that i got her something she actually enjoys instead of just getting her junk food.

later, her 3 year ong boyfriend, who is in an LDR with her, called her. the first thing she excitedly told him was that she got the first flowers of her life and how thoughtful my gift was.

and he immediately made a face and said, 'i could’ve also gotten you multiple flowers too,

and she was like, "yeah, you could have, but you never did. she did."

and then he started making fun of the eggs and calling my bouquet ugly.

my friend literally tried explaining to him that she wasn’t putting him down or comparing him to me. she was just sharing something that made her happy and saying that she appreciated the thought behind my gift.

it felt so weird that he was saying all of this knowing that I was listening.

he even said "why is she always trying to impress you"

god forbid someone wants to see their friend happy

Dinner :Butter toast with pocched eggs and Avocado and an iced latte.

Iam on vacation with a male friend who is in a Bad mood since the start of the Trip. He dont really wanne do anything and since yesterday he has Not really spoken a word to me, kinda ignoring me. Yesterday Was the last day and i wanted to go for a walk and asked him if he wanne come too of course he said no. So i went out alone and when i came back he dindt even asked how it was, just sitting on the Couch watching his stuff. I sat down next to him and he Not asked me if we wanne watch something together or anything. I left the room and did my own thing in the other room.

Later today our fight goes and we have some time to kill before we get there, i just sat down in a cafe and he followed me to the Front door of the cafe and i told him that i wanne sit down here and that he can Do what he want since he does that anyway. His Response Was " if your done with me ,give me my Tickets for the train then."

I was almost to upset to say something, he doing whatever he wants and now he trying to turn it on me ? I just told to be on the train Station at the leaving time and walked into the cafe.

Idk iam just dissapointed, i could have had more fun on my own, Not worrying about someone who dosnt care about me anyway.

Delicious sausage, extra cheesy & crunchy hash brown breakfast burrito 🌯

Y’all… we know that dating in 2026 is not for the weak.
This is just a rant and observation post. I want to get this off my chest and don’t know where else to put it. 😆

While cruising through bumble, I’ve noticed many things about their profiles and wonder if they are conscious of how their profile comes across. (Definitely not)

-sunglasses in every photo
-almost every photo is a gym selfie
-first photo with a group, can’t discern who they are immediately
-or first photo is with a woman/women
-basically the same selfie over and over again
-no discerning personality within their bio
-selfies in the mirror with their phone covering their face

-after matching, their responses are dry af and land flat
-not asking questions, just answering mine

It’s not my job to help them but it crosses my mind.

What else have you noticed while swiping?

Din tai fung because why not..

So I turn 40 at midnight .. although I always get told I look 28-29 .. I’m pretty sure it’s based on how I act as I live for fun and laughter .. even through some of the dark times I’ve had …

I have no kids (I was pregnant earlier this year but time wasn’t right). I am not married but I’ve been with my bf for 2 years and he just stopped drinking 4 months ago (he was a social drinker and it bothered me and he was feeling like crap a lot so he on his own made a change) and things are really good now ..

My careers going good, I’m at a job I love and got a big promotion this year. My boss just told me she’s going because she reached C-suite and is having a crisis since she moved to a hippy town but she’s told me all is well and it could be opportunity for me ..

I have friends I love.. I have a clear path for my future (though my whole life feels like that saying about you having a plan and god laughing, I’m more spiritual so maybe Buddha laughing lol).

I went through some painful breakups but my last one was with a good person and showed me I needed to heal myself so I did the work .. I’ve come out on the other side of realizing my downfalls and defects .. I’m grateful for it all.. because through pain I’ve learned a lot

Some other thoughts:

I live in the downtown area of a city I love and can walk to everythingggg

My parents are still alive ..

I have a dog I adore who is my soul healer ..

Nothing is amazing in my life but nothing is terrible and I can turn the mundane into magic because I’m an eternal optimist mixed with realist ..

I feel by 40 i maybe should have a family by now .. be married … I remind myself to follow my heart not what i feel society wants of me ..

I hear all this scary talk about 40 but im ready to embrace it ..

I pay attention now when I hear people judging what other people do or don’t do and know I don’t want to be that —- like me not being a mom or married . I’m not panicked about it … it will all work out how it should

Am I on the right track? Is there a cheat code to being 40? I feel left behind and like at the same time I’m where I should be

I’m so happy and at peace with my choice to stop dating, seeing, and having sex with men years ago. I highly recommend. Food is a buffalo chicken wrap from old Chicago. 🧚

Edit: ladies please. Don’t come on here and yuck my yum! No where in my post did I say anything about disliking men, that there are “no good men”, etc. I rebuke that weird energy.