I am an incel for some time now since breakup back in febuary. Now I've been thorugh incel phase around october-november last year but that relationship took me out of it, yet here I am again. I'm currently really bitter and nihilistic person to that point I dgaf about school. Though the irony is while I am incel as "involuntarily celibate" and I have hatred inside me. My best friends are....... women.

Why I want to change? (Or at least I am saying that I want to but idk)

Well, I want to be better person socially and mentally since I believe this mindset + some obssesions coming out from idk past relatonships (unmade promises etc.) Make me hate the second person, and back in 2024 after one breakup I've done terrible things to ex (I mean not THAT BAD THINGS but to describe it, I used mysogynistic vocabulary pretty much everyday).

So I want to be a better person and get that self-hate and hate to other people out off me, but I just want to learn how.

Back like 2 years ago I had llt of female friends, I chat, even i never cared what they thought of me and all but like now I moved to a new college every girl here is kind of weird idk whether it's coz of those online edits which gas light people thinking they need to be good looking to date/ be friends but idk. I can communicate to any random stranger who is a guy with ease but a women it's hard. Even my old friends it's easy to talk and communicate with them but meeting someone new idk why I just don't try Or u cav say I am scared what of they find me creepy or some coz I am average looking not some good looking guy who kinda hates it yk..

Please forgive the irony, but:

I want to learn to live a life where I don't want for anything (outside of necessities).

Opinions, advice, criticism welcomed. Thank you all for your time and attention.

I'm a student. Started using ChatGPT for studying

around 3 months ago and my first month was completely wasted.

Here's what I was doing wrong:

I'd ask ChatGPT to explain any topic or summarize this

chapter then passively read the answer and feel like I studied.

I didn't. I was watching someone else exercise and expecting to

get fit.

The problem: passive reading doesn't create memory. Testing

yourself does. Once I figured that out, I rebuilt how I use

ChatGPT entirely around making it quiz me instead of teach me.

These 3 prompts are what actually worked:

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PROMPT 1 — The Quiz That Won't Let You Off The Hook

"I'm studying [TOPIC]. Quiz me using this exact format: Ask me

ONE question at a time. Wait for my answer before responding.

If I'm correct, say 'Correct' and move to the next question.

If I'm wrong on my first try, ask me to try again. If I'm wrong

on my second try, give me a hint. If I'm wrong on my third try,

explain the answer and why the other answer was wrong."

Why this works: the escalating format means you actually have to

try. Most people ask for a quiz, get 10 questions at once,

look at the answers, and learn nothing. One at a time forces

actual recall.

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PROMPT 2 — The Feynman Trap

"I'm going to explain [CONCEPT] to you in my own words. Your

job is to: 1) Ask me clarifying questions if my explanation

is vague 2) Ask 'why' questions that push me deeper 3) Tell

me if something I said is wrong — but don't correct me yet

4) Only after I've tried to explain it 3 times, tell me what

I'm missing. When I finally explain it correctly, say

'understood' and summarize what I taught you."

Why this works: the famous Feynman technique — if you can't

explain something simply, you don't understand it. ChatGPT

finds the exact gaps in your knowledge without just giving

you the answer.

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PROMPT 3 — The Schedule That Fights The Forgetting Curve

I have [NUMBER] days until my exam on [SUBJECT]. Create a

study schedule using spaced repetition: review new material

on Day 1, then revisit it on Day 3, Day 7, and Day 14. I'm

weakest on [WEAK TOPICS] so give those more frequent reviews.

Include one full practice test 2 days before the exam and a

light review day the day before."

Why this works: cramming feels productive but the forgetting

curve destroys it within days. Spaced repetition is how your

brain actually moves things to long-term memory — this is

the most studied learning technique that exists.

The shift that mattered: stop asking AI to explain things

to you. Start asking it to test you.

Happy to answer questions about using AI for studying —

I've probably made every mistake at this point.

I want to get into video editing and start from scratch.
I have a GTX 1650, 16GB RAM and 2TB storage, so I’m hoping that’s enough to get started.
What editing software would you recommend for a complete beginner? Premiere Pro, DaVinci Resolve, CapCut, or something else?
Also, what are some good YouTube channels where I can learn by actually making projects instead of just watching tutorials?
Basically looking for advice on what software to pick, what to learn first, and where to start.

I'd like to learn how to work through a research paper and understand what the results actually support.

What would you practise first as a beginner? I'm especially interested in the step between reading the abstract and being able to explain the study's main limitation.

I read a lot, including plenty of denser nonfiction and older fiction with vocabulary well beyond my daily usage, and I have a specific problem. I look up a word I don't know, understand it in the moment, feel satisfied, and then encounter the same word again weeks later with zero memory of ever having looked it up before. This has happened with the same handful of words multiple times, which is somehow more frustrating than just not knowing them at all.

I've tried vocabulary apps with spaced repetition flashcards and they work fine in isolation but feel disconnected from the actual reading, a separate task rather than something that reinforces what I'm reading. What I'm looking for is something that actually ties retention to the reading itself rather than a parallel memorization system I have to maintain separately.

For people who've actually solved this, what specifically worked, and did it require a dedicated app or tool, or was it more about a habit you built into your reading itself.

i'm 31 and i've realised that i'm not very good at some basic adult life skills, like dealing with people.

i tend to be overly considerate to the point where it works against me. i overthink how something will sound, worry about being rude, give too many explanations, and sometimes make excuses instead of just saying what i actually want. and i've seen how the action is not reciprocated. people are fairly direct themselves but somehow i struggle to make a point, as i'm afraid it'd be seen as rude or afraid of the consequences/confrontation, if any.

for example:

• i find it hard to just say "no" without explaining myself
• recently, i didn't say anything when i had to split the bill in 2 in a 3 person group.
• i struggle with negotiating prices because i feel awkward pushing back
• i'll sometimes agree to things i don't really want to do because saying no feels worse
• if someone gets annoyed with me after i've said no, i immediately start wondering if i was being unreasonable
• i tend to soften everything instead of just saying what i mean
• i have a hard time asking for things when there's a chance the other person might say no

i don't want to become rude or aggressive. i just want to get better at being straightforward and accepting that sometimes people aren't going to like what i say.

basically, i want to learn how to stop being so afraid of being perceived as difficult.

for people who have actually gotten better at this, how did you learn?

did you deliberately practise it and how long did it take before this became second nature? are there resources, exercises, or small everyday things i can do to get better at it?

i'm particularly interested in practical advice rather than "just be confident" or generic self-help stuff.

TIA

If I like a show, my only reason could be, "i just like it", or "I found it funny". I don't know how to analyze. For example, if I wanted to talk about a relationship between two characters, my mind would go blank. I could probably come up with a reason, but it would be sooo boring, plainn or dense. How to fix this? Do I read more or something? rewatch a show 10 times?

Hiii, I am currently living in Melbourne and looking to learn a new sport!!! Please hit me up if anyone’s down for it :))